...Perkins Gilman and Georgiana from “The Birthmark” by Nathaniel Hawthorne both strive to live up to their husband’s expectation of what a woman should be. To keep to their perceptions set upon by their husbands; the narrator ends up going crazy whereas Georgiana and the loves she feels for her spouse, ends up dying to rid her of a hideous birthmark. The impacts in either story implicate the dire effects that society has to the overall ways this perception is used. During the 1800’s women were expected to act a certain way as dictated by their husbands. They were the property of their husbands, once they were married, and were treated as such. The narrators husband was a “physician of high standing” (Gilman), and Georgiana’s husband who was considered “a man of science” (225), both considered to be of a higher class. Being proper in both physical and metal capacities was one of the conditions that they were held to respectively. Couple this with the masculine and feminine roles, clearly defined in that timeframe, which added to each woman’s stress to conform to theirs husband’s ideals of a perfect woman. Neither character felt they were able to neither live without nor divorce their spouses and so bent to the others will without a thought. Much is the same in our society today; living with the expectations of a persona and comparing oneself to...
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...siblings and friends behind your spouse's back is defiling and weakening the sacred bond that exists between you and your spouse. Marriage is Teamwork. Marriage flourishes when both husband and wife understand that winning together is more important than keeping score. True marriage oneness cannot be achieved by married people who do not practice financial oneness. Whatever you do separately, will separate you. Do things together. Be romantic ❤ Show your wife that she is your BAE➡ "Before Anything Else" There is no my money or your money in marriage, regardless of who earns more or less.. Even if only one spouse works outside the home and earns all the money, it's still our money. You're not married to an angel. Accept your spouse's imperfections. Marital happiness is not automatic. It takes the combined effort of husband and wife to make marriage work. The perfect marriage is one that is made up of two imperfect people who are held together by a Perfect Savior. One of the most loving and sweetest things you can do for your spouse is to pray for him/her thanking God for bringing him/her in your life A husband and wife who pray together, plan together and play together share a deep level of intimacy that cannot be created any other way. An eye for an eye will leave both husband and wife blind. Learn to overlook minor offenses and to forgive your spouse. Love is an endless act of forgiveness. Don't turn your bedroom into a courtroom. Quarrels and arguments have no place...
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...dissatisfaction in sexual life, lack of communication, or are having financial problems. These kinds of problems may be solved by going to a marriage council. There are much stronger reasons to why a spouse should divorce. One should divorce if there are emotional or physical abuse, marital infidelity, drug or alcohol addiction and, contradictory differences. As humans, we are not perfect. We make mistakes, and usually learn from them but there are other cases where humans cannot control their behavior. Some bad actions and behaviors are really difficult to change. It takes a lot of time, and strength to overcome. There are problems that one cannot solve. First problem that some couples face is emotional and physical abuse. Couples who are physically or emotionally abused should divorce right away. According to Cathy Meyer, a journal writer from about.com, if he or she hits, slaps, shove or punches their mate, their behavior will continue. The spouse will repeat his or her action. The person who is being abused should know that it is not their fault that no one deserves to be hit, slapped, shove, or punched no matter what the issue is. As a personal experience, I have been a victim of an emotional and physical abuse. I had dated my ex-boyfriend for over a year. First year was perfect. Everything went well. After the second year passed by, things started to change. He started getting mad at me for simple things such as forgetting to message him in the mornings, not replying his...
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...nonperfectionistic (as cited in Improving Lives counseling, 2013, p.3). The findings demonstrated that when couples were both maladaptive, the possibility of the relationship to be functioning is highly decreasing (Ashby et al., 2008 as cited in Improving Lives counseling, 2013, p.5). Moreover, when both spouses are adaptive, their intimate relationship was more functional. Furthermore, comparing with...
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...Extramarital affairs are the “Cause” of Divorce. Many people believe that an extramarital affair is not a reason for divorce. I believe that depending on the significance of the affairs, everyone should give their spouse a second chance. If you catch your spouse cheating, what do you do or what is going on in your mind? That creates an awful feeling, and because of this, that spouse starts to develop resentment. Everything that comes to your mind has to do with leaving that person and that nothing else matters anymore; the vow has been broken and you do not want to see that cheating spouse. Your mind wonders, how many other times or occasions has he/she cheated on me? I’m a believer of second chances so for this reason, I love to see spouses give each other second chance and not at the first mistake. Let’s take for example former president Bill Clinton is a perfect example of why we should consider giving our spouses second chances in our relationship. Her cheating spouse publicly humiliated former first lady Mrs. Clinton. In the eyes of the public, everyone said that it was not going to work for them and that she should walk away from the marriage that she took all those years to build. At one point and time, she considered walking away because it was too much to comprehend. In her darkest and lonely hour she said to herself, we are going to work through it as a family and as a couple. Whether is going to be accomplished through counseling or whatever way, they could work...
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...Nicki Kay Social Welfare HUS Final paper 4/13/16 Divorce In today’s modern world, there are many aspects of our everyday lifestyle that used to be frowned upon years ago, but have slowly became the norm of today’s culture. One of these aspects is divorce. “The divorced population has more than quadrupled from 1970 to 1996, growing from 3 percent to nearly 10 percent of adults in 25 years”(Credo Reference 2006). Within the United States, divorce has become a common process for many married couples. Overall, divorce is a concept that is more on the lines of a personal issue that just happens to be socially accepted in the modern lifestyle. There are many causes for the increase in divorce rates over the years, specifically around the 1970s and onward. These causes include: stigma, respect, the nofault law, cultural and societal expectations, and whether or not divorce is social class issue or not. In my own opinion, I think divorce has become a significant issue and is harmful to families, especially with children. Yes, there are times when divorce is understandable and recommended to better the family, but either way it is so detrimental to the children. This topic is very significant for children and families. It is important for people to recognize the issue because it can tear families apart, and it is unbelievably today. Divorce also can cause further physical and mental issues as well...
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...The promotion of gender equality in religion is a slow and painful process, and it is barely beginning to unfold worldwide. But it is a dynamic process, one in which progress begets progress. As a result of sexuality, gender inequality dramatically differs from other forms of inequality such as class or race. Women and men are bound together as intimate couples. And because of reproduction, all people are bound to both mothers and fathers and other kin of both genders. Inequality is the divergence of appropriation or opportunity and can be taken a look at through numerous positions from a social scientist angles. This essay will look into the fundamentals of sexual orientation imbalance inside of marriage through three distinct religions: Christianity, Judaism, and Islam. Religion has a distinctive affect on marriage and sexual orientation, so much so that people are not willing to be true to themselves in order to please their religion. Taking a look at the rudiments of sexual orientation disparity one can discover that it is an educated conduct starting at the formative phases of adolescence. As indicated by Piaget's Stages of Cognitive Development under the preoperational period (2-7 years old) amid the instinctive stage (4-7 years old) a child’s "discourse turns out to be more social… has a natural handle of sensible ideas." also "ideas shaped are unrefined and irreversible" which makes a child to a great degree vulnerable to social discernments set up by the child’s parents...
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...Times and was written in March 2013. In the article we meet Yang Jing who is a “love hunter”, supposedly a new breed of matchmaker. She searches for the perfect spouse for her clients (young bachelor millionaires), and with her clients being picky it’s not always an easy job to do. She typically scouts in a shopping mall with her eight-scout team. When they find someone who could match one of her client’s demands, she confronts the woman and says “I’m a love hunter. Are you looking for love?” In another part of Beijing there’s a different kind of love hunter, an old widowed woman (Ms. Yu) who is desperately looking for a spouse for her son. Ms. Yu is not the only parent hunting. In the park, where she is, there are long rows of elderly men and women with homemade signs specifying the specs of their sons or daughters. All sitting there, waiting for inquiries, and with a small hope of getting their children married. The problem of finding a spouse in China is rising and with 118 boys born for every 100 girls the number of potential partners is shrinking. That leads to a big boom in the Internet dating industry in China, and with the number of singles rising and dating sites established, it makes more people, rich and poor, turn to hands-on matchmaking services. Essay about finding a spouse in China Finding a spouse in China or Denmark is only as hard as you make it. It seems that the more the social media is expanding, the lazier we get. We are getting lazy when it comes...
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...Finding Love in the Wreckage: Estimating Spousal Altruism with Data on Fatal Car Accidents Ilya Beylin, Anup Malani, and David Abrams1 Abstract. This paper estimates the degree of altruism among spouses by examining how often the driver of a car sacrifices himself or herself in order to save a spouse. Holding constant the magnitude of a collision, a driver can maneuver the car to distribute the risk from a collision between the driver and a passenger. We quantify spousal altruism by the degree to which drivers riding with their spouse redistribute the risk from a fatal accident to themselves – as measured by ex post mortality – as compared to drivers not traveling with their spouse. We find that drivers with their spouses are at least 37% more likely to sacrifice themselves. This implies that they value the lives of their spouses at least 37% more than the lives of other individuals. A driver’s position in a car provides him with exclusive control over the pedals and steering wheel. At the time of an impending accident, this control enables him to adjust the total amount of risk facing the car’s occupants and how that risk is distributed. In other words, his maneuvers will have allocative and distributive effects on the occupants’ risk. The driver’s distributive choices reveal his relative preferences for himself over his passengers. The manifestation of injuries amongst the occupants allows observation of those relative preferences. A theory of spousal altruism – indeed any...
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...as follows: voluntary and complete giving up of oneself to contribute to the unity of two beings, the growing and strengthening relationship of the couple, and the taking up of each other until death. One crucial aspect of Sacramental Marriage is self-sacrifice. According to Father Burtchaell, “Greater love than this no one has, than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends” (AMC § 2). This says that the most perfect gift is to give oneself up completely for the benefit of the marriage. For example, if a couple is having marriage troubles and cannot seem to agree on something, the best thing to do is sacrifice. Then, there will be some agreements and there can be a solution to their problem. The most noble act is sacrifice, as demonstrated by Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. He gave up his life for us by being crucified. This shows his willingness to die for our sins and his willingness to give himself for us out of complete love for us. As the Bible says, “We love because he first loved us” (1 John 4:19). We are called to love one another, especially our spouses if we are in a married relationship, because Christ loved us and will love us eternally. Therefore, I think self-sacrifice in a marriage is key to having a successful relationship. Another important aspect of Sacramental Marriage is the ongoing growth and strengthening of the marriage. Obviously, a couple’s bond does not stop growing after a certain time. Their love and relationship hopefully gets stronger as they...
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...Mary-sunshine Amaechi Professor Wagnon ENG 132.022 February 7, 2013 “Crazy Love” In Steven Pinker short essay “Crazy Love,” he describes the effects love has on us as humans and the way people look for certain spouses. Pinker argues that love has driven people to evoke feelings like happiness, anger, sorrow, violence and obsessiveness for those the love, he also states that “the thought of love can impel us slay dragons and write corny songs.” This essay tends to inform the reader on the effect love have on people, on how romantic infatuation is different from both raw lust and the enduring commitment that keeps lovers together long after their besotedness have faded. Pinker also explains how humans find a mate through shopping for the most desirable person who will accept them for example the 10s marry the 10s, and while the 9s marry the 9s and so on. He also states that people shop for the perfect match as if they were at the marketplace where you want the best price you can get. The author also uses a quote from Kwakiutl Indian in 1896 to emphasize how love has caused people to act out of the ordinary for years. He also explores different way to find a mate “looking for someone who is emotionally committed to you because of who you are,” or “accept a partner who wanted you for a rational reason to begin with.” This essay interest and compel the reader to think about how he or she views love. It relates to our everyday life and how truly important you are to someone...
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...this falling apart of oneself comes on by divorce or some type of dysfunctional family situation. Only the ones who express these faults to the open public are deemed as social problem. This could cause status to be formed and to put down these people. Families are supposed to be the nurturing source of life which protects its own members from harm, but not all family housing is perfect, let alone normal, considered under these circumstances; we see and know these groups as dysfunctional families. When dysfunctional families are thought of, most tend to think of unruly children, or teenagers, who want nothing to do and who are quite unstable with their parents or guardians (Akerman, 2009). This situation can be true; however it is not always included in the top percentile. Within dysfunctional families, most are caused by the splitting of parental units, divorce. Although this is not the one and only factor that causes a family to begin to tear down the inner walls of compassion, resulting with a dramatic dispersion; this scenario has quickly grown to one of the main factors of this equation. Spouses who have grown apart from each other can and will affect the whole family and the outcome of their children if they have any. In turn, when remolding people of society, the society itself will change due to their upbringing. As dysfunctional families are looked on as a social problem, their outcomes usually have a negative result seen by the outside population. Although everyone...
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...of the money, and Myrtle and Tom were cheating on their spouses with each other. Moreover, Gatsby had great opulence and many parties but never got what he truly wanted. Gatsby had the money portion of the “American Dream” but wanted Daisy so he could complete it. His “American Dream” failed because he never got the girl. Everyone admired Gatsby because he had a big house and lots of money. People thought he was amazing and would always come over to marvel at his wealth. However, Gatsby himself knew that he wasn’t really happy without Daisy. His “American Dream”...
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...married couple to exercise exclusive sexual faithfulness to one another. As the fruit of fidelity, parents accept children in love, nurturing them in affection, and educating them in religion. The sacrament constitutes a symbol of the permanence and stability in marriage. (De Genesi ad litteram, 9, 7, 12). The classical Augustinian description of the three goods of marriage is reflected, but not repeated verbatim, in the 83 CIC. Section One of C. 1055 defines the ends of marriage as the good of the spouses and procreation and education of children. The language of the canon situates the two ends of marriage in the context of marriage as covenant and sacrament. C. 1056 lists unity and indissolubility as the essential properties of marriage. The elements of the Augustinian description of the goods of marriage—fidelity, children, and sacrament—inform the present law of the church describing marriage as sacramental covenant in terms of ends and properties—the love of the spouses, children, unity, and indissolubility. II. Saint Augustine’s Traditional Three Goods In describing the goodness of marriage, Saint Augustine did not...
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...divorce as an answer, to ending the fairy tale they had once dreamed. Many people would ask “why?” the perfect couple would choose such a negative ending to their once happy marriage. In some cases, many couples have to question their own motives for divorce. Although there are many alternate roots to fixing the simplest problems that may occur in a marriage, for some, simple does not always mean easy. It is certain that the cause of divorce varies from couple to couple, yet lack of communication, money and children, is among the most common causes of divorce. Lack of communication in a marital relationship, is one of the most common causes of divorce, because when two people lack communication, they are unable to solve problems that may occur in the marriage. Many married couples think that the minor problems that occur in their marriage, are insignificant, and are not worth talking about; however, they fail to realize that even the smallest things can cause conflict between the two when they are not able to solve them through communication. Many couples lack communication when it comes to making decisions about shared finances. This can cause financial issues to arise, and arguments to escalade in the marriage. Many couples also lack communication when it comes to making decisions for their children. When one spouse does not agree with a decision made by the other spouse, then an argument can occur, and result by one or both parties sharing a feeling of resentment against...
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