...Jennifer Ms. Jennifer Flynn ENC 1101 29 October 2014 Coping with the loss of a loved one If you’ve lost a grandparent, a pet, a job, or had to move, you have experienced loss and grief and the associated stress. However, when a person experiences extraordinary stress, the normal coping mechanisms are not enough. As a result, when a person experiences a loss beyond the normal stresses and conflicts of life, they subconsciously begin to cycle through various methods of coping, trying to find one that works better. Half of dealing with grief is recognizing this cycling process, which occurs over and over again and working through the pain that accompanies it. The other half consists of enduring pain. While it is extreme, deep and forceful, and while it never completely heals, you can learn to cope with the pain that grief provides. Furthermore, I will be giving insight on the impact that the loss of a loved one creates on ourselves and family members. I also will provide information on coping and catastrophic change, dealing with offensive behavior from others and how family members and outsiders can provide aid for the griever. In addition to being painful, severe loss is incapacitating. Many people report that immediately following their loss, they lost the ability to stand, talk and think at the same time. The mental effort required to keep their balance took more than they had. At the same time, they were unaware of suffering from any incapacity, only looking back...
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... The five stages are not linear; neither are they equal in their experience. There is no such thing as a typical loss therefore there is no typical response to loss. Over the past three decades they have been very misunderstood. People grieve; their grief and other reactions to emotional trauma are as individual as a fingerprint and are specific to each individual. There is no prescribed order, nor does everyone go through all the stages. There is no posted timeline for grief that states you should be at this stage at this point and time. These stages are to help us form and identify what we may be feeling. Denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance are a part of the framework that makes up our learning to live without the one we lost. With these stages comes the knowledge that help in making us better equipped to cope with life and loss. Denial This first stage of grieving helps us to survive the loss. In this stage, the world becomes meaningless and overwhelming. Life makes no sense. We are in a state of shock and denial. We go numb. We wonder how we can go on, if we can go on, why we should go on. We try to find a way to simply get through each day. Denial and shock help us to cope and make survival possible. Denial helps us to pace our feelings of grief. There is a grace in denial. It is nature’s way of letting in only as much as we can handle. As you accept the reality of the loss and start to ask yourself questions, you are unknowingly beginning the healing...
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...their life then they will not value their life as much as a person that is happy and content with their own life. Hamlet, a fictional character, values life subjectively and only weighs the value of life by the bad experiences of life. Since he lost the love of his life and his father at a young age this makes someone seem like they have nothing else to live for. Love and happiness is what every human being craves for because it is entwined into our DNA. Hamlet contemplated his value of life which almost caused him to commit...
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...“Shoofly Pie” by Naomi Shihab Nye is a fictional story that follows the story of a girl, Mattie, who has recently lost her mother. Mattie is trying to cope with her grief while also balancing it with her new job at the Good For You Restaurant. At this restaurant, there were three employees that had recently lost a loved one: Mattie, Johnny and Riyad. The story concentrates on their relationships with each other and the difficulties of personal grief. The characters and plot of “Shoofly Pie” are realistic and relatable because of the different ways they deal with suffering and their development throughout the passage. One example of the reality of this story is how the characters deal with their grief in different ways. No one reacts to loss...
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...two famous poems they are both written by the author Edgar Allan Poe's. Poe's was best known “fiction works are Gothic (combination of both horror and romance), as this two poems are”. Poe’s themes and style of poems deals with questioning of death and lost love. He loved his wife “Virginia Eliza Clemm Poe”. The author’s wife Virginia died because of “tuberculosis”. In fact, both “The Raven” and “Annabel Lee” stories are about loss of his love, and the hoping of reuniting with her wife someday. Both of the stories deal with religious concepts of souls, angels and demons. These two stories illustrate Romanticism as symbolized by love, emotion, imagination. Both of these stories are haunting yet show how beautiful their love was. Both of these stories have similarity and differences. “The Raven” is narrative poem, it was written in year 1845. The poem shows the emotions of a young man whose wife Lenore died. The Raven is a bird. The bird is the representation of death, and the loss of Lenore. The bird only speaks one word "Nevermore” and that is the...
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...a tough thing to talk about considering it is one of the most memorable pieces of history for the United States. The speaker Billy Collins, is in an extremely sentimental and heartfelt state of mind considering he shows that he can feel the presence of the ones lost in the attack, he implies he may have lost a loved one in the attack, and how much the tragedy affected him. Furthermore, feeling the presence of the ones lost in the attack is one way the speaker proves his sentimental mindset. Billy Collins explains how he is imagining the names of people no matter where he goes or what he is doing. Seeing the names “printed on the ceiling of the night” (1294) he explains, and “blown over the earth and out to sea” (1295) can prove that this topic and incident is hugely near to his heart. Due to the fact of seeing the names all around him, a reader could imply that Billy Collins could feel the tension and the presence of all of the lives lost during the tragic attack on September 11th....
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...Billy Markowitz One Mistake Can Change So Many Lives The loss of a loved one in someone’s family is the most tragic thing to happen in life. So many lives are changed when someone close dies from a natural death or some other cause such as murder, car accident, or even Mother Nature (I.E. hurricanes, tornadoes, fire, storm, or lightning strike). I know that this is true because my family and I have suffered through the loss of a loved one. Over a year ago, we lost someone very close to us, Andy Markowitz, my father. It is in times like these that the saying, “One Mistake Changes So Many Lives,” is definitely true. On May 16, 2010, we received the worst news we have ever gotten. At approximately 10 PM, my brother’s phone started ringing and Kim, my step-mother’s name was showing up on the phone. When Danny, my brother answered the phone, Kim told him to give the phone to my mom. A few minutes later, we heard my mother scream into the phone, “What do you mean he’s gone?” We never got the chance to ask her what happened because she ran out the door and drove away. While I was staring out the window, my brother turned to me and said, “I think Daddy went to heaven.” Those are words that I will never forget. I didn’t have an answer for him, but I knew that he was probably right. My mother came back home around midnight that night and called us into the living room. I could tell instantly that she had been crying and I knew that it was going to be serious because I have never seen...
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...life and different cultures have different perceptions of what death actually means. Some cultures celebrate death as it signifies a transfer to the preferred life beyond. Some cultures memorialize those loved ones that are lost because the survivors believe the deceased were taken too soon from the living realm. Either way, art seems to be the basis of expression when sorting through the emotions associated with losing a loved one. The Human Experience of Love and Death The work of art at the center of discussion in this paper is the Taj Mahal. The Taj Mahal relates to the human experiences of love and death. Losing a loved one is never easy and people will find various ways of coping with such a situation. One such way of coping with the loss of a loved one is through artistic expression, as Shah Jahan did when he commissioned Taj Mahal to be built in memory of his beloved wife, Mumtaz Mahal (Benton & DiYanni, 2008). A Personal Connection Love and death are very meaningful in my life. I love and I have been loved for as long as I can remember. I found myself lucky enough to avoid the concept of death until I was at an age of understanding the finality associated with death. I believe a person does not fully comprehend death until he or she has lost someone he or she loved deeply. The Beauty of the Mausoleum The Taj Mahal was constructed as a way to pay tribute to the deceased. The silhouette of the building is magnificent with towers and domes of various sizes, which...
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...One major question has been around for years and years but no matter the progress made on this question the people of this nation will always have their own opinions. The value of life, does it really have a value or is one's life priceless? Who is in any position to answer that other than our own conscience. “Forensic economists testify on the value of a life every day. They can even tell you the average valuation of an injured knee (about $200,000). But until now, the public at large has not had to reckon with the process and its imperfections.”(Ripley 1). Jobs based around evaluating the worth of an individual's physical body parts seems quite the job if one likes to be looked at with shame and anger. Many feel they need the money to repair themselves mentally when in all reality, the money does nothing other than mask a bigger problem. Life in the United States has been taken away at the dozens throughout the nation. Not only on few accounts but on many that have no explanation when asked about. Lives need to be cherished more than any amount of money that is “awarded” to those who have lost loved ones or those who have been deemed crippled by the fact that the one nation, we all want to love and call home, has been failing us, the people, left and right....
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...Human beings recover from the death of a loved one differently. When a person is forced to move on and continue life without a loved one, it is difficult. In Our Town written by Thornton Wilder, Emily’s son and Mrs. Webb suffer losses of the same person, but it affects them differently. Emily’s son does not have a mother to grow up with. Mrs. Webb endured the same loss that the son had to go through, but to Mrs. Webb she lost her daughter. In the novel Sounder by William Armstrong, the mother of the main character lost her husband and her beloved dog. She had to go recover from these deaths too, even though it was hard. Thornton Wilder said, “We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures.” Everyone heals from deaths on their own, but everyone has to go through coping....
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...the theme as guilt because the protagonist, Andy Jackson, has this strong emotion and he feels throughout the novel as he grieves for a lost loved one. Andy was not able to cope how most people do after losing something or someone they love, so the main question to be asked “how may the death of a friend affect the survivors; how do survivors or cope ?” . Reading this novel has had many emotional issues that had to do with dealing with emotions, so I believe the author's purpose was to demonstrate how it may feel to walk a mile in a person's shoes when they don't have the emotional help they need. I want to address the issue of how important it is to look out and care for someone who went or is going through something traumatic or heartbreaking. The death of a friend or loved one can result in depression and grief; survivors can cope in many ways, such as spending more time with loved ones and to talk more about what you truly feel....
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...These experiences can cause the unconscious mind to be greater by influencing its conscious mind that will lead to the outcome of the individual’s actions. In the movie, they all need to survive throughout the war. Their life instincts still overpower their harsh experiences in the war. Their minds was occupied with the memories of their loved ones that help them get through their sufferings. According to Freud, even though the loved object no longer exist and already has a substitute, the people will always have the position towards it (Freud)244). It explains why Stephen and Jack still hold on to the libido of their lost loved ones, and turning away from their reality. Another point was that Stephen has the awareness that as a lieutenant, he needs to be a good leader and a great example of a determined fighter. Having connection with his fellow colleagues will lead into opening up his past, and getting attached to them will result in desertion when they die....
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...After all our promises and the time spent together, did you have to leave like that? “We are too young,” you had said, expecting me to believe that that was the reason you were leaving me behind in this cruel world. The irony of it was that we were standing beneath the Old Oak Tree, the place where you first told me you loved me. The branches were mocking me then, and so were the beautiful colours of autumn. I had begged you to stay, to try again, but you just shook your head and walked away, hands in your pockets. I cried out for you to come back, but you just kept walking away; away from me, your everything, away from the mess in a pair of ugly yellow boots. We used to be like two peas in a pod, and we loved it. We loved how we complemented each other perfectly. For example, you hated those one-dollar ice cream cones, but loved the ice cream that came with it, while I hated the ice cream but loved the cones. You preferred the cream of an Oreo to its cookie, and I, vice versa. We completed each other. For fourteen years, I thought you were the one. Ever since I was a little girl with pigtails, playing in a nursery, I knew that I had wanted to be with you...
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...Everyone has a different opinion about the true value of life. Some believe theres a set and definite price, while others believe you can't put any monetary value on the price if a human life. In my opinion, you can put a dollar value on the price of a life if you're part of an insurance company, or a government body.However, life is priceless to the family and loved ones of the victim, which always asks the main question. What is the real value of a life? Even though the family members of any tragety agree with the fact that you can't put a monetary value on life of a victim, the U.S.government, and some citizens including myself, feel differently. An example from Amanda Ripley’s article “WTC Victims: What's A Life Worth?”. The concept of...
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...original historical sites or if they should be moved to museums. After much consideration of both sides of the argument, it is clear that artifacts should be left in their original spots. Research led me to understand that moving artifacts to museums will not ensure the safety of them. Additionally, disrupting artifacts can be offensive to the families of those who were lost at that site. Lastly, there are many other ways to allow people to see the artifacts that do not include moving them. Although moving these relics will allow an easier viewing process, it is not worth the harm it causes. Many seem to think that if artifacts are kept inside a museum they will stay safe, but that is far from correct. Museums are widely advertised allowing...
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