...Running head: The Dating and Mating Process 1 The Dating and Mating Process God’s View and the World’s View Donna L. Herrera The Dating and Mating Process 2 Abstract This paper will explore two different principles of dating and finding a mate. The first will be a biblical view of finding of dating and finding a mate. Two Biblical references are used to support my opinion on the dating and mating process, how we should use God’s word through scripture to define relationships and the way we should live our lives. The second will be a world view of dating and finding a mate. I use my own personal experience and years of working with teenagers as a youth pastor to help express my opinion on how I feel the world view defines dating and looking for a mate. I refer to David Elkind (1984) wherein he suggests that teenagers have had to become premature adults. As hard as this to believe I feel that this is still true today. This paper is based on my sincere heartfelt feeling on this subject. The Dating and Mating Process 3 The Dating and Mating Process God’s View and the World’s View The Bible really does not address dating as it is viewed in our world today. I have heard it argued the Bible speaks of “courting” in Proverbs 18:22 which states that, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord.”(NKJV) The argument is the word find implies seeking or looking for a wife. I think...
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...Dating and Mating Ronald A. Hammer Liberty University Dating and Mating In today’s society we are faced with a secular view of dating and mating. These views can be seen by turning on the television, or opening your email. Television shows like Jersey Shore, promote random sex, and multi partner relationships, while the internet is inundated with dating sites and pornography. The dating practices today focus on more of an intimate relationship than an emotional or spiritual bond between both parties. Sex today is more of a game, than a special moment between a man and his wife. The line is very blurred between biblical and secular dating and mating views, although it should be clear and distinct. The Lord guides us to keep the dating process pure by not mating till marriage. In the Hebrews 13:4 we are told that pre-marital sex is wrong, “Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery” (New Living Translation). As a born again believer I feel the only way God will bless the marriage is to avoid sex until marriage. As Christians we should put our love and obedience to Jesus ahead of their own desires. These common beliefs should be the foundation for love respect and self-sacrifice that a great relationship is based upon. Finding a partner in Christ is one of the hardest steps to overcome when starting the dating process. Juliet Klee states, “You need to be dating only...
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...Dating and Mating In today’s society we are faced with a secular view of dating and mating. These views can be seen by turning on the television, or opening your email. Television shows like Jersey Shore, promote random sex, and multi partner relationships, while the internet is inundated with dating sites and pornography. The dating practices today focus on more of an intimate relationship than an emotional or spiritual bond between both parties. Sex today is more of a game, than a special moment between a man and his wife. The line is very blurred between biblical and secular dating and mating views, although it should be clear and distinct. The Lord guides us to keep the dating process pure by not mating till marriage. In the Hebrews 13:4 we are told that pre-marital sex is wrong, “Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery” (New Living Translation). As a born again believer I feel the only way God will bless the marriage is to avoid sex until marriage. As Christians we should put our love and obedience to Jesus ahead of their own desires. These common beliefs should be the foundation for love respect and self-sacrifice that a great relationship is based upon. Finding a partner in Christ is one of the hardest steps to overcome when starting the dating process. Juliet Klee states, “You need to be dating only someone who shares your level of commitment to your faith...
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...Running head: DATING AND MATING BIBLICAL AND SECULAR VIEWS 1 Compare And Contrast Randall W. Ames Liberty University DATING AND MATIING BIBLICAL AND SECULAR VIEWS 2 Dating and Mating Biblical and Secular Views In the beginning God saw it was not good that man should be alone and he created a mate called woman. Since that time men and women have engaged in dating and mating. There are however many different views on this subject. There is clearly a biblical view of dating and mating and secular view of dating and mating. The most popular way of finding a date now is the Internet dating sites; Macarthur says that compatibility is the holy grail of Internet dating services (Macarthur, 2009). Many times the problem with seeking a mate through Internet dating sites we find there is no accountability. People are seeking compatibility, however it is difficult to find true compatibility because people have a tendency to spice up their profile. The secular view says follow your heart. It is a very self-oriented thought process. Are they compatible for me? Because the secular view is so inward looking it has led to astronomical numbers of people now believing that co-habitation is the best way to find out if they are compatible. This however, according to Myers has led to higher rates of divorce (Myers 2013). The secular self-oriented view is; will this person be compatible with me and...
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...Stephanie Hazelton Psyc 101 Pro. Lydia Tchividjian July 9, 2012 Being a Christian has made my dating and mating process experiences highly different. I had a hard time at first with dating as a Christian. I would go out on dates and completely cast guys out because of little things that they would do. I was being very self righteous in my opinion. So I decided to let my hair down a little, but when I did that I ended up losing my virginity to a man that was not meant to be my husband. I had to regroup myself and get my life back on the right track. Through much prayer and mentoring with a close friend, I got back to the place I needed to be. These are some of the main reason why there are some big differences with dating and mating as a Christian and as a worldly being. Dating and mating as a worldly being tells you that meeting someone that fits with you is a great thing. If you fall in love with that person it’s a great thing, and the best way to show that love for each other is by making love to that person. The pre caution that you should take is making sure you use protection. The world tells you that there is nothing wrong with these actions. I know better than that. In the bible it tells us that sex is suppose to be between a husband and his wife. Our bodies are supposed to be a living sacrifice holy and acceptable unto Christ.(Holy Bible) Now how can we be a living sacrifice if with are just freely sleeping with any and everybody that we feel we are...
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...Marshall – 08099405 Online dating has increased in popularity over the last few years with the most recent RSVP Date of the Nation Report (2014) showing online dating as the second most preferred way to meet a new partner compared to the 2012 RSVP report which showed online dating as the fifth preferred option (Medianet, 2015). There are a number of benefits to online dating that may have contributed to its rising popularity. A network externality will occur as more and more people become familiar with and confident in using online dating platforms, expanding the pool of potential suitors. Specific group dating sites have also been created that provide a mechanism for assortative mating (homogamy) preferences whereby individuals are able to select potential partners based on similarities such as environment, education, socio economic status, aesthetics and a range of other categories, increasing the chances of finding a suitable partner while keeping search costs low. To further reduce search costs, signalling, such as sending an e-rose, can be used by individuals to narrow the pool of potential partners to those of particular interest, increasing the chances of acceptance by 20% (Lee & Niederle, 2014). However, online dating also has its negatives as information is shared in an environment where cheap talk can distort the information, such as appearance attributes, due it the unverifiable and non-binding (Farrell, 1996) online process. It is difficult to judge...
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...The dating and mating selection process as been looked at from two angles, the male and female approach to mate selection. Men are considered more physical beings and their initial reactions are initiated by physical attributes of the other sex. “Our natural yearnings are our genes’ way of reproducing themselves” (Psychology. pg. 147, Meyers). Men look for beautiful skin, curvy body, attributes we contribute to a great child bearing mate. From personal experience I believe this to be true, when I look at a woman that I find attractive, the hips, complexion and healthy appearance are vital parts to finding her attractive. The text explains these views as viewing woman as fertile mates. As I believe the hip factor for myself and other men, is a factor that plays out as a woman being able to carry a child and deliver a baby through the birth canal, compared to a woman with small hips, that ordinary I wouldn’t be attracted to. Women on the other hand chose mates on how they relate to the individual. Women look for attributes of the male being a good provider for their offspring along with being around to raise the kids. Of course women were compared to picking their mates wisely because of the factor they have to nurture one child at a time, where on the other hand a male can disseminate and spread his genes without adversely being effected. This statement could be true to some but these days of child support, I would have to believe that men and women are choosing...
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...Dating: God’s Way Against the World’s Tiffany R. Jones Liberty University Abstract The subject of dating according to the way of the Lord is isn’t something that is often approached. However, it is very important that Christians apply biblical principals when approaching dating relationships. It is unfortunate that even believers have dismissed the way that the Lord intended for us to establish relationships. As a result, there are an increased number of couples that have become comfortable with dating and choosing to avoid marriage. Whether it’s a dating relationship or a simple friendship, the God should be the foundation. By making sure that things are done the way that the Lord directed, there will be many more healthy relationships in the world. As important as the topic is, dating isn’t one that is discussed in churches today, at least not in the ones that I have been a part of. Many ministries deal with single people and married couples, but seemingly the stage in between goes untouched, leaving those in this stage to fend for themselves. Although dating isn’t mentioned in the bible per say, I believe that there is distinct difference in the way that the secular world presents the dating and mating process and how God directs us to select our mates. The bible says in 2 Corinthians 6:14 (New International Version), “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness...
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...The topic of relationship styles has generated much debate about whether monogamy or non-monogamy are more suitable and beneficial for long-term relationships. Taken together, Conley, Ziegler, Moors, Matsick, and Valentine (2013) discussed the benefits and outcomes between monogamous and non-monogamous relationships, whereas Potârcă, Mills, and Neberich (2015) extended the same topic by targeting relationship preferences among gay and lesbian. People’s tendency of moving towards monogamy at the end of the life cycle can always be observed regardless of individual and cultural differences; however, I believe only truthful and ethical relationships may contribute to intimacy, emotional support, and healthy partnership. Many assume that our long-term...
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...My Compare and contrast paper is about what the secular world presents about the dating and mating process and how the Lord directs us to date and mate. I will be speaking about several different areas of dating from a secular world and what the bible tells us about how to date and finding our mate from GOD aspect. I also will give my personal opinion on how I believe most people pick their mate. The world always paints a pretty picture of how marriage should be. The women finds her prince charging, he rescue’s her from danger, they ride away on a horse into the sun light they get married and live happily ever after. It might be the little rhyme kids use to sing, “Adam and Ashley sitting in a tree k i s s i n g. first comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the baby in the baby carriage. As the saying goes, finding a mate does not always go in that way, shape or form. Society says,” men feel most attracted to women whose waist are smaller than their hips which signifies her fertility” (perilloux et al., 2010) meaning she has a “coke bottle shape”. Woman should have perfect body, muscles, tall, deep trembling voice. They should dress nice, have a good job, live and drive the best. If you come across someone who doesn’t fit this appearance you have settled for less. Secular world presents that we should engage into intercourse with a mate to express our love into an even deeper matter. A survey was taken from 289,452 students entering college in the United states about...
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...XXX10.1177/1529100612436522Finkel et al.Online Dating 2012 Research Article Online Dating: A Critical Analysis From the Perspective of Psychological Science Psychological Science in the Public Interest 13(1) 3–66 © The Author(s) 2012 Reprints and permission: sagepub.com/journalsPermissions.nav DOI: 10.1177/1529100612436522 http://pspi.sagepub.com Eli J. Finkel1, Paul W. Eastwick2, Benjamin R. Karney3, Harry T. Reis4, and Susan Sprecher5 1 Northwestern University; 2Texas A&M University; 3University of California, Los Angeles; University of Rochester; and 5Illinois State University 4 Summary Online dating sites frequently claim that they have fundamentally altered the dating landscape for the better. This article employs psychological science to examine (a) whether online dating is fundamentally different from conventional offline dating and (b) whether online dating promotes better romantic outcomes than conventional offline dating. The answer to the first question (uniqueness) is yes, and the answer to the second question (superiority) is yes and no. To understand how online dating fundamentally differs from conventional offline dating and the circumstances under which online dating promotes better romantic outcomes than conventional offline dating, we consider the three major services online dating sites offer: access, communication, and matching. Access refers to users’ exposure to and opportunity to evaluate potential romantic...
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...B3 Biology checklist | | |What You Need To Know |[pic] |[pic] |[pic] | | |D/C |Explain different types of behaviour: innate, courtship, habituation, imprinting and conditioning. | | | | | |B/A |Describe the work of different ethnologists helps to explain different types of behaviour. | | | | | |D/C |Explain that animals have different mating strategies that may (or may not) include parental care. | | | | | | |Describe the cost and benefits to parental care. | | | | | |B/A |Explain a range of mating strategies. | | | | | | |Explain parental care as an evolutionary strategy. | | | | | |D/C |Explain how animals use sound to communicate. | | | | | | |Explain how plants communicate with each other using chemicals. | | | | | |B/A...
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...theory of evolution by natural selection through his book called ‘On the Origin of Species’. The book was released in 1859 and it explained the process of how organisms changed over time through the result of changes in heritable physical or behavioural traits. These changes allow an organism to adapt to the environment that it inhabits so that the organism’s chances of survival improve and produce more offspring (Than, 2015). However, biological evolution does not simply mean a change over time. It is believed that the central idea of biological evolution is that all organisms on Earth share a common ancestor (Understanding Evolution, 2015).The major principles of Darwin’s Theory of Evolution by Natural Selection...
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...sour before the check arrives, yet another “lightning just struck us” couple will go on to have a life-long relationship. Because love is hard to replicate in a lab, there is little research on when and why—and for whom—love at first sight works out. According to an annual “Singles in America” survey of more than 5,000 singles ages 21 to 70-plus, sponsored by the dating site Match.com, 59% of men and 49% of women in 2014 said they believe in love at first sight, and 41% of men and 29% of women say they have experienced it. The survey and numerous psychological studies have found men fall in love faster than women, says Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist and New York City-based senior research fellow at the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction. “Men are so visual,” she says. “They see a woman who appeals to them physically, and it will trigger the romantic love system faster.” She adds, “Women are custodians of the egg, so they are more careful romantically.” Romantic love is one of three systems—along with the sex drive and feelings of deep attachment—that humans developed for mating. Romantic love’s intense desire for connection with the other person typically lasts 18 months to three years, experts say....
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...What Men and Women Want in a Mate Maria Morel Florida Atlantic University Introduction In recent decades researchers have generated considerable documentation on the evolutionary psychology of human mating strategies and romantic relationships. Much of this research stems from the features and genetic makeup of hominids, and their reproductive biology. Across mammalian species females are the key factor in reproduction, because they provide almost all of the physiological resources required for the production of offspring. There are many investments that females make when carrying an offspring. They invest themselves physically, mentally, and emotionally. This makes females have much lower potential reproductive capacities than males. It started with the work of psychologist David Buss of the University of Texas. In 1985, Buss published an article based on interviews with more than 10,000 participants from 37 cultures. Subjects were given a list of 18 possible characteristics of a mate and asked to rate those characteristics. Almost unanimously both sexes put love, dependable character, emotional stability, and pleasing disposition first. It wasn't until the fifth...
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