...Building Self-Esteem Essay PSY-460 Fundamentals of Counseling July 21, 2013 Self-esteem is the part of our personas that includes the positive and negative of self-assessment or evaluations, and speaks to how we feel and/or think about ourselves. In other words, the attitudes, ideas, and convictions we have about ourselves can determine who we are, what we can do, and who we can become (Mann et al, 2004). It incorporates the aggregate of our overall beliefs, opinions, understanding(s) and awareness of the personal qualities and characteristics we possess. In life we will experience a lack of assurance or confidence at some time or another, however, those persons who experience low self-esteem are not happy; and are often sad or dissatisfied much of the time (Burton, 2012). We find that self-esteem is a significant psychological component that influences our well-being, as well as enhances the value and quality of our lives. Many in the medical field concur that a healthy self-esteem can offer an advantage to professional success, eliminate many psychological disorders, as well as contribute to better overall health and social behavior. This paper aims to discuss how a simple retooling of a person’s system can alleviate negative views of themselves and/or situations leading to possible psychological disorders. The development of self-esteem and/or how we feel about ourselves begins at a very early age and never stops until we close our eyes in death. In other...
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...report that a school is a place in where bullying problems happens. B3. Teachers, educational personnel and self esteem The main point is how teachers relate with students’ self-esteem. It could be pointed out that self-esteem of students affects by teachers’ evaluations. Whether they feel acceptance, support and positive feelings on days, their self-esteem rose. Otherwise, their self-esteem falls with negative and rejection behavior by their teachers. Furthermore, success in school daily tasks means that a student is a worth person. Failure means rejection, depression and non-acceptance by their teachers. Generally speaking, teachers should boost children’s self-esteem. How will...
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...Welcome to your 21-day, power-packed e-course: Boost Your Self Esteem To New Heights! Brought to you www.selfesteemplus.com. Even though you may not be paying for this e-course, it does not mean that the content or exercises contained within it are sub-standard. In fact, I've seen many a highly-priced course or workbook that wouldn't come close to offering you the quality of tools and techniques I have included here. Why do I remind you about this at the beginning of each lesson? Because I wish for you to extract maximum benefit. You never know when or where your next breakthrough moment will come ... PS. Have you downloaded your workbook yet? http://www.selfesteemplus.com/lock/free-self-esteem-download.htm EMAIL LESSON 1: Finding Out More About Your Self Esteem Hello again! Welcome to your first lesson: Finding Out More About Your Self Esteem. In this lesson you will: • Get an overview of what to expect from the entire course; • Learn some definitions of self esteem and high self esteem; • Describe your own self esteem; • Personalize your understanding of high self esteem; • Personalize your understanding of low self esteem; • Rate your own self esteem; • Reflect on your own rating; and • Learn about 'State Of Mind' and how it powerfully affects your self esteem. In this lesson, you will be referring to your Workbook, Section 1. Course Overview This 21-day power-packed e-course has the capability to change your life, assuming that you have sufficient...
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...Hector M. Lopez Ms. Baily Writing I, Sec. 17 December 17, 2010 Love at first scare; the use of fear to manipulate consumers. The commercial for the 2008 Scion xB starts with a camera shot of a large boulder rapidly swinging across the screen, in what appears to be an empty industrial warehouse, as if it were part of a pendulum. In the background a child’s voice is heard, in an almost whispering manner, repeating “he loves me, he loves me not” in rhythm with the boulder as it swings over the car. After this, the camera shot changes to show a close up of the front tire of a bold metallic-orange Scion xB, standing out against the dark industrial setting, and the crude, unpolished textures of the boulder and the weathered concrete ground. Eventually the camera zooms out to include the swinging boulder and two identical orange cars on opposing ends of each other, about forty feet apart, and barely out of the boulder’s reach. Following this the shot zooms in again, and after two more swings of the massive boulder, the boulder slams into the side of the car, sending several pieces of metal into the air, and causing a large dent, about the size of both the side doors, on the right side of the car. After this collision, the camera focuses on the other, still untouched, car. In the background the wrecked car and the boulder can be seen. Upon switching to this shot the child’s voice can no longer be heard. After this, a man’s voice states “love it, or loathe it; the 2008 Scion xB.”...
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...substances along with surgical procedures that alters the physical appearance of an individual. Dissatisfied with their natural attributes, a frightening majority of society seems to be battling with their inner demons or low self-esteem; they willingly put themselves in harm’s way in order to fill this void. The need to maintain a favorable view in the public eye and presence of our peers is obviously prevalent in our society. While the idea is not flawed it’s the way in which we go about achieving this status that is rather bothersome. Women especially often wear the hats of many roles, juggling work, family and even school females increasingly find it difficult to take care of their selves, paying less attention to their physical appearance. With the popularity of reality shows more and more women are comparing themselves to women on TV who seem to have it all. Likewise college students are also in the juggling game, trying to do well academically while participating in extracurricular activities, work and enjoying social pleasures. The pressure cooker of society has made instant gratification a viable option for those who are looking to do it all, with little or no thought given to the ramifications of these seemingly valuable shortcuts. Margaret Talbot in her essay examined the popularity of neuroenhancers in Universities. she found out that these drugs that are meant for prescription use only is quite common on...
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...The Self Keepa Secret PSY/400 February 6, 2011 Ingrid Lewis The Self Philosophers and Psychologists have been debating and pondering the question of what exactly constitutes the self for many years. Considering that there are certain concepts and aspects that makes up what psychologists refer to as “the self” in the social world is definitely worth taking a look at since defining what exactly it is can help us understand our roles in society and move us a little closer to understanding our motivations, desires, and why we do the things we do. In this essay we will examine the concept of self in the social world and discuss how I apply the self to my own life. In addition we will also examine the roles of self concept, self-esteem and self efficacy, and how these concepts build a framework for my conception of self. I will also describe two social experiences that affected my personal development in an effort to help the reader understand why I am who I am today. Self in the Social world The concept of the self cannot be found in any book or dictionary. It is not something any one person can concretely define. It cannot be explained in third person because the self is an individual topic. I can’t decide for another person what the definition of self is for them, especially as it relates to their experiences in the social world. I can only decide what self is and how it manifests itself in my own life based on my own experiences, thoughts, feelings and...
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...may be not. The three most common issues among teenagers that I will be discussing in this essay are drug use, bullying, and self-harm. Illegal or legal drug use can be seen anywhere, even in school. Peer pressure and low self-esteem can be the cause of many teens looking at drugs for many reasons. Drugs are serious substances that can harm the users and anyone around them. Drug use can lead to drug abuse, and will lead to a much more serious problem- addiction. Using drugs is a way for teens to escape from their reality for a while so they can feel a little better. There are many teenagers that have been bullied or are being bullied. Bullying can be physical or verbal and can inflict significant damage on many. Along with the advanced technology, bullying can be done anonymously and make things even worse. Because of bullying, the suicide rating among teens has increased and has resulted in many to drop out of school. Most victims of bullying turn to drugs and self-harm than to an adult to talk about it because they feel alone and that no one would be able to understand. Self-harm is a way of expressing and dealing with emotional distress. Some teens can hide their cuts and lie about how they are feeling, but deep down they are dying. Teens self-harm to distract themselves from the pain they are feeling inside. As illogical as it may sound to others, self-harming can be soothing. Self-harm can relieve the pain temporarily, and can quickly be followed by other feelings such...
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...Argumentative Essay: Solution for Bullying Bullying is a big problem for children and young people that go through it. It knocks their self-esteem and makes them lose their confidence, and can make them dread going to school each day. In extreme cases, young people can become suicidal as a result of bullying, while in other very serious cases, it can get out of hand and lead to the bully murdering their victim. It’s also a huge problem for parents and teachers, because stopping bullying is a hard task and they often don’t know the best ways to go about it. There are three key elements to stopping bullying: educating the bullies, imposing greater sanctions for the bullies, and protecting the victim. The reason that bullies must be educated is that many of them are not aware of exactly how much they are hurting their victim. In serious cases, it is probably wholly deliberate, but even then, most bullies wouldn’t want their victim to become as suicidal as they have made them. Bullying can come in all sorts of forms and one that affects girls in particular is a group of so-called friends excluding them from everything. In cases like these, if the bullies understood that they had become bullies picking on a victim, they may think twice. The second way to deal with the bullies is to punish them. This could be the only thing that works for incredibly nasty people, because they will only care when it begins to affect them. Bullying often isn’t taken seriously enough; for example, if...
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...old. The boy and 2 other boys have formed a group, and the main character is the leader of this group. He is younger than the two other boys, and is trying to be tougher than he really is. Peer pressure is a big part of his life; he is being pressured by his father as well as the other two boys. He has a reputation and he has to be tough even though he does not want to be mean. This can be seen through the whole story, because he has second thoughts about bullying Simpson, he knows it is wrong, but he does not do anything about it. The main character is a very insecure boy with low self-confidence and his father is violent against him. The low self-esteem is reflected in his behaviour and he is a mad and aggressive young man. 2. People often associate peer pressure with something bad, but it does not always have to be like that. I will in this essay discuss the pros and cons of peer pressure. Peer pressure can be a bad thing in cases where children bully on other kids. Children can be really mean to each other and they would sometimes do anything to be a part of a group. This can later on traumatize the victim and give them a hard life. On the other hand peer pressure can be a really good thing for instance when people are trying to quit smoking. It is easier to achieve something when you stick together and do it as a group. But although it can be a good thing you have to avoid peer pressure, because it can cause a lot of problems...
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..."Using the case study provided at the end of the module, identify and explain the client's issues and devise a course of treatment for him, taking into account any ethical issues”. In this essay I will be exploring the issues raised in the case study provided which is about a 45 year old man named 'Mr. X'. I shall be explaining the issues Mr. X has expressed as I have understood them. To be in a position to help Mr X I need to identify issues that arise from the initial interview and produce a course of treatment that I feel would enable Mr X to meet his identified goals. I will be taking in consideration any ethical issues that need to be accounted for. Mr. X is a 45 year old man who has worked at the same Estate Agency for 18 years. He has presented to me the issue that he would like to apply for the manager’s position at his branch but his lack of confidence is holding him back. Mr. X has stood in for the current manager on many occasions so he knows that he is capable of doing the job but has reservations as he doesn’t want to cause any upset amongst the other staff or management if he is not successful. Further discussion with Mr. X revealed that one of the reasons he would like the job as manager is so that his mother would be proud of him and show him a little more respect. She is currently living in a home and he visits her regularly every Friday night although he says she tends to pick on him. Mr. X isn’t clear how or why his mother picks on him, just that she...
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...the story progressed, their reactions and responses to each other demonstrated perceptual errors, which would later be shown. The gender conflict styles also played a role. The girls both tended to listen, rather than hold the attention of the others. This was especially true in Allison's case, who never spoke. Allison was introduced in the movie as the basket case. Allison showed that she was obviously insecure, seating herself facing away from the rest of the room (avoidance). She would not speak out, was non-assertive, and when asked what she wanted she would not respond (impervious response). She would only sit and smile to herself. You could categorize her in to the passive aggressive label perfectly. She didn't like herself (low self-esteem), or others. She was both futile and helpless. The only way she displayed her anger was by giving a whimper. She obviously had a lot of pent up feeling, for she reveals a lot...
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...Axia College Material Appendix F Healthy Interpersonal Relationships Worksheet Use your textbook to answer the following questions. You are not required to respond in essay format. You may use short-answer responses, including lists, to answer these questions. 1. What are the characteristics of intimate relationships? What are behavioral interdependence, need fulfillment, emotional attachment, and emotional availability? Why is each important in relationship development? Behavioral interdependence is when you literally not live without the other person simply because you cannot function without somebody there to look out for you every minute of the day or the flipside you Need fulfillment is exactly what is sounds like more heavily discussed during the infant and toddler years. Need fulfillment usually refers to how the parent is caring for the child. If a baby cries because he is wet/hungry/scared does someone routinely come and take care of his needs (this is need fulfillment), there are disorders that can be caused by lack of need fulfillment, a neglected baby where almost no needed are meant. A semi-neglected baby where needs are met but not a regular basis for the child to draw a pattern to. Emotional attachment is kind of a dicey term because I don’t know if you mean an inapproiate attachment or just in general. In general emotional attachment is anything you have feelings for that makes you want to keep it around like your stuff animal from your childhood you...
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...Essay “A pair of silk stockings” In this short story “A pair of silk stockings” written by Kate Chopin, we are introduced to the main character Little Mrs. Sommers. We follow the story of Little Mrs. Sommers, how she unexpectedly gets her hands on an amount of money and how this changes her and her life. The theme of this story seems to be concerning the conflict between “women and society”, this is evident in the description of how the neighbours consider Mrs. Sommers in society as well as the scene where Mrs. Sommers enters the fine restaurant and creates no reaction as she might have feared and been used to. How man’s weakness for materialism can lead to selfishness and loss of responsibility is highlighted in the way Mrs. Sommers gets obsessed with the feeling of needing more and nothing ever being enough. Mrs. Sommers is described as a very unselfish woman who declared her life to her family. Until she came in possession of fifteen dollars, she was a woman who used to bargain about everything and spend all of her energy on her children and their well-being. Mrs. Sommers decides to go out to spend the money in a proper and responsible way. She wants to buy her children nice shoes and clothes. However during the “shopping travel” something happens inside Mrs. Sommers. She gets caught in the feeling of wealthy: “…gave her a feeling of importance such as she had not enjoyed for years.” (L3,P1) The text tells us that Mrs. Sommers might have had a greater standard...
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...Inter-Personal Competencies ukessays.com /essays/psychology/intra-and-inter-personal-competencies-psychology-essay.php I have a classmate, Sammy. She is decided of having several problems among Intra- and InterPersonal Competencies. I have done a number of researches on the problems and they will be discussed in detail by further studies. The three main problems that Sammy may be suffered are low self-concept, negative thoughts and poor family relationship. Those problems will be proved by studies at the following. Content Low self-concept Low self-esteem One of the critical parts of self-concept is self-esteem. It indicates a positive or negative orientation (Rosenberg, 1979, p.14). Level of self-esteem affects performance at many different tasks (Coopersmith, 1967, cited in Argyle, n.d.). Studies have found a significant proportion between self-esteem and grade-point-average (Baker, and beer, 1991, p.15). Besides academic achievement, intrinsic motivation may be also related to self-esteem (Skaalvik, 1997, cited in Hanna, et. Al., 2000, p.15). In this case, Sammy had an unfavorable result in the public examination and she is lack of motivation. Low self esteem may regularly let us have a negative compare of us and others (Elliott, n.d.). Sammy always compare herself with peers and just focus on the part which advantageous to her. Therefore, she may be low self-esteem. Dealing with low self-esteem She could design an independent self-respect to others. Recognizing she has...
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