...Absent Fathers These days it is not uncommon for children to grow up in a single-mother household with little or no contact from their fathers. I was one of those children. When I was younger I never understood why my dad didn’t want me or why he would take part in conceiving me if he didn’t even care to know who I was. Every year I waited for a phone call, birthday wishes, or a Christmas card, and sadly got nothing. Being raised by a single mother is said to be a cause of some of our country’s most serious social problems. In Quassan T. Castros article, My Father, No Show, he tells us how curious he was about who his absent father is. When Castro gets in contact with his father and explains to him the circumstances under which he was conceived he realizes that his dad was promiscuous and not willing to make an effort to get to know him. He was angry that his father didn’t accept him but didn’t let that hold him back from “spiritual growth”. All Castro wanted as a child is to have his father in his life. In the article he mentions that his mother was strong enough to be both mother and father but as he got closer to adulthood he became more curious. Children of absent fathers tend to feel like they are missing out on something. The man in the family represents strength, teaches leadership, and shows their children many life lessons. Not having a father around can leave many questions unanswered. In some communities it has become acceptable for men to father children...
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...Substance Use, Abuse, and the Adolescent January 9, 2014 Walden University Axis I Axis I holds descriptions of clinical symptoms. These symptoms can lead to significant impairment. Adjustment impairment is one of these disorders. Hopelessness, feeling sad and stress are among the symptoms of impaired adjustment. The patient is clearly suffering from impaired judgement. This is evident where he says that he is stupid. For him to think he is stupid, he must be feeling hopeless. Otherwise he would not conclude on being stupid and instead would hold a belief of self improvement. The patient’s sadness is also depicted when he comments that his mother hates his friends. He clearly suffers from social problems. That is probably why he would rather spend most of his time playing video games and listening to music. It is probably the only way he can momentary escape his loneliness. Axis II Mental and personality retardation in Axis II describes situations that are applicable to the subject’s situation. In this description, some issues which are overlooked in the Axis I develop into more serious conditions which are long term. One symptom from this axis that is evident in the patient is the tendency to be antisocial. This disorder is illuminated when the mother points out that he spends m much time playing his video games. This game ensures that the better time of his day is spent indoors and in the loneliness. When playing these games, he does not involve himself in social talks...
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...Our world has changed a lot since the 1800’s mainly because of computers. They’ve revolutionized our world to where you can simply look up what you want instead of scouring the library for your needed material. Laptops seem to have everything, nothing really bad about them. Except distractions. Some people think that laptops are great and cause no real distraction. But most think that laptops are bad because of all the access people have, and how it can be used. While technology does have its benefits, in the classroom laptops are harming students. Computers are a distraction. In the article “Computers Use Distracting” is shows a quote,” students are often distracted by whatever they’re doing on the computer.” Often times when your doing schoolwork online, you always tend to get dragged into the distraction that are much more frequent in the newer technology. Laptops are more harming to students than helping because you have just an open area of doing whatever you want on a computer, but not staying on task and staying undistracted. Another article called, “Attention, Students; Put Your Laptops Away.” a quote says, “Students can now get lost online with ease that would once have been considered unfathomable.” This quote states how back when computers weren’t as common, getting so distracted wasn’t as likely a thing to happen. Distraction on the internet can happen when searching up something for a project and you come across something off-topic, you end up clicking it and you...
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...Chapter 1 Study Questions for Myth Symbol and Ritual Dakota 1) Symbols are the building blocks for life. They help us in life to communicate, learn, classify, bring out emotions, associate. The word Myth is actually Greek for throw together. They help us perceive. The relationship between signifier, signified, and signification is not all the complex. The signifier is what we perceive. An example is that different symbols can be perceived by different ways by different people. If someone were to look at an arrow and perceive it one way, i might look at the arrow and perceive it another. The signified is what we give to the perception. This can obviously be different with different people because it relies on ourselves. The signification is what ties these different perceptions together. Specific characteristics of a sign is that they have single meanings (an example would be a street sign giving the name of a street). A specific example of a signal is that they convey a meaning for an action. An example is a street light. When the green light is lit it gives someone the signal to go. Vice versa when the red light illuminates. A symbol is used to convey meaning. This would be a sign on the road that has the squiggly lines. It is conveying to drivers that the road is going to become winding. An example of a discursive symbol would be a symbol that is discrete and must be seen in a certain arrangement for one to understand. A presentational symbol must be perceived...
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...ENG101/29 Professor R Gaines ENG101/29 March 10,2013 The most important person in my life. . From the time we are born we are being influenced by those around us, be it a relative, friend, or teacher. We are influenced by their character, traits and form opinions that will last a lifetime. Although influential people have come and gone in my life, my boyfriend, Daniel, has remained the most important and influential person for the past fifteen years. It was in November 2000 when I first met Daniel at the “Stratford Athletic Club.” I attended the club almost every day. One evening a tall gentleman with an athletic body approached me and with a soft-spoken voice proceeded to ask,” How is your workout going?” I turned towards him, looked at his amicable face, and with a barely detectable smile said, “Fine, thank you.” This was the beginning of a most satisfying, educational and enduring relationship. Right after I met him I noticed his amazing organization skills. He is able to stay focused no matter how distracting the situation might be. He simply minimizes the distraction. For example, if he is focusing his attention on writing an important paper, he will ignore the phone when it’s ringing, and will not answer the doorbell. I always had a problem with focusing. Since I started to spend time with Daniel I learn to remained focused on my goals and not to be affected by any adverse elements. Years ago while driving in the center lane...
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...that Sara called out sick and that he does not have her slides for the presentation. He also knows that he is to give a big presentation to the CEO today. He thinks he knows that she isn’t actually sick, but rather skipping the presentation. This matters only if Jim lets it distract him from the task at hand. 3. How could he apply the character qualities you’ve learned about so far (persistence, enthusiasm, optimism, and self-control) in this situation? c. Jim could be persistent and enthusiastic by putting together a presentation with the time he has so that the meeting will not have to be rescheduled. In doing so, having optimism, perhaps the CEO will see that Jim had pulled off the presentation even with his coworker being absent, which could potentially lead to a promotion. Jim needs to show self-control in that he should not mention seeing someone who looked like Sara at the gas station. That information is irrelevant to the situation at hand. 4. What should he do? d. As described in the previous answer, the best action for Jim would be remaining positive and showing the CEO that when in a bind he will step up and get the job done. This likely will not go...
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...Father absence in the home is on the rise. Research shows that it has become a problem in many societies. Although information is limited or even non-existent when it comes to the Caribbean, there is knowledge that the problem exists within the Caribbean, but the extent to which it occurs, and has an impact on the lives of children found within such a situation remains unknown. It is against this background that one has chosen to embark on research in this area of increasing concern. Father absence, when defined, refers to a situation where “a child has lived for part or all of [his or her] childhood in a house without [his/her] biological father” (BoothLab, 2013). Some researches choose to include in this category fathers who are absent because of death. Others choose to exclude such fathers, because they think that it is unfair to judge them, because no one really knows whether or not they would have stayed in their children’s lives had they remained alive. Similarly, some researchers also state that the definition of father absence does not stretch to include children who have had no contact with their fathers or who does not have a good relationship with them (BoothLab, 2013). For the purposes of this study, the definition of father absence in the home has been stretched to include a number of pertinent reasons why fathers are not present in the home. These reasons include, but are not limited to death, father’s unawareness of the existence of the child, divorce, and...
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...html) Of these children, one in four will be products of single parent homes whether it is being raised by the mother or the father. According to the U.S. Census Bureau as of November, 2009, there are approximately 13.7 million single parents in the United States, and those parents are responsible for raising 21.8 million children. That was years ago so the numbers have increased since then. These results do show however that these people that have found themselves as single parents did start out in committed relationships and had no intentions of raising their child or children alone. (Single Parent Statistics By Jennifer Wolf). The position that I take regarding this topic is that both parents should be held responsible for taking care of their child. Once paternity has been established then it is the lifelong job of each parent to provide for their child not only financially but as a support of some sort. The parent’s actions should be in the best interest of the child or children whether they decide to be together or raise the child separately. There are different views as to why the absent parent has failed to step up and play their role. The first position is that the absent parent makes the choice to not help out for whatever reason despite the fact that they have knowledge about the child. Another claim is that there is something beyond the absent parent’s control that is hindering...
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...According to her, the financial struggle is mainly due to gender inequalities in workplace and being a one-income family. In a way, the fact of working forces her to put her son in nursery school, which then cost more money and create a vicious circle from a financial perspective. Rebecca M. Blank, a professor of economics at Nothwestern University, adheres to the same topic in her article “Absent Fathers: Why Don’t We Ever Talk About The Unmarried Men?” by calling attention to the problem that the “lack of parental support” form absent fathers “is a major factor contributing to the poverty of single mothers and their children”(Blank, 440). They commonly agree that if the father was in the family home or gave contribution such as child support, it would be easier to the family to struggle and not be disturbed. For them, the absence of a father places not only on the mother but also on the child. Rebecca M. Blank states and assumes that poverty and lack of education are correlated and hold a big part of the absent father population. Lynn Olcott agrees with Blank’s view on runaway fathers and, in addition, she blames the society...
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...The Impact of Fatherless Children Alexander Ontiverios Essay Report The last several decades have seen an alarming trend of increasing father absence or fatherlessness. Fatherlessness is widely recognized as a contributing factor to a myriad of social maladies in the United States. Father absence has been a subject of heated debate and the center of countless surveys, focus groups and opinion polls. There are some who disagree as to exactly how culpable absent fathers are for many of the social ills we’re seeing in our society today, but there’s no denying it is a problem. This paper will endeavor to show that in spite of often heroic efforts by single mothers to rear their children as productive members of society, there is an overwhelming amount of data indicating fatherlessness as a significant factor of violent crime, educational under-achievement, high rates of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), teenage pregnancy and behavioral disorders and it is vital that children have a father proactively involved in their lives wherever possible. Arguably the most desperate reason for fathers to engage in a positive way in their children’s lives is reflected in the statistics of violent crime. The young men of society today are growing up without fathers to guide them and teach them right from wrong. This has produced a generation of young men who are astonishingly angry. According to a report by Criminal Justice and Behavior, “Eighty percent of rapists motivated by...
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...go through a traumatic event, such as losing a parent to divorce, they want to act out because they are hurt, and do not know what to do with their emotions. An article written by Ahron Constance states "…..divorce prevents certain risks, is an emotionally stressful and complex transition for families, and continues to affect children into adulthood" (55). Divorce is a hard thing for children to learn how to cope with. Children of different ages rebel in different ways; they do this because at different age levels they cannot comprehend certain things and are not sure how they should feel. Preschool age children deal with the divorce in the only way they can understand. They feel as though they are the ones to blame for their mother or fathers disappearance. As they start to understand that one of their parents no longer lives with them they start to feel immense sadness. In an article written from a counselor’s point of view states “Some may feel...
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...our parents derives from the feeling and urge to make them proud, to prove to them that they did not fail raising us; that we is worth the trouble. This need for approval follows us all till we someday decides that approval from our self is enough. In “Compass and Torch”, this desire is described through a young boy’s perspective. The boy experiences an extremely absent father, which barely notices him, throughout the whole text the boy seeks for the acceptance from his father. Torn between his parents caused by their divorce, the young boy feels split. The parent’s hatred for each other sparks between them as explosives ready to blow up, which has a huge impact on their son. The boy lives with his mother and her new boyfriend, Jim, who in the boy’s eyes never can replace his father in any way. His absent father is only infrequent visiting him, and does not play a huge impact on his son’s daily life. It is clearly that the boy’s mom sees the father’s non-attendance, as only another way to mock on him, she is defiantly angry with him maybe reasoned their divorce. In contraction to the boy’s point of view where the father represents his hero, his role model. Unfortunately, the boy sees the world from a bit of an equivocal angle, where he not only sees the bright and positive points of things but also the darker and negative points. It appears difficult for the boy to separate and distinguish this from each other. This becomes clear for instance in the way that he observes his mother...
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...Chapter II Theoretical and Conceptual Framework This chapter presents the relevant theory and related literature and studies, conceptual framework, and the operational definition of terms used in the study. Relevant Theory This study was conceptualize and guided by the following relevant theory: Social Learning Theory. Bandura’s (1993) vicarious conditioning/social learning theory stressed that behavior patterns are developed through observation and direct experience within biological limits. It emphasizes that human behavior is the mutual interaction between cognitive behavioral and environmental dominants. People are affected by external forces although they can choose how to behave. Bandura further claims that one effect of observation of models can lead to the acquisitionof responses and to the change of frequency of behavior already learned. Social learning theory explains human behavior in terms of continuous reciprocal interaction between cognitive behavioral and environmental influences. Within the process of reciprocal determinism lies the opportunity for people to influence their destiny as well as the limits of self-direction. A direct and complex interaction may positive interactive reflection of a good relationship. It is clearly important that for any individual, a constructive environment may help to maximize his full potentials in dealing with future undertakings; the parents and significant others place more importance influencing the total-well-being...
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...WHY SHOULD THE ABSENT PARENT PAY CHILD SUPPORT?? Shakira Gibson Week 10 Mrs. Fergie Tuesday C Did you know that there is over $100 Billion in accumulated unpaid support owed to over 18 million children in the United States, according to the Federal Office of Child Support in the Preliminary Statistics in 2003 (streetdirectory.com, 1). Introducing my body paragraphs, I will be addressing why absent parents should pay child support, the effects of the children, and the struggles of a single parent. If the parent is present or not they should support their child/children. The government currently spends $500 million dollars per year chasing payments from absent parents, of whom 95 per cent are fathers (Rowena Mason, Telegraph July 13, 2012).If you are not taking the necessary precautions to prevent from bringing a child into the world, then by every means necessary you should help contribute to the care of that child. There is no excuse as to why you cannot get a job or a hustle to help out. I know that some people have ego's the size of a globe or their pride gets in the way of them getting a job at a restaurant, grocery store, mall and etc. However, when you bring a child into the world all of that should be put aside to help with the financial support of your child. The child did not ask to be here, you made the choice to bare responsibility for that child. If both parents are doing...
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...of three children in America are raised with an absent father, and for them, the quixotic hope of a picturesque, ideal home life lies further away than those with a “man of the house” to guide them. While a complicated social issue among children of all race and gender, Wes Moore, in the book "The Other Wes Moore: One Name, Two Fates," magnifies how being a fatherless black boy in the gritty Baltimore undergrounds is an even higher bump in the road to adulthood. While all children with no father are susceptible to violence and crime, the situation in which they lost their father is directly related to the intensity of their struggles. Thus, the absence of a father can have dissimilar effects on male offspring in cases of death or abandonment....
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