...RELTIONSHIPS: tHE IMPORTANCE AND INFLUENCE IN ADULTHOOD Tebogo Joyhonour Malatjie 20110716 RELTIONSHIPS: tHE IMPORTANCE AND INFLUENCE IN ADULTHOOD Tebogo Joyhonour Malatjie 20110716 Adult Development and Training. Due date: 13 May 2014 Adult Development and Training. Due date: 13 May 2014 Table of Content * Cover Page * Introduction * 1. Friendships * Theoretical Perspectives of adult friendships * Importance of friendship in adulthood * Cross-sex friendships * Male vs Female Friendships * Loss and friendship in adulthood * 2. Love relationship * Love * Importance of love relationships * Marriage * Conclusion * Reference List * Introduction The Best Man Holiday is an intriguing piece of art which explores the complexities of various forms of relationships within adulthood. It looks at how friendships can be broken and repaired, aspects of marriage, love and trust. It looks at the tight ropes that get walked within cross-sex friendships and many more aspects of the functioning and importance of relationships in adulthood and ageing. The movie is a sequel to The Best Man and is set within the Christmas season. At this stage many relationships are strained between the individuals who have been the closest of friends since their college days, the strain being a result of events that...
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...On the other hand, “I Wish” by Cher Lloyd portrayed a different kind of values for romantic love in a relationship. Instead of advocating for good values about how one should love each other when in a relationship, the song allowed superficial matters, such as outward appearance and wealth, to be the focus of how love should be based on. In this song in particular, Lloyd sings about how she wish to have a body of a woman that is with her crush as well as to have enough money in order to get her crush to pay attention to her. In the music video, as T.I. with his entourage of beautiful women by his side walked in the club where Cher Lloyd is waitressing at, she immediately showed interests in the man, as she bite her lip and look longingly at...
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...the individual context of both writers and their perspectives on relationships and death. Donne represents his assurance of life after death in his Holy Sonnets. Additional to this in his earlier poetry, his valuing of deep relationship being critical to the human experience is reflected by his renaissance belief. Edson's individual post-modern context is apparent in the appropriation and rewriting of Donne's ideas to reflect her own perspective. This is further emphasized in the choices made by each composer to represent their ideas in different textual forms. Before Donne changed to his Protestant Christian faith in 1601 he believed that the meaning of life was through love. Donne ignores the reality of love and instead writes about what is outside reality, the metaphysical. In 1601 Donne secretly married a young seventeen-year-old girl by the name of Anne More. Donne wrote about how the love between him and his wife would go past this life and travel with them to the afterlife. After her death, Donne wrote “A Valediction: Forbidding Mourning” which describes his undying love for her. Donne made sure that his audience understood the significance of relationships, through the self-importance of "twin compasses"," thy soul, the fix'd foot", "making my circle perfect". The 17th century context is reflected in the representation of circular perfection which lifts the status of relationships. The purity of this love is also emphasised by the use of theological reference within “The...
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...The Nature of Relationships in Different Cultures Hofstede defined culture as “the collective programming of the mind which distinguishes the members of one group from another”. From research analysis Hofstede was able to classify the different countries on a continuum from extremely individualistic to extremely collectivist. Relationships in individualistic and collectivist societies differ in the degree to which they are voluntary or non-voluntary. Individualistic societies generally have a high degree of social & geographical mobility, allowing frequent interaction with a large number of people and thus a greater choice in romantic relationships. Collectivist societies have less social and geographical mobility thus people have less choice about whom they interact with. Also, Interactions with strangers are rare and are often tied to other factors such as family or economic resources. Cultures also differ in the degree to which relationships reflect the interests of the individual or the family. In individualistic societies, individual interests are deemed more important & romantic relationships are more likely to be formed on the basis of love & attraction. Also, relationships tend to be short-term as one can end the relationship if one is unhappy whereas In collectivist cultures, relationships are more likely to reflect the interests of the entire family and are long-term. This is because, one cannot end the relationship despite being unhappy because they need to...
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...Tradition and Family Relationships Ashley von der Burg Lauer ENG 102 September 8, 2014 Both “The Rocking-Horse Winner” by D.H. Lawrence and Shirley Jackson’s “The Lottery” demonstrate how social pressures and meaningless customs obscure values and destroy relationships within the family however, in “The Rocking-Horse Winner,” familial bonds are dissolved over a long period of time whereas the relationships in “The Lottery” are disregarded for only a short while once a year. Both stories are similar in that family relationships must submit to the customs of society though such customs have become meaningless over time. However, in “The Rocking-Horse Winner”, family relationships are disregarded and never reestablished. There is no sign of any intent to reestablish or build relationships in the first place. In contrast, the relationships in “The Lottery” are disregarded but reestablished shortly after and reestablished with intent to do so. In Lawrence’s “The Rocking-Horse Winner”, Hester is a member of an upper class society and in maintaining her perceived superior position, she fosters and insatiable desire for money. However, the upper class custom of keeping up a lavish lifestyle has become meaningless for Hester for when she comes upon more money, it fails to satisfy her and only sharpens her cravings. The relationships she has with her children suffer as a result. Hester is so consumed with greed that she is unable to feel love in her heart for anyone...
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...advertisement that they end up purchasing a product the company advertise. Almost everyone loves puppies. They symbolize warmth, comfort, and friendship. Budweiser did an amazing job incorporating a puppy into their commercial. The commercial opens up with a young man who recently brought a puppy into his life. As the commercial progresses so does the friendship with the young man and his puppy, which is no longer a puppy it is now a full grown healthy dog. Both the man and his dog take part of many activities with each other: playing catch, sleeping and cuddling up with one another, going on casual drives, going to the lake for a swim, and lastly warming up by a fire pit. The love with the man and his dog deeply increases. One day the man decided to hang out with some friend and go out for some drinks leaving his dog alone inside the empty house. The dog waits and waits and continues to wait by the entrance door weeping for his owner to return home. Finally when the owner returns home the next day the dog began to lick his owner and jumping on him expressing happiness and excitement. Finally, the commercial ends with a statement “for some, the waiting never ended, but we can change that. Make a plan to make it home. Your friends are counting on you.” Enjoy responsibility is Budweiser’s motto and the commercial definitely portrays it. The commercial displays a man and his beloved dog. Their relationship throughout the commercials definitely shows why dogs are consider man’s best...
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...up, so Christine is left with no one to serve. Serving others is all she has done and, when that is taken away, she feels lost and alone—as if she does not have a purpose in life. This characterizes Mrs. Linde as the ideal wife in the 1800s. Women, as discussed in Carroll Smith-Rosenberg’s article about sex roles in the nineteenth century, were supposed to manage everything about the home. Women should “manage the family’s day to day finances, prepare foods, make clothes, compound drugs, [and] serve as family nurse,” which is exactly what Mrs. Linde had done. (656) In the last act, however, Mrs. Linde not only finds a new family to love and care for, but also a new sense of self in the relationship. As Christine and Nils are planning their future, Christine realizes she does not just want to serve Nils like she had done in her previous relationship. She still wants to care for Nils but she also wants Nils to care for her. This can be seen when Christine speaks of her and Nils leaning on each other like “two shipwrecked people” standing together. She mentions, “two on the same piece of wreckage would stand a better chance than each on their own.” (54) While each half of the marriage is imperfect, together they can fill the areas where the other...
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...decision to date as a single parent is a major decision. Single parents should take in account their readiness to their children before they start to date. The author also explains the vast difference between "coupleness" and "familyness" and that often blended families will fail because the two adults involved made a great couple, but with the kids involved they do not make a great family. This book helps you to look past the "coupleness" of your relationship and evaluate whether or not you and your love interest also have good "familyness" together with the children involved. Deal discusses the importance of patience. "Wise adults patiently let time be their friend as coupleness and familyness develop" (Deal, pg. 105). Deal encourages adults to make wide decision in regards to marriage and take their times in dating relationships. This book also stresses the faulty logic behind finding "the one", and that rather you should be focusing your efforts on being "the one". "Marry someone, not as a replacement parent, but because you love them and believe they will help you raise your kids in the Lord's way. The author takes an in-depth look on finding...
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...solid footing based on the timely absence and presence of Desdemona’s handkerchief. The handkerchief is able to have such an immense effect over Othello because of the importance it has for him. That importance stems from all the different ways that the handkerchief symbolically represents first love, fidelity, premarital virginity, but also what the handkerchief’s origins represents for his and Desdemona’s relationship. To him the handkerchief represents his and Desdemona’s love for each other because it was the first gift that Othello gave to her. This fact as told by Emilia in Act III, scene iii, “I am glad I have found this napkin/ This was her [Desdemona’s] first remembrance from the Moor [Othello]” (1271). This first “remembrance” was the first thing that Othello had given to Desdemona and it represented their first steps of life and love together. In the next scene, Act III, scene IV, Desdemona also laments her loss of it and says, “Believe me, I had rather have lost my purse/ Full of crusadoes; [than lost her handkerchief]” (1273). The fact that Desdemona would have rather lost a purse full of gold coins as opposed to the handkerchief shows not only its importance to her, but because she is so upset about it she knows how important it is to Othello. Iago also recognizes the importance of the handkerchief to Othello. Iago wants to cause Othello harm and his want has preceded the events of the play. After Emilia has acquired the handkerchief she gives...
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...Attraction: Power of Love and Relationships Every so often the question arises, what is love? In antithesis to shared beliefs about attraction by many human beings it is not something that is mystical nor is it something that can hardly be assumed but there are lots of rules that oversee the manner. Love is a word that carries many meanings. Even though there are people who become attracted to others in the same way, still it occurs for various reasons with each individual. The paper that I am writing is about love and relationship. This paper will be addressing the factors of attraction, the human need to build bonds and relationships, and the three types of love which are, companionate, passionate, and compassionate. In the world that we live in and the many differences that we have with one another like race, backgrounds, and cultures love is the one constant that we all share in common. Love is what connects us to others all around the world. When you allow yourself to become connected with another human being you automatically set yourself up to be exposed to love. As the emotional human being that we are we learn to what love is and how to express it from the time that we are children during our childhood until we become adults and we begin to express love in our adulthood. On our journey from childhood to adulthood we learn that every relationship that we encounter is different from the one to the other. These relationships depend on the factors that are...
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...parents, being respectful, polite, considerate, loyal, helpful, dutiful and obedient. To the Chinese, it is the central ideology and even provides the foundation for many other attitudes. There is a famous Chinese saying says that if a person does not have piety towards his/her parents, how can he/she be loyal towards his/her friends, country or any other? For teenagers, being loyal and devoted to our parents may seem to be anathema to most of us because most of us want to express our independence and freedom. We want to do whatever we want. Some of us may even wonder what the importance of filial piety is. In my opinion, filial piety is especially important because I believe that learning how to be a filial son and daughter would prepare us for the kind of life we want to have in the future. In order to live a life of filial piety, we need to exercise three things: absolute faith, absolute love and absolute obedience. To be a filial son and daughter, we must first exercise absolute faith in our parents. Here we are talking about trusting our parents. We should give in to higher authority because they mean well. One of the most fearful things about trusting anybody in life is the fear of being vulnerable. Someone may even ask,” Why should we trust our parents completely? Why can’t I do something more interesting?” If we absolutely trust and are totally faithful that we will do well in our father and mother’s hands, what we...
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...novel Their Eyes Were Watching God and Jack Worthing from the Importance of Being Earnest. Agency is a big thing that defines both characters even though they are two characters who are opposite of each other. Janie has a lack of agency throughout most of Their Eyes Were Watching God and regains it later in life. Jack from The Importance of Being Earnest might just have the most agency in the world. Due to...
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...problems. Just as both these groups would view the problems differently, they also view the solutions differently. The Reformational worldview calls us to understand those who have differing views than us and to love those that we may find unlovable, or our “enemies.” Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. calls us to view the enemy in a loving way. He said that we have the Christian and moral responsibility to discover and live out the calling to love thy enemy. Hatred only produces more hatred. Just as MLK says that loving the enemy can help break down the barrier of hatred, this is also a Reformational’s remedy. Matthew 5:44 calls us to “love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.” Just as God loves us through our flaws, we should show love to others, even if with disagree with them. Moreover, God created mankind in His image. Instead of seeing someone with different perspectives negatively, we should see them as image bearers of God. God still loves them as much as He loves us....
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...5-2011 Love: A Biological, Psychological and Philosophical Study Heather M. Chapman heather_chapman@my.uri.edu Follow this and additional works at: http://digitalcommons.uri.edu/srhonorsprog Part of the Biology Commons, Philosophy Commons, and the Psychology Commons Recommended Citation Chapman, Heather M., "Love: A Biological, Psychological and Philosophical Study" (2011). Senior Honors Projects. Paper 254. http://digitalcommons.uri.edu/srhonorsprog/254 This Article is brought to you for free and open access by the Honors Program at the University of Rhode Island at DigitalCommons@URI. It has been accepted for inclusion in Senior Honors Projects by an authorized administrator of DigitalCommons@URI. For more information, please contact digitalcommons@etal.uri.edu. 1 Running head: LOVE Love: A biological, psychological and philosophical study. Heather Chapman University of Rhode Island 2 LOVE Dedication This paper is dedicated to the love of my life Jason Matthew Nye October 4,1973 - January 26, 2011 3 LOVE Abstract The concept of love has been an eternally elusive subject. It is a definition and meaning that philosophers, psychologists, and biologists have been seeking since the beginning of time. Wars have been waged and fought over it, while friendships have been initiated and have ended because of this idea. But what exactly is love, and why is it important to define this enigma? In order to help define this idea of love, several...
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...sane. They could be the things to keep a person alive. Having a good and healthy relationship is so important, because it can be what keeps a person living. If someone was never loved, that person would feel anger and sadness. Successful suicides are the result of feeling no love. Those people who commit that kind of suicide feel alone and trapped. They feel like the only way to get better is to disappear. They believe they are the reason for every problem they have. Some suicides are committed by those who feel no love, who only feel hurt, pain, and anger. This is why having healthy and good relationships are so important. If one is thinking of committing suicide and puts warning signs and the parents do not see them, it is not the parents’ fault, but it does mean that they may not have been paying as much attention as they should have been. This does not mean that the child is not loved. It simply means they did not feel it. Psychologically, a person can be loved by another more than anything in the world, but that person needs to be able to feel it. Some people feel like they cannot be with someone at a point in their lives because they have some unresolved issues with their selves they need to fix before being able to love. These issues come in the way of their emotion and feel like they cannot be in a relationship before they can actually love their selves. Having healthy relationships with friends, family, and business acquaintances is a way to help a person become...
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