...Questionnaire To my new friends: ! You have received this questionnaire because you have asked me to perform your premarital counseling (and perhaps your wedding as well), and because I want to offer you the best premarital counseling that I am able to offer. ! I realize that I do not know you well— not yet! I trust that during counseling I will get to know you much better. However, for me to counsel you well from the start, I need to ask about who you both are, what your backgrounds are, what work is like for you, what your family was like growing up, and other things about you and your past. Many of these questions are very personal; in fact, some of them may touch on things that you have not yet spoken about openly even with your fiancé. ! Please trust that your completed questionnaire will not be shared with anyone else; I will not use this information against you; and I am not looking for ways to judge you or make you feel awkward or ashamed. And please also trust that I, and many who are wiser than I am, have concluded that these topics are very important factors in how healthy your marriage will be. I simply want to work with you to lay the foundations for the healthiest marriage possible. ! ! ! ! ! ! About the couple General Information: How long have you known each other? ______________________________________________________________________ How long have you been dating? ______________________________________________________________________ How long...
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...The videos and studies about bipolar I found to be profound and can be used to better my clinical and/or professional experience when working with clients who are bipolar. The videos helped me to view the disorder from people who are suffering from bipolar disorder. Witnessing their manic stages from depression, frustration, anger and even while getting treatment in a hospital really helped me to put myself in the client’s shoes. I believe from time to time putting yourself in the client’s shoes make a huge difference when trying to understand them, their behavior and their disorder. Viewing their perspective humanized the disorder in a society that often being diagnosed with bipolar as being “crazy”. Society often jokes about bipolar disorder. It is indeed serous and often difficult to discuss. I think overall bipolar disorder and all of the stages that it entails is dark and realistic in majority of people’s life whether personal or a family member or friend. Reflecting on one the video days later, what especially stands out to me are the moments I felt most uncomfortable watching the guy record his rapid cycle. I cringed as...
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...“A Girl Once Lost…” Jenna Rodriguez Child Abuse and Neglect CJSA 2331 (jennaleighrodriguez@hotmail.com September 30, 2011 Jenna Rodriguez (jennaleighrodriguez@hotmail.com) Child Abuse and Neglect September 28, 2011 “A Little Girl Once Lost…” A little girl, that’s all I was. I was at the point in my life were little girl’s just like me had life’s that were pure and innocent, loveable and enjoyable, and beautiful and unforgettable. Bike riding, hop-scotch, and playing dress up were what all the other little eight year old girls were doing, but not me. I was an eight year old girl, a voice crying out for help, and a victim of child molestation. “Those who commit child sexual abuse often know or have close relationships with the child they abuse” (Newton, Gerrtis 25). That is exactly what happened to me. It was my stepfather, and he did it. “Sweetie Pie” was he called me. I was a trouble free little girl with an older brother I admired. My parents had split up when I was 6, and my mother was always so unhappy, or so it seemed. My mother lacked love and affection, and it showed greatly through our eyes along with everyone else’s. Thus, when I was eight, my mother remarried and I instantly gained a father figure and a stepfather. It didn’t take very long…the molestation, I mean. I was never quite sure of why it happened; all I can remember was my step father taking me by the hand and making me watch pornographic movies with him. After a while or so, I was forced to...
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...Abuse in the U.S. College Composition 2 CM220-1107 Stephanie Singh In the United States, abuse is a huge issue that needs to be recognized. Abuse is one of the most under-reported crimes with such cruelty and so little is being done to put this matter to a halt. Children and adults should never have to be put through anything like this, and it is a shame anyone has to be a victim. Not many people look at the statistics of abuse and try to find ways to help those in need of help. The more people come together, the better this world would be. We need to reach out to our victims and prove to them there are places we can be safe. Sadly to say, we may never be able to put abuse completely to a stop, but we can help those who have to deal with this issue and make sure everyone knows that nobody is alone. In the United States, there needs to be systems, such as classes in schools and groups to better educate those who are or may become a victim of abuse. Thinking about all of the stories there are out there in our world today that we hear and read about, the number of inmates is quite low for this matter. In the United States itself, there are four-thousand five hundred and seventy-five prisons with 2.2 million prisoners. Only 1.2 percent of them are rapists or child molesters. “One in five violent offenders is molesters and only about 6 percent of rapists serve time in jail. Rape and child molestation is one...
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...discipline is most effective. Times have changed and how our parents and grandparents were disciplined when doing unwanted behaviors would today be a severe child abuse. Even for middle age parents of today there is a contrast in the way corporal punishment is used on the youth of today. It is quit the controversy about whether corporal punishment should be used as an acceptable form of child discipline and if it acceptable at what point is the line crossed from physical discipline to child abuse. So many countries have banned corporal punishment in all three aspects of corporal punishment. The three disciplines of corporal punishment is home, school, and judicial. In this paper we will be focusing on the home. Home is where discipline is the most effective and happens most frequently. Besides home there is school where here in the United States most schools are not allowed to use corporal punishment. Twenty-eight states ban corporal punishment of public schoolchildren, an increase of 26 states over the past 30 years; but inside the family, legalized corporal punishment of children remains entrenched and unbudging” (Susan, 2006).It is used in the judicial system but only under extreme circumstances and under strict guidelines and laws that must be followed. Corporal punishment has long since been a misunderstood concept. Some think of corporal punishment as something administered by a prison or extreme physical abuse. Corporal punishment does not seem to fit with the word...
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...ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS All praises due to Almighty Allah who enabled me to complete the research work. I am pleased to avail myself of the opportunity to express my deepest sense of respect, sincere appreciation and heartfelt gratefulness to my Anthropology department, to honorable supervisor & teachers who helped me for increasing anthropological insights by their guidance in planning and execution of present research work, suggestions, inspirations, affectionate feelings and constructive criticism through the work. I am very grateful for the support that our seminar librarian has shown by allowing me to take books in case of necessity and within short notice. The support will always be remembered. I am indebted to my parents and my friends for their immense mental support and courage to perceive through all sorts of difficulties until this research work was completed. I really feel proud of my honorable respondents who helped me to collect data in regard of my research title. Their helping mind really impressed me. So, I show my deepest sense of respect to them. My supervisor, I thank you for your guidance that brought me to the end of this work. Your politeness & cordial behavior added encouragement to my work. December, 2014 | Roll No:09203219Registration no: 3552Session: 2008-2009MSS, Department of Anthropology | ABSTRACT Being the main force conditioning human relationship, sex is essentially political. In any social context, the construction of...
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...well thought out decisions given their maturation process is not a linear progression and they tend to act on impulse rather than logical thinking. Most children develop the ability to rationalize and cognitive thinking during their first years of schooling. Adult supervision is an accepted social norm that now influences how we legislate children's behavior. It no longer is the case that parents allow their children to play outside for the majority of the day only to come back home when dinner is ready. We have agreed as a society that the risk of harm is too great to allow children to go unsupervised for long periods of time. This constant exposure to children has brought forth many novel predicaments that many adults have not experienced in the past. One of the more lighter predicaments in recent history is the quandary of corporal punishment as an effective and moral option of parenting. "Corporal punishment to discipline children has been argued for decades" by every position imaginable (Gershoff, July 2002). Due to most of the research equally distributed throughout each position I can only write from personal experiences juxtaposed research that benefits my thesis and conclude that corporal punishment is moral in most circumstances but rarely, if ever, an effective method of parenting. "Parenting" is a recent phenomenon introduced to society by researchers and psychologists whom are vague at best about their own success at parenting (Gershoff). It is evident that past generations...
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...Sorry – that as children you were taken from your families and placed in institutions where so often you were abused. Sorry – for the physical suffering, the emotional starvation and the cold absence of love, of tenderness, of care. Sorry – for the tragedy, the absolute tragedy, of childhoods lost,– childhoods spent instead in austere and authoritarian places, where names were replaced by numbers, spontaneous play by regimented routine, the joy of learning by the repetitive drudgery of menial work. Sorry – for all these injustices to you, as children, who were placed in our care. As a nation, we must now reflect on those who did not receive proper care. We look back with shame that many of you were left cold, hungry and alone and with nowhere to hide and nobody to whom to turn. We look back with shame that so many of you were left cold, hungry and alone and with nowhere to hide and with nobody, absolutely nobody, to whom to turn. We look back with shame that many these little ones who were entrusted to institutions and foster homes instead, were abused physically, humiliated cruelly, violated sexually. And we look back with shame at how those with power were allowed to abuse those who had none. And how then, as if this was not injury enough, you were left ill-prepared for life outside – left to fend for yourselves; often unable...
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...Emotional Strength in Ellen Foster Many people often go through eye-opening events that leave a permanent impact on their lives. You learn countless lessons throughout your life from childhood to adulthood. These lessons can be considered positive or negative and shape and mature you as a person. In Kaye Gibbon’s novel, Ellen Foster, the main character, Ellen, undergoes many negative and positive events in her childhood. These events are what builds and matures Ellen as a person. Throughout Ellen Foster’s childhood, she dealt with racism, an abusive and rocky childhood, and learned the importance of friendship. Ellen Foster suffered from sexual and mental abuse from her father growing up. Ellen’s Mama was sick for many years in the hospital...
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...Raelene Akgul (Page 1) My Poetic Self Concept I wrote the self concept poem without much thought and from my opinion, without excellent deliverance, yet it felt good, every word, because as I plunked away at the keyboard I felt this overwhelming pride of who I was as a child and who I am today because of my childhood. Ironically, I also unexpectedly felt a rush of sadness pour through me as I wrote the poem. It was if I had already memorized and recited it a million times before, because it came from my soul so fluid and so real. Thinking wasn't an option for me at that moment, my memories and emotions had all the control. Like a feeling robot typing out the words read aloud from another entity, I felt frozen and captive to thoughts that were racing through my mind and heart. Remembering is so bitter sweet for me. So many powerful memories on so many levels, a weak person might crumble under the pressure of such historical personal experiences. I wallow in them almost as if I need to remember who I am and where I came from. This need I cannot suppress. It seems to be embedded in the very fibers of my whole being, entwined and siblinged with my soul, I feel disconnected, dicontented, and disenchanted daily yet I need to remember as if it were yesterday. As a child, growing up was tough. I lived in a home of seven siblings, an overly abusive step-mother who's name was Remona, and my father, Larry. My siblings and I were raised to believe that we were worthless, dumb, ugly...
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...different effects and results on families. This is evident by looking at the best and brightest each era has to offer. Looking at the 'heroes' of an era and what family structure helped to create them can give insight as to what effect an era had on its society. Colonial America was no different. The era was a complicated time when America was attempting to find itself. The family structure was one of hard work and survival. School and education came second to providing for ones family. During Benjamin Franklin’s early childhood, his family experienced some of the same newfound troubles many of these families were experiencing. Growing up his father, brother, and other family members had substantial influence on molding young Benjamin Franklin. As Franklin’s life unfolded, he exceeded in many fields, including science, politics, journalism, and philosophy, while also becoming one of the Founding Fathers of the nation. Thus, it is evident the childhood of Benjamin Franklin had tremendous effects on his future. Benjamin Franklin was born on January 17, 1706 in Boston. Raised by his father, Josiah Franklin, and his mother, Abiah Folger Franklin, he was cast into a large family consisting of sixteen brothers and sisters. Josiah Franklin had seven children with another women before she passed away and he married Abiah. Due to the popularity of illnesses and diseases in the early American colonies both men and women were familiar with the idea of remarrying following their...
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...Developmental Assessment of Childhood: PRECIOUS The film Precious is an emotional movie that deals with the unfortunate realities of everyday life for some individuals. The film that stares Gabourey Sidibe who plays the main character Clarice “Precious” Jones is based out of Harlem in the year of 1987. Precious is a sixteen year-old obese and uneducated teenager whom has had to grow up in a severely dysfunctional family environment. Her mother verbally and physically abuses her, often times using her as a personal servant. Her father has been sexually abusing her since childhood, and has impregnated her twice. Precious has lived with the ugly truth that because of her weight, skin color, and sexual abuse, she does not fit in with the standards of society in the eyes of some. After the school finds out about Precious’ second pregnancy, she is suspended from school. She is then referred to an alternative school, “Each one Teach one” in hopes of changing the road in which her life is heading. Precious finds ways to deal with her painful realities through imagination and fantasy. Encouraged by her new teacher at “Each one Teach one”, precious begins learning to read and write. Towards the middle of the film, Precious begins to meet with Social Worker, Miss Weiss, who eventually becomes aware of the incest in the household when Precious accidentally tells her. Precious’ mother informs her that her father has passed away due to AIDS, and soon after Precious discovers...
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...daughters and made it clear that her parenting methods were better than those of a Western parent. There is no manual on parenting, but how do we know when we as parents cross the line between being concerned for our child’s future and being overbearing? Being a parent myself, I know firsthand that it gets frustrating and sometimes, that inner control can be lost. Amy demonstrated this challenge plenty of times. I acknowledge that Amy may have thought she was motivating her children to be strong, successful women but I don’t think she let them have a proper childhood. It’s sad how not once throughout the entire book was it ever mentioned that the girls went to the movies or to the mall. Amy did not let her girls initiate anything. She didn’t allow them to make mistakes on their own or to be themselves. When they look back on their childhood, they will have no fun memories to remember. It will always be about what their mother wanted. Nevertheless, she did a good job raising the girls. From the beginning of the memoir, Amy compared Eastern and Western parenting. There is no doubt in my mind that most Chinese parents do raise “stereotypically successful” children but anyone can raise a successful child. I also don’t doubt the love that Amy has for her children. My problem with this is that Amy made it seem like she and her methods were better than Western parenting. Not only that, but she verbally abused her kids. According to Gayle Peterson, PhD, “Verbal abuse contributes...
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...This is a question that many scholars have tried to figure out. One common trend with serial killers is childhood trauma. To better understand this we must look at the Criminal Triad Theory (Harmening, 2010). The CTT is a theory of criminal behavior that tries to understand why people engage in criminal activity by first understanding the internal psychosocial behaviors that allow a criminal to act out terrible crimes. The theory describes three psychosocial developmental processes– attachment, moral development, and identity-formation —that occur between and during infancy and adolescence. When these processes were allowed to progress as normal the child ultimately gained an understanding of right and wrong and an internal deterrence system. When there is any form of corruption to this developmental process the child’s likelihood of becoming a criminal increases...
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...Righteous Dopefiend Critical Analysis In Righteous Dopefiend (2008), authors Phillipe Bourgois and Jeff Schonberg examine the world of the Edgewater homeless community, an indigent group that established an encampment beside a freeway near San Francisco, California. While it is evident throughout the book that the main characters have unique lived experiences, it remains clear that they all share one major struggle: substance abuse. The authors provide an in-depth exploration of the everyday lives of the Edgewater homeless community, depicting some of the gruesome realities that are associated with heroin addiction. Throughout the book, the authors highlight the intersectionality of homelessness, substance abuse, poverty, race, class, gender,...
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