...Article Critique: Self-Disclosure, Gender, and Communication By Jerrod Keune COM 200: Interpersonal Communication Instructor: Ryan Ogrodnik 13 January 2014 After my review of the article entitled, “Can We Talk? Researcher Talks about the Role of Communication in Happy Marriages,” from the Pro-Quest database I found that some of the information is ok but did not really fit into my marriage. I feel that in possibly future relationships I may try a few new ideas though. I know that romantic relationships are supposed to be some of the deepest and most rewarding relationships of all but; sometimes they can be the most damaging as well. I tried to establish a good open line of communication with my spouse during our fifteen years of marriage. It did not work to well because I felt that I was the only one doing the talking and due to the stressful life that an Army wife leads. During my relationship, I was deployed for long periods sometimes up to fifteen months at a time. Whenever I would come home, it was never quite the same as when I left. Over time the lines of communication between my spouse and I broke down and then eventually we lost trust in each other and our romantic and intimate relationship failed. We tried many outlets to help with the communication problems but it was to avail. I worked harder at it than she did and then she eventually quit working on it at all. Our relationship turned to a more interpersonal, plutonic nature than an intimate...
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...Article Critique: Self-Disclosure, Gender, and Communications Self-Disclosure, Gender, and Communications Barbara A. Harris COM 200: Interpersonal Communication Instructor: Robert Strain October 12, 2012 The act of sharing aspects of oneself with other people is known as self-disclosure. Self-disclosure in relationships is very important. Self-disclosure usually is intentional, you Choose what you reveal to other people (Sole, 2011). Therefore, I can relate to this article. Why? Because in order to maintain a healthy relationships we should be able to relate to one another in sharing our feelings and our thoughts. It helps to gain a sense of approval when we are intimate with someone. Since taking this course, my boyfriend and I seem to be sharing more quality time. We are also chatting more than usual. It seems as though we Were strangers at one point? I will watch anything on television to be near him. Call me a Romantic, it okay. Do I agree that self-disclosure is important in your relationship? Yes I do agree that self- Disclosure is important in your intimate relationship. Why? Because the intimacy we share With one another is beyond the words we use to show how we feel. Do you agree that self-disclosure is important and directly related to satisfaction? Yes, I Do agree, because using self-disclosure in relationships tend to allow you to relax. It allows One to feel safe and secured. “Her study also found that “affective...
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...My Advice on Communication in Relationships Cindy Warbritton Interpersonal Communication Comm 200 Jennifer Williams December 6, 2015 Dear Cindy and Wesley, When studying communication skills one can learn many ways to be able to express oneself to another person without misinterpretations. Using these communication skills can help in having a more successful relationships and relationships can become stronger. Communication is the key to people having self-esteem, self-concept, and self-image and these all play a part in how we communicate. Self-disclosure and understanding gender differences play a role in communication, as well. In relationships it is important to use communication skills and understand how another communicates. There are barriers in communication and these barriers can affect how one communicates. Oftentimes misunderstandings occur due to these barriers, but understanding and learning will help to alleviate those misunderstandings. While communication is one of the most important parts of a relationship, barriers must be broken down so misunderstandings do not occur or are limited. In one study it has been said the major barrier to communication is the tendency to evaluate, judge, approve, or disapprove what the other person is saying (Rogers, 2001). Of course there are many barriers such as cultural, types of language, gestures, body language, and many others. It is said The United States has many cultures and with these cultures comes different...
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... Who people are online versus who they are in the real world usually vary from the identity they wish to share with others. The hyperpersonal model examines how self-presentation...
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...Communications in Relationships Thomas Rogers COM200: Interpersonal Communication (GSL1332B) Dr. Sherell Harrell 8/17/2013 As humans we come to realize that any thing we endeavor and take time, energy and effort deserves our best. This includes interpersonal communications. While working on your communication skills you will find that the advice you got from friends or family may not work for you. This is why it is called advice. Incorporating advice into your daily life takes effort. One wants to be sure that the advice given is sound by doing some ground work and research the advice. Honing your communication skills will improve your self image and self esteem. This comes from understanding how to avoid miscommunications. This letter is to advise the both of you in improving your interpersonal communication in hopes of a lasting relationship. I find the advice giving to be basically sound and within the realms of plausibility as well as possibility and gives truth to its purpose. With answers to your questions we can improve one’s quality of communicational skills. If you improve in one area then you will notice improvement in other areas. When improving your interpersonal relationship do it together. This way both will understand the concepts or advice given at the same time. This will create growth and a stronger bond in the relationship. This will help in long or short term life planning. Exercise your new or improve skills daily and together...
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...might be covered by this course. If you would like, post a picture of yourself, your family or significant other, a pet, or your favorite place to visit. Write your responses in one to two paragraphs. COM 450 Module 1 Assignment 2: Personal Effectiveness in Communication In this assignment, you will evaluate the strengths and weaknesses of your communication based on your personal perceptions and the perceptions others have of you. Personal effectiveness begins with you and also includes views others may have of you as an individual. You will go beyond your personal viewpoint and seek feedback from others in order to achieve a more accurate understanding of self. To prepare for this discussion, research effective communication using your textbook readings and the Argosy University online library resources. Reflect on your personal effectiveness as a communicator, and then interview two to four people to find out how others perceive your communication. Be ready for a discussion based on the following questions. * Define what you consider to be your strengths as a communicator. Consider talking, listening, empathy, and so on. * Discuss what you consider to be some important areas for improvement in your communication. * Explain how different your personal perceptions of your strengths and weaknesses are compared to the perceptions others have of you. * Distinguish what changes, if any, you would like to make in your...
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...Ten Minutes of Communication Cynthia O’Brien COM200 Interpersonal Communication (ACM1546D) Instructor: Reginald Doctor December 6, 2015 At the University of Michigan, a researcher named Terry Orbuch studied hundreds of married couples over a twenty-year span. In the article Can we talk? Orbuch explains the role of communication and how this relates to having a happy marriage. The article will explain her findings to strengthen relationships. Moreover, then discuss our relationship experiences with self-disclosure how we may agree with it being satisfying in a relationship or how it may not be. Also, gender differences will be discussed to what type of similarities have been experienced. Some individuals have been at a restaurant or couples on a date that comment on that couple that has been sitting in silence. Sometimes you might independently think are they uninterested irritated, angry or all of the above. This article “can we talk” explains that a British dating site recently set off a comprehensive discussion claiming that a couple married for fifty years will be communicative to each other only three minutes an hour while having an evening meal (Schoenberg, 2011). Although Orbuch a relationship expert sees this as not a concern as she goes on to explain it is not about magnitude, it is the reliable superiority communication Terry Orbuch states, “you can have a two-hour conversation and not talk about anything of substance or value or quality (Schoenberg...
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...MARRIAGES Rosa M. Curet COM200: Interpersonal Communication Nicole Coy 09.20.12 Happy Marriages In order for a marriage to be a happy marriage, communication is important. There is different ways a couple can communicate. A couple can make a happy marriage last for years by self-disclosure. I feel I can relate to this article on self-disclosure in relationships. My husband and I have always tried to communicate our thoughts and feelings with one another. It has been challenging at times, especially after having children. We mainly find our “10 minutes” around bed time."Ten minutes is not that long, when you think about it…it just means paying attention to your partner and asking one question (and responding when) they ask one question (Schoenberg, 2011)". A recent example, after my husband and I were settled down for the day, we were watching the news. The news has plenty of topics for communication. The topic came up about winning the lottery. My husband and I had a really good conversation of what we would do with the money if we had won it. It was very pleasing to know that we were fairly on the same page. I do agree that self-disclosure is important and directly related to satisfaction in relationships. By being open and honest with each other on topics, it brings you a since of togetherness. It also opens up one’s soul. “The process of developing and deepening a relationship requires reciprocal and appropriate self-disclosure and the development of mutual trust”(Sole...
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...Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology, Vol. 23, No. 6, 2004, pp. 747-767 REASONS FOR HIV DISCLOSURE DERLEGA ET AL. REASONS FOR HIV DISCLOSURE/NONDISCLOSURE IN CLOSE RELATIONSHIPS: TESTING A MODEL OF HIV–DISCLOSURE DECISION MAKING VALERIAN J. DERLEGA AND BARBARA A. WINSTEAD Old Dominion University KATHRYN GREENE Rutgers University JULIANNE SEROVICH Ohio State University WILLIAM N. ELWOOD Center for Public Health and Evaluation Research This research examined the relative importance of reasons for HIV disclosure/nondisclosure with a friend, intimate partner, and parents. Participants were 145 men and women with HIV. Overall, catharsis, a will to duty/educate, and having a close/supportive relationship were endorsed as reasons that influence HIV disclosure. Privacy, self–blame, fear of rejection, and protecting the other were endorsed as reasons that influence nondisclosure. Both men and women endorsed testing the other’s reaction as a reason for disclosing more for an intimate partner, whereas they endorsed privacy more as a reason for not disclosing to a friend. Men (mostly self–identified as homosexuals or bisexuals), but not women (mostly self–identified as heterosexuals), endorsed similarity as a reason for disclosing more to a friend or intimate partner than to a parent. The results are consistent with a Model of HIV–Disclosure Decision Making that indicates how cultural attitudes This research is partly supported by a research grant (#R01DA13145–01A1) from the...
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...Letter of advice to co-workers ShaLes Barkley Com200: Interpersonal Communication Michael Gavino April 10, 2016 Letter of advice to co-workers To my fellow current and new co-workers who is reading this letter. I gather at the fact that you are wondering how do you become a better communicator in the work place. Well hopefully this letter of advice will help you gain the confidence and understanding in communicating in the work place. This advice is also good for those in relationships as well. So hopefully what I write about will help you out as much as possible. No matter how old you are or what you think you know it is always good to get advice on communicating not only with your coworkers but your friends and family. There are various barriers that can cause a person to cram up and not be a good communicator. Always remember that you are not alone when it comes to communication situations that you fear you will not do well in. Not everyone is a good communicator. It is always good to get some advice or hear so good advice to even better yourself as a person. To be a successful employee in any company, you need to first understand that there are some barriers and principles to becoming a great communicator in today’s workplace. Once you are able to understand that there is some principles and barriers you will grow as a great individual who learned new ways to communicate better with other people that they will be working with from here on out. Trust this...
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...Self-disclosure in Relationships COM200: Interpersonal Communication Andrea Glenn November 4, 2012 . The article, “Can we talk? Researchers talks about the role of communication in happy marriages,” was very informative. This article made some good points about the different types of communication between couples. In this article, research scientist, Terri Orbuch, from the Institute for Social Research at the University of Michigan, gave us a clear definition of the difference between communicating with your spouse and just talking with them. In “Can we talk, researchers talks about the role of communication in happy marriages”, Orbuch says a generalized conversation (sorting out who will pick up the kids, pay the bills or call the grandparents), is not a quality conversation that would take your marriage from good to great (Schoenberg, 2011). Orbuch talks about self-disclosure in a relationship. “Self-disclosure is the process through which you come to know the other person and to know yourself better as well” (Sole, 2011, sec 7-7). I can definitely relate to this article. Terri Orbuch brought up a great idea with her 10 minute quality conversation a day rule. My husband and I have been married for almost 10 years and have 3 wonderful children. We often find ourselves talking more about the days schedule and what we have to do for the kids or the house rather than talking about ourselves and what we like and/or want to do. Just the other day, we had...
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...several communications concepts including stereotyping, barriers, non-verbal communications, mutual attraction, and self-disclosure. The Love Language video ultimately reveals the reason the female initially seem uninterested and why she was giving the male in the video a hard time; the female is deaf. Social Learning Theory The social learning theory argues that children abandon behaviors when they are punished and repeat behaviors that are rewarded. This process of reinforcement continues throughout life, where men are continually encouraged to engage in masculine behavior and women are encouraged to behave in a feminine manner (Wood, 2007). As children become adults, they transfer these beliefs onto future generations (Basu, 2004). According to this theory, girls and boys assume a passive role rather than an active role in the learning process. We see the social learning theory displayed as the male in the video initiates the interaction between himself and the female sitting next to him. He first tries to initiate a conversation by saying “nice day today, huh”, but he gets no response. He then asks to borrow her pen and then the female lets him borrow her pen. After the initial interaction the male continues to try to initiate a conversation through writing messages on post-it notes, which is reciprocated by the female. This can be seen as a masculine act as described in the social learning theory. Gender Identity Developmental Theory Gilligan’s Gender Identity...
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...Dear Jack and Jill, congratulations on your engagement! This must be a very exciting time for the both of you and I would love to assist in giving you some tips on communication. Learning how to properly express yourself and maintaining a sense of connection is of the utmost important in a successful marriage. Below I will outline some steps that I believe are a good foundation for a lasting relationship. I am going to go over many of the impacts and barriers you two may encounter in your marriage. The first will highlight the implications of gender and culture. These can be very important things to remember when regarding marriage. All of the things discussed today will assist in making your marriage together one to last the test of time. Culture and gender play a slight, but noticeable role in interpersonal communication. In regards to a relationship you must be attuned to each other’s needs as a man and a woman. Women tend to care more about maintaining a steady connection with their mate. This means a reasonable amount of attention and worry about their daily activities. Men, on the other hand, can sometimes require a more physical form of affection. No matter what their preference, making sure you are taking time each day to simply show each other you care will help strengthen your bond. Someone who knows their significant other is being empathetic to their needs will be a much more positive contributor to the marriage. Culture is another facet of marriage that...
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...Role of Conflict and Power Paper Legally Blonde Legally Blonde is a movie which shows little variety in characters as all of the main characters presented are highly stereotypical and all are white males and females, who all are upper-middle class. This movie shows how sexism is rooted into society and it does absolutely nothing to challenge that with its characters. The men are all shown to have some form of a position of power whether in the work life or in their personal lives and relationships and use this power to get what they want. Women in this movie are seen to be there simply for the pleasure of the men, and placed in two categories which are mainly based on their appearance or the way they act. This movie is the story of Elle Woods, a very cute and friendly student who is also the most popular girl in her Los Angeles sorority. Elle has just finished her studies in Fashion and is getting prepared to marry her boyfriend, Warner, who will soon be going to Harvard Law School in Boston. Unfortunately, Warner, who is actually a somewhat superficial jerk, decides to break up with Elle, because he wants to find a more serious looking girlfriend who will help his career in politics after he gets out of law school. Although Legally Blonde does have many outstanding points in which the main character overcomes stereotypes and challenges she faces, there are many faults to the movie. Under any feminist movie list, it can be guaranteed the popular movie, Legally Blonde, will...
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...I can relate very well with the article on self-disclosure in a relationship. When I meet people for the first time I tend to open up about myself and what I want them to know right off. I will disclose what type of person I am which is down to earth and will be upfront with you about anything. I will let a person know how I feel about a situation and that I will not sugar coat the issue that I am dealing with. I also let them know that I am not a moody person, what they see is what they get each day. Being in a relationship I think it is very important to be self-disclosed because that is how people learn about each other’s. I also believe that some things you do not share and leave in the past especially if it’s not healthy for the future relationship. If the person wants a satisfaction relationship, self-disclosure has to in the picture. When you are in a relationship there are some things that you will not like the same, such as food, agree with the same movie to watch and no two people are alike. What may get on my nerves may not get on the other’s person nerve that is why self-disclosure is very important you get to know some of theirs likes and dislikes. The gender difference is so true when communicating. I can talk to my son and it seems like his mind is somewhere else and I have to say look at me when I am talking to you. On the other hand when I am talking to my daughter she looks at me the whole time I am talking to let me know she is listening to me. The similarities...
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