There is one question though; does it have to only be between a man and women? This is a raising debate that everyone has their own opinion to, so I ask myself why same-sex marriage is wrong, it is against the bible, it is against the constitution. According to the National Conference of State Legislator 13 states do not recognize same-sex marriages, when the other 47 states have legalized same-sex marriages. This falls in the hands of the government, but why should they have control over any marriage? I took the time to do some research, and found that each state gives the rights to who they will allow to be recognizing under marriage. It’s on a ballet to be voted on by the people of a state. This give grounds to limiting the marriage between sibling, a first cousin, and also having more than one spouse. An article I read in US NEWS by Brian Brown, which states “The purpose of publicly recognizing marriage is to encourage men and women to form stable families to bear and raise children”. This is a good point of view from him, but why does loving someone of the same sex not give the right to raise a family and be just as happy? Some might say its discrimination; some might say it is unfair to humanity. Is it fair to take away the pursuit of happiness because a couple of the same sex wants the same as a couple of the opposite sex? Marriage brings on many new roles for couples like buying and taking care of a home, buying a vehicle, joining bank account, picking medical and life insurance. These rights of marriage are stripped from same-sex couples, not giving the equal right to be with the person they love and care for and what to build a life together with. Love is love, why should it be based on who you are in love with?

When looking a same-sex marriage, I wonder if a person is making the choice to be with someone of the same sex, or if it is all they know and feel is right for them. Would there be a connection with who you love and how the brain works, after some research and watching a video by Helen Fisher, an Anthropologist and preeminent researcher in the field of human affection from Rutgers University I was able to better understand how the brain connects with love. Helen speaks about how she feels the brain works when you’re madly in love, the brain can tell so much about love, how it can be divided into three systems and how each systems leads to different stages of a relationship. Love starts deep in the ventral tegmental area, the hypothalamus, and the nucleus accumbens. She talks about the reward system, a system that receives messages from the brain rather it is a craving, an addiction, even an interacted with a person. It can simply be an attraction, an attachment or a sexual relationship. Within her research there is a starting point for love, and it begins with the caudate nucleus which sits deep in the center of our brains. There are different stages of love each have a particular role with the relationship progression, when looking at how a relationship is formed you can see first comes lust, catching one’s eye and the want or need to say hello. The second stage is romance having the desire to be with someone on a much stronger and usually sexual level. The last stage she found marriage, overwhelming urge to build a deeper connection with a romantic partner. During the time spent really searching how the brain works with love, nothing suggested that the connection or attraction someone might get with someone is directed to the opposite sex. That being said love doesn’t judge, the brain has a way of controlling who one might be attracted too and possible want to build a higher connection with. Now with this information there is a strong point that shows there is a relationship between making the choice of who we want to be with and love, and being with someone that we feel is natural and right.
Same-sex marriage might never be fully accepted by society. It might not always be looked down on either, everyday there is going to be someone that doesn’t agree with the way someone want to life, but than they should ask themselves how does their way of life affect them personal? Being in a same-sex marriage has no real effect on society, looking though a lot of research I can’t find a solid piece of proof that tells me how a same-sex couple affect someone else’s life. Each and every one of us has our own beliefs, thoughts and opinions about what is going on in society today, understanding others would be the first step in the right direction. Could there be a bad effect on society with same-sex married? Yes, but I feel it would be a person impact by the way one feels about same-sex marriage. If you were to flip the table and look at how it could affect a same-sex couple, they might not be able rent a house or an apartment because they are the same sex, could that lead to discrimination? What would be the effects if any raising children in a same-sex home affect their learning or developmental skills? Yes these are questions asked when debating on same-sex marriage, but statistics can’t tell you about discrimination or children developmental skills. It’s about being treated equally as a human being living their life to be too happy and loved.