I Want To Live Life

What do you think of when you hear the word marriage? When I hear that word, I think of two people so in love that they want to spend the rest of their lives together. They want to raise a family in a big house with a white picket fence and live happily ever after. Lets be real, statistics show that 40-50% of marriages will end in divorce. I don’t know about you, but those odds aren’t really in my favor. So when I look at it all there are just to many disadvantages to marriage. Getting married is such a hassle, why would anyone want to. You have to deal with wedding planners, flower arrangements, guest lists and etc. Theirs just to much to put into getting married your already stressing yourself out before you actually get into the marriage. Lets not forget about the things you have to give up. Such as, you aren’t able to take risks. The way I see it, life involves risks. Some that betters you off and some that bites you in the butt and set you back. From experience with me when I fall or get set back, I get up and take another risk and move on. I think taking risks are fine, as long as you’re the one who suffers from the setbacks. You can’t take those chances with another person’s life, health; money and future are in your hands. It would be a pretty selfish thing to do. To me marriage means your keeping the

best interest of two people in mind at all times. Yeah, it might keep you from going to jail or other stupid moves, but it might also hold you back from pulling the trigger on a decision that could better your life forever. I see marriage as giving up the luxury of living life; life is meant to be lived before we take the long indefinite trip toward the pearly gates. When you’re married, your always having to compromise. Its hard to accomplish what you want out of life when your spending half the time doing what she wants. You cant go white water rafting with your friends because its to dangerous for her. You cant go to the shooting range because its to loud for her. Compromise isn’t just associated with small decisions in a marriage. Your going to have to come to an agreement on where you live, where your money goes, which of yours religion your going to follow and so on. And after all that, there are still a million other choices your going to have to make to make her happy. Back to my first thoughts on marriage, marriage is way to expensive. Facts and figures are released each year by the wedding industries, prove that weddings are getting out of control with pricing. In 2011 Americans spent $71 billion dollars on weddings , with each ceremony averaging out at about $29,000. Statistics state that most marital issues are rooted in problems that have to do with money, usually a lack of money is the main reason. Sounds to me like most marriages start out in debt because they wanted to get married in the first place. And I understand most couples go into marriages holding two incomes. But the question is how long can the couple hold it up while limits are being set and questions being asked. Like how, where and why you spend your money start to make there way into arguments they have. Then other things

come into play and insecurities come out and then when is marriage most expensive? when it ends in divorce. I honestly don’t understand why people aren’t okay with just a monogamous relationship with the person you love or care about. I feel that if the two of you are happy with each other and the agreement you have, why rock the boat? There are hundreds of reasons why people shouldn’t get married. These three reason did it for me, I want to take risks and fall down and learn lessons that’s the part living life and growing as a person, why wouldn’t you want too. I want to be able to get up and go and not have to worry about her feelings or having to compromise about anything. I want to spend the money I work hard for, on anything and everything I want. I want to live life to the fullest and have fun and create memories. Im not saying you cant do this while your married, its just going to be very tuff.