...Through the use of several rhetorical devices, Chua supports, as well as weakens, her claim and expresses a different, controversial way of parenting. An important element in Chua’s argument is her ethos. She is clearly an intellectual individual, given that she is a professor at Yale University. Putting aside her credentials, this essay brings forth a distinct character. From the start, she identifies herself as a tough and strict “Chinese mother”. Throughout the piece she uses several personal experiences that support this assertion. The reader recognizes a sense of confidence from Chua as she repeatedly contrasts Western-parenting ideals from Chinese-parenting ideals. As far as her credibility as an author, it is questionable. She writes, “ Chinese parents believe that their kids owe them everything. The reason for this is a little unclear…” Her credibility begins to slip when she uses the word “unclear”. This statement suggests that she does not even know herself why she is parenting the way she is parenting. It also presents a perfect opportunity for opposing people to make an argument against Chua’s style of parenting. Another instance where Chua’s credibility becomes uncertain is when she writes of mimicking her husband when he intervenes in a dispute between her and their daughter. It shows that she is unwilling to listen to the other side of her argument and has this my-way-or-the-highway complex—which is not necessarily an attractive outlook to have. It seems that...
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...Single parenting ALGhaliya AL-dowaiki English Composition 2 Mr.James Philip Date :1/4/2014 Single parenting Introduction Single parenting is one of the most important issues in world. People were not except the idea of single parenting, that one of the parents has the responsibility to take care of the child. They believe that one hand cannot clap. They see that the child should live with his parents not one of them. Nowadays, single parenting become the phenomenon of the time , which mean we can find a lot of children living with one their parents could be the mother or the father. There several reasons that cause single parenting such as; death of a partner and divorce of parents. In this paper I am going deeply in single parenting, I am going to caver the definition, history, causes, advantages and disadvantages of single parenting. Definition of single parent Single parent is a parent not living with a spouse or partner, whom has most of the day-to-day responsibilities in raising the child. A single parent is usually considered the primary caregiver, meaning the parent the children have residency with the majority of the time. If the parents are separated or divorced, children live with their parent and have visitation or secondary residence with their noncustodial parent. In western society in general, following separation, a child will end up with the primary caregiver, usually the mother, and a secondary caregiver, usually the...
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...Impact on child’s mentality over styles of parenting. Is parenting really momentous? Does the style of parenting have a prominent effect on his or her child’s life? Through different researches done all over the world, It is been proved that the style of parenting does have an absolute impact on the child’s mentality and social skills. In 1971, Diana Baumrind, a popular psychologist who conducted a plenty of observations about parent-child relationships, was able to come up with three main styles of parenting. According to Baumrind, the three parenting styles are: “authoritarian style- parents are highly controlling, strict and highly value obedience, authoritative style- parents allow the chid to explore more freely and let the child make their own decisions, permissive style- parents treat the child kind and warm, but a lack of rule-setting skills can be seen” (Genetic Psychology Monographs, 75(1), 43-88). With time, one more style of parenting was introduced. It is “uninvolved parentingminimum involvement in the child’s day today life”. Apparently, each parenting style has varying characteristics with different child- parent relationships and different parent-child relationships. Children who experience positive parent-child relationships carry developed mentality and social skills. According to researches, it has been found that ‘authoritative parenting’ works best for children, since it carries a lot of positive qualities of a successful relationship. Authoritative...
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...Spanking Children in Japan XXXXXX BCOM 275 February 4, 2013 XXXXXXX Spanking Children in Japan Japanese ideas about child-raising and discipline are usually a riddle or an abomination to the newly arrived foreigner who begins to observe the local parenting scene. However, it is not always easy to discern what traditional ideas of Japanese parenting are. Japanese society has for some time been in a state of controversy over child-raising and discipline issues. Ideas of parenting in Japan have been in a state of flux as Japanese parents of the younger generations have been open to the advice of western parenting gurus, which usually sharply deviate from traditional ideas of child-raising. To make sense of parenting standards in Japan, you must first try to identify the traditional standards of conduct. As expected, most of the problems seen among the Japanese youths of today are attributed to permissive and indulgent parenting and to the lack of discipline or teaching on proper behavior and manners from modern-day parents. Children learn more discipline from school than from home. Japanese children are usually well mannered. Japanese mothers generally do not scold their children, and try to train their children as much as possible through encouragement and praise. Children are sometimes punished by getting locked out of the house. The discipline style of the Japanese has changed...
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...Texts and Contexts Professor Sorensen April 2011 Parenting in Persuasion or Lack There Of Jane Austen is credited with painting "small cameos" of families in her novels. Yet within these cameos, it becomes clear that Austen had a clear understanding of family dynamics as we consider them today. The relationships between parents and the children have a major influence on the marriage choices that these daughters make. Austen's novels show parents whose parenting techniques often varied depending on the child. Therefore, some parents may act one way with the heroine of the novel and another way with the other children in the family. In her novel Persuasion, Jane Austen provides current day readers with a surprising look into the different styles of parenting observed during her lifetime. The novel follows the progressing life and romance of Anne Elliot, the daughter of a gentleman named Sir Walter Elliot. Though the novel seems to be a simple love story, Austen also comments on many social issues, including parenting. As 21st century parents, it is easy to get caught up in the media and child-rearing fads that pop up in the bookstores and magazines on a weekly basis since the media and such run our society. Sometimes in the midst of all the new styles and ideas of parenting, parents forget what it’s really all about: the children. One of the many things Austen points out in her classic novel is the parenting faults that were rampant in her time, and still are prevalent...
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...conflict leads to Keith deciding that the boys are not a good fit and need to go back to the agency. David on the other hand has bonded with the brothers and insists that they keep them. After having the brothers for awhile David expresses feeling like a single mother who is left to do all of the work by himself because of Keith's lack on interest in them. David makes Keith feel guilty for working all the time and not spending time with the boys and convinces him to attend Durrell's school play. After they attend the play things start to improve for the family and they begin working towards a healthy and happy life together. David and Keith's relationship with Anthony and Durrell defies many social norms and socially constructed ideas...
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...Parenthood can often be extremely overwhelming and demanding. Putting aside your entire life and giving up everything to satisfy the needs of your baby is not an easy or painless task. The immense pressure to do the best you possibly can for your child poses a huge responsibility on parents. In my opinion, the critiques condemnation of attachment parenting is not fair. I believe that the concept of attachment is reasonable and infact necessary for infants to develop into skilled, independent and mature individuals who share a strong emotional bond with their parents. First and foremost, it is essential to know what Attachment parenting is all about? It is ‘an approach of raising children who are well connected to their parents rather than a strict set of rules.’A common misconception that people have is considering intensive mothering to be a synonym for attachment parenting. Intensive mothering is based on the idea of completely sacrificing your needs and desires and devoting your life to your child or in other words letting your child dictate your life. Most of the articles such as Dr. Laura’s neighborhood focuses on the extreme extent people go to in order to raise their child in the “perfect” way. The author in a rather sarcastic tone aims to make the readers realize that even in the 1970’s and 80’s parents raised babies who turned out to be just fine without ‘the concern that they aren’t spending enough time with their kids and needing to demonstrate in countless ways...
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...The Four Types of Parenting Styles Parents are a huge part of a child's life. However they act, whatever they say, anything that they do largely impacts a child's development from the moment they are born. According to psychologist Diana Baumrind's research, she found that there are four types of parenting styles (Parenting Styles in Psychology, Brittany Olivarez). Through naturalistic observation, parenting interviews, and other research methods, Baumrind identified the following four parenting styles: * Authoritative: democratic style of parenting, parents are attentive, forgiving, teach their offspring proper behavior, have a set of rules, and if child fails to follow their is punishment, if followed their is reward/reinforcement * Authoritarian: strict parenting style, involves high expectations from parents but have little communication between child and parents. Parents don't provide logical reasoning for rules and limits, and are prone to harsh punishments * Permissive: parents take on the role of "friends" rather than parents, do not have any expectations of child, they allow the child to make their own decisions * Uninvolved: parents neglect their child by putting their own life before the child's. They do provide for the child's basic needs but they show little interaction with the child Each of these different parenting styles impacts and influences the development of child. Through Baumrind's observations she found that the most ideal and balanced...
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...caused undue parental anxiety and stress. One 1920’s mother who was overwhelmed by all the wisdom confessed, “I just try to do what you say, but I am a nervous wreck just trying to stay calm.” Although parental pressure and anxiety has been seen as a recurrent grievance through every generation, stress levels have progressively increased to what they are now. An analysis of the child rearing advice given in the early part of the 20th century and that of the new millennium revealed the following things: a steady progression from an authoritarian type of discipline to that of a more authoritative type, the emergence of a paternal role in child rearing, the apparent difference in personality traits of adults that were raised under particular parenting methods, and several distinct reasons for the change in the advice being given. Even before the start of the seventeenth century, experts were concerned with how, if even at all, parental love and child rearing practices affected a child’s personality. Prior to the late 1940’s specialists believed that the previous two factors did not directly affect the behavior of the child. Eventually, experts began to see how parental factors actually influence a child’s development. According to Berk (2008), “Parents can foster children’s competence – by building a...
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...The Walls Parenting Paradigm The parenting paradigm most prevalent associated to Rex and Rosemary Walls in The Glass Castle by Jeanette Walls is a permissive parenting style which involves a variation of low maturity levels, expectations, and self-control; but provides a sense of self sufficiency and regulation. The Walls give their children an extreme sense of self-sufficiency and regulation on the basis of learning by trails and ultimately growing (Cherry, “The Four Styles of Parenting”). During the first part of the book, you can see the lack supervision of the parents, “But at that moment, I was wearing the dress to cook hot dogs… I could hear mom in the next room singing…” (9). Though this may seem neglectful, it portrays a trust in...
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...different parenting approaches, mainly comparing ‘Tiger’/Asian-style parenting to ‘Western’/American-style parenting. Throughout her book, Chua exclaims that strict Chinese or ‘Tiger’ parenting is effective because it forges academic success. According to columnist for the New York Times David Brooks, author of the article “Amy Chua is a Wimp,” her book “plays into America’s fear of national decline” (269). One of the biggest components of the debate between parenting styles is that American children are academically inferior to other countries. Elizabeth Kolbert, staff writer for the New Yorker writes that the only area in which American students “outperform the competition is self-regard” (276). American students are ranked seventeenth in the world in reading, twenty-third in science, and thirty-first in math, while students from Shanghai ranked first in all three categories. Much of the blame for the decline in America’s academic ranking is placed on the parenting style. Western parents often claim that their children are “talented” or “gifted,” Chua says, while Asian parents highlight the importance of hard work and academic dominance. Yet, “research performed by Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck has found that the way parents offer approval affects the way children perform, even the way they feel about themselves” (Suissa). This raises the questions: Are the children with tiger moms better off than the children with American? And are the children of either parenting style...
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...Assignment 9 In paragraph form (remember that a good paragraph has at least five sentences), please respond to the following questions and be sure to include examples as well as a personal connection in your response: Summarize the assumptions underlying parent and child relationships and parent education as identified by NEPEM. 1. Parents are primary socializers of their children. 2. Parenting attitudes, knowledge, skills, and behaviors can be positively influenced by parent education efforts. 3. Parenting is a learned skill that can be strengthened through study and experience. 4. Parent education is more effective when parents are active participants in and contributors to their parent education programs. 5. The parent-child relationship is nested within and influenced by multiple social and cultural systems. 6. Programs should be responsive to diversity among parents. 7. Effective parent education may be accomplished by a variety of methods. 8. Both the parent and the child have needs that should be met. 9. The goal of parent education is strengthening and educating the parent (or caregiver) so that he or she is better able to facilitate the development of caring, competent, and healthy children. Describe the National Extension Parent...
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...the same time, adolescents begin spending much of their free time away from home, which makes it difficult for parents to guide them through these problems. This presents a challenge for parents of adolescents and makes parenting adolescents an interesting phenomenon to understand. Parenting can be seen as a unidirectional process in which parents shape children's and adolescents' behaviors, or it can be seen as an interactional process in which both parties are shaped by the other. Theoretically, the interactional view has been gaining ground since its appearance around 30 years ago ( Bell, 1979; Maccoby, 1992; Patterson, 1982; Sameroff, 1975), and ideas about transactional processes are now well developed (see Kuczynski & Parkin, 2007; Sameroff, 2010). Empirical research on parenting adolescents has been slow to catch up to this shift in thinking, but a growing number of studies are now examining reciprocal or transactional processes between parents and adolescents. Still, in the most influential and widely used paradigm for understanding parenting—parenting style—this way of thinking is not represented. On the contrary, the assumption has been that parenting style shapes adolescent behavior but is largely or wholly unaffected by it.” Summary Parenting the right way changes children behavior and tolerance is when they grow up. Children all over the world grow up without parents or any kind of guardian. When children spend a ton of time away from home it makes it hard...
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...the Parenting Styles on the Behavior of Psychology Students in Centro Escolar University Year 2012-2013 An Undergraduate Research Presented to the Faculty of School of Science and Technology In Partial Fulfillment of the Requirements for the Course Communication Skills 14 (Technical Writing) by: Anne Kristine G. Francisco Kathlene Marie S. Tambo Michelle R. Aranda March 2013 CHAPTER 1 The Problem and Its Background Introduction Parenting is a complex activity that includes many specific behaviors that work individually and together to influence child outcomes. Although specific parenting behaviors, such as spanking or reading aloud, may influence child development, looking at any specific behavior in isolation may be misleading. Many writers have noted that specific parenting practices are less important in predicting child well-being than is the broad pattern of parenting. Most researchers who attempt to describe this broad parental milieu rely on Diana Baumrind’s concept of parenting style. The construct of parenting style is used to capture normal variations in parents’ attempts to control and socialize their children (Baumrind, 1991). Two points are critical in understanding this definition. First, parenting style is meant to describe normal variations in parenting. In other words, the parenting style typology Baumrind developed should not be understood to include deviant parenting, such...
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...INTRODUCTION What is parenting? According to online dictionary Merriam-Webster, parenting is a process of taking care of children and developed them into a better person in future. Being a parent is the greatest gift from God to us. Having children strengthen the family bond and educate us to love what we have and be grateful of this precious gift. Parentingskills is one of the crucial responsibility in raising children in today modern world.Today, parents need to understand the basic needs to be a good parent thus strive in being a better example to their children. Kids are like the diamond that we need to polish and shine to get the best shape and design. They in need of attention and full support from the closest person to them, their own parents. The goal when dealing with our children is not to show who’s boss , not to instill fear, but to develop a decent and self confidence human being. (Laurence Steinberg,Phd, The Ten Basic Principle of Good Parenting) . CONTENT Characteristics of Good Parent. Listen to your children Parenting is one of the most researched area in the field of social science. Most of the parent out there based on their parents parenting style which might not be suitable in current modern days. According to Laurence Steinberg, in The Ten Basic Principle of Good Parenting, most of the parents base their action on gut reaction, rarely parents think thoroughly before acting on their children. Children should never be...
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