...kind of way. We love our parents, significant others and even our friends. But we can also love other things like animals or material things. But what is the difference between loving and liking? And is it better not to love and feel pain or to love and be hurt in the progress? Jonathan Franzen seeks to answer these questions in his essay “Liking Is for Cowards. Go for What Hurts”. The essay “Liking Is for Cowards. Go for What Hurts” is, as mentioned, written by Jonathan Franzen and published in The New York Times, May 28, 2011. Jonathan Franzen is born in 1959, and he is an acclaimed American novelist and essayist. The essay is based on the commencement speech he delivered at Kenyon College in Ohio, USA. “Our technology has become extremely adept in creating products that correspond to our fantasy ideal of an erotic relationship, in which the beloved object asks for nothing and gives everything, instantly. (…)” As Franzen claims in his essay, many people can feel like they love their technological object. It gives them a satisfaction, which human interaction maybe wouldn’t. Franzen however thinks, that people in general don’t love material things: they like them. There is a major difference between loving and liking – even though it might appear small. “Liking, in general, is commercial culture’s substitute for loving.” Products are made to be likeable, but if that concept in transferred to a person, you would instantly see a narcissistic person, without integrity. Franzen...
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...Liking Is for Cowards. Go for What Hurts The author of “Liking Is for Cowards. Go for What Hurts”, Jonathan Franzen is an acclaimed American novelist and essayist, he was born in 1959. The essay gives the reader a lot to think about when Jonathan Franzen expresses his feelings about the two types of relationships in which he was involved, the liking and the loving. He starts his article out by being overly obsessive about his BlackBerry Bold cell phone. I would say that he was being sarcastic. Jonathan Franzen talks about how humans use technology to replace the “bad things” in life. He appeals to his readers through pathos. He tries to speak to our feelings by saying “We can handle being disliked now and then, because there’s such an infinitely big pool of potential likers. But to expose your whole self, not just the likable surface, and to have it rejected, can be catastrophically painful.” He claims people are having a relationship to their cell phone or other technological devices. Through this essay Jonathan Franzen builds up an instance by using arguments saying we do not appreciate the physical world enough. Jonathan Franzen is using examples from his own life, how he did not appreciate it before he got his interest in birds. He means many people use technology as a replacement for something more and they do not realize it until it is all they have left to hold on to. Technology has evolved so much. Our devices will do what we want, when we want them to. They will...
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...Essay on “Liking is for Cowards. Go for What Hurts” We’re spending more and more time online and less time out in the real world. But is modern technology really doing us harm? And are we missing out on a lot of important stuff when we hide behind our screens and use a mouse as our mouthpiece? These are some of the important question that arise from reading Jonathan Franzen’s essay, “Liking is for Cowards. Go for What Hurts” from 2011. The 51-year-old author puts our daily internet routines into perspective and forces us to think critically about what we are doing online. But he beats around the bush for a while before he starts presenting his actual message. He thus starts out sharing a personal experience of getting a new smartphone and uses this as a starting point for voicing his concerns. Jonathan Franzen is aware of the danger of scaring off those young readers who might be fed up with older people complaining about the youth of today, “Very probably, you’re sick to death of hearing social media disrespected by cranky 51-year-olds” (ll. 140-142). He therefore catches this young audience’s attention by comparing his relationship to his outdated smartphone to a relationship of romantic nature. He uses familiar expressions like “trust issues”, “accountability issues” and having “outgrown the relationship”. In this...
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...That technology has revolutionized every aspect of our lives, from communication to relationships, is an almost universal knowledge. However, differences abound in our opinions of technology’s effect on the latter. This very debate forms the center of Jonathan Franzen’s article, ‘Liking Is for Cowards. Go for What Hurts.” Franzen claims, “Technology provides an alternative to love,” thereby effectively pitching them against each other. He is of the opinion that the (admittedly likeable) advancements in technology are the result of markets discovering and responding to “what consumers most want.” He goes on to say that the ultimate aim of technology is to replace the “real” world, indifferent to individual desires, filled with heartache and opposition, with one that is so amenable to our wishes as to be a mere “extension of the self.” This world of “techno-consumerism,” based as it is on the risk-and-commitment-free ideology of “liking,” is threatened by the very concept of “real love,” its only recourse being that of the offensive. For instance, the entire wedding industry is based on the concept of the “commodification of love.”...
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...”Liking Is for Cowards. Go for What Hurts” Focus points: congruence and working in quotes All over the world, the media is becoming a dominating part of people's everyday life. Pages such as Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat and so on are affecting the society. We replace the bad things in life with technology, and we do not realize it before there's nothing else left. The kids who grow up in this world are so easily affected. The media raise them. They're raised by the idea that likes and comments are the definition of their popularity and how likeable they are. This is also some of the topics Jonathan Franzen talks about in his essay: "Liking Is for Cowards. Go for What Hurts". In the essay by Jonathan Franzen, he passes through a lot of topics. He's very critical towards the technology, which has developed aggressively throughout the last couple of years. He uses a lot of experiences from his own life such as when he talks about his new Blackberry (s. 1, line 1-4). He also talks about how we all want to be likeable. We all want to be accepted and liked by everyone. But it is just not possible. We use the technology to hide behind. The world of liking becomes dominant and that takes out the meaning of loving someone. Because when you love someone, then you expose yourself, which makes you vulnerable. So we hide on the social medias. We do not expose ourselves, but we can portray ourselves just as we like on the media. No one needs to know all the bad stuff. ...
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...The society today is affected by the social medias, such as Instagram, Facebook, Twitter etc. People measures their popularity and look on how many great comments and likes they got on their pictures or if they uploaded something on their wall. It’s especially young people who grow up in this world, who are affected on this new technological generation. The phenomenon and world is completely normal for them that they haven’t tried live in a world without this massive technological trend. Liking Is for Cowards. Go for What Hurts, is an essay written by Jonathan Franzen, that is based on a commencement speech he delivered at Kenyon College, Ohio, USA. Jonathan Franzen tries to remind people of the true meaning of love, even though technology is being at its peak. He is also trying to reach out to the young audience and tell them, that a real life isn’t on the Internet, but in real life. The author in this essay puts or daily routine on the Internet into perspective and tries to force us to be critical about what we do online. The author stars out sharing a personal experience, which is getting a new smartphone, and he is using it, as a starting point for his concerns. Jonathan Franzen is aware of the danger of scaring all those young readers who might be fed up with some older people, who are complaining about today’s generation of technological and Internet users: “Very probably, you’re sick to death of hearing social media disrespected by cranky 51-year-olds”. Therefore he...
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...B- Liking Is for Cowards. Go for What Hurts ” Write an essay in which you analyse and comment on Jonathan Franzen´s essay ” Liking Is for Cowards. Go for What Hurts”. Part of your essay must focus on how Jonathan Franzen tries to engage a young audience and on the message of the essay. The essay “Liking Is for Corwards. Go for What Hurts is written by the American writer Jonathan Franzen. The essay was published in The New York Times on may 28th, 2011 and is based on a speech by Franzen at Kenyon College in Ohio. Since the development of technology, the world is built up on mobile phones , text messages, Facebook and “likes”. What does the word “like” really mean to us? People like pictures, marital status and status in general on Facebook. Do they really like it or do they go with the flow? And what is the difference between like or real love? Jonathan Franzen debates the two images of loving and liking and how technology might have influenced us to change our point of view.First of all he starts telling the reader about his new Blackberry, which is an prior version of the Blackberry generation. His description of his own phone is great in details and the reader gets the impression of the miscellaneousness of the phone.The fantastic fact about such a mobile phone is that “ the beloved object asks for nothing and gives everything, instantly, and makes us feel all powerful, and doesn´t throw terrible scenes when it´s replaced by an even sexier object”. It might mean...
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...debated for many years of whether or not the United States should legalize it. I support same sex marriages because of equality, love, and knowing that it’s right. In the Declaration of Independence, it states, "that all men are created equal; that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights; that among these are life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.” To say that we are all equal, means that no one is above one another to judge someone liking a person of the same sex. Also, if marrying someone of the same sex is their source of happiness, then why can’t they legally get married? It makes me feel upset that we’ve come 40 years after the civil rights movement has ended and we still can’t treat each other equally. Love is love. The government or anyone else should not be able to tell you whom you can or cannot love. It’s like when I go to the grocery store, is the government there to tell me which apple I am allowed to get? There’s no difference between a man loving a women and a man loving a man if the love is both equal. Most people say that religion and the bible has caused them not to support same sex marriage. But, in Leviticus 19:19 "You are to keep My statutes. You shall not breed together two kinds of your cattle; you shall not sow your field with two kinds of seed, nor wear a garment upon you of two kinds of material mixed together." So according to the bible you are not allowed to wear clothes made with two different materials. Which means...
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...INTERPERSONAL ATTRACTION What is Interpersonal attraction? Interpersonal attraction * is the desire to approach another person. * is the attraction between people which leads to friendships and romantic relationships.. * refers to positive feelings about another person. It can take manyforms,including liking, love, friendship, lust, and admiration. * is anything that draws two or more people together characterized by affection, respect, liking, or love ("Interpersonal attraction," 2010) Affiliation Needs As Aristotle called humans “the social animal”, indeed we have an intense need to belong – to connect with others in enduring, close relationship(Myers,2007). Around the world and across age-groups, most people spend about 3/4 of their time with others. People want not merely the presence of others but close ties with people who care about them. Two theories explain the reasons for our affiliation needs: 1. Social comparison Theory 2. Social exchange theory Social comparison Theory One way to know ourselves and better understand our place in the social environment is to compare ourselves with others. This information is required to evaluate the self. Theory of Social exchange Focus of this theory is on interaction between people. This theory proposes that we seek out and maintain those relationships in which the reward exceeds the cost. The exchanged goods can be either material (money, food, etc.) or nonmaterial (social influence, affection...
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... Now that the seven years are up, the boy has had to be returned. Jonson tries to argue that this is only fair and his presumptuous plans for the boy's future were the cause of his present sense of loss. He then questions his own grief: why lament the enviable state of death when the child has escaped suffering and the misery of aging? He cannot answer this question, simply saying "Rest in soft peace" and asking that the child, or perhaps the grave, record that his son was Jonson's "best piece of poetry," the creation of which he was most proud. He concludes by vowing that from now on he will be more careful with those he loves; he will be wary of liking and so needing them too much. Commentary: The poem is a moving exploration of a father's feelings on the loss of his son, made all the more poignant by the difference between its affectionate, resigned tone and Jonson's usually satirical and biting comic voice. About the poem The poem records and laments (expresses sorrow for) the death of the poet's first son. We call such poems elegies or describe them as elegiac. Jonson contrasts his feelings of sorrow with what he thinks he ought to feel - happiness that his son is in a better place. The death of a child still has great power to move us - Seamus Heaney records a similar experience in Mid-Term Break. It would have been a far more common event in 17th century England, where childhood illnesses were often fatal. The modern reader should also be aware of Jonson's Christian...
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...a major facilitator of interpersonal relationships and, owing to its central psychological importance, is one of the most common themes in the creative arts.[8] Love may be understood as a function to keep human beings together against menaces and to facilitate the continuation of the species.[9] Definitions Part of a series on Love Red line heart icon Basic aspects[show] In history[show] Types of emotion[show] See also[show] v t e The word "love" can have a variety of related but distinct meanings in different contexts. Many other languages use multiple words to express some of the different concepts that in English are denoted as "love"; one example is the plurality of Greek words for "love". Cultural differences in conceptualizing love thus doubly impede the establishment of a...
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...Love From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia Jump to: navigation, search For other uses, see Love (disambiguation). Archetypal lovers Romeo and Juliet portrayed by Frank Dicksee Love is an emotion of a strong affection and personal attachment.[1] Love is also a virtue representing all of human kindness, compassion, and affection —"the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another".[2] Love may describe actions towards others or oneself based on compassion or affection.[3] In English, love refers to a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes, ranging from pleasure ("I loved that meal") to interpersonal attraction ("I love my partner"). "Love" may refer specifically to the passionate desire and intimacy of romantic love, to the sexual love of eros, to the emotional closeness of familial love, to the platonic love that defines friendship,[4] or to the profound oneness or devotion of religious love[5], or to a concept of love that encompasses all of those feelings. This diversity of uses and meanings, combined with the complexity of the feelings involved, makes love unusually difficult to consistently define, compared to other emotional states. Love in its various forms acts as a major facilitator of interpersonal relationships and, owing to its central psychological importance, is one of the most common themes in the creative arts.[6] Love may be understood as part of the survival instinct, a function to keep...
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...ACCEPTABILITY OF SUNFLOWER PETAL TEA AMONG SELECTED FACULTY AND STAFF IN CENTRAL LUZON STATE UNIVERSITY MICAH ANGELICA P. AGONOY JENNYLYNNE L. LUBRIN An undergraduate research submitted to the Faculty of the Department of Hospitality Management, College of Home Science and Industry, Central Luzon State University, Science City of Muñoz, Nueva Ecija, Philippines. In partial fulfillment of the requirements for the degree of the requirements for the subject Methods of Research (HRM335) BACHELOR OF SCIENCE IN HOTEL AND RESTAURANT MANAGEMENT March 2012 BIOGRAPHICAL SKETCH The author was born the zodiac sign of Virgo on September 17, 1992 in Tondod, San Jose City, Nueva Ecija to Mr. Wilfredo S. Agonoy and Mrs. Norma P. Agonoy. She is the 2nd among the 3 sibling. She finished her primary education in 2005 at Cherubim Learning Center and her secondary education at Bettbien High School 2009. Her mother advice her to engage in nursing but she didn’t put attention because of fears in life. Her passion in cooking led her taking up Bachelor of Science Hotel and Restaurant Management at Central Luzon State University, Science City of Munoz, Nueva Ecija. Her dream is to study in Treston College for a culinary arts and looking forward in becoming a chef in the next few years. MICAH ANGELICA P. AGONOY iii iii BIOGRAPHICAL SKETCH The author was born the zodiac sign of Scorpio on October 27, 1991 in Cabanatuan City, Nueva Ecija to Mr. Felimon D. Lubrin and Mrs...
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...http://www.termpaperwarehouse.com/essay-on/Sunflower-Petal-As-Tea/131073 Sunflower Petal as Tea ACCEPTABILITY OF SUNFLOWER PETAL TEA AMONG SELECTED FACULTY AND STAFF IN CENTRAL LUZON STATE UNIVERSITY MICAH ANGELICA P. AGONOY JENNYLYNNE L. LUBRIN An undergraduate research submitted to the Faculty of the Department of Hospitality Management, College of Home Science and Industry, Central Luzon State University, Science City of Muñoz, Nueva Ecija, Philippines. In partial fulfillment of the requirements for the degree of the requirements for the subject Methods of Research (HRM335) BACHELOR OF SCIENCE IN HOTEL AND RESTAURANT MANAGEMENT March 2012 BIOGRAPHICAL SKETCH The author was born the zodiac sign of Virgo on September 17, 1992 in Tondod, San Jose City, Nueva Ecija to Mr. Wilfredo S. Agonoy and Mrs. Norma P. Agonoy. She is the 2nd among the 3 sibling. She finished her primary education in 2005 at Cherubim Learning Center and her secondary education at Bettbien High School 2009. Her mother advice her to engage in nursing but she didn’t put attention because of fears in life. Her passion in cooking led her taking up Bachelor of Science Hotel and Restaurant Management at Central Luzon State University, Science City of Munoz, Nueva Ecija. Her dream is to study in Treston College for a culinary arts and looking forward in becoming a chef in the next few years. MICAH ANGELICA P. AGONOY iii iii BIOGRAPHICAL SKETCH The author was born the zodiac sign of Scorpio on October...
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...Motivation Plan LDR/531 Motivation Plan Motivation is an important part to any organization. Motivation will drive the purpose of a department and help with customer satisfaction, help a business to be profitable and keep employees happy and satisfied. In a transportation organization there are many gears that need to be well greased in order to keep the wheels turning. For the departments or divisions to remain intact employees must be well trained in daily tasks and be motivated to keep moving forward. Customer service, driver retention, low truck idling to save fuel, and best practices are an important key to keep a trucking company in business. However it all depends on the internal employee’s performances and how the company’s leaders intend it to do so. The 651 division of NFI in Waxahachie, TX provides logistical solutions for General Motors and the Ford Motor Company. This division has a team of 5 members and one project manager. This group monitors 180 truck drivers daily that picks up runs from the East Coast to the Midwest and does daily shuttle runs from supplier to automotive plants. The organizational requirements are low fuel cost, low payroll additions, practical routes, low driver turn-over rates, on-time preventative maintenance on trucks and trailers, and no negative safety impacts. All loads must be delivered in real time with no negative impact to the customers. It is imperative that there be motivational plan in...
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