...CHAPTER IV RELEVANCE OF HOSEA’S MESSAGE IN THE CONTEXT OF MARRIAGE TODAY 1. Introduction In this chapter, we shall see how the oracle of prophet Hosea is relevant in the context of marriage today. The story of Hosea’s marital and family experiences is remarkable for the insights it offers concerning the biblical message as a whole. It demonstrates the supremacy of love over law. In this chapter therefore, we shall see how law and love overlap in marriage; this will then be followed by an analysis of eros and agape in the light of Pope Benedict XVI’s encyclical, Deus Caritas Est. The basis of the legal maxim “neccesitas non habetlegem” will then be established by looking at the centrality of love in marriage; modelled in the life of the Trinity....
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...Meaning And Purpose Meaning and Purpose Marriage is both a natural institution and a sacred union. Marriage is the intimate union and equal partnership of a man and a woman. It comes to us from the hand of God, who created male and female in his image, so that they might become one body and might be fertile and multiply (See Genesis chapters 1 and 2). Though man and woman are equal as God’s children, they are created with important differences that allow them to give themselves and to receive the other as a gift. Marriage is both a natural institution and a sacred union because it is rooted in the divine plan of creation. In addition, the Catholic Church teaches that the valid marriage between two baptized Christians is also a sacrament – a saving reality and a symbol of Christ’s love for his church (See Ephesians 5:25-33). In every marriage the spouses make a contract with each other. In a sacramental marriage the couple also enters into a covenant in which their love is sealed and strengthened by God’s love. The free consent of the spouses makes a marriage. From this consent and from the sexual consummation of marriage a special bond arises between husband and wife. This bond is lifelong and exclusive. The marriage bond has been established by God and so it cannot be dissolved. In the Latin Rite of the Catholic Church, the priest or deacon, the two official witnesses, and the congregation all witness the exchange of consent by the couple who themselves are considered...
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...Marriage in Islam The main purpose of marriage in Islam is to provide both genders male and females company to one another, affection to one another, and to create children. The Prophet Muhammad (SAW) described the importance of marriage as being half of your religion. Also, The Prophet Muhammad (SAW) ordered us to do it, and it is sunnah for you to get married.The importance of marriage also helps to spread Islam all over the world and increasing our ummah. The Qur’an encourages marriage for many reasons. For instance, committing forniking outdoor of marriage doesn't benefit you in society. With out marriage, it can lead to temptations that can lead to hell fire. Process of marriage The first step into getting married is seeking a Wali. A Wali is the nearest relative to women, such as her father or brother. Brother would only be used if the father has passed away or is no where to be found during that time. If none of your Wali’s are there the next option would be to get a Wakil, which is the Imam. It is his job to find more information on the person the women is marrying. After picking the right man, they can plan to schedule a time they want to meet each other. The time the man and women are meeting each other there has to be a supervisor or guardian present at that time. After they've met a couple of times and they are ready to get married there is a prayer that they're to pray, which is called Salatul Istakahrah . The prayer is to basically to help them with guidance...
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...Are Marriages For Expensive and Elaborate Now a day’s marriage has become one of the most expensive things to do. In Bangladesh it is very easy to get married for rich people, but when it comes for middle class or lower middle class people its gets too hard for them. It creates a pressure on them. They have to save money for so long to get married in a proper way. In Bangladesh this marriage ceremony begins with exchanging the ring between bride and groom. Then bridal shower, wedding ceremony, wedding reception and goes on. So to complete this a family needs at least a good amount of money which is too hard for the job holders or middle class people. We live in a country where 40% of people suffers from poverty but people spend minimum 10 to 15 lakhs while getting married. So getting married in Bangladesh is expensive. In a wedding ceremony (The) first day of the ceremony is called the bride’s Gaye Holud. In our culture we believe that turmeric paste makes the skin soft and make bride more beautiful for the wedding day. This is the main reason this day is called Gaye Holud which means “apply body turmeric paste to the skin.” This day everyone wears yellow cloths. Then another function is called the Gaya Holud for the groom. This is the same thing for groom’s side. Then the final wedding day. The wedding ceremony is arranged by the bride’s family. Everyone wear very colorful clothes. Bride wear red outfit with heavy gold ornaments. Once the ceremony is completed then the...
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... By Abdulla As the human race has evolved through the ages, so has the institution of marriage. According to an article published on BBC news, titled the ten key “moments in history of marriage”, many Anglo-Saxons and early British tribes used marriage as a tool to build strategic alliance in the realms of diplomacy and trade. With the advent of the Roman Catholic Church, the notion of marriage evolved and theologian began to view it as a sacred ceremony that was done in the presence of the Almighty. This position was further strengthened by the council of Trent in 1593 when marriage was officially deemed as one the seven sacraments. Then as the role of the church in society began to evolve so did the definition of the marriage and the way it was viewed in society. Divorce started to become more common and with the gradual separation of the church and the state, the State assumed the role of becoming an institution that granted marriage right to couple. These civil or non-religious marriages were the founding blocks for a long debate about the sanctity of marriage and led to individuals and society debate on long established of the nature of marriage and whether it is meant to be a sacred institution that allows the bond between a man and woman only or its possible for people of the same gender to share the bliss of holy matrimony. Regardless, of how society defines marriage and who it deems worthy of getting married, a very pertinent question still lingers unanswered...
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...has recently married, he must not be sent to war or have any other duty laid on him. For one year he is to be free to stay at home and bring happiness to the wife he has married. - Deuteronomy 24:5 Enjoy life with the wife whom you love, all the days of your vain life that he has given you under the sun, because that is your portion in life and in your toil at which you toil under the sun. - Ecclesiastes 9:9 Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous. - Hebrews 13:4 You ask, "Why?" It is because the Lord is acting as the witness between you and the wife of your youth, because you have broken faith with her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant. Has not the LORD made them one? In flesh and spirit they are his. And why one? Because he was seeking godly offspring. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith with the wife of your youth. - Malachi 2:14, 15 At the resurrection people will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven. - Matthew 22:30 Then the Lord God said, "It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him. - Genesis 2:21-24 Nevertheless, also, let each one of you individually so love his wife as he does himself; on the other hand, the wife should have deep respect for her husband. - Ephesians 5:33 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But...
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...Marriage Tina Calhoun Adult and Family Development BSHS 371 Joycelyn Bennett, MA – Instructor September 12, 2012 The author of this paper will prepare a written paper on marriage. She will describe some of the problems that affect a marriage, how those involved are affected, ways the problems can be prevented and approaches for resolving or improving the problem along with resources. Upon researching the subject of marriage the author found that the number one reason for marital problems is financial disagreement. Although, money may not appear to be directly related to problems in a marriage mast of the time it is. Negative behavior patterns such as one spouse lying or withholding financial information cause many marriages to fall apart. Research done over the last 20 years show that negative patterns or behavior can destroy a marriage. There are four negative behavior patterns the author will discuss. The negative behavior pattern is escalation. Escalation occurs when a couple’s conversation gets more and more hostile through continually upping the ante of negative back and forth responses. A small disagreement soon blows into a major fight as the level of anger and frustration increases with each negative comment. Tailed marriages and marriages with problems find arguments that escalate to the point that damaging things are said find their oneness and intimacy quickly shattered by a few thoughtless words. There are two ways escalation...
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...How to have a Healthy Relationship: Marriage and Family A research paper on how to have a healthy relationship 2014 Philippine Women’s University Prepared by: Abu-Aisha, Najeeb Madera, Alyssa Mae P. Resurreccion, Jr. Rodel A. Galang, Isabella How to have a Healthy Relationship: Marriage and Family A research paper on how to have a healthy relationship Contents Introduction p.3 Chapter 1 FAMILY OF ORIGIN IN-LAWS, OUTLAWS AND MOVING ON p.4 Chapter 2 Healthy Relationships/Effective Communication p.5 Chapter 3 DEALING WITH CONFLICT p.12 Conclusion—Marriage is a Good for Society p.14 Bibliography p.15 INTRODUCTION Someone once said that marriage is the riskiest activity taken on by the greatest number of people in our society. In western society half of marriages are expected to end in divorce. This book is a compact, concise and informative guide for couples who want to save or strengthen their marriage and relationship. The content is based on over fifteen years’ experience in relationship counselling and in mental health and social research. It aims to provide psychological and social insights that will enable readers to transform, consolidate and most importantly enjoy their marriage and relationship. There can be no doubt that the core social and personal challenge of our time is how to make loving, permanent marriage work for ourselves and our children. It is the married couple who provide...
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...CHAPTER 1 THE PROBLEM AND ITS BACKGROUND INTRODUCTION Marriage is one of the deepest and most complex involvements of human relationships. It is a corner stone of society and a very necessary part of the social system. It is a crucial and sacred bond between two personalities merging into one for ideas, attitudes, habits and likes and dislikes. In Philippines marriage is considered a lifelong partnership. It is the foundation stone on which the family is built. Basically marriage is a social and legal contract. People marry great number of reasons- personal or social. Usually they have a certain preconceived notions about the kind of person they would like to marry. The large percentage of separation each year, non-marital pregnancies and premarital cohabitation have all dramatically changed the traditional family structure (Amato et.al, 2003). Millions of children are no longer being raised in nuclear families. The institution of marriage, the backbone of society, appears to be under threat. Marriage has, despite demographic and political shifts, significant value for the individual, families and the society (Nock, 2005). When looking at marriage as an institution, as opposed to a free-standing concept, marriage represents socially sanctioned behavior. Marriage embraces traditionally virtuous, legal and predictable assumptions concerning what is moral and what is proper (Nock, 2005). Through marriage an individual is transformed; they are perceived and treated differently...
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...Dante Chery Composition workshop Mrs. Hartzog 4 March 2013 Marriages in today’s society do not last for many reasons. People who were married for many years tend to have a great marriage. Unlike today’s lifestyle marriages last up to less than a year. The main reason why people get divorced is because of honesty, cheating on one another, and money issues. When someone in a marriage is not being honest, that is when the marriage falls apart. Honesty plays major role in a marriage. Honesty is the main purpose of a marriage. If a man or women lies to their spouse, it shows them that they certainly do not care. Honesty is a main part in marriage, and that is why marriages do not last long. The number one reason why people get divorced is because of cheating. Cheating is caused by one spouse interacting with another of either or sex. Cheating is not the way to go. If anything, someone in the marriage should engage more activities with their partner. Cheating is the number one reason why marriages do not last long. As the famous saying in a marriage goes, “What’s mine is yours and what’s yours is mine.” Now unfortunately that is false, because money controls much of the relationship. Money will ruin a marriage for many reasons. For an example, if one spouse wants to buy unnecessary things, the other spouse will get upset and that will start an argument. Another situation would be when a spouse would open a secret banking account so that they would have money to their self...
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...Marriage is a commitment made by two people, a husband and wife. The commitment usually consists of vows made between the couple to love, honor, and cherish one another until death nullifies the contract. Because marriage is the blending of two distinct personalities, even well-matched couples will experience conflict. The euphoric feeling of being attracted to someone is not an accurate gauge of what married life will be like following the wedding day. Each Marriage has its own unique challenges and problems. In the essay “He and I” the author discusses married life. She starts out with “He always feels hot. I always feel cold. In the summer when it is really hot he does nothing but complain about how hot he feels. He is irritated if he sees me put on a jumper in the evening. She continues to share with the reader the couple’s differences. They go places that he wants and stay at functions the duration he chooses. The husband criticizes the wife’s taste in food stating she does not understand anything about food and that she is like a great strong fat friar. He on the other hand is refined and has a sensitive palate. The husband continues to criticize almost everything about her; the way she shops, runs errands. She is not even allowed to get a driver license. It makes one question why he is even with her or why she stays with her husband. He wants to her to be reliant upon him. The message communicated is one of discontent. The husband’s treatment toward his...
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...As a marriage presents itself between man and woman, it is the beginning of a new life. The belief is that both husband and wife share roles in order to keep a successful marriage. Marriage signifies a unity that is supposed to last forever. However the reality is that not every marriage ends up like a love story, as some marriages do experience distress or even dissolution. Marriages can begin happily but divorce can end them painfully. The process of divorce becomes emotionally and financially draining for those involved. These emotions can be even more devastating if there are any children involved. It is the children that suffer the most and experience the harshest backlash, and divorce often emotionally scar them for the rest of their lives. One of the biggest problems that surround divorce is what occurs to the individuals after the proceedings. Men are more likely to live a more normal and stable life after divorce, however women often get swindled in poverty. Men and women have different gender roles and more then likely it is the man in the marriage who brings in most of the income to the household. Through an examination of divorce and looking at gender inequities, women and children are left in poverty, and family law reforms it is obvious that divorce has a major negative impact on women. Divorce rates are at an all time high, and they continue to increase. It has been estimated that 45% of marriages end in divorce (Eichler, 1991, # 60). This shows that despite...
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...LIT2480 Prof. de Benedictis 16. Write an essay comparing and contrasting the philosophies of Brooks and Tesich toward marriage. With what points did you most agree or disagree. As a young, single male, the concept of marriage is still somewhat distant and unclear to me. However, marrying a fine young lady and starting a successful family feels like the ideal lifestyle to have one day. After reading “The power of marriage” by David Brooks and “An amateur marriage” by Steve Tesich, it was interesting to see the idea of marriage from different perspectives and how these gentlemen’s ideals differ from each other. David Brooks and Steve Tesich both make valid points about the matter and introduce their own philosophies, some of which I partly agree and partly disagree with. Brooks immediately declares what side of the debate he is on by stating a more traditional approach to the subject. He believes that marriage is a lifelong sacred bond between two people and that by having several sexual partners you are committing “spiritual suicide”. This mentality is almost completely opposite to what Tesich believes. Tesich would probably see this as a myth; in fact, he says that marriage is full of myths that are made up by society. Tesich instead talks about his experience the day he got married to a girl that used the same ring from her previous marriage on her current one, and he adds, “It did the job”. Tesich and his wife Becky have been married for 13 years. ...
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...Stronger than ever In Octavia E. Butler’s novel Kindred Dana and Kevin have an interracial marriage. Throughout the novel they have their ups and downs. It was not easy form them to be together because they were looked down upon for being in an interracial marriage. In the midst of opposing relationships such as, slave and master, black and white, there is a merge, a union known as Dana and Kevin’s marriage. Dana and Kevin meet at the temp agency where she and he worked at As Kevin and Dana grow closer and spend more time together in the twentieth century. Butler’s creative approach of concealing the couple’s individual racial identities in the beginning of the navel allowed us to truly understand the authentic nature of their marriage and emphasized the humanity in Dana and Kevin’s relationship while constructing the groundwork that would eventually be tested in the twentieth century as well as the seventeenth century. Dana and Kevin had to face a lot of opposition form their family and society it was not easy for them but they managed to stick by each other. Dana and Kevin have had to face many obstacles that where put in their way. Some of the obstacles that are in their way are family, time travel, and Rufus. Dana and Kevin had a lot of obstacles that many would say would harm a marriage. One of the many obstacles that they had was their family disapproval of their marriage. Dana and Kevin where so happy that they where going to get married even though Dana was scared...
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...Marriage has been deteriorating in our society for some time now. If we compare today’s generation to a hundred years back you can see that the term marriage is viewed very differently. The word marriage means, “The social institution under which a man and woman establish their decision to live as husband and wife by legal commitments, religious ceremonies, etc.” Although the idea of marriage can mean something different to anyone, it has become clear that it is not valued like it once was. Marriage has been deteriorating in our society for quite some time causing young marriage to be looked down upon. In the late fourth century St. Augustine spoke of three reasons for the “good of marriage”: the goodness of progeny, the control of lust, and “mysterium” or the imaging in marriage of the relation of Christ and the church (Ruether). Augustine argued that marriage was still good and allowed in the Christian era, but the highest way of life is virginity or sexual continence. Also he argued for a spiritual hierarchy in heaven, with the virgins and continent widows on a higher level than the married. Therefore, Augustine viewed the married as distinctly third rate in the church and the kingdom of heaven. Augustine also believed that it was not possible to engage in the sexual act without sinful “concupiscence.” Although, this was forgiven within marriage if sex was engaged for the sake of procreation, but sexual pleasure in marriage that impeded procreation is equivalent to fornication...
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