...Abstract When it comes to disciplining a child, weather you are a parent, a day care provider, caregiver or baby sitter, anyone can argue that the job is in no way easy. Discipline requires effectiveness, consistency, and even a little bit of compassion thrown in. The difficult question is: “What is considered effective discipline?” How do you effectively discipline a child? How do you know if your techniques/tactics are not being effective or working the way you were intending? What will be the long and short term consequences of the way you are disciplining that child? Many adults do not put active thought into the actual structure of discipline; many use a trial and error method. For instance, telling the child no, then when that doesn’t work, putting the child in the corner, and if that isn’t effective, spanking the child. And so on and so forth. I have learned to take a step back, analyze the behavior, and decide the best positive approach to find a way to prevent the behavior-which will hopefully prevent discipline from being needed. THAT is how you know you are being effective! If no discipline is needed at all! In this paper, I will go over the different techniques for a positive approach towards discipline, tips to prevent discipline from being needed, and some effects of discipline on the child. How to Effectively Discipline Children How many of us remember discipline being a positive thing when we were children? Not many is my guess, I know I can’t answer...
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...When Does Discipline Cross the Line to Child Abuse? In this report, I concentrated my research on the fine line between physical discipline and child abuse, with emphasis on spanking vs. not spanking and its effects on children. Included are research from statistics, opposing views and arguments, advocates’ and Department of Children and Families’ position. The use of corporal punishment, or spanking, as a form of parental discipline is a controversial topic. Adults who remember being spanking by a parent for misbehaving may carry on this behavior as an acceptable form of punishment for their own children. Others believe spanking to be an outdated punishment that is cruel and can cross the line to physical abuse. 2010 NATIONAL ABUSE STATISTICS NATIONAL ABUSE STATISTICS - - (www.nationalchildrensalliance.org) nearly five children die every day in America from abuse and neglect. In 2010, an estimated 1,560 children died from abuse and neglect in the United States. Nearly 80% of reported child fatalities as a result of abuse and neglect were caused by one or more of the child victim's parents. Children Welfare League of America (www.cwla.org) In 2010, Connecticut had 45,313 total referrals for child abuse and neglect. Of those, 25,777 reports were referred for investigation and in 2010, 4 children in Connecticut died as a result of...
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...Child abuse versus Discipline Abstract This paper will identify the difference between abuse and discipline. The effective ways to teach our children and the negative ways in which people think discipline can be tied into abuse. The thin line between abuse and discipline and how some people may think it is justified. Child abuse versus Discipline What is child abuse? Under the federal law any recent act or failure to act on the part of a parent or caretaker which results in death, serious physical, or emotional harm, sexual abuse, or exploitation; or an act or failure to act which presents an imminent risk of serious harm(New World Encyclopedia 2012) . The abuse of children is more than just broken bones even though physical abuse is a concern you also have different types of abuse. There is Neglect, emotional abuse, sexual abuse, and physical and they differ from discipline. Discipline is the training that a parent or guardian gives a child so that he or she can act or react to a situation in life in a specific way (education 2012). It builds character in the child and shows them the way they should carry themselves when in society. Training children mental improvement and morally is another way discipline helps keeps in good way. Using physical tactics for example beating, spankings, punches and slaps are common things people think of when you say discipline in a physical way however, if the child doesn’t learn a lesson then it isn’t discipline. If you do not sit...
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...Guidance when Discipline works well. Discipline mean different thing to different Families, Cultures, Religion and Individuals. Some see discipline as a means to impact knowledge, skills and teaching techniques. While others see discipline as punishment and control which makes some parents, adults and teachers avoid using the word discipline as a means of correcting or educating a child. There is a great deal of controversy about appropriate ways to discipline children, and parents, are often confused about effective ways to set limits and instil self-control in their children. When child A hits child B and parents of child A hits child A and said to Child A “hitting is not good”. As a discipline, it only stands as controversy and not teaching the child anything. In some culture and religion, spanking is a very good example of discipline. I am from Nigeria, and in our culture, parents uses spanking, time out, as a form of discipline but some culture sees it as punishment and the child learns nothing other than fears from being spank or hit in this kind of discipline. Guidance is preferable to use because it is part of modeling good behaviour and it encourages and support good behaviour. Parents believe guidance has some positive associations that are attached to it. MENA (Diversity in Early care and Education. P.g 134) Educators and parents believe Guidance help them to know how much they can expect from a child, and how better they can be able to guide that child successfully...
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...practicing alternative methods to discipline children, the child and parent will both be rewarded. Introduction [Attention] I. Quote. II. Definition of Spanking III. Even though physical punishment has declined since the 60s, two-thirds of Americans still use it as a form of discipline. IV. Today I would like to persuade you to use different forms of discipline other than spanking, now or when you decide to start having children. (Transition: Let’s begin by addressing why spanking would not be good for the child.) Body [Need] I. According to psychcentral.com, spanking children can send them wrong messages. A. Spanking can show a child that violence solves problems. 1. Physical punishment can be seen as a form of bullying. 2. Can send a message to a child that hitting is an effective way to get others to things their way. B. The idea that “stronger” is always right is another message a child could take away from spanking. 1. It shows a child that whoever is stronger is always right. 2. A child may think that if he or she gets stronger than their parent or someone that they will always be right by using violence. C. Spanking could also teach a child how to be sneaky. 1. Some parents think spanking their child I the quick way to change the unwanted behavior. 2. It may solve or fix the behavior for a short period of time, but not permanently. 3. The child might make the parent think the...
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...Parental Discipline Everyone who has ever shopped in a store has heard the wail of a young child as he tries to acquire a new toy or a candy bar. For most, the first idea that runs through an individual's mind is why would the parent allow the child to carry on and make a public display. The parent should discipline the child. The child needs to learn that certain behaviors are not permissible in a public setting. A parent should discipline his or her child. Discipline is an action that most parents do not want to engage in. Discipline is described as the practice of teaching or enforcing an acceptable pattern of behavior. With that being said discipline does not need to be physical. Only the threat of physical discipline is enough to discourage this individual from unwanted behavior. Growing up this individual never received any physical discipline but the threat was there and enough of a discouragement. Parents that are found disciplining his or her child in a public setting are often considered abusing his child. The parent is neglecting the child if the parent allows the child to continue with the unwanted behavior. Discipline should be delivered be the parent. The parent knows his or her own child better than a stranger. There are exceptions to every rule. That being said not every parent should discipline his or her child like another parent in a different household might. There is a fine line between discipline and abuse. A slap to the butt should not be considered abuse...
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...versus child abuse The most common misconception that spanking is a form of child abuse has now affected the proper discipline of today’s children and young adults. Some parents are actually afraid to discipline their children in the same way they were brought up due to fears of child abuse claims. Are you one of those parents? It is surprising how many of us are. Is there a right or wrong way to discipline children, and who has the say in it? Most experts on child rearing are against spanking in belief that it causes negative long-term effects, but parents who were spanked as a child tend to believe it is the only way to discipline their children when severe behavior problems arise. So do we act on an old-fashioned learned method or concede to following the expert’s advice and find other alternate measures for discipline in hopes that children will behave? Most adults can say they were spanked as a child and they turned out just fine, so what would be wrong with using that same form of discipline on their children? Children need to know the difference between right and wrong. Parents who do spank their children argue that if done properly and only when absolutely necessary, spanking can be an effective disciplinary tool. However, parents who choose not to spank their children, say that hitting a child only teaches them that violence is a way to solve problems that arise. At what age is it appropriate to start disciplining or spanking children? Teaching children discipline should...
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...Guidance when Discipline works well. Discipline mean different thing to different Families, Cultures, Religion and Individuals. Some see discipline as a means to impact knowledge, skills and teaching techniques. While others see discipline as punishment and control which makes some parents, adults and teachers avoid using the word discipline as a means of correcting or educating a child. There is a great deal of controversy about appropriate ways to discipline children, and parents, are often confused about effective ways to set limits and instil self-control in their children. When child A hits child B and parents of child A hits child A and said to Child A “hitting is not good”. As a discipline, it only stands as controversy and not teaching the child anything. In some culture and religion, spanking is a very good example of discipline. I am from Nigeria, and in our culture, parents uses spanking, time out, as a form of discipline but some culture sees it as punishment and the child learns nothing other than fears from being spank or hit in this kind of discipline. Guidance is preferable to use because it is part of modeling good behaviour and it encourages and support good behaviour. Parents believe guidance has some positive associations that are attached to it. MENA (Diversity in Early care and Education. P.g 134) Educators and parents believe Guidance help them to know how much they can expect from a child, and how better they can be able to guide that child successfully...
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...Has Discipline Gone Too Far? What is acceptable and for whom? English 105 Since the beginning of time it has been heavily debated about the use physical discipline in homes and schools around the world. It has been speculated that physical punishment is an extreme and inappropriate. Why punishment on a physical level in the eyes of so many is labeled wrong but in the eyes of others they believe it’s not only right, but effective. Who is right in this matter? Who has the right to tell a parent that they should not be spanking their child? How do we draw a line between what is acceptable and what is unacceptable and should the government step in and make an anti-physical punishment law? About 30 years ago this form of reprimanding a child was a norm. Many child psychologists and other health care professionals have been discussing and debating this very topic for many years now. In fact according to Dr. Gregory K Fritz’s article “Should Spanking a Child Be unlawful,” a survey was conducted 15 years ago of family practitioners and pediatricians and it was found that about two thirds supported mild spanking in some disciplinary situations. However, times have changed and so has the way we discipline our children. As time passes our world changes and adapts. Things are different, technology and the human life is constantly revolving. Therefore the way we raise our children has evolved to. Punishment for a child can be as simple as taking away their...
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...their children to inevitably {hopefully} produce respectable adults. Often parents will emulate the style of discipline they experienced growing up. It is important to know the effects discipline may have emotionally on children. A few techniques that can be utilized in positive parenting are discipline, a child’s growth mentally and physically, and how to be consistent. Discipline is often a touchy subject when it involves a legal situation. Parents are often confused about where to draw the line between utterly innocent disciplining or perhaps overdoing things which can result in what could be considered abusive behavior. It is important to discuss the various styles of parenting. For instance; permissive parenting is someone who displays a lack of discipline with little or no boundaries, but is otherwise a loving parent. Setting boundaries helps children build confidence instead of insecurity. Next is Neglectful Parenting. One who may neglect their children by not making the effort to discipline or guide them as they are simply too lazy to expend the time necessary. Neglecting children can scar them deeply emotionally. Then, there is Authoritarian Parenting -someone that does not show any affection but is focused only on control and disciplining. This style of parenting can lead to unnecessary arguments and resentment between parent and child or parent and spouse. Last but not least there is an authoritative parent. Children’s growth will be stunted...
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...Discipline Discipline is the process of teaching the child what type of behavior is acceptable and what type is not acceptable, it teaches a child to follow rules. Discipline may involve both punishment, such as a time out, and, more importantly, rewards. It sounds so straightforward, yet every parent becomes frustrated at one time or another with issues surrounding children and discipline. Every parent wants their children to be happy, respectful, respected by others, and able to find their place in the world as well-behaved adults. Nobody wants to be accused of raising a spoiled brat. Our responsibility as a parent is to help our child become self-reliant, respectful, and self-controlled. Relatives, schools, churches, therapists, health care professionals, and others can help. But the primary responsibility for discipline rests with us parents. Take a look at current parenting styles. According to Baumrind there are three styles of parenting: • An authoritative parent has clear expectations and consequences and is affectionate toward his or her child. The authoritative parent allows for flexibility and collaborative problem solving with the child when dealing with behavioral challenges. This is the most effective form of parenting. • An authoritarian parent has clear expectations and consequences, but shows little affection toward his or her child. The parent may say things like, "because I'm the Mommy, that's why." This is a less effective form of parenting. • A permissive...
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...rod can be damaging to establishing order in your child. As well, using the rod can affect the child’s long term mental behaviors, social norm, and the parental relationship. An article by John Fletcher titled, “Positive Parenting, not physical punishment” he addresses some of the concerns regarding corporal punishment. “Is spanking wrong? Clearly, hitting anyone in anger or when losing an argument is bad behaviour. To do this to children sets a bad example and may only teach them that violence is a means to getting their own way” (J.Fletcher 2012) By exploring the need of corporal punishment as it relates to it effect on children’s cognitive behaviors to punishment, alternative punishment methods and non-physical discipline may prove to be the best disciplinary method for children today. According to Miriam Websters Dictionary, corporal punishment as it pertains to children is defined as “punishment administered by an adult (as a parent or a teacher) to the body of a child ranging in severity from a slap to a spanking.” (M. Webster n.d.) Corporal punishment as it relates to children is sometimes administered in a school setting by administrators or teachers, however most corporal punishment is administered at home by a parent, guardian or other relative. Typically the discipline is given in the form of a spanking or whipping; sometimes discipline is given in the form of smacking or slapping the child. This type of discipline, although it has possibly shown positive short term...
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...Corporal Punishment of Children Corporal punishment is the act of using physical violence to teach or discipline. Corporal punishment, as it relates to children, can be described as spanking to teach a lesson. When a child is acting out towards authority, it is the responsibility of the parent to use corporal punishment to discipline the child. The role of corporal punishment in society is to teach discipline and the understanding of consequences. To have an orderly society, discipline must be taught at a young age. Brian Wilson, author of “Counterpoint: The Benefits of Corporal Punishment” states, “discipline is necessary to keep children accountable, and to ensure that the few who refuse to follow directions do not unfairly hamper the chances of others to learn essential skills ” (Wilson, 2014). The few who are acting out need to be disciplined so that the many who are acting orderly can continue learning. This does not mean viciously beating the child but a firm spanking to show seriousness of the situation. Brian Wilson agrees with this by saying, “a school administrator giving a child a firm swat on the bottom when other forms of discipline do not work is indeed embarrassing, but if all it damages is the ego, spanking is undoubtedly an appropriate punishment.” (Wilson, 2014). He is not advocating seriously injuring children, but rather a firm spanking to instill discipline. This will lead to an understanding of consequences for their actions. One of the benefits of corporal...
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... Japanese ideas about child-raising and discipline are usually a riddle or an abomination to the newly arrived foreigner who begins to observe the local parenting scene. However, it is not always easy to discern what traditional ideas of Japanese parenting are. Japanese society has for some time been in a state of controversy over child-raising and discipline issues. Ideas of parenting in Japan have been in a state of flux as Japanese parents of the younger generations have been open to the advice of western parenting gurus, which usually sharply deviate from traditional ideas of child-raising. To make sense of parenting standards in Japan, you must first try to identify the traditional standards of conduct. As expected, most of the problems seen among the Japanese youths of today are attributed to permissive and indulgent parenting and to the lack of discipline or teaching on proper behavior and manners from modern-day parents. Children learn more discipline from school than from home. Japanese children are usually well mannered. Japanese mothers generally do not scold their children, and try to train their children as much as possible through encouragement and praise. Children are sometimes punished by getting locked out of the house. The discipline style of the Japanese has changed over the years and spanking children is not seen as a positive form of discipline today. The argument over spanking a child is debated in Japan as often as...
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...Child and adolescent psychology Name Institutional affiliation Children who, for many reasons are at a risk of losing their parents, or are living without their parents are exposed to discrimination and poverty. This makes them vulnerable to neglect, abuse and exploitation. Parenting can be defined as a dynamic process that depends on communication that takes place between children and their parents, families and environment. Parenting practices are vital in the development of a child, and are different for different generations. A study was conducted by (Frick, Barry, & Kamphaus, 2010), and provided the parenting practices across three different generations described in the table below. | | Generation 1 years children were raised (1950-1979) | Generation 2Years (1980-1989) | Generation 3Years ( 2000 to date) | Parenting practice 1Education | Monitoring | Yes | To some extend | No | Parenting practice 2Extracurricular activities | Child rearing | high extend | Higher than in G3 | To some extend | Parenting practice 3Discipline | Harsh discipline | To high extend | To some extend | No | Parenting practice 4Religious involvement | Positive parenting | To high extend | To high extend | To high extend | Discussion In terms of parenting practices that include monitoring, positive parenting, harsh discipline and child rearing, parents in these generations responded differently. From the table above, it is evident that child rearing is a complete development...
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