...User DYING, DEATH AND GRIEF: CHAPLAIN PAUL G. DURBIN, PH.D.: TRIBUTE TO DR. ELIZABETH KUBLER-ROSS (2004): THEORIST ON GRIEF DIES AT 78: DR ELIZABETH KUBLER-ROSS DIES AT 78: [New Orleans Times-Picayune: Aug 26, 2004: The Associated Press] ELISABETH KUBLER-ROSS DIES AT AGE 78 ON AUGUST 24, 2004: [From Elisabeth Kubler-Ross website: http://www.elisabethkublerross.com/ ]: (Taken from a seminar manuscript "Dying, Death and Grief" By Chaplain Paul G. Durbin, Ph.D.) From the Book of Ecclesiastes, the 5th verse of the 9th chapter, we read, "For the living know that they shall die." Life is but a short journey from the cradle to the grave. For some death comes early in life, for others in the middle years and for some it comes with old age. Whatever period of life death occurs, it comes to all. Death is the great equalizer for it comes to the rich and poor, the loved and unloved, the happy and the sad, to the male and female, the good and the bad. In some cases death can be postponed or delayed, but eventually it comes to all. None of us are exempt as we realize that one day, we too must die. Dying, death and bereavement are fundamental and pervasive aspects of the human experience. We can only achieve fullness of living by understanding and appreciating these realities. The absence of such understanding and appreciation may result in unnecessary suffering, loss of dignity, alienation and diminished quality of living. Though education about dying, death and bereavement should be an...
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...I INTRODUCTION Grief was not a subject of scholarly attention until recently. Although assumed to be experienced since the beginnings of human attachments and separations, Freud, the father of psychoanalysis, was the first one to make a thorough study of grief and loss. His early paper “Mourning and Melancholia”, published in 1917, is regarded as a classic text on bereavement (Mallon, 2008). He contributed the idea that grief is not “pathological” and that grief occurs not only for the loss of a loved one but also for things, values, and statuses (Walter & McCoyd, 2009). Since then, the study of grief had been popularized. More experts have specialized in the field and more publications regarding death and grief were released. Kübler-Ross, Doka, Bowlby, and Worden are just few names who had pioneered the study of grief and other related studies. And in fact, a new field of science had been found which includes the study of grief; that is thanatology. Indeed, the study of grief was granted what academic interest it had been lacking before. The sudden spurt of studies in this field has certainly increased people’s understanding of grief in certain aspects. But it is ironic that despite being a subject of thorough research, the experience of grief remains more or less a vague occurrence which people has to go through at some point in their lives. Attempts had been made in defining grief but the definitions given by different theorists still vary to a considerable...
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...Dying and Loses in Children Debra Mayers HNG 577: Dr. Sprung 10/28/2012 Death and Dying and Losses in Children * The death of a parent is one of the most difficult events a child might face. * It prematurely exposes the child to the unpredictability of life and the tenuous nature of daily existence. * Children loosing something or someone can significantly change his or her lives. * Helping children understand the dying process will enable one to understand the grieving process. * If children cannot understand the grieving process, it can alter their lives and create unhealthy habits into adulthood. (Bushardt, Reamer & Taylor, 2011). Loss and Grief * Grief is a natural reaction to loss and is ongoing for children developmental process. * Children reacts to grief is different and may be influenced by many factors. * Children s’ perceptions of death reflects on their understanding and maturity. * Children’s maturity depends on their age, cognitive ability, and their existing experiences with life. * Children responding to death are strongly influenced by socialization and their understanding and the maturity level of that individual child. (Heath, Leavy, Hansen, Ryan, Lawrence, & Sonntag, 2008). Issues Facing Families * Teachers and family care providers, family members and counselors can create an environment that supports the children emotional needs. * When educators create that environment with empathy...
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...occurred in National Health Service Hospitals. (Office for National Statistics, 2012). These figures indicate a substantial amount of individuals dying in a hospital setting each year, therefore a large proportion of patients will be receiving some form of care prior to and at death (Blackwell 2010 p.1). Numerous research studies have been carried out by theorists identifying the impact of bereavement on different individuals. The earliest thorough study of grief and loss developed from Freud with his classic paper ‘Mourning and Melancholia’ (Freud 1917 cited in Payne et al 1999). Freud believed that for the bereaved to detach from the deceased one must work through their grief by reviewing memories and thoughts of the deceased (Ellman 2010). Other theorists have recently identified death and the importance of understanding it. 'Death is a natural progression from life. Most nurses will be exposed to the physical and emotional effects of this experience as they care for a dying patient. The nurse is taught how to provide support for the patient and family as they proceed through the stages of grief. Often, however the nurse may not realise his or her own need to grieve'. (Brosche 2003 p. 173). Although nurses try to remain professional whilst at work, once they are home and the uniform is removed , emotions that were kept at bay may begin to surface. The main purpose of this literature review is to identify the effects of patient death on nurses...
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...An individual's loss of a marriage/spouse is one of the most serious threats to one's health and wellbeing, this type of loss is prominently the most people encounter during their lives. This essay is a personal reflective journey of the loss of my marriage and the processes in which I personally (mentally and physically) experienced this loss. This essay will include models and theories attached to grief and loss in counselling. Its will also outline my ability to find strength, and meaning with strategies that enabled my children and myself to cope with the loss. This essay will also explore the type of loss process (first and secondary factors) I endured, relevant social support, my personal religious views, and the nature in which defines...
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...Dying is an aspect of life that starts from the day we are born. Each day that passes and the human becomes older and one step closer to death. Biological, psychological, social and cultural factors can all affect the capacity for coping with death. Fry states that death is considered a natural part of life that disrupts life’s plans and can cause immense pain (1990). Often in religious communities death is welcomed as a better place than being here on earth. Individuals are encouraged to accept that death is a natural part of life and offer coping mechanisms to grieve. Younger individuals tend to see death as being far off into the future whereas an individual in late adulthood is experiencing the thought of death on a daily basis. As a young adult we live life in the fast lane and take many things for granted. Illness and disease can also affect how the aged cope with death. Suffering from cancer, heart disease and other serious disease can cause extreme fear of dying. If he or she is biologically unstable dealing with death may lead to an unhealthy acceptance of death or lead to one taking part in dangerous and risky behaviors. Ineffective coping skills can lead to emotions of depression, fatal illness and suicide. When death is sudden or unexpected people are not allowed the time to prepare mentally and can lead to feelings of loss and confusion. Losing a friend, spouse or loved due to murder, accident or war can make the process of grieving hard and difficult to accept...
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...Healthy grief Healthy Grief Elizabeth Garcia Grand Canyon University: Spirituality and Christian Values in Health Care and Wellness Dr. Sunshine Weeks May 4, 2012, 2012 Grief is a natural reaction to a loss that most humans experience at some point. Grief does not necessarily occur after the death of a loved one, but it can also occur after a diagnosis of an illness, a breakdown of a relationship, infertility, addiction, financial difficulties or job loss. These are examples of great magnitude stressors, and as a result, lead to an emotional response to trauma, and therefore, to live a duel. Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, who worked with terminally ill patients, providing comfort and support, developed a model known as "The five stages of grief." These stages are a very helpful tool to understand the stages that family members or either ourselves can go through when we live a duel, a perfect example that we can understand these stages is the story of the suffering of Job in the bible. In everyday life, people are experiencing losses like the loss of some friends who are going for personal reasons or death, loss of skills or habits, change of school, home, single life is lost, a divorce or separation, losses more severe than others. For each loss, the person experiences a process of suffering until the person reaches the acceptance that the lost thing or person are no longer with them. This process is called "duel" and as a process, it has...
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...During the novel ‘The Child in Time’, the main character Stephen experiences a great deal of loss and/or grief. When one experiences grief, they experience it by going through five stages. These stages are as follows, (not necessarily in chronological order), disbelief, yearning, anger, depression and acceptance. With these two points in mind, I shall be producing an essay that examines how Stephen experiences these five stages through times in the novel. Disbelief, this is defined as the inability or refusal to accept that something is true or real. Stephen under goes this first stage of grief during a very imagery rich part, in the beginning of the novel. He loses Kate in the supermarket and when he goes home to tell Julie, he cannot believe that it has actually happened, he is still in shock. From this we are able to establish that Stephen is about to embark on the long journey through grief. I find it interesting that McEwan situates Stephen undertaking disbelief towards the start of the novel. I feel that he is foreshadowing to the readers that Stephen is going to be a character, which leads a rocky life, through loss of many things. Yearning, the word portrays Stephen’s craving for something in the novel consummately. I would describe yearning as having an intense feeling of longing for something. That ‘something’ for Stephen is two very important people in his life, Kate and Julie. We know that Stephen longs for his daughter. There is no specific reference needed from...
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...Experiential Learning Essay Template Review this check list in prior to submitting your experiential learning essay. If you have completed all of the items listed below, you are ready to submit your essay. Keep in mind, your evaluator may still request additional material, however, the list below will guide in your essay submission preparations. Not adhering to these guidelines will cause a delay in processing. ** Review each of the items below and check if you have completed each of them: 1. I have selected an approved essay topic from the essay course descriptions page. http://www.phoenix.edu/admissions/prior_learning_assessment/experiential-essays/essay-topics.html 2. Some essays have specific experience requirements. I have checked the essay description and I meet all of the experience requirements listed. 3. I have written and included a 1,500 to 2,100 word autobiography; autobiography is only required with first Experiential Learning Essay, subsequent essays do not require additional autobiographies. 4. I have written an experiential essay: 3,000 to 4,500 words for 3 credit essay 5. My essay is written in first person (1st) without references. 6. I have written to all four (4) areas of Kolb’s model of learning. 7. I have addressed all of the required subtopics in each of the four areas of Kolb’s model of learning. 8. I have included supporting documentation that validates my personal/professional experience with the essay course description/topic. 9. My essay is based...
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...An Untimely Rivalry In the short story “Enemies” the narrator describes the interaction between two men that have had significant losses in their lives. The first man, Kirilov, is a poor, country doctor that has just lost his son to disease while the second man, Abogin, is a rich merchant who has lost his wife to infidelity. These men, as described by the narrator, could not be more different from each other, but circumstances dictate that they actually share something in common: grief. Throughout the story the narrator highlights the differences between Kirilov and Abogin, which lead the audience to believe that they are destined to be “enemies” only due to their personality traits and morals as well as socioeconomic class. However, it is the one similarity that Kirilov and Abogin share that turns them against each other and ultimately into fierce enemies. The differences between Abogin and Kirilov and the lives they lead are apparent from the very beginning of the story. The narrator makes sure to address the contrast between the two men’s lives to further emphasize the emotions that they share through loss. Kirilov is described as a grieving doctor who has been almost numbed to all other emotion and everything around him is dark. Abogin, in contrast, is described as “medium height, a white scarf, and a large, extremely pale face, so pale that its entrance seemed to make the passage lighter.” He comes into Kirilov’s house agitated, excited and very hurried to return with...
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...Running head: GRIEF, LOSS AND FINDING MEANING AND PURPOSE Grief, Loss and Finding Meaning and Purpose Darren Pedro Grand Canyon University Psychology for Everyday Life PSY-100 Amanda Laster-Loftus May 21, 2014 Grief, Loss and Finding Meaning and Purpose While dealing with death is never an easy process, knowing how to handle the grieving process could prove to be beneficial to you and those around you. How we deal with our loss will play our in various emotions. In this paper we will take a look at the emotion a person goes through when dealing with death, how a person deals with death in their own way, and finding the meaning and purpose of dealing with grief. Death is never an easy subject to approach. When a person loses a loved one, various emotions come into factor. These emotions trigger feelings which otherwise would not be compromised under normal circumstances. However, the various emotions that a person deals with assist them in the mourning process. There are different stages of emotions a person deals with after having lost a loved one. It is perfectly normal to have experience these emotions and should go through each stage of these emotions. It is believed the common stages of coping with death are as follow: shock and disbelief, sadness, guilt, anger, fear and physical symptoms (Smith & Segal, 2014, p. 1). According to the article done by M. Smith and J. Segal; these emotions are onset early stages in the grieving process. They also stated it...
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...Managing Grief and Culture Bharati Mukherjee’s short story “The Management of Grief” acts as a powerful response to the Air India Flight bombing on which many Indo-Canadian passengers were killed. “Management of Grief” focuses on an Indian community residing in Toronto as they deal with the aftermath of the tragic event. The characters are presented with a guideline for the stages of grief and are pressured to follow it: first denial, depression, acceptance, and finally reconstruction. Since the guideline goes against Indian culture each character in the story struggles to confront two different identities presented by separate cultures when forced to deal with death and grief. The narrative of this story is told from the conscience of Indo-Canadian woman Shaila Bhave as she struggles to deal with the loss of her husband and two sons. The opening pages set the tone of community, a strong value in Indian culture as Shaila’s home is filled with various neighbours and families making Indian tea, as well as a representative from the Indo-Canadian Society. All of whom join together with the intention and hope of aiding the victims’ families in their grieving. To further emphasize the strong sense of community, Shaila reflects on the day Kusum and her family moved in across the street. Upon moving, the new family invited the neighbourhood into their home for a housewarming party where they prepared traditional Indian cuisine while their daughter performed a dance. Shaila reflected...
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...PDP Toolkit » Change Management » prepare for change » Knowing » The Change Curve The Change Curve The Change Curve is based on a model originally developed in the 1960s by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross to explain the grieving process. Since then it has been widely utilised as a method of helping people understand their reactions to significant change or upheaval. Kubler-Ross proposed that a terminally ill patient would progress through five stages of grief when informed of their illness. She further proposed that this model could be applied to any dramatic life changing situation and, by the 1980s, the Change Curve was a firm fixture in change management circles. The curve, and its associated emotions, can be used to predict how performance is likely to be affected by the announcement and subsequent implementation of a significant change. The Change Curve The original five stages of grief – denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance – have adapted over the years. There are numerous versions of the curve in existence. However, the majority of them are consistent in their use of the following basic emotions, which are often grouped into three distinct transitional stages. Stage 1 – Shock and denial The first reaction to change is usually shock. This initial shock, while frequently short lived, can result in a temporary slow down and loss of productivity. Performance tends to dip sharply, individuals who are normally clear and decisive seek more guidance and reassurance...
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...Loving the Bad Man- Movie Review Louise Lomeland CRIS303-B02 Liberty University Online Abstract The movie Loving the Bad Man is about a traumatic experience; rape of a young woman and the man who raped her. Christine Thompson is a young Christian woman loved by those who know her and her family, father, mother, and brother. Christine is raped by a young angry man named Mike Connor and she becomes pregnant and gives birth to a boy she names Arthur. Mike is committed to prison for 10 to 20 years for his crime on the day Christine gives birth. They come together through Christine’s faith in God and His word for forgiveness. Christine’s life gets worse before it gets better, while Mike’s life, although in prison gets better before it gets worse. Everyone close to Christine and Mike are affected by the traumatic event. The Nature of the Crisis Presented Christine Thompson is a young woman who lives with her family. Her mother, Marion who is a stay at home mom is supportive and loving, and shares the Christian faith with Christine, her father, Ed who is also supportive and loving but does not see eye to eye with Christine and her belief standard of faith, and her brother, Joey who is a DJ music player at local venues. Christine works as a cashier in a store. A male co-worker Cole Parker, who is also a Christian is interested in Christine and asks her for a date however, Christine declines stating she does not date. Driving home one night after a church fellowship meeting...
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...Running head: STAGES OF GRIEF 1 Healthy Grieving: A Comparative Analysis Author Grand Canyon University: HLT 310 Summer 19, 2016 2 HEALTHY GRIEVING: A COMPARATIVE ANALYSIS Stages of Grief Introduction Here in this essay we examine the stages of grief as defined by the renowned thanatologist Elizabeth KüblerRoss. In conjunction with this review of grief we will consider the work of Nicholas Wollsterstorff in his epic Lament for a Son, written to express his still lingering grief at the loss of his son Eric, who tragically fell to his death while mountainclimbing at the age of 25. As we study the process of grief, one must bear in mind that for people suffering grief a range of emotions will come to the forefront"disbelief, sadness, anger, guilt, and selfreproach, panic, anxiety, loneliness, listlessness, and apathy, shock, yearning, numbness, depersonalization" (Bruce 2007) . Also, one must remember that grief is a natural response to losing a loved one. While looking at grief’s lingering effects, we will also discover how Wolsterstorff managed to find meaning, even joy, after the loss of his son. Stages of the Grieving Process All people experience grief and mourn at the loss of a loved oneit is a universal experience. To understand the grieving process better, it helps to focus on the five stages of grief as proposed by KüblerRoss in response to ...
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