...In Deborah Tannen's essay "How Male and Female Students Use Language Differently", she is discussing male and female conversational styles and how they influence discussion in the classroom. First Tannen talks about how girls like smaller groups and "it's the telling of the secrets that makes them best friends", but boys like larger groups and "boys are expected to use language to seize center stage: by exhibiting their skill, displaying their knowledge, and challenging and resisting challenges." Tannen also discusses how classrooms use "argument and challenge" and many women don't like this and hide from it while men enjoy the challenge. Tannen's third argument says that men find it their role to voice their opinion, while women hold back what they want to say so they do not dominate the conversation. The final point Tannen makes is that schools and educators can not just use...
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...SUMMARY Deborah Tannen claims that the standard classroom environment of active discussion cater and benefit to men and their “pursuit of knowledge,” while hindering women because women are predisposed to listen and intimidated by men and their active participation. She states that males and females learn contrastingly. As well, Tannen argues that it is dependent of the majority of the class atmosphere that one’s learning behavior is determined. Tannen backs up her claims using her own experience and observations as a student, crafting and concluding her own experiment. She calls upon the conversation of changing class structure as well as the awareness of students and their role in the classroom to find equal opportunity in the classroom....
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...grossly limited. Deborah Tannen in her “Sex, Lies, and Conversation” emphasizes the differences in conversation between the different genders. Communication is the key to a successful relationship, and knowledge of the differences in communication between genders is necessary for clear communication. The three main differences are body gestures, conversation and conversational habits. In their body language, women like to sit facing each other directly, their eyes on each other’s faces (Tannen 405). This to them creates a bond of friendship. Men, however, prefer to sit at angles to each other looking elsewhere or looking down, with a periodical glance at each other. Logically, the tendency for men to face away during conversations gives the women the impression that they are not listening, creating a strain in their relationships....
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...Professor of linguistics Deborah Tannen go over the distinctness between men and women and present some answers to the subject. She says that the lack of communication is often the cause of divorce. She noted that most women’s complaints in a marriage or any other relationship were that the women believe that their men do not listen to them. However, after an analysis with many couples and same sex-friends, she concluded that the problem was not that men do not listen, but they listen differently. Throughout her essay, Tannen has focused on the problems and...
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...For this week I decided to stick with Deborah Tannen's book. I choose to read Chapter 7 because I read other student's chapter review and I found it to be interesting. This chapter talks about interruptions. One of the most widely cited findings on gender and language is that men tend to interrupt women. There's an assumption that interruption is a hostile act and can be associated with controversial bullying. The person who interrupts is seen as a malevolent aggressor and the person who gets interrupted is seen as the innocent victim. These assumptions are derived from the idea that interruption is an intrusion, trampling a person's right to speak, and an attempt to dominate. Accusations of interruptions are often seen as hurtful in close...
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...Case: Hamilton County Judges A Review by the Company of Annette July 6, 2012 Abstract Hamilton County Judges try thousands of cases per year. This study is to provide the newspaper with how well the judges are performing. With the results of Kristen DelGuzzie of the Cinncinati Enquirer that conducted the study of the cases in Hamilton County for a three year period. Providing analytical results on how well each and every judge is doing. With the results, the Cinncinati Enquirer will be able answer the question of which judge is performing a good job and which is not performing a good job. By evaluating the results from the data collects. The company of Annette is hired to assist in the data analysis. Case: Hamilton County Judges A Review by the Company of Annette Over a period of three years, Kristen DelGuzzi of the Cinncinati Enquirer created a study to see which Judges were performing the best and worst. Appeals are the result of a mistake made by the judges. Disposed is when the judge throws out the case. And Reversed is when the judge reverses what was said during a pervious case. With this study I will being answering the following questions: 1. Who is doing a good job? 2. Who isn’t doing a good job? 3. Why does the company of Annette think so? With answering the questions. This report will also provided the results from: * The probability of cases being appealed and reversed in three different courts * The probability of a case being appealed...
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...can figure as to what point of views and value systems the authors are trying to persuade? The article that I chose to read was “For Argument’s Sake; Why Do We Feel Compelled to Fight”. The title seemed fitting for the mood that I was in. I will attempt to see if I can decipher the value system portrayed and whether or not it is meant to persuade your attitude or decisons about the topic at hand. The story at hand was the third person account of a woman by the name of Deborah Tannen. Once I had completed reading her personal stories of her guest appearances on televison and radio shows. I wanted to find a bit about her first. Deborah Tannen is “a University Professor of Linguistics at Georgetown Unvirsity and author of many books and articles about how the language of everyday conversation can affect relationships” (Deborah Tannen, 2009). This author states that “everywhere we turn, there is evidence that, in public discourse, we prize contentiousness and agression more than cooperation and conciliation” (Tannen, 2010). She feels that we are all part of a society regarded as “the argument culture”. Our culture seems to feel that opposition is the better way to achieve things. Debating over an idea is the greatest way to discuss an idea. I have a hard time determining which value system she leans most towards. There are no religious...
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...Sabbath De La Garza A Lima E1-W Composition II 9-19-2012 Words Too Literally After reading “War of Words”, I was intrigued by the evidence issued by Deborah Tannen. It is true that today the media enjoys promoting warlike conflicts that would lead to duals. Most people today would rather listen to a story or a debate that has been handled with embarrassing conflicts just because it gives the audience a reason to criticize the wrongdoer. Take it from Deborah Tannen when she was on a TV show and a man who was paid by the media was only there to attack her. Creating this image on live TV would only create criticizing and anger the audience but, people enjoy anything where they are able to pass judgment or settle a dispute with vicious behavior. Deborah Tannen had also mentioned that even in our colleges that we are being cultivated and rewarded to be aggressive and that we must demonstrate it. With this kind of behavior I find it that people will think that this will b the solution to solving a problem but deep down inside problems should be solved by compromising or solving a debate with intellectual communication rather than attacking the problem with violence. Being an aggressive person can be helpful at some point but we must also realize that approaching the debater or situation with kinder approach will lead to positive results. We are born brought up to respect others so why is it that when we get to college we are being taught to attack with combative strategies...
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...Daughters in Conversation. Deborah Tannen (2006) New York: Ballantine Books, pp. 272 Reviewed by Ashley M. Williams Deborah Tannen, as Michael Billig (2000: 129) noted in his review of her 1998 book The Argument Culture, has a particular knack for writing best-sellers that ‘can outstrip the celebrity biographies, cookery books and sex manuals that dominate the non-fiction book trade’. Indeed, Tannen’s latest addition to her oeuvre meant for popular consumption, You’re Wearing That? a New York Times bestseller, is no different. Focusing on mother-adult daughter conversations and the tensions that can arise from these relationships, Tannen’s goal is to help readers understand and overcome these problems. In addressing her readers, assumed to be women, she writes that: our deepest wish is to be understood and approved of by our mothers and daughters. We can get closer to that goal by listening to the ways we talk to each other, and by learning to talk to each other in new ways (p. 32). In privileging mother-daughter relationships, Tannen often mentions that these relationships are like any other, only more so – and thus the tensions, disagreements and arguments involved are more intense, personal, and potentially damaging. As in her previous popular works, her evidence of the difficulties in these relationships draws heavily on recorded interactions, anecdotes, focus group discussions, interviews, literature, and more. Tannen also uses examples from her...
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...their classmates. Boys would try to make everything similar to a competition and females are more about giving everyone a chance. In a workplace, males are projected as being more dominant and females are displayed as being fair. When males and females communicate, males are more likely to play a dominant role in a conversation because males subconsciously expose their masculinity. Deborah Tannen was one of the reliable sources that thoroughly elaborates the communication between male and female. Tannen is currently university professor and professor of linguistics at Georgetown University. She received a Ph.D. in Linguistics from the University of California in 1979 and has done a numerous amount research on a broad range of topics. She wrote 22 books that created connections with analysis of conversational discourse, spoken and written language, orality and literacy, doctor-patient communication, cross-cultural communication, modern Greek discourse, the relationship between conversational and literary discourse, narrative, and gender and language. Gender and language is the topic that Tannen is known for having great research about. Her most memorable books are “You Just Don’t Understand” and “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus”. Males and females show very familiar tendencies when inside a class room setting. Classroom environments are usually the...
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...After reading “War of Words”, I was intrigued by the evidence issued by Deborah Tannen. It is true that today the media enjoys promoting warlike conflicts that would lead to duals. Most people today would rather listen to a story or a debate that has been handled with embarrassing conflicts just because it gives the audience a reason to criticize the wrongdoer. Take it from Deborah Tannen when she was on a TV show and a man who was paid by the media was only there to attack her. Creating this image on live TV would only create criticizing and anger the audience but, people enjoy anything where they are able to pass judgment or settle a dispute with vicious behavior. Deborah Tannen had also mentioned that even in our colleges that we are being cultivated and rewarded to be aggressive and that we must demonstrate it. With this kind of behavior I find it that people will think that this will b the solution to solving a problem but deep down inside problems should be solved by compromising or solving a debate with intellectual communication rather than attacking the problem with violence. Being an aggressive person can be helpful at some point but we must also realize that approaching the debater or situation with kinder approach will lead to positive results. We are born brought up to respect others so why is it that when we get to college we are being taught to attack with combative strategies that will lead to drama and ruthless situations. To avoid these situations...
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...Let’s Look At All Sides Deborah Tannens, “The Argument Culture,” is an essay in which she voices her concern that our culture “urges us to approach the world, and the people in it, in an adversarial frame of mind” (404). This conveys that there is always a point to be argued and that most people voice their opinion in opposition. This not only causes problems in social circles, but on a worldwide scale as well. She explains that everything is set up as debate where it seems there has to be a winner and a loser. However, this is not always the case because opinions are neither right, nor wrong. That is why they are a personal opinion that a person feels. Tannen is concerned that the argument culture frame of mind leads us to believe that “every issue has two sides-no more, no less” (405). From my personal life experiences, I have observed this to be somewhat true. I don’t believe society portrays every issue to have a “right side” and a “wrong side.” Take the controversial subject of abortion for example. Some individuals believe that abortion is wrong no matter what the situation is, while others think it is a woman’s choice. Then there are the ones who are usually against it but think it is acceptable in certain situations. Or what about the up and coming topic of requiring drug testing for welfare recipients? Some people are all for it, some people think it is a waste of tax dollars, and others think it should be done if the person has had known drug problems in the past...
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...Men and Women Communication Conversation is the most common form of communication, but it may not be as simple as we think it is. Women and men have many differences while communicating between each other. Men can only comprehend men, as women also comprehend in its totality to women. In the article “Sex, Lies, and Conversation” by Deborah Tannen is stated how women and men differ in the way they bond with each other, their childhood socialization, the physical positions each gender practices while communicating, and their listening habits. There are many differences in the way we bond with our gender. According to Tannen’s article, with women it is developing a relationship; intimacy and talk are the main practices that give strength to the relation, like exchanging secrets. However, men base their relationships on the things they do together: actual experiences. “Women expect their husband to be a new and improved version of best friend.”(Tannen 441) That implies that women are expecting men to respond as women do in certain conditions, like as said before exchanging secrets. This is one of the most remarkable differences between man and woman that make each other uncomfortable while communicating. In order for a gender to create a total different structure while socializing, it must be developed before, as we grow up from childhood. “Boys and girls tend to play with children of their own gender, and their sex-separate groups have different organizational structures.”(T ...
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...Gloria Kelly Synthesis Essay Dr. Dianne Malone, Instructor August 15, 2011 Drawing primarily from Terry Martin Hekker, Leslie Bennetts, and Deborah Tannen articles, I find them to have their similarities and differences in their version of motherhood and careers and bitterness. Women can decide to love or become bitter to the idea of taking on motherhood alone with or without a career path and with or without a man. Hekker’s bitterness did not come with her career choice as a housewife while Tannen’s interview with the lawyer’s bitterness did come with the career change or becoming a housewife with no help from her husband. The two women’s bitterness came to a point of resentment and annoyance towards their husbands. Hekker enjoyed her married life as a housewife in spite of criticism from family and friends while Bennetts’ lawyer became bitter when she had to become a housewife. Hekker never complained about her housewife career and never mentioned in her article whether or not her husband helped in the childrearing. But Bennetts’ interview with the commercial litigator lawyer reveals the very opposite when it came to taking full responsibility as a housewife. Bennetts explains how the lawyer had “disdain” (contempt) for housewives until she had children and demanding hours, had to give up her career because her husband felt that it was her problem to raise the children (woman’s work). The husband refused to take the time and help with the childrearing...
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...In Deborah Tannen “Bossy is more than a word to woman “she says that the word bossy is a word that is commonly use in woman mainly in the work place. Deborah also explains how woman have other important issues and they seem to be focused on this word “bossy”. Sheryl Sandberg CEO of the campaign “Ban Bossy” says; “When a little boy asserts himself, he’s called a “leader.” Yet when a little girl does the same, she risks being branded “bossy”. This Paper is going to be focused on the pros and cons of the word bossy in woman which is most common. Deborah Tannen continues to say in the article “Bossy is more than a word to woman” “How can a word- especially a weak one like “bossy”- do that? It isn’t even as virulent as that other word that starts with “b”, which also hurled at woman.” She explains how this word bossy has a meaning and can work against woman in public life. Some of these feelings towards the word bossy it takes some woman back to the family and the playground as Deborah explains. In Deborah’s article she explains that she wrote a book about sisters, “You were always mom’s favorite! “ Woman would tell her that their oldest sister was bossy. A research shows that First born girls are bossier that first born boys according to “Beverly Capofiglia” of Southern California Child Study Center. The method they used was they had 40 girl and 40 boys all firstborn and had one younger sibling. They set up a play room with toys; they were videotaped in their environment...
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