Submitted By dana11
How to know if someone is lying..?
How to know if someone is lying..?
People lie to avoid awkwardness or punishment. They lie to maintain relationships and please others. And, of course, most of all they lie to please themselves. They embellishing our credentials or strengthening our stories, they often tell untruths to make ourselves appear and feel better.The vast majority of us become liars from time to time. Sometimes, the lying seems very necessary, so they lie to spare someone else hurt feelings, or we lie to help someone else out of a jam, or we lie because the lie is so minor that it's not going to affect anyone negatively, but will affect us positively, so it seems to be quite justified. Sometimes we even lie because someone else is demanding information from us, and we know that that person doesn't deserve to know the information, or will use it in harmful ways once he or she gets it.
How to know if someone is lying? There are several signs you should look for when attempting to spot a liar.fisrtly, Body Language: Liars usually hide their palms and don’t sit straight while telling a lie. They also avoid eye contact while telling the lie and they might take the body language negative evaluation gestures if they felt bad while lying. In addition, Eye Accessing Cues Mismatch: the eye moves in reflects the function taking place inside the brain at that time. For example, looking towards the upper left side means that you are constructing an image in your mind while looking at the upper right side means that you are recalling an image. How can that be of use? Well, think about it, if someone looks towards the upper left when asked about something then he's probably constructing an image of the lie he's about to tell. This is one sign that shows that he might be lying. Moreover, Inconsistencies in the Story: If the person is lying then the story he tells might change a bit every time it is discussed. The liar will forget a word, add something completely new or remove something that he had previously mentioned. Regardless of the type of inconsistency, it's also a sign that shows that a person is lying. In addition, Feeling Anxious: Almost anyone who lies feels anxious. The intensity of this anxiety varies depending on how professional the liar is. Try to spot this state of anxiety in order to detect liars. Talk as much as you can about the subject in order to keep the person anxious. Moreover, Avoiding the Subject: A person who wants to hide something will usually try to avoid bringing it up in the conversation. Try to talk about anything related to the situation without addressing it directly and see if the person tries to jump to another topic. Furthermore, Lack of Assertiveness: Unless that person is a special agent who is professionally trained to lie he will usually lack assertiveness while lying. His tone of voice will be lower and he will appear to be less confident. Finally, Speaking Slowly: When telling a lie the liar will usually make up events as he talks. This usually results in slower talking speed or in stopping many times while talking in order to find what to say.
Steps to know if someone is lying to you: Is her face giving it away? You may think a smile can easily disguise your true feelings, but the expressions that flash across a liar's face will give away what she's really thinking—whether she knows it or not. Experts advise paying close attention to hard-to-hide micro-expressions; these clues are often so difficult to detect that even trained experts have trouble discerning them. But you may be able to spot a liar by the red color on her cheeks, since anxiety can cause people to blush. Other indicators of lying? Flared nostrils, lip nibbling, deep breathing, and rapid blinking, which hint that the brain is working overtime. Does the body language follow the story? It’s more important to examine a person’s entire demeanor, as there’s no one feature that’s apt to give away a liar. Honesty is characterized by features that are in sync with one another—so besides posture, note the fit between face, body, voice, and speech. Like an animal avoiding detection, a liar may pull his arms and legs inward or keep his movements to a minimum—anything to appear smaller. Liars often shove their hands behind their back because those fidgety digits might give them away. How is the person smiling? A smile can sometimes mask a person’s true feelings. Pay close attention to how a person smiles as well as other facial movements. You may be able to detect the emotions he or she is trying to hide—such as fear, anger, and disgust. A true smile will incorporate both a person’s lips and eyes. How is the person speaking? Although a change in voice can be the tip-off to spot a liar, experts say that to be sure, you should also pay attention to a person’s speech rate and breathing pattern—if either speeds up or slows down, chances are you’re not hearing the whole truth.
What is the person saying? Liars tend to avoid exclusionary words like “but,” “nor,” “except,” and “whereas,” because they have trouble with complex thought processes. Also, they are less likely to use the words “I,” “me,” and “mine.” In their attempts to distance themselves psychologically from their tall tales, liars will tend to communicate using fewer personal pronouns. Is your subject behaving uncharacteristically? Experts believe changes in a person’s baseline—how she generally conducts herself—are worthy of your attention. You should weigh rate of speech, tone of voice, posture, and hand gestures against what you know, along with the context of the situation. When your husband says “I loved the tie you bought me” while he’s wearing a tight smile that doesn’t reach his eyes, expect to see him in a turtleneck. Is the question simple or embarrassing? It’s normal for someone to look away when asked a difficult question. But when someone avoids your gaze when asked a simple question, you should be suspicious.
In conclusion, there are many reasons why people lie. Lies are an evil? It depends on situation. Some people feel that use lying to do the right things is okay, but others think that lying will bring consequences to us. If not necessary, I agree with tell the truth are better.It's very important to know that there are many other variables involved in this process thus I suggest that you use these methods for decision support and not for sole judgment of others. For example, if you suspect that someone is lying then you should see if any of these signs are present. Of course the more signs you find the more likely that person is lying.