There are plenty of parents who think that restricting or denying any freedom to the children is a good nurture. They think that the children are incapable of distinguishing between the good and the bad. They want to model the child’s life according to their own thinking. They believe that the child doesn’t have any right to independence and freedom. Earlier, most families used to follow this policy for upbringing their children. They used to bring up the children with an iron hand. Even these days there are families that follow this practice. As I see it such a way of upbringing has many drawbacks. To begin with, there is a high degree of possibility that a child will grow into a timid person devoid of self-confidence. Parents who raise their children by keeping control over the child’s life & making all the decisions for him are on the point of view that such nurture may remain children quiet and obedient to the parents. But in reality such parents make their children unready to take up important and difficult tasks in hand. What is more, such children are not capable of becoming leaders, as they will be habituated of taking orders and bearing ill treatment rather than expressing their own opinions, acting according their own wishes. Such dependence of mind occurs as a child is not allowed to do anything without permission of the parents, who think that their child doesn’t have enough wisdom and if he/she is given some independence, he/she may go astray.
As opposed to the above ideas when children are not controlled and given total freedom they don’t believe in any restriction for doing what they decide to do. Such children generally will be selfish and of impudent nature. As their desires are driven by total independence, they look down on others & think that others don’t have any rights. When such children grow into adults they expect others to obey them without any complaint. They don’t want to be controlled by anyone else.
Taking everything into account, upbringing with total restrictions has its pros and cons. It seems to me that a child must be made to understand in his/her early life that without any restrictions no one can live in the society. Others have some rights and privileges as well. Therefore, I believe that the best path to raise a child is to find a happy medium between strict restrictions and total freedom.