...“Courtships and dating through cultures and time” Chapter 1 Sources: http://blog.badonlinedates.com/date-stories-jens-blog/2014/03/fantastic-world-dating-customs.html http://eventective.com/blog/weddings/2008/06/11/worlds-bizarre-wedding-customs/ http://www.toptenz.net/top-10-strange-courtship-rituals.php http://www.everyculture.com/wc/Brazil-to-Congo-Republic-of/Kayapos.html http://www.ticotimes.net/2012/02/17/young-and-in-love-costa-rican-couples-make-a-scene -Polterabend is a German pre-wedding tradition where friends and family come together for an informal party. While that may not seem odd, what they do at these parties certainly is. They break dishes, flowerpots, tiles, toilets, pretty much anything except glasses or mirrors. To symbolize working together through future difficulties, the bride and groom must clean everything up. Due to the need to replace all the broken goods, I suspect that German sellers of housewares are quite fond of this custom. - The Day of the Geese, or Antzar Eguna, is a Spanish tradition in which a greased goose is suspended over water and young men jump from boats and attempt to rip off the head of the goose. This competition serves as a way for young men to prove their strength and eligibility to females. In addition to winning the adoration of young women, the winners also gets to keep the goose. Although this tradition was once practiced all over Spain with live geese, this competition is now only held during the San Antolin...
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...Felix Chevasco Professor: LoRe English 101 Date: 12/10/12 Traditional Courtship vs. Online Dating The Difference between Traditional courtship and Internet Dating When I was listening to my favorite talk show, Focus on the Family, they talked about the advantages of Internet dating. This allows the listeners, who got married prior the new millennium, to ponder the benefits of online dating, which were absent during their time of courtship. In traditional dating initial eye contact and study of the personality of the person is an important element in determining chemistry. However, what makes traditional dating best is the boundary and purpose that courtship provides. In contrast, online dating is more casual. In traditional dating, couples were introduced to each other by a friend and relative, or they met in a social activity such as their local church, school or family reunion. Nowadays, it is not necessary to meet people face to face in order to start a relationship. The internet changes our lives forever with chat rooms, social networks or online websites. More and more people are drawn to using the internet as a form of dating, with a high cost, and are unaware of the danger that you can face meeting with a stranger. Traditional dating is much better that online dating because traditional dating gives the couple the complement of courtship, commitment and purpose. Traditional dating is not only based in a feeling or a rush gut reaction. It gives the couple the opportunity...
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... it is just a long-term relationship. Even though the majority of these relationships share many of the qualities of marriage, like sharing a residence and personal resources, monogamy, and, in a substantial number of cases, procreation; we know very little about the quality of cohabiting relationships compared with what we know about the quality of marital relations (Brown and Booth 1996). One of the most fascinating perspectives of relationships today is the new standard by which people relate. Traditionally, there was dating or courtship and then marriage. No exceptions. Marriage is known as the foundation of a family and the basic building block of society which brings significant stability and meaning to human relationships, being the ideal for the raising of children, and being an important role in transmitting culture and civilization to future generations. Before marriage takes place there is usually a courtship. Dating is the precedent of courtship. Today,...
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...Close Family Ties Amid the many changes in Filipino dating culture due to multicultural influences, one thing that hasn’t changed is how Filipinos value their families. Close family ties are an important bond for each member of the family. A guy who wants to date a girl must ask for her parents' permission. In case no permission is granted, it is highly unlikely for the date to actually happen, unless in some cases that the girl and guy sneak out and date out secretly. However, this is morally unacceptable in Philippine culture. Filipino parents are very strict with their children having romantic relationships. Brothers are generally protective of their sisters. Even cousins and other relatives are protective of their young female cousins and relatives. They become more lenient when their daughters, sisters and relatives reach the legal age of 18. When picking up the girl at her home for a date, it is common to provide gifts to the family members (parents, grandparents and siblings) as well. Parents usually want to have some conversation with the guy and ask about his family and educational background before they can go out for a date. First Date The first date is officially a time to get to know each other. The couple ask about each other’s backgrounds and it is highly unlikely to have a passionate kiss after the date. Some girls allow a kiss on the cheek after the first date, but this varies per person and per couple. Some guys don’t even get the...
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...Child Brides of the Middle East Verses American Courtship Sadarodawn ANT101: Introduction to Cultural Anthropology Gregory Miller March 13, 3013 Child Brides of the Middle East Verses American Courtship When we begin to look at other cultures, we must try to see it from their perspective. By putting ourselves in someone else's shoes, or an emic perspective, although rarely ever easy, we are able to see things differently. One must put away their own beliefs, opinions, and emotions, along with the assumption that their own culture is the "right" or "better" culture. Today we are going to take a look at my own culture through an outsider's point of view know as an etic point of view while examining that culture from an insider's perspective. We will be covering the arranged child bride marriages of Middle Eastern countries, specifically Pakistan, compared to more complex love matches that are made here in the United States. In this, we will note that while courtship and marriage in United States may be more complex having less health and social risks, child marriage is still the preference in Pakistan. Part I In this part of the paper, we are looking at marriage and courtship in the United States. In the 1930s through the 1940s whirlwind courtships were common. After World War II couples were getting married in their 20s. Today the average age for a male is 28 years of age and 26 years of age for a female to get married. (USA Today 2010) " When I went to...
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...Courtship and Marriage Things You Must Consider Before You Marry By Pastor Ken Raggio Starting Out Alone We all begin as a solo act. We stand alone in the social scheme of things. We have birth relationships - father, mother, sisters, brothers. But in the course of maturing, we generally desire the companionship of additional people. We develop casual relationships through contacts we have in the various segments of society - our neighborhood, our school, our workplace, our church - to name a few. We often carry our casual relationships further as we experience positive and desirable interactions with others. Acquaintances become friendships. We endear ourselves to others with whom we find meaningful compatibilities. "Qualifying" Friendships Every person faces a vastly different challenge when it comes to forming meaningful relationships with others. Some people are extroverted, which means they are socially interactive. They are able to express themselves to others, or make conversation easily, which, over a period of time, creates a large pool of acquaintances from which friendships can be formed. As a rule, an extrovert is likely to have a larger number of prospects from which to choose a friend. On the other hand, an introvert generally lives a more isolated lifestyle, communicating with fewer people. It would stand to reason that the introvert might have fewer choices when it comes to selecting a friend. These personality differences do not...
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...actually use. Although many are Christians, we still do not follow very well they ways in which God wants us to choose a mate. God’s view on the subject remains the same. However, the secular world’s views change, sometimes very frequently. In a perfect world, in God’s views, we would select our mate by the proper means. Dating, in the bible, is commonly referred to as courtship. Courtship, by definition, is “the act, period, or art of seeking the love of someone with intent to marry” (www.thefreedictionary.com). You are to make sure you marry a believer or else you risk your how you could raise your children. Also, the wife must submit to her husband, just as the church submits to God, because the man is the head of the relationship. We are to love our spouse, but we are to love God above all others (Matthew 10:37). We must refrain from degrading our bodies with premarital sex and are to “save ourselves” for our husband/wife. Upon marrying, we are considered one and unbreakable in God’s eyes. However, we live in a far from perfect world, a world that involves adultery, jealousy, lying, etc., just to name a few. As imperfect as our world is, often our dating and mating rituals are just as poor. We far too often engage in moral wrongs, like premarital sex, and having children out of wedlock. We, as a society, are generally more concerned with what a person looks like and how much money they have, instead of what their values and morals are. When involved in a relationship, many...
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...morality. As the movie begins, President Shepard is ending his first term in office and preliminary polling suggests that his reelection would be almost certain. He is widowed, which helped him win the initial campaign because Americans felt sorry for his loss, with a teenage daughter and meets an environmental lobbyist who is single. This is the point where American bias toward how a president should and should not act come into play. Society’s mentality leans toward a courtship period between men and women prior to marriage and definitely before intimacy. Apparently the standards do not apply to political figures. It was at this time in the movie that the previously high approval rating began to fall and the possibility of reelection was beginning to slip away. Although the courtship had begun, society did not approve of a president in the dating scene. And it is this double standard by society that causes problems for people constantly in the public eye. Even if the approved steps to dating and courtship are followed to the letter, Americans find fault in the relationship from the beginning. The reality of political service is that most public figures are human beings with all the failings that entails. Ever since Machiavelli wrote “The Prince,” it is understood that political power comes from a situational ethical construct. However, our general population holds public figures to a very strict moral code, regardless of the situation, making it almost impossible to be considered...
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...Jaleesa Williams Sociology 101 Assignment 1 October 7, 2014 Dating is something that human beings do to establish a relationship, specifically companionship, which is much deeper than just a level of friendship. It is the process in which people determine their compatibility and complementation to one another. Dating has always been perceived in a linear path one pursues with the end goal being marriage or at least an intimate long-term relationship. The concept of dating has so many various practices and protocols that this research paper will focus mainly on dating rituals within the United States. In the United States dating is generally the foundation that will ultimately lead to engagement, which will eventually become marriage. Typically two people will test or try out a relationship by going out together to various places and doing different things together depending upon interests and preferences. The time spent together determines whether the pair will continue to see each other and further establish their relationship or end things and date someone else with whom they might feel a stronger connection. This research intends to question the differences in the practices of dating between gender, race and socioeconomic status and why these differences persist. Is it just the societal norms that further reinforce these practices or is it because of other factors, which tie in to gender roles, cultural values, or social class status. Throughout the research there...
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...which was integrated into homemaking classes for girls. These classes attempted to provide guidance to create a successful and happy nuclear family. Freeman draws attention to the concerns of educators which included the youths’ attitudes toward sexuality, marriage, and family life. In other words, sex education was centered around the heterosexual schema about upholding the traditional fabrics of the “normal” family. Classrooms in the 1940s and 1950s integrated sex education in other classes and the term hygiene referred mostly to cleanliness rather than sex. Freeman also addresses courtship and challenges in defining pleasure. With courtship, some girls who dated were succumbed to conforming to strict gender expectations and deviant behaviors such as drinking. This process of dating and courtship began for girls in junior high school where girls were taught that paying attention to boys and dating was a way to fit in with their peers. This ultimately affected how girls viewed pleasure. The traditional paradigm was that “sex” was intercourse that led to vaginal intercourse and male ejaculation. This not only reinforced heterosexual and male-centered relationships but disregarded the other ways women could achieve sexual pleasure. Finally, the main agents that Freeman identifies as promoting sex education in public schools would be administrators, teachers, PTA leaders, parents, mental health professionals, and social workers. All of these actors play a role in the way sex education...
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...In today’s society dating and finding a soul mate is a lot harder than it was in the earlier years. Back in the early nineteenth century, boys and girls were brought together and prepared for marriage through a father controlled process called courtship. During this time father’s controlled whom their sons and daughters married. Not like in today’s society where you may or may not even meet the parents of the person to whom you are dating. I believe the main reason for this shift from courtship to dating was that most churches stopped preaching God’s moral law. Father’s stopped their biblical responsibility to oversee their children’s relationships and guide them the way God wanted them to be guided, through His teachings. In today’s society I believe the world’s view is to date whomever you want until you find what you believe is your soul mate. One may have a few relationships or a number of relationships before this may happen. A saying that I’ve heard a lot from people is “a relationship is like buying a new car you have to try it out before you purchase it”. So, in other words, if the person doesn’t meet the other person’s standards, they just get tossed away. Society plays a key role in influencing our children. But it is a lack of parenting that lets it get out of control. It’s more about what the person looks like and how much money they have or make. I believe this is what society considers is normal. Take the movie industry into consideration. What do...
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...previously associated with men. Before the 1920’s the women found in saloon were often referred to as prostitutes (Clement, 176) Flappers tried to break these assumptions by setting aside some of their most distinctive traits and competing with men along his own lines (Hirshbein, 120) This was done by having a strong presence in not only bars, but redefining the social conventions of calling. Courtship which had the purpose of leading to marriage, was replaced with dating which meant a newfound casualness that wasn’t found in the social norms associated with calling. This more relaxed approach to relationship also lead to a more relaxed attitude towards sex. In this way Flapper gained some social freedoms with their sexual interactions with men, however because this new look on courtship “took dating out of the female and family realm of the front parlor… and into cabarets and movie theaters of the new entertainment economy.”(Clement, 157) Women in particular flappers were often engaged in the concept of “treating”. The definition of this is the exchange of sexual favors for material goods. Although, the flapper symbolized the idea of the New Women, they were only able to slightly blur the gender boundaries present in the 1920’s. Although they started to embrace a newfound sexual liberation, they were met with challenges. Many preachers and politicians in dozens of states proposed laws to would prohibit women from exposing to much flesh” (Kallen 130). Although they felt like...
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...Some people believe in love at first sight, while others believe that it takes time and understanding to love someone and accept them as their spouse. Youths believe that they should date the person first before they get married to them because they have the right to choose their own match, since they are the one who will be spending the rest of their life with them. "They asked what I was looking for in a wife. Then they looked around, found a family they felt was suitable, and sent a formal proposal to the parents" (Reader 183). This is what traditional arranged marriages were like. Dating before marriage is also referred to as courtship and is essential. It helps an individual decide whether they would want to spend the rest of their...
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...Isaac Guajardo J. Floerke Interpersonal Communications 6 February 2014 What Women Want: An Analysis of Female Attraction Mechanisms Among the many clichés that exist in our modern day culture, one that has not lost its relevance among Westerners is the saying that goes, “Women do not really know what they want in a romantic partner.” Although this is obviously not a statement of fact, for many people—especially those who consider women romantically attractive (specifically men), the question continues to be, “What do women really want in a partner?” or “What do women find attractive?” When it comes to answering either of these questions there is no one solution that fits all, as no two women are identically the same. However, there are some basic principles that can be drawn out to determine what attracts women to men. Although the task of discovering what sparks the interest of women in men is sometimes not easy, there are a few general guidelines that can backed up scientifically and culturally to identify the common attractions that women have for men. Such guidelines are perhaps dominant or recessive in different circumstances, but they do tend to be expressed throughout interpersonal relationships that women and men have. In analyzing the gender and biological differences that women and men have, there emerges a pattern which expresses some general guidelines for what women find attractive in men. One of the main factors that contribute to the attraction that...
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...relationship to properly mature. As long as it is properly used, online dating can serve as a useful tool to allow relationships the ability to gradually develop. It is a great way to bring back the structure into many new relationships. In Love, Internet Style, David Brooks emphasizes on the point that “Online dating puts structure back into courtship.” Online dating can serve as a useful tool to allow relationships the ability to gradually develop, because it can bring back the structure into many new relationships (Brooks)....
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