...Inner torment is never easy to deal with. Inner torment can lead to a slow decline in a person's mental health. When you don't have your mental stamina, it's very difficult to thrive and survive in life. As a result, it's very important to be strategic about overcoming inner torment. There are a few ways a person can rise above the inner turmoil and get to the other side with a more joyous and life-giving experience. 1. Highlight and magnify the positives. When inner torment ensues, there's usually a trigger. The trigger could be any negative experience. It could be a devastating job loss, a financial hit or the loss of an estranged loved one. No matter what the situation is, it can lead to some negative thoughts. It's important to be diligent in the process of self-love. Every person has a number of good qualities going for them. If you're in the midst of torment, use this as a time to sit down and remind yourself of the positives. Recognize the good you possess and emphasize that. It's also the opportune time to begin reciting affirmations on a daily basis. Affirmations will change the mental conversation from a negative one to a positive one. 2. Indulge in healthy habits....
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...FINDING YOURSELF WITHIN A COMMUNICATION TRADITION John Hampton University of North Carolina Greensboro I HAVE ABIDED BY THE UNCG ACADEMIC INTEGRITY POLICY ON THIS ASSIGNMENT. Signature: James D. Jackson Date: December 3, 2013 Abstract Phenomenological tradition is used to for people to gain experience of self and others through others experience. With the phenomenological tradition, social identity can be developed with the help of this tradition. Throughout life, people develop their social identity through the environment they come from. As people get older, different people from other environments surround them. Even though we are born into a society that creates our identity when we are younger, we will begin to get of sense to develop our own identity. With the help of the phenomenological tradition, communication scholars will be able to understand that people can develop into their true identity. It is important for people to have their own identity and to be their true self. Combing the phenomenological tradition and social identity, will allow people to express themselves. In the process of expressing themselves, people will be able take a look at themselves and others to help develop into their true identity. Introduction In life, we come across different people and build relationships with them. In the process of building relationships with people, we can find ourselves being like the people we become friends with. Often times we really don’t want...
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...[pic] What is self harm? “Self-harm is when somebody intentionally damages or injures their body. It is a way of coping with or expressing overwhelming emotional distress.” (NHS, 2013) Self-harm is a way of expressing very deep distress and often, people do not know why they self-harm. It's a means of communicating what can't be put into words or even into thoughts and has been described as an inner scream. Afterwards, people feel better able to cope with life again, for a while. People may injure or poison themselves by scratching, cutting or burning their skin, by hitting themselves against objects, taking a drug overdose, or swallowing or putting other things inside themselves. It may also take less obvious forms, including unnecessary risks, staying in an abusive relationship, developing an eating problem (such as anorexia or bulimia), being addicted to alcohol or drugs, or someone simply not looking after their own emotional and physical needs. Why do some people self harm? Self harming, for some people, can be a coping mechanism to deal with their inner feelings and emotions for example, rage sadness, emptiness, grief, self hatred/guilt, fear, loneliness. Self-harm could be for a number of reasons such as, a way of releasing pain out, or being distracted from inner self pain instead of communicating the feelings to somebody else. Other reasons for self harm may be that some may find it a comfort from feeling the pain as though they are being...
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...emotional) effects of hearing loss. Section three will discuss how hearing loss can effect relationships. Section four will discuss where to seek medical help. Section five will discuss the pros and cons of hearing aids and associated cost. Section six will discuss tinnitus (ringing or roaring in the ear), and my personal experience coping with tinnitus and hearing loss. Section seven will present the conclusion. People of all ages suffer from hearing loss and in particular as a result of noise damage, whereby “many cases of hearing loss – at least 10 million of the 28 million total cases in the U.S. – are a result of noise damage.” Rezen, S.V., & Hausman, C. (2000). Coping with hearing loss plain talk for adults about losing your hearing. New York, NY: Barricade Books, Inc. Further, hearing loss does not affect all older people in that “hearing loss due to disease or noise damage can occur at any age, but often compounds the problems encountered due to the aging process.” Further, according to Rezen...
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...invitation to other people to get to know me better. What I share about myself does encourage others to come in, so to speak, and make for some interesting conversations. I have to say being open is difficult. It makes some people feel vulnerable, usually anxious, and sometimes unsure about themselves. But it also is important in terms of really letting others get to understand how I think, how I feel and what I believe. Sometimes though, I hide my inner thoughts and feelings because I am concerned that other people will not accept me. It is hard for me to...
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...Self-Concept - is the behavior, beliefs, and thoughts of my inner self, and self-concepts that you learn throughout your life. Personal Barriers (2007, Chap 2). I plan to overcome this barrier by first critiquing my knowledge that I’ve learned from my family and friends as a child and working on making changes. Although I have critiqued a lot of life skills in my adult life, there is more room to polish. I would have to apply and compare the self-concept skills I was shown as a child and combine them with the facts of life in today’s world. Now that I understand self-concept behavior, it could instantly be destroyed! I’ve been surrounding myself that help build my self-esteem esteem, as well contributing to my knowledge. Emotional Influences- Is the ability to monitor one’s own and other people’s emotions, and label. Personal Barriers (2007, Chap.2). I plan to overcome this barrier to Emotional Influences by demonstrating emotional awareness and observing people feelings. I hope to react to the individuals present feelings at the moment with my full focus of attention. This behavior of talking while other people are talking, and not listening stems from my perception of a conversation that is irrelevant to my personal feelings. I would attempt to respond to positive feedback and responses based on one's emotions if you sad I will express concern if you're happy I will express happiness. I will work on hiding my negative feelings when I have been emotionally bothered in all...
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...time, but don’t fall into the habit of turning conversations into your own personal dumping ground 100 percent of the time. It’s an easy way to get attention, but it’s a poor way to keep it; and it’s a poor way to view your life. 2. Focusing on your inner monologue instead of the dialogue in front of you. “Holy crap! That’s a great idea. Wow. What can I say that will sound smart and clever? I really hope they think I’m intelligent. I could touch on symbolism or make a reference to post-modernism. Wait – what did they just ask me?” Stay focused on the other person’s words and points. People rarely mind when you say, “Hmm. Let me think about that for a second.” Quite the opposite, since it shows that you’re taking the conversation seriously. If you compose your answers while someone else is speaking, you’re really only having half a conversation. 3. Multi-tasking while you chat. Even if you are a professional multi-tasker, if you’re talking to someone, talk to them, and that’s it. Don’t browse online, don’t watch TV, don’t update your to-do list, and please, don’t eat while you’re on the phone. Whether they say so or not, it really annoys the person you’re talking to. If you really don’t have the time to talk, be honest and find another time, or cut it short. 4. Not paying attention to the people you care about most. Pretending to listen while your mind wanders to your work day, etc. Do you really think your loved ones...
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...The hegemonic self unleashed Have you ever caught yourself talking with your inner self? I am sure that at some point you asked your inner self a question...and got an answer. Now, how about an actual argument with that pretentious little guy? When that happens, it sometimes seems as if there were more than just two people wanting to have their say and have their voices heard; sometimes you get more than one opinion, and quite surprisingly, they all sound alike. Many of us are so used to talking to ourselves (especially in this era of extreme individualism and egocentrism) that we often overlook the fact that what happens inside our heads is not a one-sided conversation, amonologue, but rather, some sort of deliberation, with many selves debating―or should we say clashing. There is no place more undemocratic than the cluster inour minds. Perhaps, it would be more appropriate to talk about a confederation of selves. As in any confederation, there is a struggle for power, for supremacy. Some get their heads bashed, some manage to climb up near the top, and one―just one―gets to be the hegemonic self; the self you call “your-self”. In other words, there is a whole universe inside us, albeit a rather chaotic one, governed by a few, fragile, laws. More important, however, is the idea that all those pugnacious selves were orbiting around you from the beginning. Sometimes there is relative harmony, and other times the collision looks like an encounter between matter and antimatter...
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...Proprioceptive Writing In Writing the Mind Alive, the authors assert that “[i]f you practice Proprioceptive Writing, you’ll develop an awareness of the sound of your thinking. You’ll begin to imagine your thoughts as a persona with a voice” (Metcalf & Simon 16). Although Proprioceptive Writing should provide some benefit to everyone who uses the writing practice as taught in Writing the Mind Alive, the assertion that it will result in your thoughts becoming a persona with a voice is not universal outcome, as Metcalf and Simon failed to account for differences in individual personalities. What is Proprioceptive Writing? The definition from Proprioceptive Writing Centre website includes the following: Proprioceptive Writing is a method for facilitating emotional health, spiritual awakening, creative breakthroughs, and better writing. Proprioceptive Writing teaches you to listen to your thoughts with empathy and curiosity and reflect on them in writing, with the objective of achieving self-trust. Other frequently reported benefits include: deepened powers of attention, increased self-confidence, greater intimacy and spontaneity in relationships, enhanced emotional health, awakened spirituality. Through Proprioceptive Writing, people increase their creativity and feel their minds expand, one of life's greatest pleasures. (Proprioceptive Writing Center) Metcalf and Simon claim that each student they teach Proprioceptive Writing to believes “writing is profoundly linked...
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...control skill focuses on the relationship between empathy and anger management and how one can reduce his/her anger by learning how to see things from the perspective of others. Anger Management Technique #3- Respond Instead of React. This anger management technique enables one to respond rather than automatically react to anger/stress triggers. Human beings have the capacity to choose how to express their anger and therefore can learn new ways to more effectively communicate their needs, feelings or requests. Anger Management Technique #4- Change That Conversation With Yourself. This anger control technique involves learning to recognize and modify one’s inner conversations. Learning to change that “self-talk” empowers you to deal with anger more effectively in terms of how strongly you feel the anger, how long you hold onto your anger, and how you express your anger. Anger Management Technique #5- Communicate Assertively. This anger management skill is about being able to honestly and effectively communicate how you feel and to respond to things without getting angry or hostile about it. Anger Management Technique #6- Adjust Expectations. Anger is often triggered by a discrepancy between what we expect and what we get. Learning to adjust those expectations- sometimes upward and other times downward- can help us cope with difficult situations or people or even cope with ourselves. Anger Management...
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...on how happy and fulfilling your marriage will be. Considering we have been communicating since birth and think we know how to communicate well with others, I want you to really take a look at your communication skills for self-examination. Learning to identify roadblocks, understanding how perceptions, emotions, and nonverbal expressions affect your relationship, and realizing how words have the power to create and affect attitudes, behavior, and perception are some things I want to share with you. I hope I can help you move past some of these barriers and on to a lasting marriage. A successful marriage depends on a lot of things with the most critical element being a compatible partner. The two of you seem to be very compatible and you need to continue to build on that compatibility with the second most critical element for a successful marriage, which is effective communication. According to Fischer & Hart (1995), “The most critical skill in marriage is communication. For whatever else marriage is, it is certainly a long conversation.” The two of you will be spending the rest of your lives together and you will want to make your long conversation interesting and purposeful. Get to know each other’s likes and dislikes and ask each other plenty of questions. Once your careers take off and children come along, it is hard to find time for everything that needs your attention. Make sure you always make time for each other and keep your lines of communication open...
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...correspondence moves from moderately shallow, non-intimate levels to deeper, more individual ones. The longer we spend with others; we have a tendency to self-disclose a lot of intimate thoughts and details of our life. Active listening is a process of sending back to the speaker what you as a listener think the speaker meant- both in content and in feelings. Listening could be a relationship ability that almost all people have not learned. Active listening is, if practiced and down pat, is the simplest gift you will be able to provide your partner. Honesty is key to making a long distance relationship work. However, I will admit I have lied a time or two. There are different types of lies and they vary greatly in type. The social penetration is at the basis of the formation of my long distance relationship with Jason. Being in a long distance relationship requires self-disclosure, active listening, and some forms of...
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...new technology come new challenges. One of those new challenges is identity theft. Identity theft can happen through the internet, ATM, emails, or even a phone. Identity theft can happen when any person(s) takes an individual’s information, such as their Social Security number, or even banking information for financial gain. “Close to 100 million Americans have their personal information placed at risk of theft each year when records in databases are lost, stolen or accessed by unauthorized individuals” (Information systems and technology, n.d.). Identity theft not only costs the person, whose identity is stolen, time and money but also costs the banking industry time and money. There are so many ways that thieves can access your information whether it is your credit cards, savings accounts or checking accounts. Banks spend countless hours trying to find the most ways to fight and prevent identity theft. Banks must constantly update their computer software and use programs that will not only send red flags to the banks but will also block the use of the information or cards. Team B has chosen to see what changes SunTrust Bank needs to make to combat identity theft or improve on what is already in place. Continuous Versus the Discontinuous Changes SunTrust Bank currently offers 24 hour around the clock monitoring for identity thief. To provide additional identity theft protection, SunTrust has partnered with the Identity Theft Assistance Center (ITAC), a non-profit agency that...
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...human race. People have a tendency to seek affection. So, we try to connect to each other by talking about our lives, others’ lives, sports, politics, arts and what not. But sometimes we get so busy talking to others in order to connect with them that we don’t get sufficient time to connect to ourselves. Maun Vrat is a vow to keep quiet. Obviously, it’s very difficult to control your urge to talk. However, if one becomes able to do so by controlling one’s mind, it may open doors to unimagined ways of spiritual learning. Maun Vrat has been highly recommended in Ancient Indian literature. Motivation for the experiment: I came through an article on the power of silence while browsing on internet. I was awestruck by the benefits that the article claimed silence could have. However, I remained skeptical about the validity of the advantages the article claimed merely keeping silence would have. Therefore, I decided to perform the experiment on myself and check the validity of the article on the basis of first hands experience. It also challenges you to control your mind and urge to speak what is going on in your mind. Challenges with Experimentation: I tried Maun Vrat of 6 hours daily for three days continuously. Initially I found it difficult to suppress my urge to speak up but I tried hard to keep going on with the Maun Vrat. Thoughts kept rushing to my tongue and I had to swallow them with great difficulty. A couple of hours later, all those thoughts were still arising in my...
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...Emotional Intelligence and Leadership Qualities Self-Awareness Principals of Leadership: Service to Others Fall Semester, 2010 Jeff Hawkins "Emotional intelligence refers to the capacity for recognizing our own feelings and those of others, for motivating ourselves, and for managing emotions well in ourselves and in our relationships," says Daniel Goleman in his book "Working with Emotional Intelligence" (1999). It describes abilities distinct from, but complementary to, academic intelligence - the purely cognitive capacities measured by IQ. The concept of an “emotional intelligence” as important in certain applications as an “Intellectual Intelligence” is not necessarily new. The conversations surrounding Emotional Intelligence are becoming more focused, and taking on a greater relevance in our practices. The idea of emotional intelligence (EQ) as a counterpart to intelligence quotient (IQ) for educators and educational leaders is an expanding area of study and self-reflection. Research shows that emotional intelligence may actually be significantly more important than cognitive ability and technical expertise combined. In fact, some studies indicate that EQ is more than twice as important as standard IQ abilities. Further, evidence increasingly shows that the higher one goes in an organization, the more important EQ can be. For those in leadership positions, emotional intelligence skills account for close to 90 percent of what distinguishes outstanding leaders from...
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