...Parent–Child Relationships As a child, my father and I didn’t have a good relationship. I’d hardly get to see him due to him working all the time. Whenever I did get to see him he would be so tired he’d easily get irritated and usually scold me. But as I got older we spent more time together and we got to learn more about each other. I learned that we had many things in common. We both liked soccer and working on cars. I realized that what made our relationship work was spending time together and getting to know each other better. Of course not every parent-child relationship is great, some have bigger faults than mine did. But there are also those which have flourished into really meaningful relationships. In the book The Bedford Reader there are many short stories about all types of parent-child relationships, some good ones and some bad ones. In “Arm Wrestling with My Father” by Brad Manning, Manning remembers always trying to beat his father at everything as a child. Be it correcting his verbal mistakes or beating him in a physical competition. Until he lost that competitive drive and realized that all he had with his father was a physical relationship. He realized that they never spent time together without it turning into some competition. He realized that his father never showed any fatherly love. His father always provided for them, kept a roof over their heads, and kept them safe. That is how his father said “I love you” to his family. The one time his father showed...
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...Literature Matter, I have chosen “The Class Two Kinds” to construct an argument regarding an issue of parent-child relationships. We have all known the importance of the relationship between parents and children. “Individual goals often include good health, the absence of stress, and lifelong positive relationships with their children” (Kuchner). Basically, the very first people we have closely connected with since the born of us are our parents. “Although in individuals may form numerous interpersonal relationships throughout their lives, parent-child relationships begin early in children’s lives and are critical for children’s long-term adjustment and success” (Orbuch). That is why the relationship between parents and children is so important. Without a good relationship, a family will not have a good structure. However, as the children grow older, they have more thoughts of viewing different things in their own ways. That always leads to more conflicts between parents and children. Especially at the age of teenagers, they are just turning the level of maturities. “Early research suggested that parental separation and divorce are associated with a number of negative outcomes in children, such as emotional and behavioral problems, poor school achievement, low self-esteem, and juvenile delinquency”(Amato). The divorce of the parents will also bring some effects to the parent-child relationship. It does not always bring negative effects, but it surely has been an impact in most families...
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...Child and Family 3750: Parent and Professional Relationship class, has provided me with new and important information about the relationship between teachers and families. I have learned that the relationship is important to the overall feel of a classroom and how the child does in school. There is a lot of information that I will take with me to help better support the families in my classroom. The first advice that I would give to families to help them be more equipped at working collaboratively with the child's teacher(s) is the benefit that the student and they will have. Some benefits that I would tell them come from our book, Home, School, and Community Collaboration (2013). These include that the child will achieve a higher grade,...
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...Explore the ways parent and child relationships are presented in Romeo and Juliet Romeo and Juliet is set during the Elizabethan period, where society favoured men over women and the women had to obey the men. Fathers were the ones who decided who there daughters would marry and they cant refuse the marriage because if they did they would bring shame upon the family and most likely disowned by them and if this happened they would have nowhere to go as women didn’t really have jobs apart from housework and looking after the children. I think that this society is bad because it is biased towards men and doesn’t give the women a choice for what they want to do in there own life. In Act 1 Scene 2, we learn that Lord Capulet is a fair and just man ‘for men so old as we to keep the peace’ this shows us that he doesn’t want to make the fued between the Montagues anyworse and wants to stay away from all the violence and try to get on with his own life with his family. Paris asks Capulet if he can marry Juliet ‘ but now, my lord, what sat you to my suit’ but Capulet is cautious about allowing Paris to marry Juliet because he feels she is still too young ‘ my child is yet a stranger in the world; she hath not seen the change of fourteen years’ this shows that he is not ready to let his only child go into the world without him yet as she hasn’t had any experience of what its like for women and he wants to protect her from all the bad things in the world , like any father would want to...
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...Introduction Positive parent-child relationships provide the foundation for children’s learning. With parents’ sensitive, responsive, and predictable care, young children develop the skills they need to succeed in life. Early parent-child relationships have powerful effects on children’s emotional well-being (Dawson & Ashman, 2000), their basic coping and problem-solving abilities, and future capacity for relationships (Lerner & Castellino, 2002). Through these interactions, children learn skills they need to engage with others and to succeed in different environments (Rogoff, 2003). They learn how to manage their emotions and behaviors and establish healthy relationships with adults and peers. They also learn how to adjust to new situations and to resolve conflicts .When parents have warm, trusting, and reliable relationships with peers, family, community members, and service providers, they are more likely to have positive relationships with their children. To work toward the Parent, Family, Community and Environment: Positive Parent-Child Relationships Outcome, providers and programs can: provide emotional and concrete support to parents,1.respect diverse parenting styles, 2.value cultural differences and home languages, 3.reinforce the importance of fathers and other co-parents, 4.help parents connect with other parents and community members and resources, and model warm, responsive relationships by engaging in these relationships with parents and other family members ...
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...Psychology: Experimental Learning for Parents Remembering the lullaby “Hush little baby”, I never considered what might actually happen "when the bough breaks" in real life until I found myself with a close friend one night, trying to comprehend the loss of her older brother, who had just been killed in a car accident. The circumstances required me not only to cope with my own sense of grief but also to understand and respond to the intense trauma her and her parents were experiencing. Since that night, I have considered how parents respond when a child dies. Given the complexity and gravity of individual human responses, I hope is that this paper will provide insight into my experience as well as help members of families and friends to better understand how the loss of a child affects parents and siblings while highlighting ways to provide meaningful support. For most bereaved parents, the consequences of the death of a child cannot adequately be expressed in words. Despite extreme efforts to empathize, those who have not experienced a child's death cannot fully know what it is like. However, I have found that knowledge surrounding bereavement can provide a helpful glimpse of understanding, as well as ideas for how to respond to parents and needs when their child dies. For most people, our family defines who we are. We do not identify ourselves simply as mothers, fathers, spouses, in-laws, or grandparents, but as family members. For example, "I am not a mother of 3 children...
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...able to see their biological parents. Adoptive parents should legally be bound to allow children access to their biological parents because children should have a relationship with their real parents, adoptees need to feel complete without wondering why they were adopted and it is important for children to know where they came from. Children should have a relationship with their real parents because it can positively impact the child’s well-being. Every family has its own strengths and weaknesses....
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...observations about parent-child relationships, was able to come up with three main styles of parenting. According to Baumrind, the three parenting styles are: “authoritarian style- parents are highly controlling, strict and highly value obedience, authoritative style- parents allow the chid to explore more freely and let the child make their own decisions, permissive style- parents treat the child kind and warm, but a lack of rule-setting skills can be seen” (Genetic Psychology Monographs, 75(1), 43-88). With time, one more style of parenting was introduced. It is “uninvolved parentingminimum involvement in the child’s day today life”. Apparently, each parenting style has varying characteristics with different child- parent relationships and different parent-child relationships. Children who experience positive parent-child relationships carry developed mentality and social skills. According to researches, it has been found that ‘authoritative parenting’ works best for children, since it carries a lot of positive qualities of a successful relationship. Authoritative parents maintain the relationship through high communication between the child and parent, expecting moderate maturity and less rules on discipline. The child is given enough love and affection too. Children are given alternatives and children are let to accept responsibilities, make their own decisions. The decisions are based on mutual understanding. As authoritative parents...
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...Types of Parents and Carers Biological Parents: A biological parent has provided the genetic material required for parenting. This means that the parent provides the sperm or the ova. Generally Biological parents contribute genetic material as a result of sexual intercourse. However, with assisted reproductive technologies, creation of a foetus may involve other procedures. Social Parents: Social parents are not genetically related to the child but participate in the role of parenting. Social parents can become parents through adoption, fostering, step-parenting or surrogacy. The parents take on responsibilities of being a parent and may face particular difficulties due to the nature of their relationship with the child. Adoption: Is the process by which a child is given legal responsibility to a family other than their biological family. There are 3 types of adoption: 1. Child is already placed with prospective parents e.g. step-parent or other relative 2. Local Adoption and Over Seas Adoption (Australia is a signatory to the Hague Convention on Intercountry Adoption) 3. Adoption of children with special needs Children are no longer considered by law as belonging to or forming part of their biological family. A new birth certificate is issued showing the child as being part of the adopted family, and often the child’s name is changed at the same time. The Adoption Information Act 1990 enables adoptees, at 18 years of age, to have access to their original birth certificates...
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...Mother-Child Relationship. It was said and it will be said a lot about late Anna Nicole Smith and her late son Daniel’s relationship. The intimacy and the complicity of their relationship wasn’t a secret. Anna Nicole Smith used to say that her son Daniel was her best friend. It was an earthquake for Mrs. Smith when her son passed away. She couldn’t take it; she went depressed and started taking antidepressant medication, which finally intoxicate her to death. She and son proved to the whole world how closed they were. It was a beautiful relationship according to tabloids. Are all mother-child relationships perfect? What makes a mother-child rapport to be good or bad? One of the most prolific environments of interpersonal relationship is the family. Thus, the common form of a family is the nuclear family. It’s constituted with a marital couple living with their offspring in a common dwelling. The essence of the family is the relationship parent-child. The family is an institution where children learn from their parents the signification of the good and the bad, the right and the wrong, or the ethical and the unethical. Parents as guardians of the family have the role to provide basics to the entire family. A family is a place of a symbiotic relationship between parents and children, which involve a lot of exchanges of all nature. The mother-child relationship as well as the parent-child relationship could be classified in three different dimensions (clearly influenced by...
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...Running Head: ADOLESCENTS IMAGE OF SELF Parental Influence of Adolescent Image of Self Liberty University David W. Appleby, PHD, PHD May 2012 Abstract: Of the many different relationships people form over the course of life, the relationship between parent and child is among the most important. The quality of the parent-child relationship is affected by the parent's age, experience, and self-confidence. It can also be affected by the stability of the parents' marriage; and the unique characteristics of the child compared with those of the parent (Lian and Yusooff, 2009.) The parent-child relationship consists of a combination of behaviors, feelings, and expectations that are unique to a particular parent and a particular child. Wounded children - those who have experienced maltreatment, loss, and disrupted attachments - are often defiant, angry, biologically disorganized, and afraid to trust and love. (Academic Press, 2000) This paper will show how the relationship between a child and a parent affects body image and self-esteem. Important words to know: Self-image, Self-esteem, Body-image, Autonomy, Puberty, and Myelination. Adolescents deal with numerous issues while going through physical and psychological changes. This paper will focus on is an adolescent’s view of self, which includes self-esteem and body-image. Adolescents are no longer looked upon as children, but cannot yet be considered adults (Feldman, 2011.) Self-image is defined by Wikipedia as,” the...
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...Blended families We try to create a world of structure and predictability for our children. As parents, we work hard to give our children routines, a regular schedule, consistent expectations, and plenty of love. We aim to make their lives predictable, stable, safe and secure. As they grow up, we hope that this early experience will be internalized as a kind of centeredness, and that they will be able to adapt when change comes around. In addition to providing children a safe and secure beginning, parent s need to be aware of the child’s feelings and be able to help them cope with change and stress. One in every two marriages in the United States will end up in divorce. Sixty percent of second marriages will also fail, according to statistics. Half of America is currently living in blended families. Over the past three decades, major transformations have taken place in the family world. Traditional nuclear families - mother, father and two children - are no longer the 'norm'). Nearly half of all marriages now end in divorce, and remarriages for one or both partners have more than doubled since the 1970s. Over 2.5 million children live in stepfamilies. Learning to live within a new stepfamily structure can change the living patterns, self-confidence and emotional wellbeing of all family members involved. It is especially hard on children. They have their own worlds constantly evolving around them. Kids are also dealing with peer pressure, life and social changes, and many other...
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...Imagine being blind and experiencing the following. You’re 7 years old and your parents have just been in a devastating car crash and right before your eyes you’re now an orphan. Suddenly within weeks, you’re with a family that is in no relation to you and you have brothers and sisters but you do not know where they are because they have been placed with another family. Now having no source of connection with them, you feel emptiness inside because of this tragic change that has happened around you and your family within a short time span. Personally speaking this would be incapacitating to be around a family that were no resemblance to me; who they were or where they came from, and having them make decisions about my life without having any benefaction of my choice. In what manner do the rights of others have to anyone’s information for medical records through a closed adoption process, halting any of the child’s connections? The steps of adoption is to give the child a better contingency at life, though to interfere and disconnect his or her life ties involving their bloodline and history would not be sufficient to their lives in anyway. In other words to have a closed adoption is like someone telling a child there is no way of acquainting with the birth family or simply there is no history to be told about his or her biological roots. Generally speaking parents who adopt or the parents who put their children up for adoption does not indicate that their not loved;...
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...conflict can cause on adult-child relationships. It takes into effect the separate genders of both the parents and the children affected. The conflicts and divorces were measured while the children were between the ages of 5 and 17. The quality of the relationships between each parent and his or her child was based upon support, closeness, and control. They hypothesis was that the relationships would be stronger within families that remained together. Furthermore, the relationships with the mothers would be even greater. The researchers used a correlational research method to determine how divorce and marital conflict impact the life and development of a child’s life and how he or she relates to each parent individually. The participants were in kindergarten in either 1987 or 1988. The parents were randomly asked to participate in the study during preregistration for kindergarten. There were 585 students to start with, and the gender ratio was 52%-48% in favor of boys. When the participants were at the age of 22, 440 of them completed more information about their current relationships with their parents. Marital conflict and divorce had a negative correlation on the quality of parent-child relationships. It also caused a negative correlation in the chances of risking developmental and emotional problems within the child’s life. “Parental divorce appeared to have a negative influence on the quality of parent-adult child relationships regardless of the level of conflict...
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...for a person to undergo abortion no matter the circumstances of the child’s birth. If a child is conceived by rape then the child is not at fault for the crime that its parent committed. Since it is not the fault of the child there is no reason that it should be aborted in the event the mother searches for that option. By allowing the child to survive, the parent will gain mental and emotional salvation from the joys that come with childbirth, and give a child the chance to have life. It will also serve as a method of healing for the parent as well. With the case of incest, giving birth to a child helps the parent by freeing them from the mental torment of incestuous actions. It exposes the other parent that is having the inappropriate relationship with them, and the shame should be enough to prevent further instances as such. Women who utilize contraception also should not be allowed to abort their children because they were well aware of their actions before the committed them. D. There are multiple fallacies in the argument suggested by my colleague and many of them come about because they are based on assumptions. It is not certain that every woman would find joy in birthing a child that was a product of a rape. There are many cases, in which, the mother grows to resent the child and those complications can lead to many negatives in the future. My colleague assumed that the child would help them heal, when realistically it could also serve as a reminder of a terrible...
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