...Living Apart Together Living Apart Together (LAT) is a new family lifestyle – voluntarily – for the couples all around the world. LAT is a term, to describe the couples in a relationship, which live in separate houses. Couples who live apart are becoming very common and have become a growing trend. The concept of this way of living is getting popular and can be found in all age groups. Experts agree that LATs is now part of the social landscape. Some say the trend shows, that you have problems in your relationship, which that you are attempting to run away from, instead of dealing with them. While others believe that this is an opportunity to be away from your actual partner and thus gives a better and healthier relationship. Of course there are many other arguments and those above, are only a few of many in the debate of living apart together. In the following assignment, I have focused on the issue “does living apart together have a positive or negative impact?”. Of course there are various points of views and opinions, and that’s what makes this topic so exciting. Therefore I have selected text 2 and 3, representing two different perspectives. Text 2 “Home alone together” is written by Jill Brooke in 2006. The text claims that LAT is becoming very popular and the number of these kinds of relationships is increasing. The co-director of the Nation Marriage Project at Rutgers University, David Popenoe, tells us about how the “younger couples often turn to LAT arrangements...
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...Living Apart Together L.A.T The Living Apart Together relationship, also mentioned as L.A.T relationship is a growing form of relationship, which has increased incredibly like wildfire as the text Just What Modern Romance Needs: “Living Apart Together” by Gary Picariello explains it: “… the concept has spread like wildfire among nearly 50% of young couples in Europe, the United States and even farther abroad”. The definition of “Living Apart Togethers “ is fairly simple; it is couples that wish not to live together, not owing to distance, work or children as many other couples are forced to, but because they simply want to live separately. One way to look at these L.A.Ts is as Jeanette Lofa, who “advocates living apart” does. She advocates L.A.Ts owing to the complications blended families often has to deal with which they could avoid, such as power struggles and internecine resentments. Partly agreeing with Jeanette Lofa is Professor Popenoe who points out that Living Apart Together makes sense for couples with kids and elderly couples who might have been married before. He is also worried that LATs will distort their capability of forming long-term relationships. Agreeing is Dr. Scott Haltzman who adds the capability of intimacy and cooperation as factors that might impair by living apart and not being forced to deal with it. Also, according to Gary Picariello qualities like compromising, negotiation and commitment are to be lost or not developed, if the two parts of...
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...Living apart together. Living apart together or LAT is not a concept I understand, perhaps I’m old fashioned but how can you say that you’re in a serious relationship, when you only see each other every few days? Of course I can see that when you are young like 16-25 years old, it is normal not to live together. But when you decide to start a family, how can you still live apart? Everybody’s different, and if it makes sense to them, then let them be. But in my point of view I could not be in that form of relationship. Many couples are in a LAT relationship. To be in a LAT relationship means that you are involved with another person but you aren’t living together. It is mainly young people and separated people. It is a whole new trend LAT, many experts encourages people to live in a LAT relationship. Jeannette Lofas is one of the persons who encourage couples to live in a LAT arrangement. She says “ many young people are starting a new family after separation, and the blended families are so vulnerable to internecine resentments and power struggles, that it may can cost them there new family.” As the quote says there can be a lot of problems, with blended families. Many people are talking about how it is to be in a LAT relationship. As Ms. Davis says “ I feel I get a lot of togetherness and lot of time to myself. “ the reason she is living in a LAT, is that when she met her true love, she didn’t want to give up her apartment. Professor Popenoe is studying the reasons why...
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...Living Apart Together (LAT) 1) There is this concept called Living Apart Together (LAT), it´s a new trend spreading among couples all over the world. The idea of this trend is making a relationship over a long distance while not seeing each other. There is a lot of benefits with this concept, you don´t have to live with your “other half’s” stupid hobbies etc. You both decide where to live, and some says that it gives you an opportunity of being away from the stressed couple life, where LAT gives you an opportunity to being away from your partner. In this way you don´t get tired or irritated by your partner, you don´t have to deal with these problems some couples living together are dealing with every day. The second text we are introduced to is called “Home Alone Together” (May 4, 2006) an article by The New York Times. Professor David Popenoe, is against the concept “Living Apart Together”, as he says: “Younger couples often turn to L.A.T. arrangements after failed marriages, particularly if there af children involved.” He says it´s because they are not ready to have a baby, or is just not ready to commit to a long life relationship. Ms. Hess 61 years old, believes it could save a lot of breakups and in that case a lot of pain, she believes that people try to fit into a very narrow model for long terms relationship that may never work out. She says: “Many people are trying to fit themselves into a very narrow for long-term relationships that does not work for their...
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...Living Apart Together 1. Living apart together is sort of a new trend in modern relationships. Instead of living as the assumption of being in love must lead to cohabiting, they challenge the fact by living in separate houses, apartments, beds etc. They actually don’t live together. It’s like having an affair for a very long time. But why do people do this? The main reason is that many people who perform the L.A.T. do it because of a bad relationship in the past, and they are afraid of becoming too connected love-wise, knowing that maybe a divorce could happen again, so they just live separately but still have each other to love - mentally and physically. We, in Denmark, must have raised our eye brows if we heard that some of us, who are in love and perhaps even married, don’t live together but in England, Holland, Sweden, Norway, France and Canada nearly half of all married couples don’t live under the same roof. Text 2 is written in pathos because the intention of the article is to appeal to the readers’ emotions. Jill Brooke, the journalist, writes in a condescending tone in her article. She makes living together sound awful by saying things like: “When people remarry after divorce, the new marriages fail at a significantly higher rate - more than 60 percent versus 50 percent or less for first marriages”. In this part of the article she could just say that LAT is the way to keep a relationship going, because living together can’t last, and that’s what’s clever...
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...English assignment – Living Apart Together Explain what ”Living Apart Together” is, and give an outline of the different views presented in texts 2 and 3 “Living Apart Together” is also known as the acronym L.A.T. Living apart is popular for younger couples because they are not sure about what they want to do, but it has been more popular for older people to live the L.A.T. way. The living apart together familiy is when a couple doesn’t live in the same house but still are a couple. The couple from the second text is a good example on a living apart together family. Woody Allen and Mia Farrow have only devoted a part of their lives to each other. They want to be a couple but still have the freedom, so they can do what they want and have some spare time for themselves. I think it’s a bit strange that couples can be together for such a long time but they never decide to move together. But still I could imagine that it would be great to come home to a place you know its only yours and there is no other who can decide how you going to decorate your place. Its like Ms. Davis said in the text two “I like my quit times”, she likes to come home to her own place and don’t have to think about anything. They have talked about moving together but they don’t have the same views, of how they think that their future house should be like. That is a exciting fact, that even doe they fit together personally. They cant live under the same roof because they have a different style and see the...
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...Living Apart Together 1. Explain what ”Living Apart Together” is, and give an outline of the different views presented in texts 2 and 3. “Living Apart Together” is a new trend and term that describes couples, who have a relationship without living together, but lives in separate homes. They have committed themself to share their lives, but only to a point. This could probably be one way to enhance the amount of novelty or excitement in a couple’s relationship. By choosing to live apart is it not that monotonous and tedious and this is a suggestion to help up couples to regain some of the sparkle in their relationship. This term is also abbreviated to “LAT”. Text 2 describes “LAT” as a new trend for family life. It says that this trend, which has been very successful in Europe, has expanded in American prior to Europe. They mention that this new way to live as a family can be used in different ways. For example can many older couples see it as “a way of avoiding complicated inheritance issues.” (l.19). Younger couples often turn to LAT after marriage that failed, and then they are using “LAT” as regards to their children. The text also uses logos to show, how successful “LAT” is by showing how many remarriages that ends with broken hearts: “when people remarry after divorce, the new marriages fail at significantly higher rate – more than 60 percent, versus 50 percent or less for first marriages.” (l.22-23) . The text gives also an example, which shows pathos “Only one...
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...Assignment A ”Living Apart Together” Texts: 1. Rosemary Bennet, “Couples that live apart…stay together”, an article from The Times, May 12, 2007 2. Jill Brooke, “Home alone together”, an article from The New York Times, May 4, 2007 3. Gary Picariello, “Just What Modern Romance Needs”, a comment from Associated Content, March 30, 2007 1. Explain what “Living Apart Together” is, and give an outline for the different views presented in the texts 2 and 3. L.A.T – Living apart together. The name says pretty much already, but this unfamiliar term isn’t for something new upcoming thing but for something that has been very popular for the past couple of years and still is and keeps getting more and more popular. L.A.T is a lifestyle for couples, married or not, but committed to each other, where they choose to live in separate homes. This way of lifestyle is very popular, especially among elderly couples with kids from previous relationships but many younger couples are already living with this concept. In text 2 it is a much discussed subject, because people don’t know how to react when it is something there are not used to. In the text Jill Brooke, the narrator, has an interview with Professor Popenoe from Rutgers. He acknowledges that this lifestyle makes sense for the elderly couple and for divorced couple with kids, which also are those couples whom is mostly living this lifestyle. Especially couples who have kids from previous relationships. Many stepfamilies have...
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...LAT - Living Apart Together LAT is the non-traditional way of being together in a marriage. Traditionally, a married couple lives together, but the LAT-lifestyle is a whole different kind of marriage. This lifestyle ‘LAT’ is becoming very popular. How can this be? Does living apart from your loved one make life easier or harder? Can LAT really improve a relationship or does it have the opposite effect? Why do these LAT-couples choose to live apart? “Jobs and places of work contribute heavily to this choice”: Career before family is becoming a very popular trend, so the LAT-lifestyle gives a huge opportunity to put your career first. Not living together gives couples a bigger space individually , so they can focus on the activities they like to do without annoying their partner. Even though the married couple may love each other very much, they are still two different people that can have very different opinions. This space can also make the partner much more interesting how much fun it was to get ready for the date..”: Being together all the time can become a boring thing, so getting excited to go on dates like in the beginning of a relationship may keep the exciting spark that a new couple has. LAT also shows a lot of trust: Needing to trust your loved one to do the right thing, without you giving your advice all the time or trusting them notto have an affair. Living two different places can also be very exciting, especially if they live in two very dissimilar places. So...
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...Living apart together (L.A.T) Living apart together also called “L.A.T” is a term who describes couples who have a relationship married or not, but live at separate places. It is not like a “long-distance-relationships”, because LAT’s have chosen to live separately themselves. In Text 2 David Popenoe, who is co-director of a marriage and family studies center, describes how living apart together is becoming a trend, and that this trend started in Europe and is now on its way to America. The number of couples living apart together is increasingly these days, and it is becoming more normal. Text 2 also describes how LAT’s chose to live apart to avoid situations that can be problematic, such as having children from earlier relationships, and being very different. The L.A.T. advocate and therapist Judye Hess aggress, being a part of LAT couple herself, and means that too many couples try to be something they are not when they are in a relationship and live together, “Many people are trying to fit themselves into a very narrow model for long-term relationships that does not work for their personalities. If more people saw living apart as an option, it might save them a lot of pain and breakups”. This is supported with a personal story, from Donna Davis who is 47 years, and Jim Puckett who is 59 years. They love each other, but like living apart, and say that it works out perfectly for them. But David Peopene is skeptical about the new L.A.T trend, especially when it comes to...
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...Side 1 af 12 sider Answer either A or B A The texts in section A focus on the trend "Living Apart Together" (L.AT.). Write apaper (700-1000 words) in which you answer the following questions. Answer the questions separately. 1. Ð Explain what "Living Apart Together" is, and give an outline of the different views presented in texts 2 and3. Text 3 is a personal comment. How is that reflected in its tone and style? Give examples from the text. Taking your starting point in text 1, discuss what the consequences of L.AT. might be. 2. 3. Texts Page 2 1. 2. J. Rosemary Bennett, "Couples that live apart...stay together", an article from The Times website, }l4ay 72,2001 . . . . Jill Brooke, "Home Alone Together", an article fromThe New York Times website, }l4ay 4,2006 . Gary Picariello, "Just What Modern Romance Needs", a comment from Associated Content website, March 30,2001 4 7 B Write an essay (700-1000 words) in which you analyse and interpret Sky Brannon's short story "Fireweed". Your essay must include the following points: - the way the story is structured - the main theme - a characterization of Baluta/Joel - the setting Text Skye Brannon, "Fireweed", a short story, 2009 Page 9 Side 2 af 12 sider A TEXT 1 Rosemary Bennett Couples that live apart...stay together The unusual living arrangement of Shirley Denny and Peter Lawrence has raised eyebrows among friends and neighbours over the past two decades. But...
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... live apart from each other are known as living apart couples. This form of relationship is a new family form and it is basically two home relationship. The culture of this type of relation started in western world. Traditionally marriage is a social institution for the couples who have been together for so long. But nowadays, people live apart as they can’t compromise in social and personal lives and due to practical circumstances as well. Due to it divorce rates have fallen down. We can call living apart couples as modern day girlfriend and boyfriend. Many people like to spend more time with themselves. It’s not as we are chasing each other in any way. Therefore in living together there comes a lot of problems. Everyone has different body clocks. Some snore, some may have embarrassing habits. Why not to show your other half of face instead of bitter, complaining one? According to research the number of men and women living apart has increased by 40 per cent in last few decades and it is thought that around one million coupes now keep separate properties it also tells that young couple lives apart because they are reluctant to sacrifice their independence. Living apart inherit both advantages and diadvantages.Some of the advantages are they get time to be apart from each...
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...vrii-1~l‘; 1-:l:~:1:$ UNDERNI NGS MINISTERIET Studemereksamen 2. delpmve kl. 09.00 -14.00 Onsdag den 25. maj 2011 Id. 9.00 - 14.09 Side 1 af 12 sider Answer either A or B A The texts in section A focus on the trend “Living Apart Together” (L.A.T.). Write a paper (700-1000 words) in which you answer the following questions. Answer the questions separately. 1. 2. 3. Explain what “Living Apart Together” is, and give an outline of the different views presented in texts 2 and 3. Text 3 is a personal comment. How is that reflected in its tone and style? Give examples from the text. Taking your starting point in text 1, discuss What the consequences of L.A.T. might be. Page . . . 2 4 7 Texts 1. Rosemary Bennett, “Couples that live apart. . .stay together”, an article from The Times website, May 12, 2007 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 2. Jill Brooke, “Home Alone Together”, an article from The New'Y0rk Times website, May 4, 2006 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 3. Gary Picariello, “Just What Modern Romance Needs”, a comment from Associated Content website, March 30, 2007 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . B Write an essay (700-1000 words) in which you analyse and interpret Sky Brannon’s short story “Fireweed”. Your essay must include the following points: - the way the story is structured - the main theme - a characterization of Baluta/Joel - the setting...
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...Family is often defined as a basic social unit, in which a group of people is living together and is related to each other by the ties of marriage and the bonds of blood. Family is also defined as a place where we, as human beings, seek shelter and comfort. In the photographs taken by John Clang, which was displayed in the National Museum of Singapore’s Being Together exhibition, portray what it means to be a family both in the past as well as in the present. One of the similarities between the photographs of the past and of the present is they both reflects the idea of being one unit and the idea of togetherness. In the past, ranging from the 1870s to the 1970s, photographic portraits consisted mainly of images of royalties, of affluent local families and that of European traders and their families. Often times, these photographic portraits (see Exhibit 1) are commissioned to reflect the wealth, lineage, and the status of privileged class and to document the colonial conquest. However, in the late 1970s, casual snapshots became increasingly popular with the ubiquity of handheld cameras. In addition to that, families in photographs (see Exhibit 2) of the past often portray a big family. This perhaps is due to the style of living in the past. In times of ancient past, families often stayed in small villages. Nuclear and extended families often times lived in the same house (long houses they are called, according to my grandmother). This is, in part, reflected in the village...
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...Living Alone Together Text 3: “Just what Modern Romance Needs”: ”living apart together” written by Gary Picariello is a personal comment. This is showed in by the way the text uses tone and style. Picariello writes as if he is trying to talk and convince the reader. He is trying to provoke the reader by using a form of argumentation that usually would be presented in a conversational debate. Throughout the text Picariello is asking some rhetorical questions such as “so what’s the deal with “living apart together”?” and “whatever happened to getting married and living happily ever after?” He asks an obvious question and responds with an obvious answer making his point more important. He uses some a few statistics to back up his statements so he seems more reliable to the reader. In an attempt to keep the reader interest he use irony to make it more special. The irony is especially shown in the quote “No wonder the pope is stressing”. When he uses a humoristic quote like that, it is because he is trying to get the attention of the reader and so the point can have a bigger influence and be clearer. Picariello is also using some proverbs such as “looking at the glass half full”. When you are using proverbs, you are making the text more interesting to read. One thing that indicates that this is a personal comment is the use of exclamation marks which you don’t usually use unless you are trying to express something. Picarielle is clearly using humor as a way to keep the attention of...
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