In European American culture, people motivate others by saying some good words and making them feel good. It is very common to tell people they look beautiful in European American culture. “Your sweater is cute”, “I like your boots”, we can here this kind of compliment very often. However, it is a completely different situation in Asian culture. When people grown up in Asian culture hear similar compliments, they would say something like this ”Oh, no, no. I like yours better”. People think compliments make them feel embarrassed, and prefer not saying or receiving compliments in public.This perhaps because, as we learned in class, that Asian, being dialectical thinkers, tolerate contradiction and exhibit self-evaluative ambivalence. Cultural differences also results people in different cultures motivate others in various, sometimes, completely different ways. In European American culture, people motive others by giving nice comments about people’s outfits, praising their hard work and performance . However, in Asian culture, criticism is the key to motivate others. It is common to motivate people by telling them how much they are still lacking, and how much harder they should work to achieve their goals. In discussion, we talk about several methods to maintain self esteem. Downward social comparison is though comparing oneself with people who are worse than him to make himself feel better knowing that he is not the worst. Basking in reflected glory is to associate with successful people and groups. For example, my friend Jason who always says I am smart since I am a Berkeley student. He attaches himself to glory of Berkeley and gain self esteem from that. Other methods are, but not limited to, selective attention, discounting, and external attributions.