...Divorce can affect children regardless of their age. For those that are for divorce would agree that conflict involving the family would be resolved, allowing the children to escape the trauma they may face. Children, especially those that are young are unable to process events during this time that may become stressful. The divorce of one’s parents can have a long-term effect on everyone that is involved. Relationships may become pivotal assuming the different facets that impacts each child. The end of a marriage can be very tragic, especially when children are involved. It can go on to have a rippling affect and affect children in different ways. Children are very vulnerable and may be impacted by the now divided family. It is the theory that when one’s parents become divorced, they have a higher chance at becoming divorced as well. It is clear that divorce can has effects and can cause long-term issues later down the road. If parents fail to handle the situation properly and with care, children could have feelings of alienation, abandonment, issues with insecurity, and confusion that could adventure in relationships into adulthood. These circumstances could cause children to feel...
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...What can be done to prevent divorce? [Name] [University] It could be really a tricky thing to prevent divorce as this journey is packed with dangers and to sail through troubled seas of arguments, broken hearts, small niggles and hurt feelings of married life might easily lead to point of desperation for most men and women. The task of finding out how to prevent divorce is by no doubt uphill in nature and all the solutions seem to mean nothing as raw emotions bring everything down. However this can be avoided provided both the partners act pragmatically by empathizing with each other, displaying level of flexibility, stopping hostility and work collaboratively to uncover the real issues. The first step of preventing divorce is to empathize with your partner which requires catering to the emotional needs of your partner more than the material ones. If your partner complains you don’t participate in household activities, say yes, I agree with that and you do a lot more work than me. You bypassed actually doing the chores and instead focused on emotional dimension of things. Similarly flexibility plays a great part in helping avoid divorce as both the partners should be good enough to accept and celebrate difference of opinion. Furthermore hostility which is usually the first barrier that develops in problematic marriages should be discouraged at all costs if we aim at avoiding divorce. Usually both people make a claim and never back down as they do not want to lose the argument...
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...Divorce or dissolution of marriage is a legal process in which a judge or other authority dissolves the bonds of matrimony existing between two persons, thus restoring them to the marital status of being single. A divorce does not declare a marriage null and void, as in an annulment, but rather declares that a fully consummated marriage is irretrievably broken and that it should be dissolved, allowing the parties to marry other individuals. Divorce laws vary considerably around the world. Divorce is not permitted in some countries, such as in Malta and in the Philippines, though an annulment is permitted. The legal process for divorce may also involve issues of spousal support, child custody, child support, distribution of property and division of debt, though these matters are usually only ancillary or consequential to the dissolution of the marriage. In some jurisdictions divorce does not require a party to claim fault of their partner that leads to the breakdown of marriage. But even in jurisdictions which have adopted the "no fault" principle in divorce proceedings, a court may still take into account the behaviour of the parties when dividing property, debts, evaluating custody, and support. In most jurisdictions, a divorce must be certified by a court of law to become effective. The terms of the divorce are usually determined by the court, though they may take into account prenuptial agreements or postnuptial agreements, or simply ratify terms that the spouses may have...
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...Running Head: WAYS OF PREVENTING MARRIAGE FROM ENDING IN DIVORCE Ways of Preventing Marriage from Ending in Divorce Name Course Lecturer Date The modern society is undergoing tremendous change owing its progression to rural-urban migration, technology and exposure to internet. The traditional means of socialization are no longer applicable. Traditionally, marriage was a sacred activity which brought two persons of the opposite sex into one. The values, norms and beliefs regarding marriage were highly observed, and any violation attracted punitive measures. Those traditional marriages lasted indefinitely because issues such as loyalty, obedience, truthfulness, faithfulness and respect were heavily unquestionable (Celello, 2009). Men loved their women, and women were submissive to men. However, with increasing social dynamism, marriages are no longer stable, and most of the time conflicts result into divorce. Divorce cannot occur if we observe the following elements in a marriage. Firstly, both spouses should understand each other and freely express any element of discontent so that it is addressed appropriately (Doherty, 2001). Essentially, a healthy marriage calls for participatory decision making where both spouses are talking cooperatively on any matter affecting their family. Secondly, trust and loyalty are significant for any marriage to succeed. Parties involved should be able to make a win-win decision together so that every spouse is involved and satisfied of the...
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...Divorce: Why have divorce rates increased since the 1950s? A divorce is the ending of a legal marriage, cancelling the marriage contract between the partners and the state. In the UK, a divorce requires the approval of the legal system, although this is fairly easy to come by. A typical divorce has to consider support payments for the partners and any children, child custody, the distribution of property and the division of debt. Fifty years ago there were few divorces. Nowadays, two in five marriages end in divorce. This is because divorce is cheaper and easier, and the equality between the sexes has been narrowed. In the 1950s, divorce used to be difficult to obtain and very few divorces took place. People were looked down on if they were divorced and it was impossible for them to remarry in church. Nowadays, divorce is accepted as a normal part of life, and no one is looked down on for being divorced. The number of divorces granted in the UK in 1961 was 27,000. This doubled to 56,000 by 1969, and doubled again to 125,000 divorces by 1972. The number in 2002 was 160,000. Between 1990 and 2003, The United Kingdom had the highest divorce rate at 6.68 annual per 1,000 people. However, the rate of divorce in the United Kingdom has been dropping in recent years, to 135,000 in 2008. The most important reason for increase in the amount of divorce is the removal of legal and financial barriers to divorce. In 1969 a new law was passed, the Divorce Reform Act, which made divorce cheaper...
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...Effects of Divorce on Children “What God has joined together, let not man separate”, says the bible. Nowadays, people have forgotten these words. That’s why they see the divorce as a great way to solve things. This “solution” has many consequences and the most tragic one is on their progenitors. The results of the divorce on the children are: depression, social and personal maladjustment, and anxiety. According to Bengoechea (1992), the children with divorced parents are likely to be depressed. This depression starts when they see their beloved one gone. As a result, they have a tendency to be alone, low self-esteem, guilt, etc. They feel like this because the nearest people to them are their parents. And when they separate, the children feel like there’s no happiness left (Bengoechea, 1992, p. 506). The social and personal maladjustment are most seemed in their schools and with their friends. According to Del Toro, Villatoro, Garcia, Gutierrez, Amador, and Medina (2007), the progenitors are vulnerable to be aggressive towards other people, including their own parents. For example, when the children’s mother forced him to go to a reunion, he tends to respond her. As a result, they are rejected and/or abused. Also, they are likely to associate with other negative factors like: alcoholism, drug addiction, promiscuity, and abusive behavior (Del Valle, Villatoro, Garcia, Gutierrez, Amador, & Medina, 2007, p. 49). When it comes to children, the anxiety is very dangerous. According...
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...According to Susan L. Brown and I-Fen Lin, The divorce rate for Americans over the age of fifty has doubled, and more than doubled for those over the age of sixty-five. According to Sirs.com the At Issue, from the Sirs data base, Divorce is the legal and final dissolution of a marriage. The divorce rates goes back all the way to the seventh century, when The Puritans decided that marriage was a contract that could be broken under certain circumstances. This paper will examine the Pro, Con, and my viewpoint on should laws be enacted that makes divorce harder to obtain. First, the pro viewpoint is society would benefit if families stayed together. Firstly, a divorce reform would benefit marriages. For example, Beverley Willett, a journalist for the Desert News states that, the goal of a divorce reform is to educate couples of divorce and provide skills to help them improve their relationship (Willett). Thus, the divorce reform can help improve marriages. Secondly, Willett points out, “that divorce has become too easy because of...
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...Children of Divorce Kirsten Honahan Devry University Children of Divorce Divorce is never a goal when people get married, but in today’s society it has become the norm. Why is it that so many do divorce? I believe the stigma of being divorced is not there anymore, meaning it’s not a bad thing. Divorce being so common now I believe people are in a throw away society, the commonality is too popular. We are in a society now that if something is too hard we just give up and throw it away. Why are people so consumed with themselves and not with others especially when it comes to their children, we are in a selfish society and it is all about me. I understand when abuse is involved and the necessary steps to remove yourself from that situation. I’m focusing on married people who decide to dissolve a marriage whatever the reason besides violence. Being a child of divorce myself the questions I still have are, did you really try hard enough or it must have been easier to give up. Was it that bad that you had to move out of a beautiful home into a rented run down home you could barely afford. Do parents consider the consequences children will experience when they do divorce or do they just think of themselves. Marriage is not easy being in one myself almost twenty five years; having children myself I made it my goal to raise two stable productive people of society. I’m sure that is a goal for every parent, but I put my children first besides my own needs. Nothing...
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...Valeria Obando Professor Fonts ENC 1102-2 4 December 2013 Until Divorce Do Us Part Divorce is defined as the legal termination of a marriage, but in its real sense there is a lot more to it than just the end of a relationship. Nowadays many marriages end in divorce, and surprisingly most of them end in their early stages. If divorce rates goes up, people’s level of tension and hesitation about marriage is also increasing. The society accepts divorce very easily and even suggests it as a solution to the trivial problems faced in a husband-wife relationship. Therefore marriages and family life are at risk. If divorce continues to rise in even roughly the same pattern, the traditional sense of marriage might as well become extinct. To add to the existing problem, various law firms and websites provoke divorce through various methods such as advertising the benefits of divorce or by offering customized divorce forms online. The soaring divorces are not just questioning the importance of relationships and ties but they are also creating severe after effects in the life and family of the divorcees. Laws should be reformed to make it harder to obtain a divorce because it would help prevent any emotional, financial, and psychological repercussions. Though divorce at an individual level is a liberating factor for estranged couples, the problem arises when the divorce affects the kids. The author states: “Numerous studies indicate that children of divorced families face increased...
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...Religions: Divorce Roman Catholics For roman Catholics divorce is not permitted. They believe that God actually binds the couple into one flesh when they marry, and so it is impossible to break. Marriage is sacred to them. They also will not allow anyone in their church to marry a divorced person. if you do, you get kicked out. However, they do allow annulment, which basically says that the marriage wasn't a true marriage, and you can dissolve it because it never really happened. You can only get a annulment if: • it wasn't consummated (there was no sex) • One person or both didn't fully know or understand what they were doing (under the influence of alcohol, mentally incapable etc) • one person or both was forced into it • One person know before the marriage that they never wanted kids, and the other did and didn't know this. Muslim Islam accepts that lifelong marriage is sometimes impossible and provides laws for divorce. Islam does not require proof of infidelity or any other failure to keep the marriage contract. Either the husband or wife can initiate divorce. Women can ask their husband to divorce them; if they refuse, the woman can pursue it through the courts. A man can dissolve his marriage following a procedure set by Islamic law. Baptist Views on Divorce Because the marriage bond before God and the church cannot be broken, divorce is generally not acceptable in the Southern Baptist doctrine. Divorce is often viewed as a last resort in extreme situations...
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...In today’s world there is no way for us to avoid the issues that strike us as a society and our children seem to be the ones that suffer most when decisions about the family separating or divorcing are being made. Parents seem to forget that children need stability and protection from the adult issues that can occur in their lives. These decisions will have an effect on children for their entire lives, and parents cannot imagine the long lasting effects. More and more children seem to be on the front lines of these custody battles between parents. Are parents risking the children’s psychological and emotional stability by having the children on the battle ground of a divorce? Children are very resilient but they need parental help to recover from a divorce. The court relies on what the parents are telling them as much as the other professionals and behavioral analysis examiners that have been assigned to the cases. While some parents do not mind this intrusion in to their lives, children feel as if things are not safe or stable. Parents will start to play “tug-of-war” with the children stuck in the middle. Parents who do not settle disputes over custody without the courts help will risk everyone especially the child being hurt. Courts will normally side for what has been the normal stable situation for the child, if there has not been abuse in the home. Parents who are taking the battles for custody of children to the court system should be aware if the court perceives...
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...The Effects of Divorce Divorce is extremely common today. No fault divorce took away a marriage’s legal power to bind a husband and wife, allowing one spouse to dissolve a marriage for any reason or for no reason at all. This is causing numerous children to be raised in single family homes. Children then have to adjust to new situations and feelings. The traditional family consisting of a man, his wife, and their children seems to be history. Today divorce is considered normal, almost expected for most couples getting married. But there is much more to divorce than just family matters. Divorce has an effect on society, children, and finances. Divorce can hinder society by dissolving families and weakening belief in the family as a social unit. A family does more than unite people by marriage and blood. It provides the education, financial and emotional support its members need to survive socially. Without this the adults and children become less productive socially. According to The Evolution of Divorce: Marriage provides benefits both to children and to society. Although it was once possible to believe that the nations high rates of divorce, cohabitation, and nonmarital childbearing represented little more than lifestyle alternatives brought about by the freedom to pursue individual self-fulfillment, many analysts now believe that these individual choices can be damaging to the children who have no say in them and to the society that enables them. (Wilcox, 2009...
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...Effects of Divorce in Adolescents Danielle Nicole Mickens Holmes Community College Abstract Lately there has been an increase in the divorce rates in the United States. While there may be ways to prevent it, it affects the lifestyles of adolescents’ and other people around them. Usually children and adolescents take divorce harder than the adults involved. This review shows how adolescents can be psychologically and emotionally affected by divorce. It also reviews how they may be able to cope during the process of divorce. The Psychological and Emotional Affects of Divorce in Adolescents “Till death do us part” are the vows people normally say when they get married. People often dream of a fairy tale wedding and they also believe that they have found what they may call their soul mates. Apparently as years go by, those vows and beliefs seems to decrease. Divorce is known as dissolving the legal union of marriage. And with that being said the divorce rate in the United States is the highest in the world. 50% of marriages end in divorce. However, children and adolescents that are involved in the divorce can be psychological and emotionally affected by it. Divorces can change a person’s lifestyle. (Wendel, 1997) One out of every two marriages that end in divorce includes children and adolescents. Research collected gives an understanding on how adolescents psychologically act, emotionally feel, and the resources they have to cope with the divorce. There...
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...In today’s society, divorce rates are at an all time high. For every one thousand people that get married, thirty-four people end up in divorce (Billota, 2010). People get so caught up in the divorce itself, and how two individuals are breaking the vows they made to each other; they neglect the affect that the separation has on the rest of their families. The children are innocent victims when it comes to divorce. Children have no so-say in what happens in their households; yet, how children feel and deal with the divorce goes a long way. With the proper outlets, children of broken homes can maintain regular social skills without the distraction of what’s going on in their homes wavering their behavior. So, the big idea is to have the children of divorced parents be required to attend a program that would help them in dealing with the divorce. The purpose of the program is to allow the children to have a safe place to be, while at the same time, be able to get away from the tension in their homes. While in this program, the children are encouraged to express their feelings freely, without worrying about their parents feelings. This program will be an escape route to make the children feel at ease. It is important that the children comprehend that they are not responsible for their parents’ divorce. The children will be required to attend this program for an initial six months. During this time, psychiatrist will be evaluating the children’s behavior, in an attempt to figure...
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...LESSEN THE IMPACT OF DIVORCE Michael Jennings DeVry University Lessen the Impact of Divorce Charlie is 9 years old and lives in a single parent home where the parent works to support the family, where not much time is spent with Charlie, who must figure certain things out on his own. Where does Charlie go after school? If no one is home having Charlie home alone is not a very good option. If siblings or friends are there but, no adult is present during the after school hours, home is still not a very good option. The term “latch-key” kid is one who has their own key to their home and is expected to be home with minimal supervision. Once a child reaches a certain responsible age, being a latch-key kid often makes sense. Charlie must get home safe from school, stay out of trouble, and complete his homework, with little to no adult supervision. After-school activities should be available to Charlie because he may not be responsible enough or his parents may not trust him to be home alone yet. Everyone is affected by the consequences of parental divorce, especially the children involved. In any society, the children are the future. In the United States alone, 40 to 50% of first marriages end in divorce, according to the American Psychological Association. As citizens of the United States, we are all stakeholders of our future and should care about the well-being of all our children, especially those of disadvantaged environments such as parental divorce. Additional resources...
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