...Relationship Termination: A Look Into the New World of Mediated Breakups Versus Face to Face With so many options of how to communicate in today’s world, it makes it difficult to determine when is the appropriate time to use each method of communication in every day interactions. Even further, researchers wanted to investigate appropriate ways to use methods of communication in significant events in a relationship, specifically relationship termination. Each potential choice has its own consequences, which is why it important to examine what leads individuals to chose to terminate a relationship with mediated communication versus face to face. The purpose of this study is to explore a new area of romantic relationships, the mediums of communication used to terminate the relationship. Most communication research examines how relationships grow through the use of mediated communication. Research about how relationships are ended through mediated communication versus face to face is relatively absent. Pettigrew (2009) conducted a study on text messaging and the connectedness it can bring to close interpersonal relationships. Researchers discovered that participants valued text messaging because they felt it was a way to privately and directly communicate with their loved ones and gain constant connectedness (Pettigrew, 2009). As a result text messaging seems to be becoming a more acceptable way of communicating important messages to the ones you love, despite...
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...statistics at least 50% of marriages will end in divorce if the current trends continue. Divorce simply means separation; disunion of things closely united according to the Accurate and Reliable Dictionary. Divorce can be a cause and effect therefore, throughout the paper the three causes will be explained and three effects will follow. Three Main Points From the research not all marriages fail for the same reasons one of the causes of divorce are communications problems. This may occur before the couple come together as one. Couples don’t communicate because of pressing issues that each individual may be experiencing or if the expectations was not clear from the beginning of the relationship. Also, talking about your feelings in a marriage is important because then you can figure out exactly how to improve in a relationship but if they are not discussed than this to can fail a marriage. Also, if a couple does not communicate pre-marital issues before tying the knot then they will realize during the marriage things should have been set before. Therefore, these issues can get worst during the marriage. Financial issues are a huge reason divorces occur often. In marriages financial hardships hurts marriages because of unemployement, uncertainty, unequal financial position, and excessive spending. With each of these factors it causes disagreements between a relationship and financial support fails. When unemployment occurs whether it is short term or long term some of the effects...
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...the following points: - the way the story is structured - the main theme - a characterization of Baluta/Joel - the setting Text Skye Brannon, "Fireweed", a short story, 2009 Page 9 Side 2 af 12 sider A TEXT 1 Rosemary Bennett Couples that live apart...stay together The unusual living arrangement of Shirley Denny and Peter Lawrence has raised eyebrows among friends and neighbours over the past two decades. But today the couple, who have shared their lives but not their homes for 23 years, are part of a growing trend of people challenging the assumption that being in love must lead to s cohabiting. New research estimates that there are now as many as two million couples who, despite being in a committed relationship, live separately. The number of couples who live apart together (LATÐ is now...
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...intimacy. Increasingly these days, both happiness and intimacy in marriage tend to wither. Couples spiral down to what they feel is an empty relationship and call it quits. “Divorce is the disruption of intimacy, a splitting a part of two interdependent people into two independent agents” (Schaie & Willis, 2002). Divorce is a stressful event for both partners and any children that may be involved. Marriage can result in divorce because of many factors including an increased life span in humans and life changes throughout spouses’ lives. “Divorces are listed as attributable to boredom, the exacerbation of pre-existing strains, and falling in love with someone outside of the marriage” (Ducanto, n.d.). Married couples on the verge of divorce can seek for help through marriage help centers and couples counseling. Those going through divorce can participate in divorce support groups which are integrated for men, women, and children. When intimacy and happiness die away, it is now socially acceptable to file for divorce. It is often a shock when divorce surfaces to a married relationship. “Research evidence confirms that a mutually shared decision to divorce is uncommon” (Schaie & Willis, 2002). Many instances the opposing spouse is caught off guard when approached with the announcement of pursing a divorce. The idea of living alone brings forth considerable anxiety whether the marriage relationship has been happy or not. This situation of separation is an extremely...
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...children that have an absence of their fathers caused by the assignment of the military. These authors pinpoint some of the difficult obstructions these children have to face while these men are MIA (missing in action). They talk about the adjustment and the adapting to the prolonged and seemingly indefinite absence of a father, and how a relationship between a father and child changes over the long period of time until the veteran returns. Moreover, they collected data from 42 families of returned prisoners of the Vietnam War and attempted to identify a combination of factors that could explain the variability in the quality of the father-child relationship subsequent to the returning from the War. This information from this book will help convey emotional lives that these children have to endure. This book will strengthen my research by pointing out how children are affected when there is a nonattendance of one of the parents for a long period of time. Bowen, L. Gary, Dennis K. Orthner. The Organization Family: WORK AND FAMILY LINKAGES IN THE U.S... New York, NY: Praeger Publishers, 1989. Print. This book depicts how marital relationships get torn apart because of soldiers that come back from the war with post traumatic stress and have the need to have an aggressive and physical attitude towards their wife. The aggression these women have to face forces them to determine if they will stick by these veterans or get a divorce because these men don’t know how to control this disorder...
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...There are many reasons relationships can break down, Duck suggested 3 main reasons in 1999. Firstly, lack of skills; this refers to to inability to connect with one another for example if someone lacks social skills they will be unable to communicate their satisfaction or attract with their partner, this leads to an unrewarding outcome and the relationship may breakdown. This theory of thinking your partner isn't interested is supported by extramarital affairs, Boekhout(1999) used university students to say what would lead to an affair; for males it was lack of sexual stimuli and for women it was lack of emotional satisfaction. Both suggesting that their partners aren't interested in them either sexually or emotionally. This study lacks population validly as only university students were used, therefore it can't be generalised to the majority of the population. The reasons for to have an affair may change with age and the marital statues of the couple. This is supported by real world application, couples who struggle with social skills can take part in a Couples Coping Enchantment training, this sensitises couples to the idea of equity and aid them in communicating. Cina et al (2003) compared to groups of couples a controlled group who didn't receive CCET and the test group who did, she found that the test group had a better quality of marriage after receiving the training. This study despite having a large participant number can not be generalised to the entirety as it has cultural...
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...Part 2. Background Information Industry Background and Competition Faced Love matching companies are agents that introducing single boys and girls to each other and provide them chances to get into relationship. These kinds of companies are pretty popular in foreign countries. However, these companies have also start developing rapidly in Hong Kong recent years. The growth of this industry is mainly due to some demographic changes in the society facing in these few decades, which will be explained in details in later parts. Step 3: Arranging gathering Step 3: Arranging gathering Step 2: Matching Step 2: Matching Step 1: information collection Step 1: information collection In Hong Kong, the industry consists of a lot of companies in various scales that provide similar love matching service. Most of the existing companies mainly provide 3 major services; the first one is information collection. When the firm receives the client’s requests, they will contact the client and jot down all the requirements that he/she wants. The second step is matching. After they have done the profile, they will match a person that according to your criteria. The final step is arranging the gathering or meeting. After the firm has already done the mating, they will send the potential client to him/her. When the client feels suitable to the potential candidate, the company will become the middleman and help them to arrange the gathering. There are few big-scales...
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...In any relationship where two people are a romantic couple, there will be conflict at some point. There are certain topics that couples usually fight over. These topics change depending on what type of couple it is, how long they've been together. Many studies show that the topics that cause conflict tend to be money, relatives, jobs, dividing household chores, social activities, how each person handles anger, alcohol use, moodiness and children if the couple has any. There's also topics that are unique to relationships that cause conflict. Some conflicts that can increase the odds of divorce in married couples are over sexual infidelity, jealousy, money, no communicating, drinking, and anger. Sexual infidelity is a very powerful topic when it comes to conflicts that can lead to divorce. Homosexual couples and heterosexual couples seem to have a few differences. For instance, homosexual couples are more likely to have conflict over previous lovers and distrust. The conflicts fall into 6 clusters which are social issues, personal flaws, power, distrust, personal distance and intimacy. It's been found that heterosexual couples argue over social issues more than homosexual couples. Lawrence Kurdek, who studied these areas of conflict, also found that in heterosexual couples the man's marital satisfaction sometimes affected how the woman resolve conflicts. More research done about conflict in couples has shown that there's an increase in levels of stress hormones that is greater...
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...Cause and Effects of Divorce Marriage symbolizes a unity between two people. Some marriages last and some result in divorce. For instance, a newlywed couple could start off exceedingly romantic. As the marriage progresses, more problems and issues arise that are left unsolved. Feelings could build up over time and every little action he or she does could increasingly annoy the other spouse. Conflicts are not resolved properly and as time passes, the couple may start to have more and more disagreements about unimportant subjects. There are three main causes of divorce: lack of communication, early marriages with unexpected pregnancies and drastic career changes, which are listed below. First of all, lack of communication is the main cause of divorce. Communication is the revealing of thoughts or ideas and is an important aspect of all relationships. If effective communication is not present in a marriage, then the relationship will suffer and slowly weaken. To have an effective communication with one's spouse, one should try to be as open as possible by revealing all emotions and feelings. A result of a failed marriage could be divorce. Divorce is common because there is a lack of effective communication. On the other hand, one might believe that a lack of communication is not the reason why divorce is common. The lack of communication in a relationship cannot be the single reason why marriages fail. All couples are not the same. It could be possible that they have good communication...
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...of cheating as justifiable in certain cases. Adultery is being unfaithful and dishonest in a marriage, but people continuously do it. There is typically a compelling reason as to why a person would cheat on their spouse depending on their situation. Although these reasons do not always justify adultery or breaking the law, in some cases the consequences of cheating can be seen to be positive giving it a sense of justification. The reasoning behind infidelity can give a person the idea that adultery can be justified. People may commit adultery for different reasons; they could be due to a loss of love or dullness in their marriage or to peruse personal happiness and or emotional fulfillment which expresses a person’s secret passionate desires in which the case can justify infidelity. Adultery is about a person that is acting out of discontentment with their failing marriage and is committed by people who lack the comfort of marital faithfulness and intimacy. Although cheating is wrong in most situations the story of Dmitry Gurov, in “The Lady with the Pet Dog” by Anton Chekhov, displays a male point of view of committing adultery offering a glimpse of why adulterers choose to be unfaithful. The loss of love between Gurov and his wife reveals the need to search for a further intimacy which he obtains during an affair. In Chekhov’s story Dmitry had become unfaithful to his wife a long time ago and had been unfaithful often “while he privately considered her of limited intelligence...
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...Increasingly, children are growing up in cohabiting households, rather than with married parents. Nearly 20 percent of births today are to cohabitating parents, according to Susan L. Brown at the Center for Family and Demographic Research.Almost 40 percent of children will spend time in a cohabiting household by age 16. Living together is now common, but it is not without consequence—particularly for children. The effects of this family structure on children are just beginning to be understood. However, initial research by Brown and others suggests cohabitation is generally a less stable family structure than married couple or single-mother households. While there is some evidence that children in cohabiting households fare worse than those in married or single-parent families on several key indicators (Manning & Lamb, 2003), what is less clear is why. Do these negative outcomes stem from something inherent in the family structure? Or are these effects due to the types of parents who choose to cohabit (rather than to the experience of cohabitation itself)? How does living in a cohabiting household affect both children and adults? Impact on Children Development Spending extended time in cohabiting households at an early age is linked to slowed cognitive growth and language acquisition in children. Brown notes that even in stablecohabiting households, children show smaller gains in mental development. The Urban Institute finds children in cohabiting homes are also less...
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...Explore the ways in which Dickinson and Larkin express their views of marriage. Both poets show their firm negative view on their opinions of love and marriage, though they both represent it in alternative ways. Phillip Larkin with his omniscient perspective on the lives of others and the belief that marriage is a façade for both parties involved, compared to Emily Dickinson’s believing that marriage is a force which restricts a woman. Larkin explores marriage with negative connotations in ‘An Arundel Tomb’ and ‘Self’s the Man’. In ‘An Arundel Tomb’ he portray the assumptions that people make of the Earl and Countess’s marriage and the reality of the lack of love within it. He does the same in ‘Self’s the Man’ with the apparent pressures put on men to support a women and reveal his sexist view of women though the explicit showing of woman mindlessly taking advantage of men. Similar to Larkin, Emily Dickinson expresses her negative opinion on marriage in ‘Because I Could Not Stop for Death’ and ‘She Rose to His Requirement’, expressing a woman’s loss of identity once married and the liabilities it causes. In ‘Because I Could Not Stop for Death’ (712) she inexplicitly create a link between death and marriage through the thought of a woman’s previous lifestyle dying to make marriage the first and only priority. In ‘She Rose to His Requirement’ (732) Dickinson create a contrast with the connotations of marriage, on the outside, it seems like something to pride oneself in but truly...
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...Carlos 1 CARLOS, Meneleo Angelo R. IV #144647 Ms. Dierdre Camba English 12 December 18, 2014 College Love, Relationships, and its Effects on a Student's Academic and Personal Life Annotated Bibliography 1. Pereira, M. Graca, Ebru Taysi, Faith Orcan, Frank Fincham. “Attachment, Infidelity, and Loneliness in College Students Involved in a Romantic Relationship: The Role of Relationship Satisfaction, Morbidity, and Prayer for Partner”. Contemporary Family Therapy 36.3 (2014): 333. Print This study examined the mediating effects of relationship satisfaction, prayer for a partner, and morbidity in the relationship between attachment and loneliness, infidelity and loneliness, and psychological morbidity and loneliness, in college students involved in a romantic relationship. The present results expand the literature on attachment by presenting evidence that anxious and avoidant partners experience loneliness differently. By utilizing this data, I will have an easier time determining how the relationship effects the each member of the couple's personal lives with this as a reference. This study is a credible source due to the primary author, Grace M. Pereria's background as an established writer from the University of Minho from Braga, Portugal. Having released over 30 publications and been used as a citation by multiple other researchers further proves her credibility. 2. Regan, Pamela C. Love, College Style. n.p., 2012. Print. By the time most men and women finish their first year...
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...share their lives and bring up their children together. They do not live in the same house. According to John Haskey who heads the Family Demography Unit at the Department of Social Policy at Oxford University, estimated that near a million couples in Great Britain are currently in living apart together (L.A.T.) relationships. Couples are sharing their lives but only to a point. This is what is written in text 2 “Home Alone Together” by Jill Broke. L.A.T. relationships are an easy way of avoiding unnecessary problems in a standard relationship. This can be a good way for couples that have failed in their marriage lives, or can be This is a way for couples that have failed in their marriage lives and mainly if there are children involved in the relationship. These kinds of relationships could be ideal for people who do not want to give up their dream for their partner. So if couples saw this as an option in their lives, it could save many problems and breakups between them. Why do you need to live together in the first place? It is the question SmartAtLove.com article points out. Living apart together is concept which gives the long distance relationships a complete different meaning and this is what we can read in text 3 “Just What Modern Romance Needs: “Living Apart Together”” by Gary Picaeriello. This trend started in Netherland and then had this concept spread like wildfire among young couples in Europe, United States and other countries. This...
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...that, but the marriage ended in divorce, when it was discovered that her husband was gay. Her third marriage was to a man who was 10 years her junior and that marriage ended after 3 years when she found out that her husband was having an affair with a younger woman. Now this current marriage is ending because of a lack of passion and companionship, and an apparent general disinterest. Samantha dreads the aftermath of this divorce. She has begun to isolate herself from friends and spend long periods moping and thinking about how gloomy her future will be because she has decided never to marry or date again. Samantha’s parents were happily married for 50 years. They are both recently deceased and she continues to miss their support, affection, and guidance. Samantha has an older brother, whom she greatly admires and loves. He has been married for 20 years and has two daughters with whom Samantha has a close relationship. She views both her parents’ and brother’s marriages as perfect. Presenting Problem: Samantha is experiencing depression because her fourth marriage is in dissolution and she feels flawed and like a failure, and doomed to lead a life of loneliness. A life-long marriage has always been a profound desire for Samantha. She was raised to believe that “people are meant to go through life two by two.” She believes that the thing she wanted most in life has eluded her. She and her current husband have been married for 7 years. The marriage has slowly eroded...
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