...S TE VE HARVEY STEVE HAR V EY E R Y Denene Millner Act Like a Lady, T HINK LIKE A Man This book is dedicated to all women. My hope is to empower you with a wide-open look into the minds of men. Introduction Everything You Need to Know About Men and Relationships Is Right Here 1 1 T H E M I N D -SE T OF A M A N 1 What Drives Men 2 3 11 19 Our Love Isn’t Like Your Love The Three Things Every Man Needs: Support, Loyalty, and the Cookie 37 “We Need to Talk,” and Other Words That Make Men Run for Cover 49 4 2 W H Y M E N D O W H AT T H E Y D O 5 First Things First: He Wants to Sleep with You 61 6 Sports Fish vs. Keepers: How Men Distinguish Between the Marrying Types and the Playthings 69 7 Mama’s Boys 8 Why Men Cheat 3 85 95 T H E PL A Y BO OK : HOW TO W I N T H E G A M E 9 Men Respect Standards—Get Some 10 115 The Five Questions Every Woman Should Ask Before She Gets in Too Deep 129 11 The Ninety-Day Rule: Getting the Respect You Deserve 147 12 If He’s Meeting the Kids After You Decide He’s “the One,” It’s Too Late 163 13 Strong, Independent—and Lonely— Women 179 14 How to Get the Ring 193 15 Quick Answers to the Questions You’ve Always Wanted to Ask 205 Acknowledgments 231 About the Author Credits Cover Copyright About the Publisher V EVERY THING YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT MEN AND REL ATIONSHIPS IS RIGHT HERE I ’ve made a living for more than twenty years making people laugh—about themselves...
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...S TE VE HARVEY STEVE HAR V EY E R Y Denene Millner Act Like a Lady, T HINK LIKE A Man This book is dedicated to all women. My hope is to empower you with a wide-open look into the minds of men. Introduction Everything You Need to Know About Men and Relationships Is Right Here 1 1 T H E M I N D -SE T OF A M A N 1 What Drives Men 2 3 11 19 Our Love Isn’t Like Your Love The Three Things Every Man Needs: Support, Loyalty, and the Cookie 37 “We Need to Talk,” and Other Words That Make Men Run for Cover 49 4 2 W H Y M E N D O W H AT T H E Y D O 5 First Things First: He Wants to Sleep with You 61 6 Sports Fish vs. Keepers: How Men Distinguish Between the Marrying Types and the Playthings 69 7 Mama’s Boys 8 Why Men Cheat 3 85 95 T H E PL A Y BO OK : HOW TO W I N T H E G A M E 9 Men Respect Standards—Get Some 10 115 The Five Questions Every Woman Should Ask Before She Gets in Too Deep 129 11 The Ninety-Day Rule: Getting the Respect You Deserve 147 12 If He’s Meeting the Kids After You Decide He’s “the One,” It’s Too Late 163 13 Strong, Independent—and Lonely— Women 179 14 How to Get the Ring 193 15 Quick Answers to the Questions You’ve Always Wanted to Ask 205 Acknowledgments 231 About the Author Credits Cover Copyright About the Publisher V EVERY THING YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT MEN AND REL ATIONSHIPS IS RIGHT HERE I ’ve made a living for more than twenty years making people laugh—about themselves...
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...S TE VE HARVEY STEVE HAR V EY E R Y Denene Millner Act Like a Lady, T HINK LIKE A Man This book is dedicated to all women. My hope is to empower you with a wide-open look into the minds of men. Introduction Everything You Need to Know About Men and Relationships Is Right Here 1 1 T H E M I N D -SE T OF A M A N 1 What Drives Men 2 3 11 19 Our Love Isn’t Like Your Love The Three Things Every Man Needs: Support, Loyalty, and the Cookie 37 “We Need to Talk,” and Other Words That Make Men Run for Cover 49 4 2 W H Y M E N D O W H AT T H E Y D O 5 First Things First: He Wants to Sleep with You 61 6 Sports Fish vs. Keepers: How Men Distinguish Between the Marrying Types and the Playthings 69 7 Mama’s Boys 8 Why Men Cheat 3 85 95 T H E PL A Y BO OK : HOW TO W I N T H E G A M E 9 Men Respect Standards—Get Some 10 115 The Five Questions Every Woman Should Ask Before She Gets in Too Deep 129 11 The Ninety-Day Rule: Getting the Respect You Deserve 147 12 If He’s Meeting the Kids After You Decide He’s “the One,” It’s Too Late 163 13 Strong, Independent—and Lonely— Women 179 14 How to Get the Ring 193 15 Quick Answers to the Questions You’ve Always Wanted to Ask 205 Acknowledgments 231 About the Author Credits Cover Copyright About the Publisher V EVERY THING YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT MEN AND REL ATIONSHIPS IS RIGHT HERE I ’ve made a living for more than twenty years making people laugh—about themselves, about each other, about family, and friends, and, most certainly...
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...little intimidating. Now, I don’t want to give a long speech. Cyndi Lauper is in the house. I can’t compete with that. (Applause.) But I wanted to come here tonight, first of all, to personally thank Joe for his outstanding years of leadership at HRC. (Applause.) What he has accomplished at the helm of this organization has been remarkable, and I want to thank all of you for the support that you’ve shown this organization and for your commitment to a simple idea: Every single American -- gay, straight, lesbian, bisexual, transgender -- every single American deserves to be treated equally in the eyes of the law and in the eyes of our society. It’s a pretty simple proposition. (Applause.) Now, I don’t have to tell you that we have a ways to go in that struggle. I don’t have to tell you how many are still denied their basic rights -- Americans who are still made to feel like second-class citizens, who have to live a lie to keep their jobs, or who are afraid to walk the street, or down the hall at school. Many of you have devoted your lives to the cause of equality. So you know what we have to do; we’ve got more work ahead of us. But we can also be proud of the progress we’ve made these past two and a half years. Think about it. (Applause.) Two years ago, I stood at this podium, in this room, before many of you, and I made a pledge. I...
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...Karen Shepard You know who we are. We're Kaethe and Alina, CJ and Sydney. Stephanie. Our hair is blonde or brown or black. Rarely red, rarely curly. It's thick and straight, and falls back into place after we run our fingers through it and hold it away from our faces long enough for you to see our striking eyes. When we do this, you get shivers. It's 1982, and we sit on the benches lining our New York private school's entrance, after classes are over and before we head home. They are old church pews, and we are from another world. Our canvas book bags mass at our feet. They're from Sweden. They come with an excess of zippers, a plastic ID tag on a small chain, and a ruler that we never use. We buy them at Chocolate Soup, on Madison, the store for cool kids. We say things like "Tenth grade is the Howard Johnson's of school life." You can sit on these benches too, but we do not notice you. Last fall we excised some of you from our group by taking you aside five minutes before chapel and saying "It just isn't working out." We see everyone who walks past us, in and out of our 200-year-old originally Episcopalian school. We sweep you with our eyes as if you were a landscape. We've seen everything the world has to offer, and we've dismissed it. We lean back in the pews, our heads against the brick wall, our feet planted widely in front of us if we are wearing jeans—worn jeans that we say we've had since we were ten. If we're wearing miniskirts, we cross our long legs...
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...------------------------------------------------- Tell the women we‘re going – assignment … “What you do that for?” Bill said. Jerry looked at him, and smiled. His pupils were small and prickly. “What you do that for?” Bill repeated. “Oh, come on,” said Jerry “They were playing with us. Making us think they were going to fuck us, and then changed their minds!” Jerry said. He tossed the bloody rock off the cliff, and started to walk, smacking his hands together. Jerry said, “Well, are you coming?” Bill said, “Where are you going?” “Heading back to the car” Said Jerry. “What about them? We’re just going to leave them?” asked Bill. “Sure, those two whores are good for nothing. Unless you like them dead as well” said Jerry. He just kept walking. Bill was still standing by the girls, but when Jerry was out of sight, Bill ran after him. When they came down Jerry picked up one of the girls bike. Bill said, “What are you doing?” “A present for Linda” Jerry said. He smiled. Bill just looked at Jerry They sat in the car. Jerry in the driver’s seat, and Bill in the passenger seat. They didn’t say a word to each other on their way home. Bill looked at Jerry once. Jerry’s eyes were crazy. He was driving very slowly. When they got back home, Jerry parked the car. Suddenly he looked normal to Bill. His eyes had no longer that spark of insanity; they were calm as ever. “What are we going to do?” Bill asked. “About what?” Jerry said, looking at him, and then he walked in shouting “We’re back!” He went out...
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...“A Time for Choosing” Ronald Reagan Radio broadcast aired from Los Angeles, California, October 27, 1964 Thank you. Thank you very much. Thank you and good evening. The sponsor has been identified, but unlike most television programs, the performer hasn’t been provided with a script. As a matter of fact, I have been permitted to choose my own words and discuss my own ideas regarding the choice that we face in the next few weeks. I have spent most of my life as a Democrat. I recently have seen fit to follow another course. I believe that the issues confronting us cross party lines. Now, one side in this campaign has been telling us that the issues of this election are the maintenance of peace and prosperity. The line has been used, “We’ve never had it so good.” But I have an uncomfortable feeling that this prosperity isn’t something on which we can base our hopes for the future. No nation in history has ever survived a tax burden that reached a third of its national income. Today, 37 cents out of every dollar earned in this country is the tax collector’s share, and yet our government continues to spend 17 million dollars a day more than the government takes in. We haven’t balanced our budget 28 out of the last 34 years. We’ve raised our debt limit three times in the last twelve months, and now our national debt is one and a half times bigger than all the combined debts of all the nations of the world. We have 15 billion dollars in gold in our treasury; we don’t own an ounce...
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...subject of 'those damn niggers'. Even that sentence causes uncomfortability. Am I right? So, if there's a guilty feeling every time someone let's out a racist comment... don't you think that should tell you something? Think real hard and if you can't think of what that could be I'll let you know: Racism is wrong. Flat out. You know, I've met black people who don't do drugs, and Mexicans who actually work for a decent salary. Is that shocking? If so, you probably have racial stereotyping to blame. That's just one kind of ignorance that, quite frankly, we've all heard about a million times over. So, I'll drop the sermon and move on. Who's heard of religious ignorance? (Hands go up all around.) This is just one thing we all need to do our homework on. Okay. Because people always tend to jump to conclusions about every religion out there. I'm sure you think all Buddhists are bald Asians right? (Buzzer rings.) Wrong! I know a half Caucasian, half Mexican Buddhist. Not possible? I'm sure most of you would assume that anyways. But let me open your eyes here folks: not everything is what we make it out to be. Oh and when we hear the word 'Christian' what will most of you picture? That hypocritical, stuffy, judgemental, snob that constantly preaches about how everyone that's not like them is going to hell. Am I right? Honestly, that's what the world has portrayed...
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...The Sixties Essay The 60’s began a period of innocence and hope. However, it soon began to behold like a time of anger and violence. Many protested to demand an end to the immoral treatment of blacks, protested to demand an end to the war in Vietnam, And protested to demand full equality for women. Many controversial issues came up rapidly. The rebellion and violence afflicted the youth of America. The effect was especially bad because of the time period in which they had developed. By the middle 1950s, most of the youth’s parents had jobs that paid well. And they were very satisfied with their lives. They educated their children with what were known as "middle class" ethics. These contained a knowledge in God, hard work, and service to their country. Eventually, much of the youth in America began to question these beliefs. They felt that their parents' values were not enough to help them with the social hardships of the 1960s. They rebelled by against their prior ways by letting their hair grow long, and wearing odd clothing. Their anger was strongly communicated through music. Rock-and-roll music had become very prominent in America in the 1960s. Many people did not approve of it because they thought it was too sexual and demeaning, and they found the words inappropriate and harmful. The beatles came out with a protest song called “Revolution”. A revolution defined is, a forcible overthrow of a government or social order in favor of a new system.” This song was mainly about...
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...quite interesting. What? I feel like I know you. Oh, doubtful. I just moved here from London. Really? That's my favorite city. It is? Absolutely. It was love at first sight. You know, I think perhaps I have met you somewhere before. For two weeks they snuggled... went to romantic restaurants... had wonderful sex... and shared the most intimate secrets. One day, he took her to a house he saw in the New York Times. How about if we start at the top? There are four bedrooms upstairs. Do you have any children? Not yet. That day Tim popped the question. Would you like to meet my folks Tues-day night? I'd love to. On Tuesday he called with some bad news. My mother's not feeling very well. Oh, gosh, I'm sorry. Can we take a rain check? Of course. Tell your mum I hope she feels better. When she hadn't heard from him for two weeks, she called. Tim, it's Elizabeth. That's an awfully long rain check. He said he was up to his ears and that he'd call the next day. He never did call... Bastard. She told me one day over coffee. I don't understand. in England, looking at houses together would have meant something. I realized no one had told her about the end of love in Manhattan. Welcome to the ''age of un-innocence''. No one has ''breakfast at Tiffany's'', and no one has ''affairs to remember'' instead, we have breakfast at 7:00am and affairs we try to forget as quickly as possible. Self-protection and closing the deal are...
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...with Emma.at first everything was nice and romantic but after 3 months I started seeing what everybody told edema started acting weird, I ask her but she said that nothing was wrong but I don’t know what to think so when Emma was taking a shower I started searching for weird stuff around the apartment, to my surprise I found 3 blades covered In blood, a picture of a women with a big “X” on the middle and behind everything else was a colt Wiley clapp.at first I have to admit I was scared but then I was fascinated with everything I found, when Emma got out of the shower I confronted her and she told me what was happening she told me that she was cutting herself and then told me who the women in the picture was, she told me that the women of the picture was her mother but suddenly she got angry and sad started by saying that her mother raped his little brother and the same week kill her little sister just because she was on drug and told me that she swear to make her mother suffer, torture her and then maybe just maybe kill her. She keep telling me her plan and suddenly stop talking and ask me if I was going to tell the police about her plan, I started smiling and she told me that my smile was...
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...same three months averaged $175,800. Indirect costs were allocated to the department at a rate 425% of direct labor costs. A special management report presented some additional figures of interest. Between January of the previous year and March of the present year, the group had shown a 53% improvement in the dollar output of product per man-hour of work, direct labor efficiency had increased approximately 24%, and there had been about 11% to 12% improvement in the raw material utilization on tubes produced. During this same period, the group operated at 81% of its expense budget. In other words, the group used some $20,000 less on miscellaneous expenses than had been budgeted for such items. During this time period the hourly wages of the women working in the room...
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...A Sexy Guide bySteelAndSilk© While I was pondering a bit about another how-to, I stumbled onto the idea of one about how women could be sexy (or sexier) toward men, and also, avoid being unsexy. Now, as I've stated in some of my other articles, I have no business telling men how to be sexy toward women. I'll leave that to a woman, seeing as she would know a hell of a lot more than I would. There are the obvious things, of course, for both sexes. Being in decent shape, having a good attitude toward each other (though some women do go for the douchebags, a concept I'll never understand), etc, are all great things. However, not every guy is going to be able to get all ripped out, and not every woman has time to tone her abs or get supermodel hot. Let me share a secret with you ladies...you don't have to in order to be sexy. But, it is good to take care of yourself, just as you would want your man to. Now, understand that when I "speak for men" we're talking about your run-of-the-mill normal guy. Sure, there are guys who think you dressing in a skin-tight latex full body suit with weird goggles for your eyes and a zipper on the mouth while you spank his ass with a spiked paddle is sexy. I'm not remotely experienced with that, so I'm going to leave that be. Nor am I getting into the men who supposedly love obese women. No experience there either. So what do you think of when you think sexy, girls? Maybe waiting for your husband to come home, candles lit and music playing, and he...
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... like Lennie and George, had to work very hard for their American Dream to come true. But although the American Dream is different for everyone, Lennie and George struggled to try to accomplish their American Dream. In Of Mice and Men, George and Lennie had two different dreams that gave them enough strength to never give up. Lennie’s dream was he wanted a life that was more simple and easy going. Lennie seemed to be more excited about the dream than George was because whenever Lennie would start talking about tending the rabbits on the farm George would sometimes get aggravated and yell at Lennie. For example in the novel Lennie said, “I remember about the rabbits, George.” Then George says, “The hell with the rabbits. That’s all you can ever remember is them rabbits. (Steinbeck, 1993)” This makes it seem as if George understands the reality of how hard it is going to be to accomplish This dream, and Lennie does not. Also in the novel Lennie is the one that likes talking about their dream and George is much quieter about it. "O.K. Someday—we’re gonna get the jack together and we’re gonna have a little house and a couple of acres an’ a cow and some pigs...
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...The White House Office of the First Lady For Immediate Release June 23, 2011 Remarks by the First Lady at University of Cape Town Youth Event University of Cape Town - Fuller Hall, Cape Town, South Africa 2:15 P.M. (Local) MRS. OBAMA: Well, hello! (Applause.) Please sit. Yes. You all look wonderful. Has it been a good day? AUDIENCE: Yes. MRS. OBAMA: Yeah? Exciting? It’s good. Well, I want to start by thanking Vice Chancellor Price for, number one, that very kind introduction and for his words, but more importantly for all the work that he’s doing at this phenomenal university. I also want to send greetings and say hello and thank you to Dr. Ramphele. She is fabulous. (Laughter.) We got to talk outside. We could have been talking for hours, but we’ll do that later. (Laughter.) But I am grateful to have her join us today and more importantly for her lifetime of leadership and sacrifice for this country. She is a true model. Her generation is the generation that we all will be standing -- whose shoulders we will stand on. So I am excited to have her talk to all of you. But before I begin, I want to recognize yesterday’s passing of Kader Asmal, and I want everyone here to know that the thoughts and prayers of my family and my country are with all of you as you mourn another of this nation’s great anti-apartheid leaders. As I just said, his generation fought its battles so that today’s young...
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