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স্কুল বা ছোট বেলার দিনগুলো তে হুট
করেই বন্ধুত্ব হয়ে যেতো...
যেই ছেলেটা লুকোচুরি খেলার সময়
চোর হয়ে আমার পিছনে টানা ৫
মিনিট ছুটেছিল, সে আমার বন্ধু হয়ে গিয়েছিল ...
ছোট্ট চুলের ঐ মেয়েটা একটা চুইংগাম
দিয়েছিল ক্লাস টু তে, সেদিনই আমার
বন্ধু হয়ে গেছিল...
পাশের বেঞ্চের ছেলেটা চুপচাপ
বসে থাকতো সারাদিন, কারণ ছাড়াই
সেও আমার বন্ধু হয়ে গেলো....
আর মারামারি করা সেই গুন্ডা
ছেলেটাও অদ্ভুত ভাবে পরের দিনেই বন্ধু
এই হুট করে হওয়া বন্ধুত্বটা হুট করেই
ভেঙ্গে যেতো না ... ৫ টাকা দিয়ে
অনেকগুলা Sticker কিনে বন্ধুদের খাতায়
লাগিয়ে দেওয়া ... বাবল গাম খেয়ে
Tattoo পেলে ছেলেটার হাতে বসিয়ে
দেওয়া কিংবা Trump Card কার্ডগুলা
নিয়ে একসাথে বসে যেতাম........

কি সহজ, কি সুন্দর ছিল সেসব বন্ধুত্ব !!
সেই বন্ধুত্বে আড়ি ছিলো ... রাগ
ছিলো ... মজা ছিল Jealousy ছিলো ...
খেলার মাঠে ল্যাং মেরে ফেলে
দেয়া ছিল এক সাথে কান ধরে দাড়ান
ছিল... চুইংগাম চিবিয়ে বেঞ্চে
আটকে দেওয়া ছিল.....Tiffin নিয়ে
মারামারি ছিল ... সব ছিলো !!

এখনকার বন্ধুত্বেও সবই আছে ... শুধু "সহজ" -
নামক জিনিসটা নেই !!
এখন আর বন্ধুরা "আড়ি" করে না, কিন্তু
বাইরে থেকে "ব্যস্ততা" নামক একটা
অজুহাত দিয়ে ভুলে যেতেও সময় নেয়না
এখনো বন্ধুরা "রাগ" করে... কিন্তু "রাগ"
দেখিয়ে দুটো কথা বলে না ... "Ignore''
করে ... যেটা সব থেকে খারাপ লাগে
এখনো বন্ধুদের মাঝে "Jealousy" থাকে ...
কিন্তু আগের মত সামনে থেকে ল্যাং
মেরে ফেলে দেওয়া হয় না ... এখনের
"jealously" মানে পেছন থেকে ছুরি
মারা নীরবে নিঃশব্দে !!
এখন বন্ধুরা বন্ধুকে ভুলে যায় ... "Girlfriend"
বা "Boyfriend" নিয়ে জগত সাজিয়ে
নীরবে জানিয়ে দেয় "এখন আর
তোদের দরকার নেই "
এখনো "ঝগড়া" হয় ... তবে নীরব ঝগড়া
...যাকে ইংরেজিতে বলে "COLD
WAR" ... ... এই ঝগড়ায় কোন কথা
কাটাকাটি নেই ... না আছে রাগের
প্রকাশ, নীরবতার ছুরি দিয়ে একজন
আরেকজনের ভেতরটাকে সহজেই
কাটাকাটি করে ফেলে !!
কেউ এখন আর সরাসরি কিছু বলে না
আগের মত ... কপাল কুচকে বলে না....
"তুই আমার Sticker কেন নিলি ?"
"তুই আমার Tiffin টা কেন খেলি?"
সবাই বড্ড Mature ... সবার বড্ড বেশিই
Ego... সবাই সবাইকে "বুঝে নেয়" ... বুঝে
নিতে গিয়েই ভুল হয়ে যায় ...
ইংরেজিতে যাকে বলে
"MISUNDERSTANDING"
সবকিছু বড্ড বেশিই জটিল হয়ে গেছে ...
চিন্তা, ভাবনা, কথা, কাজ ... সব ...
আমরা কেউ কাউকে সরাসরি
জিজ্ঞেস করি না "কেন এটা করলি ??"
আমরা মনে মনে ভেবে নিই -
"সে কেন এটা করলো ?? নিশ্চয়ই......"
আঙ্গুলের সাথে আঙ্গুল মিলিয়ে
চোখের দিকে তাকিয়ে "আড়ি"
নেয়ার দিনগুলোই বোধ হয় ভালো ছিল
... At Least কারণটা তো জানতাম !!
ছোট্ট বেলাটার ছোট্ট জামাটাই বেশ
ছিল গাল টিপে আদর খাওয়া টাই বেশ
ছিল।

এখন হুট করে চোখের সামনে "ADD FRIEND"
অথবা "UNFRIEND" বাটনটা যখন সামনে
চলে আসে , কারণ খুঁজতে খুঁজতে মনে
পড়ে যায় ভুল করেই মনে হয় বড় হয়ে গেছি..

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...True Friendship Studied to this day, Aristotle’s Nicomachean Ethics is one of the most interesting pieces of literature I have come across. The text offers Aristotle’s views on a variety of topics including what a human being is comprised of, not in terms of physiology, but rather what differentiates us from animals for example. Most importantly, and the parts that I focused on for this assignment were the areas where Aristotle defines the various types of friendships, and the parts where Aristotle discusses moral virtue and how one can go about acquiring them. In this paper I will review Aristotle’s moral virtues in relation to the term philia, and evaluate why self-control is the most significant of the virtues required in a true friendship. Before diving in, it is first important to dissect the term philia as used by Aristotle in Nicomachean Ethics. The term philia encompasses a variety of relationships types including the relationships between: business contacts, parent and child, soldiers on the same army, the best of friends, and even the relationship to one’s significant other. Though today we would not necessarily consider all of these relationships to be friendships, the term philia did incorporate them. For the purpose of this paper, the term philia, or friendship, is about the relationship between the truest of friends. Within the scope of friendship overall, Aristotle distinguishes between three objects of philia: utility, pleasure, and good. The friendship...

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