Aaron Schwartz
Professional Communications
Essay outline
Prof. Kirshenbaum
Farleigh Dickenson University
Wednesdays 1:00-4:30
11/1/10

“Boys will be boy, girls will be girls”
They say: “Boys will always be boys and girls will always be girls”. What does that even mean? Well our society has come to interpret this often said phrase to mean; little boys will always play with their guns while little girls will always play with their dolls. Teenage boys will always play with a football while teenage girls talk on the phone for hours. Men will always watch professional sports while women will still be talking on the phone for hours. Now is this just a stereotype or is this indeed a fact of life? Are guys truly more aggressive? Are women really more nurturing? You better believe it!
Gender differences are real and they are simply more than just a serotype. “Boys will be boys” because their brain tells them to be, not because our society does. “Testosterone plays a huge role in aggression testosterone is the primary male sex hormone produced by the testicles. The male is said to produce forty to sixty times the testosterone then women. The University of Wisconsin did a study in which the researchers injected testosterone into unborn female monkeys. Once these females were born they did not nurture or groom their children they acted like male monkeys and began to become more violent and very aggressive.”(York) from that experiment we learn that once the testosterone level was raised in the female monkeys, they acted out more like male monkeys. Thus proving that the higher testosterone level the more aggressive the person would be. And as stated before men produce forty to sixty times more testosterone then women. This is a primary cause in aggression in men, they are not aggressive n because they are told they are to be aggressive by society, but because that is the way man was created.
We see even as far back as biblical times; that women were always more nurturing then men. And men were always more aggressive “Honor thy father and thy mother” (Bible, exodus 20:12). The bible clearly states honor your father and honor your mother, what’s interesting in this quote is that it says the father before the mother. There is a reason for that, the reason is as follows: a mother is sweet and tender wanting to give everything for her child and will just about do anything for them. The child see’s this trait in his mother and is easily bonded and respectful of her and as a result is not so fearful of her. The father however is the one who disciplines. He is the one who hits the child, and he is the one who yells at him. The bible put the word father first because the son is likely to only respect his mother because of the tender environment she sets. “When it comes to storing emotionally-rich memories women’s brain place the memory in a part where emotions and details remain intertwined.” (Bazell) What this comes to show is that; this is one of the primary reasons why women are more sensitive and tend to talk about relationships and such. They are more emotional then guys because the brain works differently not because our society says girls are more sensitive.
“On average, women are more cooperative, nurturing, cautious and emotionally responsive. Men tend to be more competitive, assertive, and reckless and emotionally flat. Clear differences appear in early childhood and never disappear. (Tierney) This is evident in the “tend and befriend syndrome.” The “tend and befriend syndrome” is found in woman. Two women simply bump into each other, they both apologize, one comments on the others shoe and they somehow strike up a conversation about stores with good sales. The next thing you know they become shopping buddies. “This is also evident in the fight or flight syndrome” the “fight or flight syndrome” is where two men simply bump into each other and both assume the other is at fault and are both ready to start a third world war over it. Due to the fact that woman use both sides of their brain fast they are quicker to communicate with one another and are less likely to fight over something so stupid, woman tend to think more logically, men tend to be more compulsive.
“Ye shall fear every man his mother and his father” ((Bible, Leviticus 19:3). Here the bible is stating one should fear their mother first because again the mother is more sweet and tender and when thinking of your mother fearing her doesn’t really cross your mind, it is the father that comes across as more fearful because of the discipline that he stands for. No child likes to be disciplined, thus when discussing the way one should regard a parent, the mother is first with fearing and the father is first with honoring.
“Maddy’s husband made the first move, coming up with a brilliant means of escape: he used their baby.”(Barry). What he did, was he basically took the baby who was making a little noise and took her into the other room. What was he escaping from? What was in the other room? In the essay “Batting cleanup striking and striking” by Dave Barry, the scene is a bunch of husbands being dragged along with their wives to a friend’s house, all the men have to sit around and watch (notice I didn’t say listen I said watch) their wives just talk about relationships and such. They all completely tune out and just want to get home so they can watch the World Series game that they are missing. Now one of the men that are there gets a great idea. He picks up his baby (clearly he and his wife are the host) and uses the excuse that the baby needs to be fed. He proceeds to “feed” the baby in the next room, where the World Series just so happens to be on the television. Thus he has successfully escaped the boring conversation in the other room and is now free to watch the World Series.

Now based on that little story you can come to the conclusion that women talk a lot about their emotions and such. And all guys just want to do is watch sports. As a young child I would always innocently wonder about my house, often enough I would hear people screaming, so as any naïve child would do I would follow the noise and see what the meaning of it all is. Well countless times I would discover it was my father and brother yelling at that television set of ours (they were watching football). After seeing what the commotion was about I would go upstairs and wonder into my sister’s room and often see her on the phone. Next I would wonder into my mother’s room where she was also often was on the phone. I learned at a very young age that women just love to talk. Always when my mother runs into an old friend at the supermarket or wherever that she hasn’t seen in years, they will talk for at least ten minutes easy. When I run into a friend I haven’t seen since the high school, I give him the ol’ chest bump and ask him how everything was doing and that would be that. Maybe all but two minutes right there. The difference here between men and women is; men get to the bottom line, women need to know every little detail. Ever notice when someone asks a guy for directions; the guy will tell you exactly how to get there? Asking a woman on the other hand she’ll tell you how to get there and she’ll tell you there a clothing store down the block, a coffee place across the street and a nail place right around the corner. This becomes more true when I was a high school student I would come home my father would ask me where I went how was my day, and I would answer him one worded answers, he would accept them and carry on to the living room to watch some television or read a book. My mother on the other hand she would analyze everything that would come out of my mouth. As if she was the detective in a top murder case and I was her number one suspect.

The picture perfect American home has the sun is shining outside, its seven o’clock in the morning. A little boy is running down the stairs and into the kitchen, where his baby brother is already fastened up into his highchair and his father is sipping his coffee. His older sister is sitting down eating some freshly made pancakes that his mother had made. He takes his seat and his mother joins them. Long gone are those days now are the days where woman work the same jobs as men, woman have come a long way and have risen up the ladder in society. They have equality and you know what why shouldn’t they? This America the land of opportunity!

One thing though we must not forget, yes we are equal, in the sense a male and female can both become teachers or attorneys. But we are not equal in the way we behave and the way we think, no we are just the opposite we are very different. It is not “Boys will always be boys and girls will always be girls”, because society makes it out like. But rather because the reason is the way the brain processes. In fact our society tells us “boys will always have their guns and girls will always have their dolls”. This is we behave that way because of our brain!
In conclusion, gender behavioral differences such as; aggression of the male and the peaceful nature of the female are indeed a fact and not just a stereotype. A stereotype is an opinion this is simply a fact!

Sources:
Tierney, J (2008, September) New York Times, “As Barriers Disappear, Some Gender Gaps Widen/ Correction Appended”
Bible, Leviticus 19:3, Exodus 20:12
Barry, D “Batting cleanup and striking out”
Barry, D “Punch and Judy”
Bazell, R “Boys Vs. girls” Dailynightly.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2008/01/14/577644.aspx
York, F “Gender differences are real” www.narth.com/docs/york.html

Aaron Schwartz
Professional Communications
Essay outline
Prof. Kirshenbaum
Farleigh Dickenson University
Wednesdays 1:00-4:30
11/1/10

Outline I. a) Introduction b) Title (“Boys will boys, girls will be girls”) c) Thesis of essay (testosterone cause men to be naturally more aggressive) d) First source; a study proving testosterone causes aggression. II. a) Second source; bible showing how men and women naturally behave differently. b) Third source, an article discussing the tendencies of men and women and how they are different. III. a) Bible source showing the tendencies of the male b) Fourth source, an essay done by David Barry, showing the characteristics of men and women. IV. a) Opinions stressing the thesis of the essay V. a) Final thought on the essay b) Conclusion (men are truly more aggressive than women and women are truly more nurturing then men, it in fact is not just a stereotype).