...Relationship Advice Dear Jamie Thank you for writing me with regard to the issue of whether to stick with a long-distance relationship. According to your letter, you have been with your boyfriend for two years and the last year you were in a long-distance relationship. Due to your graduation program, you might have to be in a long-distance relationship for two more years. Thus, you are struggling with the idea that whether to stick with the relationship or not. From my point of view, I suggest you keep your relationship and make more effort to maintain it. To support this idea, I will explain the reason for the maintenance and include some advice for you. The reason why I suggest you keep the relation bases on the lecture note of the sexualities and relationships course. According to the note, whether a long-distance relationship will work depends on: how long the separation is; how established the relationship already is; how serious the relationship is; expectations of each other; strengths/ weaknesses of each other; past experiences with long-distance (Long-Distance Relationship Lecture Notes, 03/20/2013). What I am going to talk about are the time of separation, the previous establishment of the relationship, how serious the relationship is and your expectations, which are relevant to your letter. Firstly, in your letter, you told me that you would have a two-year graduation program but you haven’t told me what your boyfriend’s future plan is. As the note showed, the long-distance...
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...Paula Vizcarra COM 220 18 April 2011 The Possibilities of Making a Romantic Relationship Successful the Second Time Around INTRODUCTION: Oprah Winfrey said, “As you become more clear about who you really are, you’ll be better able to decide what is best for you – the first time around.” Unfortunately, this is much easier said than done. Every individual has their own perspectives on romantic relationships and every couple establishes their own set of rules. The question is: which rules are the right ones? What is the secret to getting it right the first time, and is it healthy to go for round two if you don’t? Cosmo experts seem to disagree with Oprah and give their readers a list of steps to follow that will supposedly allow a second time around to be successful. DESCRIPTION: Cosmopolitan Magazine offers their advice on whether or not getting back into a relationship with your ex is a good idea with an article called, “Can a Relationship Work the Second Time Around?” The writer mentions that when a couple decides to go for round two, people usually respond with negative feedback like, “yeah, that’ll last” (Miller). This is true, however, experts say that as long as three main rules are followed, it has the potential to work. These three rules are to (1) go slow, (2) touch on the past, and (3) ultimately move on. The first step consists of making sure a second chance is what you want and what is best, not what you think you need because you don’t want to be...
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...Natasha Foxworth Spring -A 2012 “The Complications of the ‘Mother/ Daughter’ relationships” Jamaica Kincaid’s “Girl” (1978) is a short story; single sentence of advice a mother imparts to her daughter. Her daughter only twice interrupts the mother to ask a question and defend herself. The advice is meant to be useful but it is also demeaning. It seemed to be meant to help her daughter to have a productive life but also to scold her at the same time. In general, a mother tends to think highly of their daughters and wants to teach them all of the important aspects of life. The reality of the matter is that a Mother can only teach her child from her own experiences, weather the experiences are positive or negative. This is why I feel that “Girl”, shows the various ways that a relationship between a mother and daughter can be complicated. A mother’s womanhood, self-esteem, vulnerability and education all plays a major roles on how she instructs her daughter. The online resource enotes.com, “Girl: Introduction”, states that Jamaica Kincaid was born Elaine Potter Richardson in 1949. Native of Antigua, in the British West Indies, but changed her name when she started writing because her family disliked her career choice. She went to New York at the age of 17, taking a job as a nanny. During this time she met New Yorker columnist George S. Trow, who eventually helped her publish in the magazine. Much of Kincaid’s work deals with the ramifications of Antigua’s...
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... Is good old-fashioned intuition out of date? What do YOU think? by James Heskett In the last several years, a veritable tsunami of advice on how to make decisions has hit the Internet and what few shelves remain in our local bookstores. The advice is a distant relative of early ideas about decision theory in which we were advised to construct decision trees, mapping outcomes, attaching values to each one, and estimating probabilities that various combinations of outcomes might occur. Judgment entered into the construction of the resulting "decision trees," but the process itself was a way of injecting a certain amount of objectivity and analysis into the decision to be made. In recent years, we have been advised to make certain decisions in a "blink" by Malcolm Gladwell, to "think twice" by Michael Mauboussin, and to think "fast and slow" by Daniel Kahneman. The replacement of customs and biases with data, "big" or "small," has been intended, at least in part, to drive out such things as tradition, habit, and even superstition in endeavors ranging from child rearing to professional sports. After all, wasn't the book and film, Moneyball, at least in part a glorification of the triumph of statistics and probabilities over intuition and managerial judgment in professional baseball? Two recent books add to the genre of advice on decision-making. One advises us how to make better decisions. The other helps us ensure that we don't allow our decisions to get sidetracked...
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...Kendy S. Sumlin Mrs. Nettles English 0090 29 June 2014 Three advice I would give myself if I can go back in time Time is something most people don’t have much of these days. Time passes by so fast! People end-up making decisions that at the end, changes their lives. If I had the chance to visit myself back in time, it would be at sixteen years old. Teenagers think they know it all, just like I use to think. I’ve noticed that time is short, and my decisions affected my future. I would choose to visit myself at my house, sitting on the couch, when I would start talking to myself; advising myself on topics that impact life. If I would could have heard myself, my outcome would be different. At this age I started looking for advice, and unfortunately I didn’t find any. I would advise myself to first get a solid education, give myself time to find that special person, and lastly, not hold resentment. First advice would be to get a solid education. When I was sixteen, my dad gave a car to my older sister for her birthday. We both went to the same high school. My sister would skip school all the time, but hated to go by herself. She would take me on ride along with her. I really thought she was cool and anything she did was great. I looked up to her because she would do things that I was never allowed to do. Things took a turn when I became a young adult. Since I didn’t finish school, I ended up getting a low paying job. It is very hard to live on minimum wage when you have...
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...help and guide individuals towards their goals. Mentors are there to help from their heart and not personal gain. There are a lot of different types of organization groups that provide mentors like a organization called SCORE. SCORE is an organization that Provides free and confidential counseling, mentoring and advice to small business owners nationwide via its network of more than 12,400 retired business executives, leaders and volunteers. SCORE is sponsored by SBA and has volunteers share their expertise through in-person and online counseling (Steps to finding a mentor). When it comes to trying to find a good mentor there are some steps I like to follow which include making sure that the person I pick is someone who I would like to build a relationship with and someone who is willing to teach and advise me. First I would pick a mentor that is a positive role model (either a male or female) who has a good reputation and is admire by their peers. Second, I want a mentor who is a good listener and someone who will be able to tell me my weakness as well as my strengths. Also when it comes to getting feedback from my mentor I aspect not to be lecture but given advice on a solution. Third, I would like to find a mentor that will level with me and give me the honest truth because I do not want someone who is just going to tell me what I want to here. Another way I like to search for a mentor is to find someone that is nothing like me. I want a mentor that disagree with me but...
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...Overview This design is geared more towards a more selective approach for the students to play with. In the event, a generated transcript will be derived from the users input or previous information submitted by the student. This technology gives students the means to effectively find university courses and produce a class schedule following the students’ preferences. Hopefully, as group we can try to integrate this course scheduler with enterprise information systems such as PeopleSoft. The system allows students to input their desired university courses and produces a set of schedules optimized around student time constraints, course specifications, and specified schedule prioritization preferences. Overall, this system is to be implemented so it reduces time spent by staff on academic advising. Out of the three designs, this design we are pushing this specific approach to be more internal power considering we are CIS students. This focus is push more towards the technology students that way an easier scheduling and not much of hassle conflicting with other courses at the university. With this, not much of a technological expert is required since the system will user frienldy and does not require much thinking. The goal is have all information be generated just from a click of the mouse. Usage Scenario The student see's their repsected advisor to be advised upon receiving the course load for the following academic year or semester. Using the system, following institution-provided...
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...wanted to thank them because of developing our project and they are also willingly to help us out with their abilities. I would like to express my special gratitude and thanks to the hardware stores for giving me such time and attention. They also help us to find our needed materials in their store. To our principal, who gave us the golden opportunity to do this wonderful project which also helped us to do a lot of research and I came to know about so many new things. I am really thankful to her. To my group members, who help me to assemble the parts and gave suggestion about our investigatory project. To the panel, especially during the project presentation that has improved our presentation skill, thanks to their comment and advices. To our friends, who helped us a lot in finalizing this project within the limited time frame. To the other groups for sharing their truthful and illuminating views on a number of issues related to the project. I would also like to thank the WIKIPEDIA.ORG for giving us the needed information on how did the copper-zinc-vinegar generate electricity. To my cousin for helping me out to finish and construct this acknowledgement letter and her invaluably constructive criticism and friendly...
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...Formula of Success This report recommends ways to overcome the challenges faced in the business field. The advices came from an interview with Mudit Sethi, who works in the Financial Department of Chase Headquarter in Chicago. Mr. Sethi majored in Finance at UIC and joined Chase after graduating four years ago. He graduated during the financial crisis; therefore, most of his advices involve the crisis and how he managed to find a suitable job during the crisis. His advices are being interested in the work, being committed to the work, and being able to incorporate changes and use them to the advantage. When asked about the importance of writing in finance, he characterized it as essential part of any business. His advices motivate students to pursue the career of their choice with determination. He further elaborated each important advice by giving example from his personal experience. Interest in the work The first challenge that any person faces involves finding a suitable career that best suits their personality. The challenge involves finding work that will keep a person interested for the rest of his/her life. Mr. Sethi faced similar challenge while getting started at UIC. It was the time of financial crisis, and Mr. Sethi knew that finding work during the crisis would be difficult. But, he was so interested in the Finance field that he took the challenge and continued to study Finance at UIC. However, he did find it difficult to find work as soon as he graduated. He...
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...adequately represent you. We have been engaged by Mrs. Susan A. Smith to review, advise and consult on the various tax aspects of different reorganization options regarding her ownership in KSA Industries, Inc. and its underlying investments including its investment in the Tennessee Titans. It is possible that our advice could be more or less beneficial from a tax perspective to one shareholder vs another shareholder. After carefully considering all the facts and circumstances, we believe that our firm can continue to represent all the affected parties in accordance with our professional responsibilities and the terms of our arrangement letter(s). We wish to make you aware of certain considerations relating to this representation and rules governing tax practitioners require that we obtain a signed waiver of any potential conflict of interest that may arise as a result of our representation described above. Please carefully consider the following implications of our representation: * Any information obtained during joint representation of parties is not confidential as to the other jointly represented parties. Any such information may be used in providing advice to any or all of the jointly represented parties. * Because of an actual or perceived potential for conflict, we cannot advise you...
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...like how she was always the voice of reason and gave people advice. She saw the good in people and gave everyone the benefit of the doubt. Even though Bertha’s husband Seth did not understand the other men in the boardinghouse, his wife Bertha tried to. Bertha tried to calm her husband down when he was upset. When Seth thought that the other people in the house were crazy and weird and wanted to kick them out, Bertha advised against it. I am definitely like Bertha when it comes to friends and strangers. I always try to give people a chance before I judge them. I am always there for my friends if they need me and give them advice. I especially give great advice to my female friends about men just as Bertha did with Mattie. Bertha says, “And I wouldn't waste my time fretting over Jeremy either. I seen it coming. I seen it when she first come here. She that kind of woman run off with the first man got a dollar to spend on her. Jeremy just young. He don't know what he getting into” (Act 2, Scene 3). Bertha is trying to tell Mattie that Jeremy is young and he does not know what he wants so Mattie should just leave him alone. Bertha ends up being right because when Molly comes to the boardinghouse Jeremy’s interests move to her instead. This shows just how unstable and confused Jeremy is and Bertha tries to warn Mattie but she does not listen. Mattie ends up running after Herald. I am much like Bertha in giving my friends advice and they do not listen to it and it ends up backfiring on...
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...“Don’t be too close to him, you’re too young, you might get hurt.” These are some pieces of advice I could still remember when I felt a strange feeling of happiness, a feeling wherein it seemed that my heart is jumping up and down. Asking myself, am I in love? But then because of my immaturity, I disregard my parents’ advice. I let myself being close to him and unfortunately, in the end I got dumped and left alone full of pain and all I can do is to cry. I think this is usual to us in our adolescence days. There really comes a time wherein what we want is contradicting to our parents’ wants for us and because of this we feel that we are deprive of our freedom to choose. I can still remember the days when I was courted by someone for almost three years. Everyday my parents always gave me advice on this thing. There came a point that we quarrel because I get irritated because they keep on advising me. But, then I never answered him because it seems I felt it is not yet the right time for me to be committed to someone. I said that let’s just be happy on what we are now, I thought he understands me but then just right after my 18th birthday, he texted me and said that he needed space and he just go away explaining nothing. In that way I ended up hating him. This experience was the most regretful in my 18 years of existence, for not following my parents. I am not the only one who was hurt but also my parents who wants nothing but the best for me. I disappointed them; and even if...
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...Career Management and Development for Research Faculty Good Practice Guidelines for Research Faculty As well as the support you should receive from your principal investigator and the University to help you with your career development, you have an integral role in managing your own career. There are many ways you can develop and effectively manage your career while working at the University. What You Should Do To Manage and Develop Your Career: [ ] Think ahead ! You need to start thinking about the next step in your career as soon as possible and at least six months before the end of your contract. You also need to think about how your next step fits in to your overall career plan Decide if you want your next career step to be academia or elsewhere To help you do this: - talk to your supervisor about ways of continuing working in the School/Unit, if that's what you want to do e.g. who the relevant funding bodies are etc. look at the internet sites of funding councils for possible sources of funding - ask your supervisor, your peers or the careers service to help you identify the skills that you are developing as a researcher. Once you know what you can offer you are in a better position to start identifying possible employers - talk to your supervisor about your goals. Involve him / her in helping you to achieve them wherever possible - find out if there is a School/Unit research faculty contact, or another member of staff you can talk to, if you are unhappy about talking to...
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...It seems to me that Twain is actually satirizing adult or "learned" behavior, or perhaps conformity in general. Notice how he treats several topics, such as obedience, deference or respect, and lying. He inserts certain words that betray the stated purpose. For example, he writes, "obey your parents, when they are present," because they "think they know better than you," actually implying that parents do not know more. Regarding respect, he writes, "Respect your superiors, if you have any...," as if to say there may be none superior to you. His discussion of lying is very interesting. He warns youth "to be very careful about lying," or else "you are nearly sure to get caught." He then continues the discussion of how we should not lie until we've grown & learned enough to become "perfect" liars, with "confidence, elegance, and precision." He then continues to further support his theme of the adult world that so admires a "lie well told" that it rewards the liar with profit & accolades. Twain advises youth to start "early" to learn "this gracious and beautiful art...If I had begun earlier, I would have learned how." One view might be that he is advising youth to prepare to join & be competent in adult life, in which disobedience, disrespect, and lying might be considered survival skills. However, considering that the true purpose of satire is to try & bring change, it is more likely that Twain is satirizing the "do as I say - not as I do" adult world. I believe his comments are...
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...It seems to me that Twain is actually satirizing adult or "learned" behavior, or perhaps conformity in general. Notice how he treats several topics, such as obedience, deference or respect, and lying. He inserts certain words that betray the stated purpose. For example, he writes, "obey your parents, when they are present," because they "think they know better than you," actually implying that parents do not know more. Regarding respect, he writes, "Respect your superiors, if you have any...," as if to say there may be none superior to you. His discussion of lying is very interesting. He warns youth "to be very careful about lying," or else "you are nearly sure to get caught." He then continues the discussion of how we should not lie until we've grown & learned enough to become "perfect" liars, with "confidence, elegance, and precision." He then continues to further support his theme of the adult world that so admires a "lie well told" that it rewards the liar with profit & accolades. Twain advises youth to start "early" to learn "this gracious and beautiful art...If I had begun earlier, I would have learned how." One view might be that he is advising youth to prepare to join & be competent in adult life, in which disobedience, disrespect, and lying might be considered survival skills. However, considering that the true purpose of satire is to try & bring change, it is more likely that Twain is satirizing the "do as I say - not as I do" adult world. I believe his comments are...
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