...Work harder, try harder, and be better! This is the parenting structure that the Chinese mother uses to effectively parent their children; whereas, western mother’s focus more on individuality and letting their children decide their own interest and path. The major differences between these two parenting styles is the methods in which the parents drive their children, the views of both the child and parent on success and failure, and the responsibilities the child will endure once they have grown up. Keep in mind that these are just two parenting styles out of the numerous other ways to parent a child. All styles should be considered when determining what is the best style for you and your child. Please remember that this essay will only discuss these two styles and the ways in which they are different. “Driving” our children is undoubtedly an important factor as parents that we must do to ensure that our children reach the success that they deserve. These styles of parenting reach this success level in a two very different ways. Amy Chua, in her book Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, discusses a story in which she pushes her child, Lulu, to complete a piano piece perfectly. She explains the difficulty behind the piece and how her daughter was unsure of herself and he abilities to do this piece perfectly. The story goes on to say that Chua resulted to threats of donating her toys to the Salvation Army if she does not perform the piece perfectly and even resulted to screaming...
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...Duties All humans are put on this earth for their own specific purpose. Some people are destined to be an influence and do great things, while others are here solely to be cogs in the clock that keeps the world turning. Regardless on where one stands in relationship to their fellow man, we all have been charged with civic and moral obligations to those in our inner most circles of friends and family, as well as to our employers. After living approximately a quarter of my life, I believe that I have discovered these duties and moral obligations. They can be found in my religion as a Christian as well as in the Boy Scout law. In attempts to find linearity between different ethical view points and my beliefs, Jane English’s theories about families, and Kant’s virtue ethics can be compared to my moral guidelines. Through the years, some friends choose to come and go as they please, where as others will stay by your side no matter what. Your family will stay with you for life; you did not ask for it, and perhaps they did not ask for you. No matter who you have by your side, it is to these people who you should have the most obligations to. To begin, looking to religion under the Ten Commandments, we see the first commandment instructing a moral obligation to our family: “Honor thy mother and thy father.” This first commandment allows for a number of different circumstances where it may be applicable. When referring to mothers and fathers, sometimes the real mother and...
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...hurry when you are troubled. – By Emily Dickinson * A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials, heavy and sudden, fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends who rejoice with us in our sunshine, desert us when troubles thicken around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts. – By Washington Irving * A mother understands what a child does not say. – Jewish proverb * A mother's heart is a patchwork of love. – Anonymous * A mother's love is patient and forgiving when all others are forsaking, it never fails or falters, even though the heart is breaking. – By Helen Rice * A mother's yearning feels the presence of the cherished child even in the degraded man. – By George Eliot * A suburban mother's role is to deliver children obstetrically once, and by car forever after. – By Peter De Vries * All I am, or can be, I owe to my angel mother. – By Abraham Lincoln *...
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...of her born life to keep her sick daughter around as long and medically possible, until the well daughter says she no longer wants to help. It has to be very difficult to be in a type of situation that her whole life has involved being poked by needles and put in a hospital to help her sister who has cancer. The only way she could fight this bout with cancer has been samples of blood and bone marrow to prolong her sister’s life. She finally decides to say no more and with the help of a lawyer who also has a medical issue unknown to everyone else, sue her parents for the right to say no and not have to go through more medical treatments for her sister. Society has grown to a point where anyone can sue anyone, including parents, for just about anything. Sometimes it seems morally wrong for children to sue their parents for anything. The children should owe their lives to their parents for dedicating their lives to their children. As the court proceedings continue, it is shown that the mother has conceived the second daughter through invetro fertilization to be a perfect match for donor samples for the sick daughter. This continues until the well daughter admits that the sick daughter has decided she is ready to die and has asked her sister to stop donating parts for her to live. Once the judge talks to the sick daughter, she grants the well daughter...
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...My Life, “46 and Still Growing” Sharon Rene Butler PSY202 JoAnne Saladino August 5, 2013 I. What was your family like? A. Living in Chesapeake Va. B. My sister and I. C. My parents’ divorce II. Who were the important people in your life? A. My Grandmother B. My Mother. C. My Children III. What jobs have you had in your life time? A. My first job ever “seven eleven” B. Nurse Assistant. C. Hair Stylist D. Childcare profession. IV. What are your greatest achievements so far? A. My Children B. My career. V. What are your personal, professional and academic goals? A. To obtain my degree B. To Own My own Childcare Business C. To maintain my grade point average. References Witt, G.A. & Mossler, R.A. (2010) Adult Development and Life Assessment. San Diego, Ca.: Bridegepoint Education. I have always been my own person, mapping out my life since middle school days. My dreams throughout childhood, was to become a successful business woman, a loving mother and a loving wife. Let’s not forget about the house with the white picket fence and the dog. Life has a way of turning things around if you aren’t prepared. I became the loving mother. As for the loving wife, well I tried let’s just say it isn’t for everyone. Now here I am at 46 starting over and ready to grow. Just like billions of others human beings, you are an ever –changing product of your story...
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...three years and 1st grade for one. And then I had a bunch of babies and can’t remember the next six years. I was a very average elementary teacher who totally loved my students. And also? Sincerely sorry about all that homework, 4th grade parents. I wasn’t a mother yet. I figured you had nothing to do but complete my exhaustive weekly social studies packets utilizing your children’s higher level thinking skills and research techniques, because what every ten-year-old needs is five hours a week of additional geography work. I’m certain now you wished me dead. Bless it. (Several students have contacted me and they are all I’m an accountant now and I’m like um, do you mean an accountant for your high school math team? and they’re like I’m almost 30 and I’m all what exactly the heck just happened?) Though I’ve switched to the fake job I currently have, I will never forget my classroom years, and I have a few things I want to tell you, Teachers Everywhere. First of all, I’ve calculated your earnings by adding your classroom hours, pre- and post-school hours, conferences and phone calls, weekend work, after-hours grading, professional development requirements, lesson planning, team meetings, extracurricular clubs and teams, parent correspondence, district level seminars, and material preparation, and I believe you make approximately 19 cents an hour. And then people say, yeah but teachers get three months off for summer, and then we all clutch our guts and die laughing...
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...precocious humor, sassy acting—child stars can make any audience fall in love with them. But what happens when they are all grown up? They say the brightest stars burn out the fastest. Child actors are just like us, they go through growth spurts, but also have to face the day to day adult issues like sex, drugs, and the pressure of a job. The sad truth is we think about the welfare of young performers primarily when we are reminded of the dangers they face. Child actors primarily serve as the family breadwinner once their parents decide it is time to seek stardom. The pressure to be older than they are is a huge issue, they want to look older so they start taking drugs, partying and getting drunk. Most child actors do not know who they are enough to deal with the pressure of fame and the outside influences that surround the entertainment industry. For a child actor to be successful they need a strong family. It is up to the parents to let their kids be kids, but many parents forget what is important and the money consumes them and their children. Yet for every broken family in Hollywood there is also a success story to be told. Maculay Culkin is a prime example of how parents of child actors let the money get in the way of their family. His fame led to the downfall of his whole family, and he started using drugs and disappeared from the Hollywood scene. He divorced his parents and took control of his earnings in 1997 when he was 16 years old. Since then he remerged with...
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...precocious humor, sassy acting—child stars can make any audience fall in love with them. But what happens when they are all grown up? They say the brightest stars burn out the fastest. Child actors are just like us, they go through growth spurts, but also have to face the day to day adult issues like sex, drugs, and the pressure of a job. The sad truth is we think about the welfare of young performers primarily when we are reminded of the dangers they face. Child actors primarily serve as the family breadwinner once their parents decide it is time to seek stardom. The pressure to be older than they are is a huge issue, they want to look older so they start taking drugs, partying and getting drunk. Most child actors do not know who they are enough to deal with the pressure of fame and the outside influences that surround the entertainment industry. For a child actor to be successful they need a strong family. It is up to the parents to let their kids be kids, but many parents forget what is important and the money consumes them and their children. Yet for every broken family in Hollywood there is also a success story to be told. Maculay Culkin is a prime example of how parents of child actors let the money get in the way of their family. His fame led to the downfall of his whole family, and he started using drugs and disappeared from the Hollywood scene. He divorced his parents and took control of his earnings in 1997 when he was 16 years old. Since then he remerged with...
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... THESIS: Chores are a beneficial and important factor in the upbringing of children for many reasons. Outline: INTRODUCTION: In the military I have met many people from many walks of life. What I have gathered and witnessed from my encounters were that basic household skills were lacking in some and not others. I found that many of the people I met who were not raised to do chores lacked basic household skills; whereas the people raised to do chores did not. The ones who lacked these household skills were at a disadvantage when it came time to living on their own; having to be taught how to do laundry, cook, and clean at the age of 21 was not only difficult for some, but embarrassing as well. I, as well as my brothers, were raised with the notion that chores were essential. Performing chores as children aided us into our adulthood. Chores helped us become better team players, it fostered a sense of discipline and personal responsibility and an understanding of risk/reward, and it also taught us basic life skills to living and surviving on our own. I still believe that chores are a beneficial and important factor in the upbringing of children in our society today. 1. CHORES AID IN BEING A BETTER TEAM PLAYER a. Chores teach children (siblings) to work as a team to speed up the cleaning process. b. They teach single kids to help the burden of cleaning for the parents c. This develops into a teamwork attitude, also beneficial in being a...
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...The Age of Entitlement Entitlement is corrupting America’s society. The people of America often hear and say, “You owe me”. Are these people to blame or does this problem stem from something far greater? Could something as minute as a commercial with the slogan, “It’s my money and I need it now”, have an influence on this generation of entitlement? The disease of entitlement is infecting people across America. Entitlement begins with a cause. Some causes of a child growing up to be entitled include: receiving praise such as, “You are an amazing artist.”, rather than, “That is a great painting.” This is called a global statement. Global statements teach people that they will be successful in everything they attempt to create and every adventure they embark on....
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...Over the years psychology has grown and become more prevalent in society as people are more inclined to know more about the mind, behaviors, and how it all relates to psychology itself. There have been some major influences on psychology and what it is today. At first thought, one would only be able to think of a man who may have contributed to psychology but in contrast, there are many women who have contributed to psychology and what it has become. Anna Freud is one profound woman that had a lot to contribute to the world of psychology. She was born in Vienna on December 3, 1895. She is the youngest daughter of Sigmund Freud’s six children, and she is the only one of the children that became a psychoanalyst. Freud was the founder of child psychoanalysis, and she added to the understanding of how the ego and consciousness functions in preventing painful thoughts, ideas, and urges (Anna Freud, 2013). Of all Sigmund Freud’s children, Anna was closest to him, and she related to him in ways that the other kids did not. Freud’s mother was closer to her other children while Anna identified with her father. Freud and her mother had a strained relationship. Added to their already strained relationship, Freud’s mother was a total skeptic when it came to psychoanalysis. Sigmund Freud noticed his daughter’s intelligence and how interested she was in psychoanalysis. However, he did not send her to the schools that would prepare her for university. Alternatively, she attended Cottage Lyceum...
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...Developed and Developing Economies) ‘Ask not what your country can do for you – ask what you can do for your country?’ – John F. Kennedy, Former US President. The need to migrate to another place from where you are is a old habit of the human race. The migration of people from one country to another has both good and bad effects. Good effects on the country that they are migrating to and a bad effect of on the country that they are leaving when it comes to highly educated people and skilled man power. In economic terms, it is known as brain drain. It is now widely known that migration of highly skilled or educated people of one country to another to settle down and work is to improve their economic condition. At about the same time that the United states of America launched its space programme and reduced its immigration laws from other countries to the US, the newly liberated countries of Asia (which includes Sri Lanka) , Africa and Latin America started to develop their economy which required skilled professionals in engineering, educationists, technicians and others. But the migration of these type of professionals to developed countries bottlenecks the development of the poor countries. We can see that the majority of the young or educated people from around the globe are preferring to settle down in the developed countries like USA, UK, Canada, Australia or other European and East Asian countries. Why do people leave their motherland? 'Young, well-educated...
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...process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without our thinking” (Einstein, Good Reads/Quotes). This leads me to my first point: freedom of choice. Does not a man has the same equal rights of freedom a woman has? Our nation strives to extend equality to all individuals, no matter their race or beliefs. This nation today has painfully grown from its weakness for equality of every human being and is proudly displaying its changes for every individual’s rights. How many abortions would your estimate happened in the United States alone? Has that thought every even crossed your mind? Ponder on this...
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...ATTENTION DEFICIT DISORDER Attention Deficit Disorder: Alternatives to Stimulant Medication Eng 215 Abstract Today, millions of children are taking stimulant medications for ADHD. Most of these children are being medicated without even receiving a proper diagnosis. While on these medications, children experience harmful side effects. Some children have died from complications related to the medication. The list of symptoms for ADHD reads like a list of bad behavior not a medical condition that warrants medication. Parents are outsourcing their parental responsibilities to pharmaceutical companies. Alternative treatments are available and have been proven effective. Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder: Alternative Treatments According to the 1994, Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 4th ed., (DSM-IV) Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder (ADHD) is a disruptive behavior disorder characterized by the presence of a set of chronic and impairing behavior patterns that display abnormal levels of inattention, hyperactivity, or their combination. (as cited at http://www.healingwithnutrition.com/adisease/add-adhd/cdcplan.html) ADHD is mostly diagnosed in children and adolescents. (DEA, 1995) ADHD is not a disease but yet most children diagnosed as having ADHD are treated with medication. The standard ADHD diagnosis is divided into three types: Inattentive type, hyperactive type, and hyperactive-impulsive...
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...Child abuse Child abuse is the physical, sexual or emotional mistreatment or neglect of a child or children. Child maltreatment as any act or series of acts of commission or omission by a parent or other caregiver that results in harm, potential for harm, or threat of harm to a child. Child abuse can occur in a child's home, or in the organizations, schools or communities the child interacts with. There are four major categories of child abuse: neglect, physical abuse, psychological/emotional abuse, and child sexual abuse. Different jurisdictions have developed their own definitions of what constitutes child abuse for the purposes of removing a child from his/her family and/or prosecuting a criminal charge. According to the Journal of Child Abuse and Neglect, child abuse is "any recent act or failure to act on the part of a parent or caretaker which results in death, serious physical or emotional harm, sexual abuse or exploitation, an act or failure to act which presents an imminent risk of serious harm". Types Child abuse can take several forms: The four main types are physical, sexual, psychological, and neglect. There are many effects of child neglect, such as children not being able to interact with other children around them. The continuous refusal of a child's basic needs is considered chronic neglect. Physical abuse Physical abuse involves physical aggression directed at a child by an adult. Most nations with child-abuse laws consider the deliberate infliction of...
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