...LANGUAGE STYLE MATCHING: Can it Predict Lasting Relationships? Patricia Cochran COM 200: Making Connections: Understanding Interpersonal Communication Dr. Andree Swanson November 7, 2011 LANGUAGE STYLE MATCHING: Can it Predict Lasting Relationships? People may develop many different relationships during their lifetime. These relationships may range from family, friends, co-workers, acquaintances, bosses, and lovers. “New research has pointed out that people match one another’s language styles more during happy phases of their relationship, and this phenomenon is called Language Style Matching or LSM.” (Muppala, 2010) It is believed if two people are similar in their speech patterns and their use of function words, they are psychologically compatible. Researchers are using this technology to evaluate natural speech to determine this compatibility. This paper will discuss whether language style matching is accurate and can predict lasting relationships. “A study published in Psychological Science says that people with similar language styles stay in relationships longer than those whose styles are dissimilar.” (Castillo, 2011) This study is referring to the use of function words. “Function words are highly social and they require social skills...
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...Paige Ghesquire ENG 3UI – 05 Ms. Wright May 23, 2015 The Kite Runner: The Power of Words “The power of words, written or spoken, have life. They can change the world.” (search quotes). The power of words should not be underestimated. Liesel proves this to be true in the novel and the film The Book Thief. She uses words to develop relationships with her foster father, Hans Hubermann; Max Vandenburg, the illicit Jew in her basement; and her neighbours. In the novel The Book Thief by Markus Zusak there is much more relationship development compared to the film The Book Thief directed by Brian Percival. This consequently causes the theme of the power of words to be less prominent in the film. The novel The Book Thief develops the relationship between Liesel Meminger and her neighbours more than the film The Book Thief therefore minimizing the theme. First, Liesel and Rudy become best friends, “Insane or not, Rudy was always destined to be Liesel’s best friend.” (Zusak 48). Rudy introduced himself to Liesel as soon as she moved in, he developed a liking for her and they soon become best friends. Rudy used his charming, and sometimes insulting, words to win over Liesel. This develops the theme because it shows that even if one does not want to like someone, their words can change them into a likable person. Second, Liesel and Frau Hermann develop a relationship, “When she came and stood with an impossibly frail steadfastness, she was holding a tower of books against her stomach...
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...Today is your lucky day for the reason that I will share my knowledge with both of you and set you on a path toward a long-lasting, loving, and healthy relationship. I understand that you two are newly engaged, and were made aware that I was taking a course in Interpersonal Communication; additionally, as a couple you are seeking suggestions and advice regarding your relationship. I will share knowledge from the course material, and from my own life experiences both good and bad to try and assist you any way that I can. In this letter I will discuss strategies for empathic listening, recognizing the power of words, how nonverbal expressions affect relationships, and how to create a positive communication climate. Let me assure you that this letter will certainly serve as a blueprint for ways to better your relationship. I am extremely honored to share some dynamics of interpersonal relationships with you, John and Toula. First, I would like to qualify myself by stating that with the help of God, I have truly been blessed with the most awesome son and with a partner that will stand on my side no matter what; she’s the best. Thus, I know a little bit about how to maintain a long-lasting loving healthy relationship. I would like to share a little bit of information about myself with you. I have been in a relationship with the love of my life for eight years now and we’re still going strong. I’m the father of the most wonderful son that anyone could ask for, he’s name...
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...Letter of Advice: A Long-lasting Loving Healthy Relationship Demetrice Sterling COM 200 Instructor Moak May 1, 2013 Hi Tim and Sara, My name is xxxxxxxxx I understand that you two are newly engaged, and were made aware that I was taking a course in Interpersonal Communication; additionally, as a couple you are seeking suggestions and advice regarding your relationship. I will share knowledge from the course material, and from my life experiences both good and bad. In this letter I will discuss strategies for empathic listening, recognizing the power of words, how nonverbal expressions affect relationships, and how to create a positive communication climate. Let me assure you that this letter will certainly serve as a footprint for ways to better your relationship. I am extremely honored to share some dynamics of interpersonal relationships with you, Tim and Sara. First I would like to qualify myself by stating that with the help of God, my husband and I celebrated 5 years of marriage on April 19, 2008; thus, I know a little bit about how to maintain a long-lasting loving healthy relationship. Furthermore, the day is your lucky day for the reason that I will share my knowledge with both of you today and set you on a path toward a long-lasting, loving, and healthy relationship. First I want to share a little bit of information about myself. I married my best friend sweetheart in 2008, and we are still together after 5 years. I am the mother of...
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...“I do but ask that you be always fair” and “Once more into my arid days like dew” are two sonnets by poet Edna St. Vincent Millay. This essay will compare and contrast the arguments made in the sonnets “I do but ask” and “Once more into my arid days”. This essay will do so by first examining the similarities in the two poems’ arguments and later examining their differences. This essay will argue that “I do but ask” and “Once more into arid days” both dispel the myth that relationships are perfect by highlighting that relationships can fail. The two sonnets differ in that “I do but ask” presents relationships in a more optimistic manner compared to “Once more into my arid days”, which paints relationships in a more pessimistic light. “I do...
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...Explore the ways different poets respond to the experiences of relationship in their poems. The poem "Nettles" by Vernon Scannel is about the narrator showing his thoughts and feelings when his son fell in a bed of nettles. The poem shows us that their relationship was strong and that they were close. The poet uses a metaphors to share his thoughts and feelings. An example of a metaphor is when the poet compares the nettles to be "green spears." The words "green spears" makes me think the nettle are like weapons that are razor-sharp. The use of colour imagery here with the "green" isn't used for pain. The colour green links with environment in this instance it is nature that has hurt his son. Another example of a metaphor is when he compares the nettles like soldiers dying in a army " fallen dead". This suggests that he is angry and upset because the nettles hurt his son. Also this suggests that he wants revenge by killing the nettles. Moreover, it suggests that he has killed the nettles and the nettles are thrashed! The poet describes the nettles like "nettle bed". The word "bed" suggests that the bed is comfy. The word bed is usually associated with soft, relaxing and warm. The word "nettle" is associate with sharp. The words " nettle bed" suggest that the poet son has fallen into a nettle bed and hurt himself Moreover, another example of a metaphor is when he compares the nettles like soldiers because in the text it says "fallen dead." This suggests that...
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...“The spirit of my father grow strong in me” In the play As You Like It, by William Shakespeare, Orlando believes that he will grow to be like his father and that he has a relational connection with his father. Shakespeare explores many aspects of belonging and not belonging in relationships with families, couples, genders and social class. He uses a wide range of dramatic and language techniques to explore the relational aspects of belonging. Juxtaposition is used throughout the play to show the difference in relationships. It shows the contrast between Oliver and Orlando’s despising relationship compared with Rosalind and Celia’s loving relationship. For example Celia and Rosalind’s relationship is described as “being ever from their cradles bred together” and “never two ladies loved as they do”. This is a contrast to Oliver calling his brother a “villein” and Oliver controlling his brother “for the which his animals on his dunghills are as much bound to him as I”. Juxtaposition between scenes is also used to explore relationships in As You Like It. “Loves one dearer than the natural bond of sisters”. Emotive language is used to explore how Celia and Rosalind have a very deep relationship. Words such as “loves” and “natural” explore how close they are as cousins and how they are held by one another. “Sweet my coz,” is another example of emotive language. Classical allusion is also used to show belonging in the play. “Juno’s swans,” describes how Rosalind and Celia...
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...Dearest Jerome and Nicole, The two of you are now husband and wife and have a wonderful future ahead of you. Learning to effectively communicate with each other will have a huge impact on how happy and fulfilling your marriage will be. Considering we have been communicating for a long time and think we know how to communicate well with others, I want you to really take a look at your communication skills for self-examination. Learning to identify the bumpy roads ahead, and understanding how perception, emotion, and nonverbal expression may affect your relationship, and realizing how words have the power to create and affect attitudes, behavior, and perception are some things I want to share with you. I hope I can help you move past some of these barriers and on to a lasting marriage. A successful marriage depends on a many on things with the most critical element being a compatible partner. The two of you seem to be very compatible and you need to continue to build on that compatibility with the second most critical element for a successful marriage, which is effective communication. According to Fischer & Hart (1995), “The most critical skill in marriage is communication. For whatever else marriage is, it is certainly a long conversation.” The two of you will be spending the rest of your lives together and you will want to make your long conversation interesting and purposeful. Get to know each other’s likes and dislikes and ask each other plenty of questions. Once your careers...
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...Letter of Advice COM 200 – Interpersonal Communication Letter of Advice Dearest Adam and Sarah, The two of you are now husband and wife and have a wonderful future ahead of you. Learning to effectively communicate with each other will have a huge impact on how happy and fulfilling your marriage will be. Considering we have been communicating since birth and think we know how to communicate well with others, I want you to really take a look at your communication skills for self-examination. Learning to identify roadblocks, understanding how perceptions, emotions, and nonverbal expressions affect your relationship, and realizing how words have the power to create and affect attitudes, behavior, and perception are some things I want to share with you. I hope I can help you move past some of these barriers and on to a lasting marriage. A successful marriage depends on a lot of things with the most critical element being a compatible partner. The two of you seem to be very compatible and you need to continue to build on that compatibility with the second most critical element for a successful marriage, which is effective communication. According to Fischer & Hart (1995), “The most critical skill in marriage is communication. For whatever else marriage is, it is certainly a long conversation.” The two of you will be spending the rest of your lives together and you will want to make your long conversation interesting and purposeful. Get to know each other’s likes...
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...The Word “Family” Name Institution The Word “Family” Introduction My favorite word is family. The word family defines the existence of human beings in the society. A family is defined to be a group of people that is made up of parents and children living in a similar household (Brighouse & Swift, 2014). In most instances, a family is made up of parents and their biological children. The parents are a father and mother. Nonetheless, a family can be made up of a single parent with either adopted or biological children. Instances of single parenthood can occur because of a death of the other parent or a divorce. The word family stands out as my favorite word because of the following three reasons. At the outset, the word family stands out as an incomparable word because it highlights the fundamental unit of human society. A family unit made up of a man, woman and children living together in peace and harmony is a construct of societal organization. The presence of a peaceful and harmonious relationship confers intellectual, sexual, social and emotional stability to one another. A member of the family can readily rely on the other member in terms of emotional, intellectual, social and sexual relationship. As a result, the individual family is a reflection of the society that mainly depends on the stability of the family for its existence (Brighouse & Swift, 2014). Secondly, the word family stands out to be my favorite word because it upholds...
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...that I personally feel will be most beneficial to you both as you begin your journey to a happy life. The five topics I have chosen are 1) understanding how perceptions, emotions, and nonverbal expression affect interpersonal relationships, 2) knowing strategies for managing interpersonal conflicts, 3) recognizing how words have the power to create and affect attitudes, behavior, and perception, 4) developing strategies for active, critical, and empathic listening, and 5) understanding the impact of gender and culture on interpersonal communications. I personally feel that if you both consciously work towards mastering the skills of effective communication your relationship will flourish and grow. In addition to my advice, I will also offer you some supporting evidence from professionals that I believe will be very beneficial for the both of you. Keep in mind as you join your lives together through holy matrimony, the process of building a relationship with someone is not always smooth and trouble free (Sole 2011). However, if you learn to communicate effectively with each other I am confident that you will have a very happy, ever-lasting marriage. I. Understand how perceptions, emotions, and nonverbal expression affect interpersonal relationships. We are all born with the ability to communicate....
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...Advice to Sally and Robert: Dear Sally and Robert: I would like to take the time to tell you how much I am glad to share five basic points involving interpersonal communication. Before I continue I would like to congratulate the both of you on your engagement. I hope your engagement will lead into a long healthy marriage along with communication. The most important part is interpersonal communication. Interpersonal communication is a social process which has three primary purposes. They are to meet personal needs, to learn about ourselves, other people and world, and to build and maintain relationships with others Sole, K. (2011). Remember you will need to use these to communicate with the world and all communication channels along with good behavior. Develop Strategies for Active, Critical, and Empathic Listening Sally and Robert one of the keys to having a long healthy relationship is being able to be an effective listener. Listening is one of the most important skills we can acquire. You want to be able to understand what each other is saying, respond appropriately to what your partner is saying, and provide helpful feedback. In addition, to practice active listening, try to send back the messages you hear from your spouse very much like mirroring. This is one of the most effective counseling strategies that also prove effective marriage. Be empathic and nonjudgmental. Be accepting and respectful of the person and their feelings and beliefs without invalidating...
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...Running head: Interpersonal Relationships Final paper: Interpersonal Relationships Natalie Simmons COM 200 Interpersonal Communication Lakisha Bryant January 23, 2012 Dear Mr. & soon to be Mrs. Johnson: An interpersonal relationship is a fulfillment that every individual needs. In your relationship, you have already made the necessary steps to achieving a meaningful and long-term marriage by seeking advice. Every relationship is not perfect. There will be some barriers that come throughout your marriage, but with awareness and preparation, you can work through them and maintain a healthy relationship for many years. By taking an Interpersonal Relationship course, it has given me the necessary tools to become more aware of relationships and communication with others. Throughout this letter there will be several topics that will prove vital to the success of your future marriage. The principles of Interpersonal communication will help develop strategies for your life, improve empathetic listening, and the importance of managing interpersonal conflicts will serve as a guide to a long and healthy marriage. As a couple, you have made the choice to settle down with the man/woman of your dreams. You have decided that you are going to be married and by seeking advice, you are making the first step to maintaining the love and respect you are so passionate about in your relationship. The first step is: To know the principles and misconceptions...
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...The article “Shared Talking Styles Herald New and Lasting Romance” gives an overview of how different elements such as function words play an instrumental role in determining the compatibility between men and women. In my opinion, this article represents both consistent and inconsistent information. According to Bruce Bower 2010, two people who hat one another will often exhibit a high amount of language-style matching. I believe this to be a true statement due to the fact that both individuals are experiencing the same feeling, so the language will be similar. Friendships are formed from characteristics such as language-style matching. Positive relationship stems from combining the two elements together. I am also a firm believer that communication is a two-way entity, and both parties must be willing to compromise certain aspects for the overall success of their relationship. The language style matching exercise is a great tool in measuring the compatibility but must not be set in stone. I’m also a firm believer that opposites do attract. An old cliché that states “men are from Mars, women are from Venus” gives a clear description of the differences between men and women. Men approach conversations with a distinct set of rules and interpretations of talk. Men focus on status and independence; women focus more on intimacy and connection. Not only do men and women communicate differently but they think, feel, perceive, react, respond, love, need, and appreciate differently...
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...hope you two are ready for a lot of hard work. That may sound scary, but that is what it takes to make a marriage last. If you are not willing to be fully committed to each other, completely dedicated to one another, and ready for the challenges up ahead, then you are not ready to get married. I am writing you to give you some very good advice about communication in relationships. I just finished an interpersonal communication course and I will be referring to my textbook throughout this letter. I hope you take the advice I give you and use it every day. Love is not enough to make a marriage last, and I am not saying love is not important because it is vital to make a relationship happen. I want you to use this as a guide as to what to do and what not to do in any given situation. I may not have all the answers, but I know this will make your relationship stronger and easier to deal with. It is not easy to be married, but if you have good communication skills, and use them with each other, you will be amazed how easy it is to get along with your partner. When you are first starting out in a relationship with someone, most of us are sharing new things and nervous about what the other thinks. This starts and builds your communication patterns. The first piece of advice I want you to have is the barriers that stop you from effectively changing communicating with each other. “Three common communication problems in...
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