The Tender Bar is a memoir by JR Moehringer which shows himself growing up between family struggles, going into Yale, girlfriends, male figures, and the Publicans bar. JR learns to escape those conflicts and deal with them, but the one thing he couldn’t get past was his lack of confidence. All throughout his life he was striving for confidence, but in distinctive forms like needing a fatherly figure, becoming a lawyer, and the bar.
Early on in his life, JR unknowingly is striving for confidence by accomplishing his desires. When he was finally accepted by the men at the bar, the men taught JR all sorts of things, like how to swing a nine iron, how to throw a spiral, and etc. JR believed that they finally acknowledged him and that he finally