...change in emotions and attitudes regarding the offender.” This definition of forgiveness points out that forgiveness is a personal choice and is not dependent on the person who is receiving this forgiveness. You can forgive and move on with your life to be happy but not forget. In the short story “Forgiveness” by Rebecca Brown, the protagonist does not forgive her mate for taking advantage of her to an extent where she is completely broken. I personally believe in all circumstances, in order for one to be truly happy in life, it is critical to forgive but never forget. In the short story “Forgiveness” the lead character says “when I said I’d give my right arm for you, I didn’t think you would ask me for it, but you did. You said, give it to me. And I said okay” (brown 1). With the use of metaphors and symbolization, Brown illustrates to the reader of a visual picture of how the protagonist gives all her effort and her life into their relationship and after all the sacrifices, she does not get anything in return. For example, the use of the word “arm” demonstrates how the protagonist gave a huge part of herself up for her significant other; in other words, it can also be visualized as the pure love she gave to her partner. “But then, when you got it, you...
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...same on each sheet. The numbers, which do not fit with a partner, remains unreconciled. The story is written in first-person narrator, where we get the story told by the narrator Laura. The story is chronologically constructed with an open end, which is typically for the short story genre. The narrator is a middle-aged woman, who has not found the meaning of her life yet “It’s my first day (…) and I have forgotten my shoes”, her life is very disorderly and chaotic. Her sense of well-prepared is not that good either, not only because of her forgotten shoes, but also the way she tries to save time, tells us that she is not prepared well, “I’m wearing the clothes I slept in. It saved me 20 minutes this morning (…) I could sleep a little longer”. Laura’s self-worth is not good, which appears at the office when she meets Janny. She gets very jealous at her,” I don’t think I ever longed to be someone so much as I long to be her”. This tells us that she is a very unsteady person, and does not believe in herself. Laura and Vernon have been together for a long time, “We began our relationship – half my life ago (…)”, but the relationship between Laura and Vernon is not as good as it has been. They have been holding a break for several months, but when they met at the office, they regarded each other, “We regard each other over months of frozen silence”. Vernon has moved on, he has a good job at the office and has put his life with Laura behind him. For Laura it is different, she has...
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...Confused, Puzzled Me! It was when I met “him” when I got confused and puzzled. That was love. Now, this for sure isn’t like that. It’s the social evolutionary theory. An hour of discussion could make me a new me and it puzzled and confused me. I had a hard time thinking deeply and everything was “WHY?” Maybe this wasn’t my love for “him”, but this may involve him, my values and my religion. Social evolutionary theory, just like the natural selection theory, is grounded on the survival part of beings in their environment but this theory focuses more on the social group based on relationships and interaction among members. Some of the studies may have been familiar to me but there were a number of issues that amazed and struck me the most. As I have been mentioning, the theory may involve him, the mate-selection process. And the last two, concerned most on my beliefs and religion. Everyone, even once but mostly a number of times, might have aspired for a life partner of body and brain. All I thought, desiring for a hot body for me as a woman was all lust but now thanks for the theory, I got an excuse! It’s just that a v-shaped man with broad shoulders and thick hair reflect his being a man capable of producing a productive offspring. And maybe I can’t stop a man if he demands the physical side of me because like me, he also got an excuse. Wearing make-up is also an issue. Why is it that only girls wear make-up? How about the boys? Well, I now know boys were just born naturally...
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...is vital to the basic character of a person. Some sociologists would say that having other human relationships is so important to us, that communication is the primary goal of existence. Social influences make up who we are as people and carry with a person throughout their entire life. Social influences on us carry into our day to day lives and the relationships we have created. Society’s views on relationships have changed drastically over the years, some for the better, and others for the worse. Much of the social influences we have to deal with in our lives today relate to society’s views on love, and acceptance of sex out of wedlock. Our relationships are also molded around our careers, and society’s views about what is acceptable for a relationship and a career to succeed. American society has created and established many gender roles for our relationships and family’s, especially when it pertains to careers and money in a relationship. Although, these gender roles have been evolving tremendously over time. American society has drastically changed in terms of the perceptions and definitions of love and relationships. Some may ask if true love still even exists amongst our culture? It is my belief that we as a society have created the problem. When it comes to love, however, it is obvious that the American culture is currently in an uneasy place. A woman searches for "Mr. Right"...
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...of life are the best years to have aim and goals in life. These years are very important in molding a person’s career and future. My life took a major turning point during these years from 1997 to 2007. These years drastically changed my life, for what I am today that I thought before during my teenage years. Remembering those years gives me a sense of joy and happiness and a sense of satisfaction in completing and achieving few steps in life considered to be important. From 1997 to 2000 were my days in college. At first I felt very difficult to adjust to the surrounding, but when I started making friends the life was much better and stress free. Those days were most exciting days as I was independent and my thoughts were developed to mould my life and career. I was seeing great things for future and planning my life for good. In college days I learnt a lot about the nature and philosophy of different people. Basic lessons of life were learnt in my college days. I knew this world can be good place to live and can also be a destructive and bad place to live too. But what matters is the way you live the life and what principles you stand for. These were many occasions where I needed to make important decisions in my life. Some come out to be beneficial but some decisions were not at all correct. Mistakes made in life teach you to step forward to achieve and perform better the next time. “Failures are stepping stone to success”. This saying really strengthened me during my college...
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...Ms. Lampert English 1301 June 27, 2012 “A Healthy Romantic Relationship” No relationship can be defined as perfect; however a healthy relationship should be cherished as if it was. Healthy relationships demand trust and loyalty, communication, physical satisfaction, and financial stability. These are considerable means in a relationship that bind it together. How Do I Learn To Forgive Myself? Gives a perfect example of an unhealthy relationship, the author shares her story: “I was in a relationship for over six years. Everyone was sure we were going to get married, including the two of us. We bought a home together and lived a relatively peaceful life. We had some major issues though. I did not like his family, and he was a very family oriented guy. Dinner 2-3 times a week....random stop-ins. Oh yeah, and they all lived down the street from us. I started drinking a lot because I couldn't stand always being around them. Then the drinking led to drug abuse...all of which I did discreetly. Once in a while, he would catch me, but I always promised to get help. I even started seeing a psychiatrist and went on anti-depressants. The frequency of sex decreased slowly until it just came to a stop. I felt alone, and I felt awful about drinking and doing drugs behind his back. He was such a great guy though, and I kept telling myself I needed to just be content with the life I was living. Then a one-night hook-up with a married man happened, and suddenly I was having an affair. I felt...
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...Mario Valdez October 28, 2009 Professor tyranski Single Life I for one am against the single life. I know in reality its better to be alone but sometimes you sit back and think what if you had that special someone by your side. Now that is some of people’s opinion, not everybody. Like someone may think that being alone is the greatest in the world and I think its not, sometimes. Although I have enjoyed my single life but I think it’s about that time I get searching. The advantage of being single is a list that can go for days. First off you have no “strings attached” to you. That means like you don’t have to worry about what you do. You are stress free. Another advantage would be that you can have at least one date a week, which can expand your horizon and you can meet different people to your likings. There’s just not going to be just that one person that you feel you’re obligated to be with. Another example would be that there are no responsibilities or accountability you have to worry about, once again that falls under the category of being stress free and no money issues are involved. That can lead to you saving money to point where you have enough money raised to start your own family. Basically you’re free of everything. Now to every good there is a bad. The drawbacks of being a single person is that you are lonely. It’s something that can lead to stress and can only lead to worse things in life. Another drawback is that you’re financially independent which...
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...think about trying to have a relationship with someone. In this paper, I will try and tell you the differences’ we have in our relationship and what when and how we can try to make it better. But remember that there’s no such thing as a perfect relationship. Loving that person if it feels right it might not be right, or it may be wrong but remember that anything that is worth having is worth fight and working hard to have. At some point and time, it happens to everyone: You wake up one day and suddenly your once-blissful relationship is shattered. The spark is gone. The love of your life wants nothing to do with you. You may have recently split up. You might be in the middle of a divorce right now. Or maybe your ex is already seeing someone new. It doesn’t matter. All you want is to have your partner willingly back with you. Life isn’t all sunshine and buttercups. But a happy relationship is a very real thing; we all deserve a happy and healthy relationship. Let me take you back okay, now it might take some of us a little long than other to remember this, do you remember the feelings you shared when you first fell in love. Remember when it was impossible to look at each other without smiling. Just spending time alone together was the perfect night. These are just a few of the good things in a...
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...be perfect. “Closes relationships sometimes mask poor communication”. How can this be possible? Why misunderstanding among closes friends, family members or partner? This article we just read will help us answer these questions. Communication to me is something we have to learn at our young age. Parents have to teach their kids how to communicate, how to say clearly what they feel, what they think. Parents should listen to their kids. Let them say want they want to say without being interrupted. Usually out of anger a parent will shout a “shut up” to the kid without even knowing what he wanted to say. Even if the kid is wrong he needs to be listening. Generally when you scream at your baby he gets frustrated and won’t be able to tell anything later. How will you have good communication skills in your marriage or with your children if you didn’t have it with your parents? This article tells us a little bite why close relationships mask poor communication. I really agree with all the reason it gives because we always expect other to understand us without saying a world or express clearly what we want. We think that because we have being together for so long we should know each other. I don’t blame them because that’s what we are being thought about love. They will tell you that when you love someone it should be able to read your mind, and your attitude. It happens to me all the time. I have communication issue with my partner and my dad. They always misunderstand me. My boyfriend...
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...How many moments in in life can we say “that’s where it all changed “. Very few, we make decisions on a daily basis be it choosing clothes or food, walking to college or taking the bus. But there are some choices we make that alter our life. Choices have a long lasting impact on our soul. We might be 60 one day but the fear that aroused in us while letting someone go at the age of 18 cannot fade way. Some decisions need to be taken then and there but we are not ready, we want to stand before the two paths and think , ponder about their end because once we have chosen a way we certainly cannot come back. Both the choices seem extremely appealing causing the human mind to jam. But that is not the way life goes. Time flies and we are the one flying the plane. If we waste too much time in the air not moving forward our fuel would end and the plane would crash. No one wants their life to go to waste therefore making a choice is necessary. We often say that we have to live our life alone but that is not true, everyone needs a partner with them a friend or a soul mate. I was 26 when I realized that I need someone in my life that I can trust and ask for support. I had this girl in my mind since two years she was decent and lively. I felt life when I was around her while on the other hand was my cousin who had loved me ever since she got familiar with the word love. The entire family was longing for our wedding. Now that I took marriage seriously I had two choices, choices that mattered...
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...sickening series, spawning sequel, after sequel, after sequel. A tale of teeny love set amongst the fashionable vampire culture. I hate it! I hate vampires! I hate the banal storylines! I hate the sickening simpering simpletons posing as actors! “Wait!” I hear the cries of a thousand poor deluded teenage girls. “Why do you hate us so much?” Firstly, and I really regret having to tell you this but… it’s not real. Those obsessive compulsives who fantasise about living their lives within these films will find that their dreams shattered by unrealistic expectations of perfection. All the characters are perfect. Every perfect plastic smiling girl has two perfect (plastic) smiling boys after her. No zits. No farts. No burps. Just, perfection. All this results in is disappointment. They can never be as perfect as Bella, Edward or Jacob – they will never find their perfect plastic partner for a simple reason: It’s. Not. Real! Secondly Twilight is dangerous. It warps the minds of sweet, naive, innocents. How? I hear you ask. Well, is it perfectly normal to want to sink your choppers into someone’s neck? Noooo! I mean hickeys are one thing, but drinking their blood? Come on! People are jailed for less! Not to mention the fact that religious groups are up in arms about these films. Protests have broken out (ironically becoming violent) about the message these films are encouraging: an unhealthy interest in the occult. 99% of extreme right wing Evangelists are terrified that every single...
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...AND THEIR ASSOCIATION WITH YOUNG PEOPLE‘S BELIEFS ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS BY VERONICA HEFNER DISSERTATION Submitted in partial fulfillment of the requirements for the degree of Doctor of Philosophy in Speech Communication in the Graduate College of the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign, 2011 Urbana, Illinois Doctoral Committee: Professor Barbara J. Wilson, Chair Associate Professor John P. Caughlin Associate Professor Kristen Harrison Associate Professor Travis L. Dixon ABSTRACT Romantic comedy films have been popular since motion pictures first entered the media world. Scholars have speculated why these movies remain appealing to viewers and have argued for several reasons. These movies might foster hope about real-life romance (Galician, 2004), or demonstrate that that there are no limits to how love may manifest itself (Harvey, 1998). Despite this speculation, few studies have systematically investigated the content of these movies or the effects they may have on viewers. The purpose of this dissertation was to investigate that potential. In particular, I conducted two studies that explored the nature of romantic ideals in romantic comedy films and their influence on viewer endorsement of romantic beliefs. The first study was a content analysis of the themes or romantic ideals embedded in romantic comedies. The second study was a survey designed to explore whether exposure to such films encourages the learning of romantic ideals among young people. The...
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...LILABALI.COM “Choice is yours” About Us Marriage is not just a one-day celebration; it is a celebration of togetherness for a lifetime. LILABALI.COM is the beginning of a new era in the search for a lifetime companion exclusively for Bangladeshis. Actually this is a service based Company. Our one and only main service is online matchmaking. The website will help you to find your best life partner... The mandate to 'Team LILABALI.COM is clear - • Understand the needs and concerns of singles Bangladeshi all over the world through tireless research and analysis • Provide a pleasant, satisfying, and superior matchmaking experience to our customers. • Give our customers complete control through easy to use interfaces and features that can help them identify, contact potential partners. • Satisfying the valuable customer by replying mail or any queries • The above objectives from the 4 pillars upon’ Team Shaanai.com' is built | | || | |Username: ...
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...some exchange program for students and study few months abroad. It would be absolutely perfect, because of get some experience with foreign circumstances. Next aim I would like to achieve is to learn fluently French and German. It’s necessary, because we are surrounded by German speaking countries and the official language in the European Union is the French. My school selection has another advantage. After reach some experience skills in the computer world I could certify my knowledge by Microsoft certificating program. The test and certificate are world reputable, which could be very useful in the future job. During the studies, there is a possibility to work for a company connected with school, where I could get some experience as a practice. If I found some good practice during my studies I would try to lunch out on my own. I would try to find a flat and live my own life. I have to prove to everybody, especially to my family, that I am able to see after myself. After the school I would like to find well paid work, but I would have to enjoy it. In the work which I don’t enjoy I don’t do maximum for it and it’s not good. After get some experience If possible I would like to create my own computer company, because what I know certain is that I don’t want to work with some company and after fifty years they will tell me “By Mike, you were good, but we don’t need you anymore”. That’s my...
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...In the poem “You Fit into Me” by Margaret Atwood, the title may suggest or give the reader insights on how a perfect relationship can be emotionally and sexually. First of all the poem contains four lines in which helps me to realize how much power and emotions is hidden within these few lines. This can be interpreted in various ways depending on how you analyze it as an individual. After reading the poem my first impression was my professor must be kidding me. How am I to answer questions based off a four line excerpt? Finally I, realized that the meaning was something deeper than the four lines. In relationship, couples have their different ways of expressing and showing affection to their companion. Some find it difficult to translate his...
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