...Marital counseling is a great way to raise issues that the couple may have or issues that the couple may not have talked about yet. The bible states in Proverbs 15:22 that “Without counsel purposes are disappointed: but in the multitude of counselors they are established”. Couples need the help of those who can enlarge their vision and broaden their perspective. They should be open to new ideas and be willing to weigh their suggestions carefully. By considering counseling and opening up their line of communication which will indeed help build a strong marriage and more likely succeed. “Communication is the key to the development of any growing relationship. The Bible places high value on good communication. God pursues those whom he loves and seeks to communicate with them” (Hawkins, 1991, p. 108-11). Premarital counseling will be a great way for me to rid myself of all of my preconceived notions about marriage, set goals with my future spouse, and be able to understand Gods plan for marriages and how the world feels about marriage. When it comes to financial planning/management if the couple is having problems I would indeed recommend that they see a financial counselor or someone that has better training in the topic. Communication is so important when it comes to marriage. Throughout this course the topic of communication always arises. If you are in a marriage with no communication it won’t work. As a counselor I will stress the importance of having an open line of communication...
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...conventional has higher PCA in spiritual beliefs and roles while the conflicted as in the case of married have low levels of PCA. Any level of the scale that is less than 20 is considered as growth areas for the couple. Looking at this classification and explanation about couple relationship with Dr. Oslo, I can state that couples are different individuals that team up to fix their union by encouraging themselves to improve in areas having low scores. My view is that male and female differ physically and psychologically in many ways and the failure to appreciate these differences often brings couples into conflict (Hawkins, 1991). Marriage is the union of each unique person committed to the other unique person in a position to build intimacy (Hawkins, 1991) that will help them improve their growth areas and sustain their strength areas. Couples need not be alike to have a vitalized marriage, but complement each other, by building their personality, improve their growth area and correct themselves in love. Romans 15:1 says “We who are strong ought to bear with the failings of the weak and not to please ourselves.” (NIV), this verse shows that spouses need to be committed to helping themselves in weak areas so that the...
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...Case Study: Samantha Case Study: Samantha Samantha is a 48-year-old African American elementary school teacher who has been married four times. She was first married to her high school sweetheart at the age of 18. He died three years later in the Vietnam War. She married her second husband seven years after that, but the marriage ended in divorce, when it was discovered that her husband was gay. Her third marriage was to a man who was 10 years her junior and that marriage ended after 3 years when she found out that her husband was having an affair with a younger woman. Now this current marriage is ending because of a lack of passion and companionship, and an apparent general disinterest. Samantha dreads the aftermath of this divorce. She has begun to isolate herself from friends and spend long periods moping and thinking about how gloomy her future will be because she has decided never to marry or date again. Samantha’s parents were happily married for 50 years. They are both recently deceased and she continues to miss their support, affection, and guidance. Samantha has an older brother, whom she greatly admires and loves. He has been married for 20 years and has two daughters with whom Samantha has a close relationship. She views both her parents’ and brother’s marriages as perfect. Presenting Problem: Samantha is experiencing depression because her fourth marriage is in dissolution and she feels flawed and like a failure, and doomed to lead a life of loneliness...
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...Abstract The purpose of this paper is to summarize and then critique Clifford and Joyce Penner’s book, “The Gift of Sex, A Guide to Sexual Fulfillment”. In the Biblical perspective section of the book, the Penners express that sexuality and sexual intimacy are a gift from God, intended for married couples, to symbolize the one-ness God desires with mankind. The physical dimension section breaks down the mechanics of the sexual organs and their response to sexual pleasure. The total experience section brings together the mechanics, God’s design for oneness, and techniques to explore in order to bring a married couple sexual intimacy and fulfillment. The Penners also discuss certain problems that may arise for a married couple in their sexual experiences and relationship. The last section of the book discusses the importance of enhancing the sexual experience in a marriage and suggests way to improve intimacy. Sex is a beautiful gift from God to bring pleasure and intimacy to a married couple. In the book, “the Gift of Sex: A Guide to Sexual Fulfillment”, written by Clifford and Joyce Penner, the authors discuss in great detail five main sections that can lead to a more fulfilling sexual relationship with one’s spouse. These sections include the biblical perspective of sex, the physical dimensions of the body, the total experience one has, what to do when there are sexual problems, and how to enhance the sexual experience by inviting God into the marriage and sexual...
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...Our society as a culture, has created a stigma and unrealistic beliefs regarding rape and why it happens. Because of these stigmas, we have many myths and misconceptions about what a rape is. We lack the ability to empathize by strengthening our views on victim blaming. Without the confrontation of these misconceptions, rape will always be looked at as a victim issue with excuses geared towards the victims wrong-doings. Until we dissect these myths, rape will never be viewed as egregious as other violent crimes in our country. Some of these misconceptions and myths are as follows: 1. The basis of rape consists of "intense sexual desire". In reality, rape is an incredibly violent act perpetrated upon a victim. Its intent is to "express...
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...* * * * * * * * * Case Study: Steve and Cindy * * PACO 603 Premarital and Marital Counseling * * December 11, 2013 * Case Study: Steve and Cindy * When entering into marital counseling, a couple is often seeking help to resolve differences or problems either one or both are struggling to overcome. Steve and Cindy have recently begun this journey by seeking help with their marriage from a pastoral counselor at their church who uses Olson’s PREPARE/ENRICH program (2009). They have both taken the program’s online tests, which cover a multitude of key areas such as the couple’s background, relationship dynamics, and personalities. This paper addresses three main areas including the identification of the couple’s key strengths and weaknesses, a discussion of potential issues with the couple’s personality, and the development of a plan to counsel and support them through church ministry. * Key Areas Identified * Hawkins (1991.p.23) describes the concept of intimacy as “oneness with healthy separateness”. When reviewing the results of Olson’s PREPARE/ENRICH report (2009), it becomes evident that many areas of strength and weakness exist in the couple’s relationship. The answers provided under idealistic distortion indicate that both Steve and Cindy realize that there are problems in the marriage needing to be addressed but Steve is minimizing the severity of the problem. Cindy’s results state that she is...
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...within marriages. All couples have a difference of opinions in situations in their lives together. Marital conflict is not a matter of a difference in opinions. Marital conflict stems from a development of unfortunate series of circumstances that have caused a rift in the unity of the partnership of the marriage. The source of marital conflict consists of issues that have boiled up to the point of a severe lack of communication. When married couples stop communicating with each other, they grow farther apart in their marriage. If married couples have the opportunity to identify the causes of marital discord, they will develop healthier ways to resolve the complex issues within their marriage. In general, all couples have dealt with issues with finance, parenting, and domestic duties. This case study analysis will discuss the facilitator’s report of the relationship dynamics of a conflicted couple, Steve and Cindy. This analysis will focus on the identification of key strengths and weaknesses between the couple, how the couple’s personalities might be influencing their situation, and developing a strategy to counsel and support the couple. This analysis will highlight conflict resolution skills that the couple may be able to employ as a way to build upon their foundation within their marriage. Case Study 2: Steve and Cindy Introduction When a couple enters marital counseling, they are seeking to identify potential relationship issues and resolve complicated conflicts...
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...factor that eventually allows us to connect with the other person. In order to go further into this topic one question is raised; what is the role of touch communication in developing significant interpersonal relationships? Scholars have been doing research in recent past on this subject of touch communication and developing relationships. According to the article Patterns of Matching and Initiation: Touch Behavior and Touch Avoidance Across Romantic Relationship Stages. by Laura K. Guerrero and Peter A. Andersen touch behavior is extremely important in the maintaining of relationships. According to Guerrero " research on interpersonal touch has found that people tend to assign interpretations such as affection, commitment, control, intimacy, and sexual interest to touch behavior" (Guerrero 1992). People...
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...9/14/2012 Table Of Content Development Across The Life Span Social Clock: Ravena Helson Social And PD In Adulthood : Daniel Levinson Intimacy Vs Isolation: Erik Erikson Relationship Development: Bernard Mursntein Triangular Theory Of Love: Robert Sternberg Selecting A Partner Marriage Conflict Divorce UNIT 4 EARLY ADULTHOOD PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT Career Choose And Embarking On Career Identity During Young Adulthood Career Development Holland’s Theory Ginzberg’s theory Gender And Career Choice Why People Work Career Transition Learning Unit Objectives Development Across the Lifespan Discuss about the personality development of early adulthood. Explain Social clock: Ravena Helson, Social and PD in adulthood : Daniel Levinson, Intimacy vs Isolation: Erik Erikson, Relationship development: Bernard Mursntein and Triangular Theory of Love: Robert Sternberg Discuss on issues about selecting a Partner as well as Marriage, Conflict in marriage and divorce Discuss issues related to Career. What makes people happy? Money? Materials? Objects? According to research, happiness in young adulthood is usually derived from feelings of independence, competence, or self-esteem (Sheldon et al, 2001). Therefore, the components of happiness: Fulfillment of psychological needs. Building relationships in Early Adulthood: Liking and Loving During early adulthood, romance,...
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...Eric Berne Games People Play The psychology of human relationships Table of contents PREFACE.........................................................................................................................................................................3 INTRODUCTION............................................................................................................................................................4 1 SOCIAL INTERCOURSE..........................................................................................................................................4 2 THE STRUCTURING OF TIME ...............................................................................................................................5 PART I ANALYSIS OF GAMES ...................................................................................................................................8 CHAPTER ONE STRUCTURAL ANALYSIS .....................................................................................................................8 CHAPTER TWO TRANSACTIONAL ANALYSIS ............................................................................................................10 CHAPTER THREE PROCEDURES AND RITUALS .........................................................................................................14 CHAPTER FOUR PASTIMES .............................................................................................................................
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...SOCIAL ADJUSTMENT AND EMOTIONAL WELL-BEING OF UNWED MOTHERS IN SELECTED TOWNS IN BATANGAS PROVINCE A Thesis Presented to The Faculty of the College of Arts and Sciences BATANGAS STATE UNIVERSITY JPLPC-Campus Malvar, Batangas In Partial Fulfillment Of the Requirements for the Degree Bachelor of Science in Psychology By: ANDREW T. CLAUD RENIER A. EVANGELISTA October 2014 CHAPTER I THE PROBLEM Single mothers have a dual responsibility in their households. Compared to two-parent households, lone parents have not only reduced money but also half the adult time resources available. Single mothers manage many responsibilities including financial provision, housekeeping, and parenting. In addition, they lack a supportive spouse to turn to for counsel, cooperation, and comfort. The stress in the mother’s life and the way she deals with it also impacts her child. Current research suggests that professional help is sought for mental health reasons by single-parent mothers two to three times more often. Of all problems in domestic relations with which the social worker deals, that of the family unsanctioned by Church or State, unrecognized by the community, is probably the most difficult. Although we speak usually of the “unmarried mother” nevertheless the situation involves all the elements of a family group—mother, father, and child. Each of these has certain rights, the parents have certain obligations, and the relationship of the members of the group to the...
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...Notes on Song of Solomon 2 0 1 4 E d i t i o n Dr. Thomas L. Constable Introduction TITLE In the Hebrew Bible the title of this book is "The Song of Songs." It comes from 1:1. The Septuagint and Vulgate translators adopted this title. The Latin word for song is canticum from which we get the word Canticles, another title for this book. Some English translations have kept the title "Song of Songs" (e.g., NIV, TNIV), but many have changed it to "Song of Solomon" based on 1:1 (e.g., NASB, AV, RSV, NKJV). WRITER AND DATE Many references to Solomon throughout the book confirm the claim of 1:1 that Solomon wrote this book (cf. 1:4-5, 12; 3:7, 9, 11; 6:12; 7:5; 8:11-12; 1 Kings 4:33). He reigned between 971 and 931 B.C. Richard Hess believed the writer is unknown and could have been anyone, even a woman, and that the female heroine viewed and described her lover as a king: as a Solomon.1 How could Solomon, who had 700 wives and 300 concubines (1 Kings 11:3), be the same faithful lover this book presents? He could be if he became polygamous after the events in this book took place. That seems a more likely explanation than that he was polygamous when these events occurred and just omitted reference to his other loves. Probably he wrote the book before he became polygamous. We do not know how old Solomon was when he married the second time. The history recorded in Kings and Chronicles is not in strict chronological order. The Shulammite was probably not Pharaoh's daughter in view...
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...[pic] Table of Contents • Introduction • Chapter 1 Marriage Is Good! • Chapter 2 Love • Chapter 3 Learning Submission • Chapter 4 The Marriage Bed • Chapter 5 Understanding Male/Female Differences • Chapter 6 Communication • Chapter 7 Walking In Wisdom • Chapter 8 Hospitality • Chapter 9 Family Finances Part II: Hinderances To A Happy Home • Chapter 10 The Works Of The Flesh • Chapter 11 The Tongue • Chapter 12 Covetousness • Chapter 13 Unforgiveness • Chapter 14 An Answer To Seperation Introduction Right from creation, God demonstrated His interest in and value placed on the marriage institution and the family, by being practically involved in its institution. He did not simply speak it into being as He did the beast of the field and the fowls of the air. He carefully put it together step by step. God put man to sleep and from his side took a rib and formed the woman. Not stopping there, God took the woman by the hand and led her to Adam. Therefore marriage is a unique relationship, having its root in divinity (Gen. 2:22). However, marriage and family life, a thing of joy, pleasure, and high esteem at creation is now treated by many as a necessary evil and looked at by some disdainfully. "Those in it want to rush out and those outside want to rush in," they say. This has resulted in the fast disintegration of the marriage unit and subsequently the family. Statistics indicate that the decline of marriage and the family...
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...Introduction Most of the time, physical abuse is not recognize by peoples as a serious problem. Physical abuse occurs when someone physically hurts you, such as by hitting you or throwing something at you. Even if someone only hits you once or doesn't hurt you that badly, it is a big deal. It may be not so serious because it seems they’re not badly hurt, but what the people doesn’t know is they are causing harm, a serious harm to that people they hurt physically.Abuse tends to escalate, putting you at greater risk in the future. Just one incident of being physically hurt by anyone is unacceptable, and you should take steps to stop the abuse. They cause harm in the sense that that even small hurting can cause hidden scars, Hidden scars which are formed by the emotional and psychological wounds. This Hidden scars is manifested by almost all of the people specifically during their teenage years. All parents want a disciplined and well behaved child. However, there are times when a parent loses control or simply has no control over their child. This is when simple parenting crosses the line and becomes emotional abuse. Emotional abuse is elusive. Unlike physical abuse, the people doing it and receiving it may not even know it is happening. It can be more harmful than physical abuse because it can undermine what we think about ourselves. It can cripple all we are meant to be as we allow something untrue to define us. Emotional abuse can happen between parent and child, husband...
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...ISLAM Marriage Concept in Malaysia 2014 1) Introduction Muslims today face many obstacles and challenges as well as attacks from the enemies thought the various outside, they also face the problem of ignorance of some Muslim individuals in mastering the knowledge of Islam. Among their ignorance in understanding the laws pertaining to the family institution in Islam such as marriage, divorce and its consequences. Rising divorce as reported by the religious authorities and the increasing violence of the crisis, in addition to cases of spousal abuse and child are endless, enough concern us today. The collapse of the family is the cause of this phenomenon is believed to trigger. This requires Muslims to look back on how far the regulations contained in the system status. System status is a unique system. It aims to organize a more systematic relationship between family-based tenets of men with female family involved. Islamic motifs in the family construction is premised on faith and seeks to do the rituals. Assuming that the Muslim community in this day and age to follow and practice all raised in the system status, I'm sure they will achieve a happy life is not only the world but also in the hereafter. One statistic that is alarming the country has ever issued by JAKIM. According to the report, the occurrence of one case of divorce for every 15 minutes of the husband and wife who are Muslims in Malaysia. The number of divorces in Malaysia has more than doubled over the eight...
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