Haoyang Ding
Soc 324
As my background, I come from China, the traditional Chinese mode of thinking that boys are important than girls. In the feudal China society this situation is more significant. Most Chinese families has a very clear distinction between different gender. For instance, my father responsible to earn money and my mom responsible to take care All family member's life. Like, cooking, take care my grandmother and grandfather. On the one hand, I grow up in the traditional Chinese family and as the only male in the second generation in my family. So mostly my opinion about sexuality are influenced by my parents. On the other hand, as a foreigner, I studied in the US four years, so I think race, religion, nationality also influences my ideas about sexuality.
For my personal experience, there are several factors influenced my sexuality. Firstly, my parents influenced my sexuality. When I was children, my parents told me you can’t dress, skirt, you should dress like a man. When I was in elementary school, my parents start asking me, “do you have a girlfriend?” all those things remind me, I should dress like a man not lady and I should find a girlfriend not boyfriend. So I think my parents influenced my sexuality. Secondly, in adolescence period, all my friends are straight guy, we always talked about pretty girls. I think at this progress, I know I should date with girls, not boys and in that period I never thought about the sexuality. I never meet gay or lesbian before I come US. When I come here and meets some people who was gay or lesbian. I was feeling nervous at the first time to talk with those people. But now I can understand those people’s situations, for gay or lesbian there are not choice question which they can choose. There are no different between you and gay, I know I should treat those guys like normal people.
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