...t he fine art of small talk How to Start a Conversation, Keep It Going, Build Networking Skills— and Leave a Positive Impression! new york To Jared Fine Holst and Sarah Fine Holst, my inspiration and motivation. And the gentle wind beneath my wings, Steve Tilliss. C ontents Preface ix chapter 1 What’s the Big Deal About Small Talk? 1 chapter 2 Get Over Your Mom’s Good Intentions 12 chapter 3 Take the Plunge: Start a Conversation! 27 chapter 4 Keep the Conversation Going! 37 chapter 5 Let’s Give ’Em Something to Talk About 49 chapter 6 Hearing Aids and Listening Devices 66 viii . contents c hapter 7 Prevent Pregnant Pauses with Preparation 84 chapter 8 Conversational Clout 108 chapter 9 Crimes and Misdemeanors 114 chapter 10 The Graceful Exit 139 chapter 11 The Conversational Ball Is in Your Court! 154 chapter 12 Make the Most of Networking Events! 159 chapter 13 Surviving the Singles Scene 165 chapter 14 Feel-Good Factor 185 chapter 15 Holiday Party Savvy 192 chapter 16 Carpe Diem 195 Acknowledgments 201 Preface W hen I first got into the business of helping people cultivate conversation skills, I ran into a lot of skepticism. Invariably, executives would scoff at the idea of a housewife’s trivial initiative to overcome boredom. Then I would get clandestine calls for assistance from folks with prestigious titles...
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...Reflect on your high school year, think about your senior year. Think about your anticipation to go out into the world, to go to college, to work a job or a start a new career. Did you know what you wanted to do? If you did know, how did you know? Was you inspired, did someone from a career field come and talk to your class and sparked the interest that changed your life? Bring someone in from the career field of engineering to speak to our class. A large amount of the young minds in this class are creative and technology oriented. If an engineer came to talk our class the creative people could be inspired to create buildings and to design and engineer blueprints and floor plans to make the buildings of the future. The students who love playing...
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...Forbus threw the stack of prints and specifications down on his desk in disgust. The Model 802 wide-band modulator, released for production the previous Thursday, had just come back to Frank's Engineering Services Department with a caustic note that began, "This one can't be produced, either. . . ." It was the fourth time Production had kicked the design back. Frank Forbus, director of engineering for Rondell Data Corp., was normally a quiet man. But the Model 802 was stretching his patience; it was beginning to look just like other new products that had hit delays and problems in the transition from design to production during the eight months Frank had worked for Rondell. These problems were nothing new at the sprawling old Rondell factory; Frank's predecessor in the engineering job had run afoul of them too, and had finally been fired for protesting too vehemently about the other departments. But the Model 802 should have been different. Frank had met two months before (July 3, 2004) with the firm's president, Bill Hunt, and with factory superintendent Dave Schwab to smooth the way for the new modulator design. He thought back to the meeting. . . . "Now we all know there's a tight deadline on the 802," Bill Hunt said, "and Frank's done well to ask us to talk about its introduction. I'm counting on both of you to find any snags in the system, and to work together to get that first production run out by October second. Can you do it?" ...
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...matter with Hambali himself? as an engineer I think what Daniel do is right because he need to act professionally because it is mentioned in the engineering canons where engineers shall act In such a manner as to uphold and enhance the honor integrity and dignity of the profession. But then it doesn’t mean that Daniel shouldn’t need to see Hambali personally to discuss the matter in fact it is a must, because of Daniel has to act professional he need to do it step by step. This is also Daniel’s duty as a engineer where he needs to tell the truth as mentioned by Immanuel Kant that duties are absolute and unconditional.. Should Daniel have a conversation with Hambali about his concerns? If so, what type of conversation should Daniel have with Hambali when he talks with him? In my opinion Daniel should have a conversation with Hambali about his concerns and Daniel should have a formal conversation with hambali because what he is done is against the codes of ethics of an engineer that is being honest and impartial and serving with fidelity the public their employers and clients. Then he need to explained all the ethics and fundamental canons of being an engineer because engineer serve for the society we all need to behave. Other than that by having a conversation with Hambali it will make he realize that practice the engineering ethics is very important and when Hambali admits his mistake he will get a lesson from it and slightly if not much improve his ethical judgement ...
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...is a huge dearth of good quality colleges for higher education in India especially in the states of Bihar, Jharkhand and West Bengal. Our research shows that the engineering education has been quiet neglected in this part of the country primarily due to the lack of any quality education provider in this sector. After a considerable analysis of the various available options three partners/ friends and members of The National Trust, Mr. Mahesh Sharma, Mr. Nagarjuna Shetty and Mr. Patrick D’Souza have zeroed down on starting an Educational institute i.e. an engineering college. The college will be located at Jamshedpur, a tier 2 Industrial city in the state if Jharkhand in eastern India. As per the business plan, the team envisions a high quality education infrastructure, to cater to the needs of the students from the states of Jharkhand, Bihar, West Bengal as well as other nearby states. Mr Pattrick D’souza with his immense experience as an educator and an administrator will be the director of the Buddha Institute of Technology for the first five years after its Inception. The institute will be starting off with three branches of engineering at first viz. Mechanical Engineering, Electrical Engineering, Computer Engineering. Buddha Institute of Technology aims to expand in coming years into more branches of engineering at first, followed by expansion into other fields of education like medical sciences and Management studies. The administrative body of the Institute was formed...
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...communities. In a discourse community, the communication between its members is vital because it causes them to have shared knowledge and similar interests. Due to the different communities having distinct interests, the way they converse can be altered to best suit each group. For example, a group of doctors would talk about medical subjects unlike sport fans would talk about a sport. I am a mechanical engineering student and therefore identify with the engineering discourse community. In this field, the community use different platforms of communication to reach its members. The internet is an effective way of communicating with engineers and the website Engineering.com is a useful resource to share information. Engineering.com is a site used by engineering professionals or companies to communicate ideas and information with other people in the engineering community. I came across this website while searching for engineering websites on the internet. I would expect other people to find this site by the same means I did. What drew me into the site was what was said in the ‘About Us’ section. The site prides itself on bringing, “…the most influential voices in engineering to a worldwide audience of engineers.” This statement help make the site more professional and credible because it is telling the users that not just anyone can put information on the site and that the contents are created by people who know what they are talking about. On the site it also says, “Our goals are to...
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...beginning will change everything down to a distinct thought. History has proven that the steps forward in technology within engineering have grown larger and are concluded at a more rapid rate and within the last twenty years. Such a large amount has improved so rapid as cities grow and technology advances, engineering is moving along with the tide. Engineers that grow and see their world of work improve every day because of certain advances in technology all depending on their field. This how engineering features evolved into what they are today from within the last two decades; and how the change will continue to advance as modern Technology embraces a post-modern era. Engineering has existed since the earliest times of culture and perhaps is one of the older lines of labor on earth (the earliest invention of engineering goes back as early as the invention of the wheel). It’s extraordinary that we came so far since the discovery of the wheel. The technology that has been accomplished today just engulfs the minds of people. Everyday modern technology is taken over the minds of people and they continue to adapt to the modern changes within the ever changing society. Through centuries there are trails left by ancient engineering and has differed from our technology today. Through the ancient era there has been astounding and un-answering feats of engineering. Like the great pyramids of Egypt and the great coliseums of Rome. They manufactured these man-made objects so big with no...
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...Session T4B Special Session - Henry’s Daughters: A New Engineering Ethics Movie Michael C. Loui (Facilitator), Jimmy H. Smith, Joseph R. Herkert, and Steven P. Nichols loui@illinois.edu, jimmy.smith@ttu.edu, joseph.herkert@asu.edu, s.nichols@mail.utexas.edu Abstract – The National Institute for Engineering Ethics has produced a new movie, Henry’s Daughters, to aid in teaching professional ethics in engineering. The movie highlights ethical issues at both individual and societal levels. In this special session, participants will learn how to use two cooperative learning strategies together with the new movie. Participants will also learn a classroom assessment technique. Index Terms - engineering ethics, emerging technologies, cooperative learning, classroom assessment INTRODUCTION To advance instruction in professional ethics for engineering students, the National Institute for Engineering Ethics (NIEE) collaborated with Great Projects Film Company of New York City to produce a new educational movie, Henry’s Daughters (2010). This 32-minute movie dramatizes a fictional but realistic story that highlights engineering responsibility regarding both micro-ethical issues of individual conduct and macro-ethical issues of public policy [1] in the development of an intelligent transportation system. In addition to raising standard issues of professional ethics such as conflicts of interest and the confidentiality of proprietary information, Henry’s Daughters includes ethical implications...
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...Study Guide for Henry’s Daughters (Without Graphics) Produced and distributed by the National Institute for Engineering Ethics Murdough Center for Engineering Professionalism Edward Whitacre College of Engineering Texas Tech University, Lubbock, Texas [pic] Copyright © 2010 Henry’s Daughters is designed to raise awareness of the ethical aspects of engineering work, advance knowledge and understanding of professional standards and public obligations and expectations, improve skills in moral reasoning, and strengthen personal dedication to exemplary conduct. Henry’s Daughters is dedicated to the memory of E. D. “Dave” Dorchester, P.E. Past President, National Institute for Engineering Ethics; Past President, Texas Society of Professional Engineers Past Chair, Texas Board of Professional Engineers; Distinguished Life Member, NIEE Executive Board Dave was highly influential in promoting NIEE and Murdough Center ethics programs. In 1989, he established the Professional Development Program of the Texas Board of Professional Engineers. As NIEE President, Dave worked with Dean Bill Marcy to bring NIEE to Texas Tech University. and E. Walter LeFevre, Ph.D., P.E. Past President, National Society of Professional Engineers; Fellow, National Society of Professional Engineers Past Director, Vice President and Fellow, ASCE; Past President, Arkansas Professional Engineers Board; Distinguished Life Member, NIEE Executive Board Walt was the longest standing...
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...going to be a problem or issue for engineers. Being loyal to your beliefs, the company you work for, and society is always going to come as a challenge because you really cannot make everyone happy all of the time. Baron states, “The NSPE Code begins, ‘The Engineer, to uphold and advance the honor and dignity of the engineering profession and in keeping with the high standards of ethical conduct. . . will be honest and impartial, and will serve with devotion his employer, his clients, and the public. . . .’ Can an engineer, no matter how heroic, always serve each of these parties with devotion? Can he or she, in other words, always be loyal to all three? The answer is clearly, ‘No.’“ (Baron 22) Baron says that the answer to this question is clearly “No.” She follows this by giving two conditional examples, the B.F. Goodrich and Ford Pinto engineers, which are very one-sided in agreement to her claim. She believes that you cannot be loyal to everyone all of the time, but when every situation is dissected, her view becomes questionable. Every situation is different, and sometimes it may be difficult to be loyal to all three, but it can definitely be done. If we talk about the youtube video of whistle blowing, Baron considers “blowing the whistle” as...
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...MGT 434 Week 4 DQ 3 To Buy This material Click below link http://www.uoptutors.com/MGT-434/MGT-434-Week-4-DQ-3 You are the Office Manager for an engineering firm. You interview Patricia for a position as the admin for three engineers and two surveyors. Three weeks after she accepts the job, she calls in sick. She does not bring in a doctors note. Two weeks later, she calls you to tell you that her boy friend”must undergo surgery. She has promised him that the first person he will see upon coming out of anesthesia will be she. She needs to take time off to fulfill her promise. You tell her to report in once she has seen him. One month after that, she comes to you and tells you that she needs an advance on her salary, as she is on the verge of being evicted. You speak with the owner, who says that she can have her check early ONLY this one time. Several days later, she calls on her cell phone. She speaks to one of the engineers and tells him to tell you that a car drove her off the road and the state trooper investigating the case believes that she needs to take the day off to recuperate. The engineer reports this to you. He also tells you that his team has been keeping a diary on her time and attendance. She constantly is leaving her work station, going outside to smoke or talk on has cell phone. She also has told them that she suffers from Crohn’s’ Disease and needs frequent bathroom breaks. You tell her that you would like to speak with her. She tells you, in reply,”Great...
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...Jamont Waters Macroeconomics November 5, 2012 Oprah Winfrey Most Successful Talk Show Host to Live Oprah Winfrey is the most successful talk show host that has ever graced this earth. Oprah was born in a poor rural town of Kosciusko, Mississippi on January 25, 1954. After a troubled childhood filled with sexual abuse by a number of male relatives and friends of her mother, Vernita, Oprah moved to Nashville to live with her father, Vernon, a barber and businessman. She went to Tennessee State University in 1971 and began working in radio and television broadcasting in Nashville. In 1976, Oprah moved to Baltimore where she hosted the TV chat show, People Are Talking. The show became a hit and Oprah stayed with it for eight years. She then hosted her own morning show A.M. Chicago after she was recruited by a Chicago TV station. At this time Donahue was competition for her, but within several months of her A.M. show, she had won her 100,000 more viewers than Donahue and had taken her show from last place to first in the ratings. Her success led to nationwide fame and a role in the film, The Color Purple, in 1985. She was nominated for an Academy Award for Best Supporting Actress. Oprah launched the Oprah Winfrey Show in 1986 as a nationally syndicated program. Her show grossed over $125 million by the end of its first year, which Oprah received $30 million. She was on 120 channels and had an audience of 10 million people. She soon gained ownership of the program from ABC, drawing...
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...of our 25 more months in this program as well as when we are clinical CRNAs and working as a professional in this field. I think one of my first big “ah ahh” moments came to me during the wellness lecture by Janet DeWan. I struggled in the beginning of the semester with getting back into the mode of studying daily and keeping up with reading and school work as I had been removed from the full time school load for two years during my time as an ICU nurse. I was exhausted and struggling to keep up with my daily reading and studying for multiple very intense courses in this program. I thought I was the only one who was struggling and becoming overwhelmed. I wasn’t alone, and I learned that in talking with my classmates. I was able to talk to them about their own personal struggles and stresses that they were facing with this program as well and we became a support system for each other. Janet Dewan then talked to us about the stresses we face as SRNAs and later in life as CRNAs and the importance of finding our own coping mechanisms for that stress so that we do not lose sight of our focus and desire to become successful CRNAs. Many SRNAs and CRNA’s fall victim to substance abuse or mental breakdowns because of the stresses they are coping with because they do not know how to channel their stress and keep their lives and studies on track. I realized that I need to have an outlet of stress relief for me personally that is healthy, mentally and...
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...http://www.buzzle.com/editorials/2-3-2005-65287.asp Keynote Speakers Top Motivational Speakers for Events in Singapore and Asia It is unbelievable the amount of influence that Oprah Winfrey has had over the lives of millions of people all over the world. She has become a demi-god in America. There are people who are ready to worship the ground over which she walks. She has lived the Great American dream, a veritable tale of rags to riches with the right amount of glamor added to it. Born in 1954 to unmarried parents, Oprah was raised by her grandmother on a farm with no indoor plumbing in Kosciusko, Mississippi. Oprah's childhood turned into a nightmare because of sexual abuse that she suffered. After suffering abuse and molestation, she ran away and was sent to a juvenile detention home at the age of 13. In 1968, at the age of 14 she gave birth to a premature baby who died soon after birth. An incident of this nature can devastate the entire life of a person. But Oprah Winfrey came out of it a stronger and fiercely determined individual. Her story is one of unrelenting focus and determination. Oprah's tryst with the world of entertainment began when at the age of three she began speaking in church. By the time she was a teenager Oprah was touring the churches of Nashville, reciting the sermons of James Weldon Johnson. Crowned Miss Fire Prevention in Nashville at 17, Winfrey visited a local radio station, where she was invited to read copy. She was so good that she was...
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...problems or offering solutions. This can have an avalanche effect that is difficult to stop. Possible Solutions: Don't move on to another person's problem until the first one has been addressed. This will stop the "snowball" effect of other people jumping in with the same complaints. It also reinforces the idea that a support group is a place to get ideas on how to deal with problems rather than just a place to talk and not do anything about those problems. Remind group that support groups should be positive, and members should mention the progress that they are making. Sometimes people don't want to take time away from someone who is having difficulty, but talking about progress is a very important part of a support group. They can offer others suggestions and strategies for improvement. Put something in the ground rules that each member must state something positive that happened to them since the last meeting. If many people in the group have the same specific problem, ask them to think about possible ways to deal with the problem in between meetings, and talk about their thoughts at the next group meeting. This is a good way to get people to take positive action. Make sure that the agenda sets aside time for members to discuss what they've thought about or learned in between meetings. Ask members which of these ideas they plan to use. This puts the emphasis on making progress and...
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