Demonstrative Communication

I an age where we say things like text me, message me, or Facebook me; we start to loose certain aspects of communication. We go about our busy lives not really thinking about the signals that we send out. As Charles Dickens once said, “Electronic communication will never be a substitute for the face of someone who with their soul encourages another person to be brave and true.” My wife and I started out in a long distance relationship. We set out with some ground rules, and one of those rules was no serious conversations via text. The text message is very impersonal, but the biggest issue I had was not being able to see or hear her while we talked. I had a problem with communicating over a long distance because I rely on the non verbal indicators that are loaded with information. My wife and I would text every day and talk on the phone quite often, but I refused to have any sort of disagreement while on the phone. There are too many misunderstanding that could occur if we kept our conversations to strictly electronic. When you are dealing with a text or an email, you lose a portion of the conversations impact because of the lack of these visual cues. In a normal verbal conversation there are visual and auditory clues that a person can pick up on. While I was in the Marines, I was trained as a recruiter. As we all know, a recruiter’s job is to talk to, inform, and screen possible applicants for entry into the U.S. Marines. While I was going through the training for this job, we learned about demonstrative communication. This was the first time I have had any formal education in this subject. We were taught to rely on the non verbal clues just as much as the verbal ones. In my experience the non verbal ones were always a little more clear that the verbal clues. I was always able to adjust the little intricacies of the