...Premarital Counseling Pre-Counseling Questionnaire To my new friends: ! You have received this questionnaire because you have asked me to perform your premarital counseling (and perhaps your wedding as well), and because I want to offer you the best premarital counseling that I am able to offer. ! I realize that I do not know you well— not yet! I trust that during counseling I will get to know you much better. However, for me to counsel you well from the start, I need to ask about who you both are, what your backgrounds are, what work is like for you, what your family was like growing up, and other things about you and your past. Many of these questions are very personal; in fact, some of them may touch on things that you have not yet spoken about openly even with your fiancé. ! Please trust that your completed questionnaire will not be shared with anyone else; I will not use this information against you; and I am not looking for ways to judge you or make you feel awkward or ashamed. And please also trust that I, and many who are wiser than I am, have concluded that these topics are very important factors in how healthy your marriage will be. I simply want to work with you to lay the foundations for the healthiest marriage possible. ! ! ! ! ! ! About the couple General Information: How long have you known each other? ______________________________________________________________________ How long have you been dating? ______________________________________________________________________ ...
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...research paper is to inform the reader of the challenges that face marriages in today’s society. It researches the issue of cohabitation before marriage and how people view it whether it is harmful to the marriage or how it can help the marriage be more successful. Another issue that is reviewed is the issue of infidelity. It discusses the problems that arise from infidelity and touches on the reconciliation process that couples have to go through if they have a desire to stay in their marriage. Communication and forgiveness within the marriage is also discussed. Challenging Issues that Face Marriages Today Introduction In the world today, there are a lot of marriages going through some trying times. Parents have put their children first instead of their spouse which have created a barrier between the couple. Some families are dealing with extra effort children that require more time with them and put their spouse on the back burner. Financial burdens have been over whelming for some marriages causing stress, anger and even resentment. The issues that this research paper is going to explore are the challenges of cohabitation, infidelity, communication, and forgiveness. These issues seem to be an important part of marriages that are continually brought forth in many therapy, counseling, and laypersons offices. Premarital Cohabitation Couples will move in together before marriage for many reasons. These reasons include financial situations...
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...a legal separation or divorce for those in a covenant marriage. The pamphlet contains only general information. If you have questions about covenant marriage, please ask a member of the clergy, a marriage counselor or an attorney of your choice. What is a Covenant Marriage? The State Legislature has created a type of marriage in Arizona called "covenant marriage." It does not replace the kind of marriage already available. Instead it offers an additional option to couples who wish to marry. The covenant marriage differs both in the steps necessary to get married and the reasons why a legal separation or divorce may be granted by the court. To enter into a covenant marriage, the couple first must have counseling (called "premarital counseling") from a member of the clergy or a marriage counselor. Then, when applying for a license to be married, both persons must show their intention to enter into a covenant marriage by signing a special statement (or "declaration") on the application form. In a covenant marriage, legal separation or divorce (in Arizona, a "dissolution of marriage") may be granted by the court only for specific reasons listed in state law. These are explained in the following pages.2 Entering into a Covenant Marriage To be married in Arizona, a woman and man legally qualified to marry must first get a marriage license. (Sections 25- 101 and 25-102 of the Arizona Revised Statutes indicate who may legally marry.) To get a license...
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...You are welcome to search thousands of free research papers and essays. Search for your research paper topic now! Research paper topic: Premarital Sex - 1551 words NOTE: The research paper or essay you see on this page is a free essay, available to anyone. You can use any paper as a sample on how to write research papers or as a source of information. We strongly discourage you to directly copy/paste any essay and turn it in for credit. If your school uses any plagiarism detecting software, you might be caught and accused of plagiarism. If you need a custom term paper, research paper or essay, written from scratch exclusively for you, please, use our paid research papers writing service! Premarital Sex Premarital Sex and Religion The Catholic Church teaches that premarital sex is wrong, yet it is still widely practiced around the world. The reason marriage was created was to join two people of the opposite sex together in a holy sacrament that would make the couple one. God's reason for marriage is quoted in the bible when he said, "For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh" . The Sacrament of marriage is one of the most sacred Sacraments in the Catholic Religion. By performing premarital sex, the couple is breaking a covenant with God and is performing a sin. Marriage is the joining of a couple in the eyes of God and in the eyes of the State. When two people are joined into marriage they become...
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...The Prepare /Enrich training is an online personalized couple’s assessment that shows the couple’s strength and growth areas based on the Positive couple agreement scale (PCA). The PCA gives the level of the relationship of marriage or premarital couples across nine score scale, these scales are communication, conflict resolution, parenting styles and habits, financial management, leisure activities, sexual expectation, family and friends and spiritual belief. The result helps in knowing the various types of marriage or premarital couples. Vitalized couple has the highest relationship satisfaction with high PCA, harmonized has moderate PCA, conventional has higher PCA in spiritual beliefs and roles while the conflicted as in the case of married have low levels of PCA. Any level of the scale that is less than 20 is considered as growth areas for the couple. Looking at this classification and explanation about couple relationship with Dr. Oslo, I can state that couples are different individuals that team up to fix their union by encouraging themselves to improve in areas having low scores. My view is that male and female differ physically and psychologically in many ways and the failure to appreciate these differences often brings couples into conflict (Hawkins, 1991). Marriage is the union of each unique person committed to the other unique person in a position to build intimacy (Hawkins, 1991) that will help them improve their growth areas and sustain their strength areas....
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...ASSIGNMENT 02 NAME: Monica Schellingerhout PO BOX: PO Box 11979 Wierda Park South 0057 MODULE: MGG201W SEMESTER CODE: Year Module ASSIGNMENT NUMBER: 02 STUDENT NUMBER: 4396-359-5 ASSIGNMENT DATE: 2011-07-25 Contents 1 PART 1 3 1.1 PREMARITAL COUNSELLING 3 1.1.1 Definition of premarital counselling 3 1.1.2 Purpose of Premarital Counselling 3 1.1.3 Purpose of the Helper 4 1.1.4 Relavent Core Relational Conditions 4 1.1.5 Degree Of Structure Needed 5 1.1.6 In What Format Does Counselling Take Place 5 1.2 MARRIAGE ENRICHMENT 7 1.2.1 Definition of Marriage Enrichment 7 1.2.2 Purpose of Marriage Enrichment Counselling 7 1.2.3 Purpose of the Helper 7 1.2.4 Relavent Core Relational Conditions 8 1.2.5 Degree of Structure needed 9 1.2.6 In What Format Does Counselling Take Place 9 1.3 COUPLES COUNSELLING 11 1.3.1 Definition of Couples Counsellin 11 1.3.2 Purpose of Couples Counselling 11 1.3.3 Purpose of the Helper 12 1.3.4 Relevant Core Relational Conditions 12 1.3.5 Degree of Structure needed 13 1.3.6 In What Format Does Counselling Take Place 14 1.4 DIVORCE COUNSELLING 16 1.4.1 Definition of Divorce Counselling 16 1.4.2 Purpose of Divorce Counselling 16 1.4.3 Purpose of the Helper 16 1.4.4 Relevant Core Relational Conditions 17 1.4.5 Degree of Structure...
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...Marital counseling is a great way to raise issues that the couple may have or issues that the couple may not have talked about yet. The bible states in Proverbs 15:22 that “Without counsel purposes are disappointed: but in the multitude of counselors they are established”. Couples need the help of those who can enlarge their vision and broaden their perspective. They should be open to new ideas and be willing to weigh their suggestions carefully. By considering counseling and opening up their line of communication which will indeed help build a strong marriage and more likely succeed. “Communication is the key to the development of any growing relationship. The Bible places high value on good communication. God pursues those whom he loves and seeks to communicate with them” (Hawkins, 1991, p. 108-11). Premarital counseling will be a great way for me to rid myself of all of my preconceived notions about marriage, set goals with my future spouse, and be able to understand Gods plan for marriages and how the world feels about marriage. When it comes to financial planning/management if the couple is having problems I would indeed recommend that they see a financial counselor or someone that has better training in the topic. Communication is so important when it comes to marriage. Throughout this course the topic of communication always arises. If you are in a marriage with no communication it won’t work. As a counselor I will stress the importance of having an open line of communication...
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...CASE STUDY INSTRUCTIONS About 15% of premarital couples report as “Conflicted” couples. The goal of this assignment is to evaluate the provided case study on a “Conflicted” couple and to submit a clinical analysis to support this couple. This will require addressing 3 main areas: (1) identifying the key strengths and weaknesses between the couple, (2) discussing how the couple’s personalities might be influencing the situation, (3) developing a strategy to counsel, and potentially support, the couple. Your paper must be 9–12 pages (not including title page and references) and must include at least 1 research-based approach from 8 scholarly sources. You must utilize course materials, research and the Bible. This amounts to about 3 pages per section. Your paper must also include section headings clearly identifying the 3 required areas of concern outlined below. Identify Key Areas (strengths and weaknesses)—This section must explore the overall case study and must clearly identify the problems at hand. Do not simply label the issues; explore the implications of the identified problems and how they might contribute to the overall conflicted relationship of the couple. Remember to review the couple’s background and other factors that may contribute to conflict. The case study contains significant data. Be sure to explore it thoroughly. Understanding this will provide the platform on which to counsel the couple. A subsection of this area must be focused on identifying the couple...
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...Research Paper – The Benefits of Premarital Education Liberty University LIFC 301: Marriage Coaching October 8, 2012 * * * * * * * * Abstract The divorce rate in the United States continues to hover around the fifty percent mark and within the ranks of faithful church attenders the percentage of marriages that end in divorce is almost equal to those from secular society, but the actual numbers are higher due to the fact that born again believers are more likely to marry than their secular counterparts. Divorce leaves much greater damage in its wake than just the broken hearts of the divided former couple. Families are torn apart, economic structures are rent asunder, children have their support systems abolished, and it is often left up to the community at large to pick up the pieces. Premarital education, counseling, or coaching shows promise in helping marriages to remain intact. Couples who engage in premarital preparation reduce the likelihood of facing divorce by as much as thirty percent. By helping pre-married couples to learn a relatively small skill set a coach, counselor, member of the clergy, educator, or lay facilitator can enable a couple to not only reduce the learning curve towards a vitalized relationship, but they can improve their odds of crossing the until “death do us part” finish line still together. Introduction While it is often quoted that the divorce rate in the United States is at or above fifty...
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...GENETIC COUNSELING IN NURSING AND ETHICS Hyang Ko Azusa Pacific University Abstract The current development of genetic information and technique leaves us assignments. It is included ethical issues, roles of nurses, and the responsibilities in healthcare professionals. In order to understand nurses’ role and responsibilities and to provide genetic counseling, two research article with text books were reviewed. There were conflicts within ethical principles and nurses’ obligation. Each principle is important but one principle is superior to others when healthcare professionals make a decision in a certain context. It is necessary that genetic counseling is provided to patients and their family when healthcare professionals deal with genetic information. The two research articles empathized that experienced nurses are excellent candidates in genetic counseling within healthcare professionals by being educated, trained about genetic information. Genetic Counseling in Nursing and Ethics Definitions of Genetics and Genetic Counseling Officially, the terms of Genetics and genetic counseling is defined by Wekipidia as below: Genetics, a discipline of biology, is the science of genes, heredity, and variation in living organisms (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Genetics). Genetic counseling is the process by which patients or relatives, at risk of an inherited disorder, are advised of the consequences and nature of the disorder, the probability of developing or transmitting...
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...Compare and Contrast Paper Introduction We have all struggled with situations such as grief, loss, or stress at some time in our lives. When we seek counseling to help us overcome the feelings that are associated with these hardships it is good to know the best way to approach them. We usually just want the problem to go away and we want to feel happy and rejuvenated again. However, there are steps we must take in order to experience freedom and true happiness. Most counselors are using techniques that involve cognitive and behavioral therapy and pharmacological intervention. It isn’t that anything is wrong with these approaches; however this won’t take care of the problem. We must take a biblical approach and seek the Lord when we are faced with struggles. Goal of Christian Counseling When reading through Crabb’s book Effective Christian Counseling, it is clear that the goal of Christian counseling is to not just make a client happy but to bring them closer to God by helping them mature in their faith. This would include using biblical methods of dealing with their problems rather than relying upon secular methods. Crabb specifically states that “the goal is to free people to better worship and serve God by helping them become more like the Lord.” We want to help mature our clients spiritually and psychologically. (Crabb, 1977) There are steps to maturity which includes immediate obedience and long-range character growth. (Crabb, 1977) We need to be able to understand...
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...Understanding Filipino Adolescents: Research Gaps and Challenges JOSEFINA V. CABIGON, PH.D.* ABSTRACT Maiksi subalit masalimuot ang panahon ng kabataan sa buhay ng tao. Ang suliranin ng pagsasaayos sa mga problemang kaakibat nito ay nangangailangan ng ganap na pag-unawa sa kabataang Pilipino ng kasalukuyang panahon. Nais ibahagi ng papel na ito ang pagtutukoy sa mga mahahalagang isyu na karaniwang di natugunan sa mga nauna nang pag-aaral. Ilan sa mga suliraning pampananalikssik ay binigyang pansin at inaasahang mapupunan ang mga puwang na patuloy pa ring naiiwan sa larangan. Ang mga kakulangang nais tugunan ay ang mga sumusunod na usapin: pagkakaisa sa pagpapakahulugan sa konsepto ng “kabataan” at sekswalidad; di-kumpletong datos ukol sa ugnayan ng bilang ng kabataan at bilang ng kabuuang populasyon; antas ng kamalayan ng mga stakeholders at kabataan mismo tungkol sa paglaki ng bilang ng huli; ang pangangailangan ng mga stakeholders ng napapanahon at bagong pagkaunawa tungkol sa antas, mga tagapagtakda, at kahihinatnan ng sekswalidad ng kabataan, pati ng kanilang fertility at reproductive health; at, ang kanilang kamalayan at pakikilahok sa mga gawaing panlipunan. Ilan sa mga rekomendasyon ay ang pagkakaroon ng pambansang sarbey sa mga bagong erya ng pag-aaaral kaakibat ang kwalitatibong pananaliksik, pananaliksik pampatakaran (policy research) at operations research. Ang artikulo ay isang pagtatangka sa paghahanap ng mga pamamaraan upang maimulat sa mga kabataan at sa...
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...Chapter 11 - Sexuality Multiple Choice 1. The text lists all of the following as reasons why sexuality in adolescence is a particularly important period during the life cycle, except: A. adolescence is the time when erotic feelings first emerge. B. puberty brings on physical changes that allow for sexual reproduction. C. cognitive changes in adolescence have a major impact on sexuality. D. it is not until adolescence that sexual activity begins to take on the social meaning it will continue to have throughout adulthood. Answer: A 2. Sex play that is innocuous during childhood is no longer innocuous during adolescence because: A. children report erotic feelings before puberty. B. the hormonal changes of puberty result in an increased sex drive in adolescence. C. children are not capable of kissing, petting, masturbating, or sexual intercourse before puberty. D. with puberty, pregnancy becomes a serious possibility. Answer: D 3. Which of the following is not considered an aspect of positive sexual development that adolescents face? A. becoming comfortable with one’s maturing body B. reconciling feelings of sexual arousal with one’s religious beliefs C. feeling comfortable in choosing to engage or not to engage in sexual activity D. understanding and practicing safe sex Answer: B 4. “Sexual socialization” refers to: A. a person’s sexual orientation. B. a person’s social skills in sexual relationships. C. the way in which an individual is educated...
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...Hope-Focused Marriage Counseling The number of people seeking help for troubled marriages far outnumbers those seeking help for depression, family tensions, alcohol or drug abuse, anxiety, spiritual concerns, past traumas, or crises. When people seek counseling from their pastor, most frequently it is concerning marital problems. The number of people seeking help for troubled marriages far outnumbers those seeking help for depression, family tensions, alcohol or drug abuse, anxiety, spiritual concerns, past traumas, or crises. Most Christians value marriage. God approves of the permanence of marriage (Malachi 2:14), and Jesus and Paul advocate marriage (Matthew 5:32; 19:9; Mark 10:2–12; Luke 16:18; 1 Corinthians 7:10,11). God hates the pain and brokenness that oozes from divorce. Popular culture saturates our minds with the idea that obliterating the bonds of marriage can relieve the pain of marital conflict. In contrast, pastors advocate the virtues of marriage from the pulpit. The Christian who lives with daily marital conflict, hurt, and anger is pinched in a vice. Seeking help from the pastor, troubled spouses are sometimes disappointed when this counseling doesn’t work. Too often, Christians—who are separated, divorced, or living a life of conflict and anguish—twist free by leaving the church. This is not a satisfying solution to marriage partners or to pastors. Six Bridge Planks to Reconciliation Between Troubled Marriage Partners Plank...
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...The Causes of Heartbreak In America, there is one divorce approximately every 36 seconds. That's nearly 2,400 divorces per day, 16,800 divorces per week and 876,000 divorces a year. From the beginning of time people all across the world have been determined to find something called love, to begin a family of their own and enter into a sacred and wild adventure called marriage. Living together and depending on one another for mutual love, support and essential necessities is no easy task. For some the responsibilities of marriage become overwhelming or the problems within a marriage become so serious they cannot be solved, and couples all across the nation are choosing to end their marriage in a divorce. It is sad to say but although most people take their whole lives to decide to enter into marriage, most only take a few moments to consider ending one. Divorce rates continue to rise and rise in modern times and it could easily be said that divorce is the instant gratification married couples are turning to in order to cope in today’s society. There are many factors that go into the decision of ending one’s marriage but some factors that are changing the marriage game today are woman’s growing roles in society as self efficient individuals, economic and financial problems and a lack of communication or proper problem solving efforts and the effects of divorce and even more damaging than the divorce itself. With the edition of the nineteenth amendment to constitution giving...
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