...saying and trying to understand the message that they are trying to relate to you. Most times people say they are listening when in all actuality they are merely hearing you but not even attempting to understand what is being spoken of. The advantages of being a good listener are vast. This skill can positively affect many parts of our everyday life and interaction with people. Nevertheless, it is a skilled that is overlooked in today’s unmindful society. The reason I believe that listening is of such importance is because nowadays people have developed the mentality of “every man for himself.” People are not concerned about their fellows anymore. We are only concerned about our own issues and problems. Listening is a skill that is acquired throughout a lifetime. It is an important virtue when it comes to communication.People should be taught from childhood the importance of learning how to listen. If we realized how much we would benefit from being good listeners, I believe that things would change. Lack of listening skills affects marriages, parents and children, teachers and students, employers and employees, foreign affairs, and the list goes on. If a husband and wife learned to sit down and listen attentively to each other they could avoid many misunderstandings that oftentimes lead to disputes, separation and ultimately divorce. Lack of understanding between children and parents is a very frustrating situation. Parents find themselves unable to effectively and efficiently raise...
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...there could no curbs on the freedom that I want to enjoy. I am very law abiding and understand the limitations imposed on me .I am very self-reliant and depend on myself for almost everything. I am also very achievement oriented in the sense that I do understand that in this very competitive world one had to be determined to perform well. My career goals are clearly etched out and I work towards that end in view. Coming from a very traditional the values of hard work and determination have been ingrained from a very young age. I manage my time very well and am very time conscious and believe in working efficiently. I am very friendly but formal with strangers .We still share high values of family so we are not bothered about transition. I am competitive when it comes to performance orientation and am quite generous when it comes to sharing knowledge and prosperity though I am very conservative about sharing personal experiences and success stories. I was raised by the truly African American culture which speaks of these eight criterions in great detail. Though our family values in this culture is very high we do not take this as an obstacle towards expansion of either our thoughts of work horizons. In fact this orthodoxy has helped us survive under very tough situations. We have stuck together in helping each other and sharing whatever we could in times of difficulty and economic downturn. Many of us were employed and with slow determination and support from others we are now honorably...
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...to people make them do extraordinary things. People hear their life through music they listen to or like and that is how they live it. This is the case for the novel Sonny Blues written by James Baldwin. The story is about two brothers who come to understand each other, more specifically, through its two main characters, two sides of the African-American experience. Sounds of Music Some people say that certain music to people make them do extraordinary things. People hear their life through music they listen to or like and that is how they live it. This is the case for the novel Sonny Blues written by James Baldwin. The story is about two brothers who come to understand each other, more specifically, through its two main characters, two sides of the African-American experience. Sounds of Music Some people say that certain music to people make them do extraordinary things. People hear their life through music they listen to or like and that is how they live it. This is the case for the novel Sonny Blues written by James Baldwin. The story is about two brothers who come to understand each other, more specifically, through its two main characters, two sides of the African-American experience. Sounds of Music Some people say that certain music to people make them do extraordinary things. People hear their life through music they listen to or like and that is how they live it. This is the case for the novel Sonny Blues written by James Baldwin. The story is about two...
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...by reading textbooks. You do not get fluency by going to English schools. You do not get fluency by studying grammar rules. The Key To Excellent Speaking Listening Is The Key To get English fluency, you must have a lot of understandable repetitive listening. That is the ONLY way. To be a FANTASTIC English speaker, you must learn English with your ears, not with your eyes. In other words, you must listen. Your ears are the key to excellent speaking. What kind of listening is best? Well, it must be understandable and must be repetitive. Both of those words are important-- Understandable and Repetitive. If you don't understand, you learn nothing. You will not improve. That's why listening to English TV does not help you. You don't understand most of it. It is too difficult. It is too fast. Its obvious right? If you do not understand, you will not improve. So, the best listening material is EASY. That’s right, you should listen mostly to easy English. Most students listen to English that is much too difficult. They don’t understand enough, and so they learn slowly. Listen to easier English, and your speaking will improve faster! Understanding is Only Half The Formula. Understanding is not enough. You must also have a lot of repetition. If you hear a new word only once, you will soon forget it. If you hear it 5 times, you...
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...and One of the not-so-surprising conclusions was this: The best sales people “listen more constructively” than their more average counterparts. I just came across some research that confirmed what many of us in the profession of educating salespeople have known for years: That purchasers would be “much more likely” to buy from a salesperson if that salesperson would just “listen” to the customer. The survey found that some of the worst offenders were experienced salespeople. Listening is one of the four fundamental competencies of a professional salesperson, and yet, the profession is, in general, so poor at it that most customers remark on our inability to do it well. a look at vacancy ad in dailies you will see more and more companies put emphasis on other sales competencies and leaving out listening. A good talker with outgoing personality fitted very well in the conventional description of a sales person. Many sales people in most companies today are oriented to talk and talk to customer until the customer/ prospects drops dead or buys! Moreover, salespeople today are so much driven by targets and with a lot of whipping from the sales managers to hit the quotas that listening to customers has become secondly. Why is listening such a powerful sales competency? 1. Customers ‘pain’ can only be identified by digging beneath the surface of a customer’s needs and uncovering deeper and more powerful needs and motivations. This is an integral part of sales person and will separate...
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...and how that music impacted it. My childhood memories of music is of sitting on Sunday listening to vinyl records with my dad after church. It was a very special memory of mine because I was really close to my dad. The type of music we listened to was classic Country and Western. We would listen to artists such as Conway Twitty, Loretta Lynn, Dolly Parton, Hank Williams Sr., George Jones, Tammy Wynette and Willie Nelson. In the textbook it states,” Country and western music has carried on the narrative tradition of folk music, adding its own unique tales to the repertoire.” (Janaro & Altshuler 2012, page 173) I can remember listening to Conway Twitty and Loretta Lynn singing the song, Louisiana Woman, Mississippi Man. These songs I listened to with my dad made me happy and I was glad that I could share this time with my dad. My adolescence was an interesting time because I grew up in the 70’s and 80’s. I grew up listening to soft rock, disco, rock n roll, hair metal and country music. I listened to many artists such as, Air Supply, KC and the Sunshine Band, Duran Duran and George Strait. I would change the kind of music I listened to depending on my moods. But it you were to listen to the cassette tapes I made from songs off the radio, there would be a variety of music on them. The text defines rock as,” a fusion of rhythm and blues, gospel, country and western and rap styles.” (Janaro & Altshuler 2012, page 181). I did a little bit of...
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...Ilona Apelsinov September 13th, 2015 Weekly essay #1 What is the point of music? Why do people listen to music and often tend to not understand what the lyrics are? Why do we like to listen to something we don't understand or is not inspirational? There are people in this world that like some songs for no apparent reason either because the beat is catchy or just because everyone likes it. Philosophically it is not possible to like a song for no reason because there is always a reason for our actions. For something not to have a reason, it is an action without thought. But since liking something has an idea behind it, it is impossible to like something without reasons. When you like something, it is like an emotion because emotions are caused by reasons. Everyone has reasons for liking songs, some are fond of their likings and some are not. That is why some people admit to liking the songs they listen to and some just keep it to themselves. Therefore, liking something for no reason is impossible. From my experience, I tend to listen to the songs that sound catchy. I have many reasons why I like the songs that I listen to because they are either catchy, have significant lyrics that have meanings behind them or because the words that are being sung in the song connects with the situations that I might be dealing with. People use some songs to express their emotions when they can't explain it by using their own words. For example, the song "Trap Queen"...
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...are less likely to listen to people we are close with than people we don’t know. It showed that married couples were more likely to interrupt each other when communicating. In school I always had trouble listening and remembering certain topics I found uninteresting. In 24 hours I would have forgotten everything the teacher taught us that day. Some of the most common listening barriers that I have experienced are unchecked emotions, listener apprehension, and being self-absorbed. One listening barrier I have faced is unchecked emotions. An unchecked emotion is when someone enters an emotional state and it affects how well they listen. In the last two years I have had hard times with my family. Most of the problems left me really tender to want to talk about and/or listen too. When I would come across the subject with my husband I would let my emotions get the best of me and not really listen to what he was saying I needed to do to help my family get better. It took me a long time to find strategies to overcome this listening barrier. I had to learn to take my feelings out of the situation because they were holding me back. It took me a long time to learn this. This also caused other barriers like being self-absorbed because I was too scared to know what I needed to do and what I was going to have to hear. I was too self-absorbed with my life and having to change1 my life I didn’t want to listen to what everyone else was telling me. Eventually I overcame this by letting my guard...
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...Summarize Petersen, J. (2007). Why don't we listen better? Communicating & connecting in relationships. Tigard, OR: Petersen Publications. James Peterson’s (2007) book was originally written in 1980. It is a book written regarding communication styles and how we communicate with each other. Jim Peterson’s book not only helps us become a better communicator it teaches us how to become a better listener. The book is broken up into five parts. Part one covers the Flat-Brain Theory of Emotions explains how our emotions and thinking work; it consists of three functions: the Stomach, Heart, and Head functions. “Stomach functions consist of our emotions or feelings-those inner nudges that let us know when we’re uncomfortable, happy, etc. Heart functions...
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...something in the wake of your smile. I get a notion from the look in your eyes, yea. You've built a love but that love falls apart. Your little piece of heaven turns too dark. Listen to your heart when he's calling for you. Listen to your heart there's nothing else you can do. I don't know where you're going and I don't know why, but listen to your heart before you tell him goodbye. Sometimes you wonder if this fight is worthwhile. The precious moments are all lost in the tide, yea. They're swept away and nothing is what is seems, the feeling of belonging to your dreams. Listen to your heart when he's calling for you. Listen to your heart there's nothing else you can do. I don't know where you're going and I don't know why, but listen to your heart before you tell him goodbye. And there are voices that want to be heard. So much to mention but you can't find the words. The scent of magic, the beauty that's been when love was wilder than the wind. Listen to your heart when he's calling for you. Listen to your heart there's nothing else you can do. I don't know where you're going and I don't know why, but listen to your heart before you tell him goodbye. Listen to your heart, mm-mmmmmm I don't know where you're going and I don't know why, but listen to your heart before you tell him...
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...What to Listen for in Music, written by Aaron Copland, is a classic reading for music lovers and musicians. Although this book was written almost 80 years ago, it still inspires the music today. Copland does not expect that all readers would be a professional musician and recognize every form of music. The main idea with the book is that the only way to appreciate music, is to listen. Actively listening to music will increase your knowledge and make you more aware when it comes to recognizing the composers’ different styles. One point Copland makes is also that readers or listeners tend to listen to various music styles within the same year; this is a mistake. It is impossible to compare historic composers, such as Mozart and Beethoven, to more modern composers....
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...1 Teenagers’ Reasons for Listening to Music and the Students’ Perception of the Effects of Listening When Completing School Assignments1 Jennifer Adriano Educational Leadership Doctoral Program Thomas DiPaola Educational Leadership Doctoral Program Center for Research and Evaluation The Alan Shawn Feinstein Graduate School Johnson & Wales University 1 Paper presented at the 42nd annual meeting of the New England Educational Research Organization, April, 2010, Portsmouth, NH. 2 Introduction Music is a significant part of our lives. People listen to music on the radio at home and in their car; they watch music videos on television or hand held technology; they buy CDs or download music; and they attend concerts. People also hear music in stores, restaurants, sporting events, and doctors’ offices (Schellenberg, Peretz, & Vieillard, 2008). Music is very important to many adolescents and they spend a considerable amount of their time listening to music. One study with N = 2,465 adolescents ages 13 and 14 found that participants listened to music for an average of 2.45 hours per day (North, Hargreaves, & O’Neill, 2000). Music has become a personal accompaniment in many teenagers’ lives because of the availability and popularity of personal music listening devices. In 2009, Jaffray released the results from the 18th semi-annual survey, “taking stock with teens.” The team of researchers surveyed approximately N = 1,200 students, with an average age of 16.3, in...
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...By: Syed Masrur Question: salamu alaykum warahmatu allah wa barakatoh, Hello my fellow brothers and sisters. I have an issue that is tearing me apart. Not because it is a match for my love to islam, but rather the controversy around it. I am a practicing muslim, alhamdullillah. My wife is a reverted muslim, since she was 14 mashalla. My life revolves around what Islam says, as much as possible. During my teenage period I started to listen to classical music and to Heavy Metal. As i grew older i started choosing those bands that do not address any religion or abuse any belief. My defense was that they inflame the sense of energy and activity and the feeling that there is no mortal that could stop me from reaching any goal. I listen to songs that deal with brotherhood on the battle field, honor and loyalty, so some how they relate to the glory of the islamic battles word by word!! There are certain songs that have stories the same as the prophet's (pbuh) and every time I listen to them I get to remember the islamic fotohat. am I doing something wrong? if yes then where, how and why? jazakom allah khayran Salam | Assalamu Alikum warahmatullah, Dearest Brother in Islam, May Allah grant you the two-fold rewards, one for seeking knowledge and another for practicing the 'enjoyment' of doing good and forbidding evil. Regarding your question of listening to Heavy Metal and other hardcore musicals as they give you energy and remind you about...
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...In the article “A Christian on Listening with Jewish Ears and Hearing with the Heart of God,” Randy Lee reflects on his experience in speaking on a panel of Jewish legal scholars and how this experience impacted his own view of his faith. In his reflection, he recalls his first meeting with a Jew by the name of Sam Levine. It is the author’s encounters with Sam Levine that sparks the idea that in order “to become a better Christian, [he] would need to become a better Jew.” This fueled his quest to understand how the Jews experience God, by studying the Hebrew Scriptures and asking Sam questions. After these numerous encounters with Sam, the author was able to present his thoughts during the panel discussion with other Jewish legal scholars. Upon receiving a compliment from one of the panelists Irene, the author realized that it was not the eloquence of his speech that warranted the compliment, but it was the way in which Irene heard his perspective. The author then concluded to become a better Christian he would need “to learn to listen as God listens,” “to learn to listen to hear like a Jew.” From the author’s perspective, learning “to listen to God is…to listen for transcendent moments rather than for all the mistakes.”...
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...August 26, 2015 MUS 107 Musical Autobiography 1. What kinds of music do you like to listen to? Be specific! a. I like to listen to Country, Rock, Blues, 70s & 80s Music, Hawaiian, Reggae, Hip-Hop, and Pop Music. 2. Why do you like the kinds of music that you do? b. I like the way how all the songs make me feel. For example, I dance hula and the Hawaiian songs my class and I dance to are either fast or slow songs; either way all of the songs we dance to just make me feel peaceful and at ease. 3. Do you play an instrument and/or sing? What kinds of music do you play/sing/perform? c. I do not play any instrument well, however I did take an ukulele class this past semester. In that class we played/sung/performed all Hawaiian music. 4. What kinds of music do you make with your family and/or friends? d. We don’t really sing together, but if we do were singing whatever is pkaying on the radio or on our iPod/iPhone’s. 5. How much music do you listen to daily? e. A LOT!!! I listen to music almost all day, everyday… Except in class. I listen to music when I wake up in the morning to get ready for school, I listen to music in the car, when I get to school I listen to music while walking to class, I listen to music when I do my homework, I listen to music when I go running, and I listen to music when I shower. 6. When was the last time music caught you by surprise? f. I remember when I was sitting in the car...
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