...“Let's tell the truth to people. When people ask, 'How are you?' have the nerve sometimes to answer truthfully. You must know, however, that people will start avoiding you because, they, too, have knees that pain them and heads that hurt and they don't want to know about yours. But think of it this way: If people avoid you, you will have more time to meditate and do fine research on a cure for whatever truly afflicts you.” ( Maya Angelou, Letter to My Daughter). This paper will talk about whether honesty is always the best policy. Honesty is always the best policy unless in certain situations like when someone else's feelings are at stake, personal protection, and self preservation. “ I have three children - how may I teach them to walk...
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...Coming up with different types of lies, saying lies, and showing without speaking but still lying. Humans lie in many forms, verbal, on social media, over technology and other ways. ( Stephanie Ericcson “Ways we lie” ) How do we lie? Why would anybody lie? We lie by not telling the truth because we don’t want the truth coming out. People lie to cover up anything bad they did, so they can make themselves look good. Like Stephanie Ericcson said “ We lie. We all do. We exaggerate, we minimize, we avoid confrontation we spare people’s feelings, we keep secrets, we justify lying to the big-guy institutions.” ( Page 472 2nd paragraph ) I’ve finally figured out the reason behind why people lie, so that they want get...
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...Michael A. Miller Janet Joslin ENC 1101 October 12, 2013 “ The Ways We Lie “ and “ Too Much Pressure” In Stephanie Ericsson’s essay “ The Ways We Lie “, her thesis states “ lying , she finds , may be unavoidable and even sometimes beneficial” (348 ). In Colleen Wenke’s essay “ Too Much Pressure “ her thesis ask the question “ Why do students cheat n school? ( 482 )”. Both of these essays give their strong reasons on why these two things take place. For Ericsson it is situations that we are put in, and for Wenke the excuse is the stresses of life. Both of these essays are thought provoking in the aspect of the general views of the reasons why we do things. These essays discuss in great detail each author’s point of view and tone. The tone in “ The Way We Lie “ is that of it is just the way of the world and for that we really should not be surprised. In this essay when Ericsson states “ We lie, We all do. We exaggerate, we minimize, we avoid confrontation, we spare people’s feelings, we conveniently forget, we keep secrets, we justify lying to the big-guy institutions ( 348 )”. This tone has a what is the big deal feeling. In contrast the essay “ Too Much Pressure “ has a different tone. When the Wenke says “ A main difference between school today and school when my parents were enrolled is that we are now very goal-oriented and will compromise our values to achieve those goals” ( 484 ). Wenke also states “ Students who would not usually cheat get sucked into...
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...Lying can be justified when you are going it to help someone else out. Or if it is to protect someone other than yourself. In the “Diaries of Anne Frank” she explains that people lied to help her and her family. The family protecting the Franks lied to help them even though there lives were at risk. This shows that sometimes to protect other people, it’s okay to lie. In article 1 paragraph 2 a survey by the AP-Ipsos poll said that ⅔ poll said that it was okay to lie to help somebody out. I also think that it is okay that if you make a mistake you can lie to save a relationship. So in another AP-Ipsos poll in paragraph 7 of article 1 65% of people said it was okay to lie to avoid hurting someone's feelings. So sometimes that means that you...
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...under some circumstances, it might be the only thing left to do. Lying is not always the best thing to do because it will affect others depending on how often a lie is told. After a lie, the feeling of telling a lie is so terrible that it might have gotten the other people into trouble for something that did not even occur. In the article, “The Ways We Lie” by Stephanie Ericsson, she talks to us about the different types of lies there are. She explains how lying comes out in a person’s everyday life even when is inevitable. However, “In the Pale Moonlight” from Star Trek: Deep Space Nine shows how one of the main characters, Captain Sisko, felt guilty because of the lies he had made. The lie he makes, cost...
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...2016 Discussion Questions 1. Evaluate this situation from the view point of David Edmondson’s ethical leadership. What could Radio Shack have done differently? In this world some people crave money and power. To benefit these two things always, people choose the wrong paths. David Edmondson is one of them, because he cheated on his resume. David Edmondson is a fraud that means he is not an ethical leader at all. Because of Edmondson’s cheating his company RadioShack faced losses, so he didn’t do ethical leadership in his workplace. If a manager cheats, lies, steals, manipulates, take advantages of situations, or treat others unfairly that is not an ethical behavior. That is called unethical behavior. We can see lying on David Edmondson’s case, so we can say that he didn’t behave as an ethical leader. According to the text, “Ethical leadership is known as our core values and having the courage to live them in all parts of our life in service of the common good.” Before entering to a company a manager should know what is ethical leadership. If a manager doesn’t know what ethical leadership is, then he/she will never fulfill their job properly. If a manager doesn’t have knowledge about ethical leadership, then he will do unethical things in a company. Also, unethical leadership can create many problems, such as ethical lapses and social irresponsibility. To prevent all of these things in an organization we have to give ethics training,...
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...Lie: My Favorite Word and Why At one point, people lie about something they have done or they did not do as expected. Lie is a word that my friends and I have used frequently and continue to use in our lifetime. Basically, the usefulness of lie in both bad and good situations is the rationale behind why it is my favorite word. During my childhood, I have used lie in both occasions: in bad and good situations. For instance, I once lied to my teacher that I was unable to make it to school in time because my mum car broke down about two kilometers away in order to avoid punishment. Again, I lied to my friends that I would not attend their party because I was not feeling well; however, the main aim was to prepare myself in the upcoming examinations. This essay paper reviews the lie as my favorite word and rationale behind by preference towards it. Lie is a three-letter word which is simple to pronounce, write and remember. According to Shaw, Wolfe and Salbu (1996), a lie is a deliberate false statement directed to other people to deceive them. Notably, it is profoundly surprising that people use lie frequently without much thought on the impact it has on others. Through my childhood, I can attest that the word lie has a huge impact on events and scenario it creates. For instance, our friends lied to us that will not be attending my brother’s birthday just two hours before the event. Their lie caused anxiety, dejection and worry to my family. However, they came few minutes...
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...Did you know people lie 100 times a day! For example, The Crucible by Arthur Miller, there are lies that cost many innocent people. Especially in the salem witch trials. Some of these lies that were told were because of vengence. Lying comes at a cost because Elizabeth Proctor got her husband hanged, Abigail Williams got most the people accused and killed in salem, Samuel Parris and Thomas Putnam lie but there's not much effect on what they lied about. First off, Elizabeth Proctor is a holy women, but when she told a lie to show that John Proctor is a good man, it lead to having her husband being condemned and then hanged. She has never lied before and she has always been a christian women. However, this is one of the reasons why lying is dangerous, “I come to think he fancied her. And so one night I lost my wits, I think, and put her out on the highroad,”(190). In this quote Elizabeth says that abigail and proctor never had an affair but that clearly happened. Then Proctor tells her that he told the judges and Elizabeth’s heart drops and realizes that she had made a mistake....
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...about what you were doing earlier to your friend, when really you were at the mall buying her a birthday present for her birthday that weekend. A negative example of lying would be a girlfriend cheating on her boyfriend, and lying about what she was doing instead. Then you have situations where you lie and agree with someone just to keep a conversation going. You also have compulsive liars who feel the need to lie about everything they do and talk about. Sometimes these people get so convinced on what they are lying about themselves, that they don’t even know how much they do it or when they do it. Both men and women lie in approximately a fifth of their social exchanges lasting 10 or more minutes; over the course of a week they deceive about 30 percent of those with whom they interact one-on-one. (Phycology Today, 1997.) Now if you’re in a criminal situation and they only have your feedback to go off of, they need to test whether or not you’re lying. In order to do this, they need to use a polygraph or brain scanner. These lie detecting technologies aren’t 100% effective. My question is if they will ever be improved or 100% accurate. While looking up how we benefit ourselves with the lie detection technologies we use today, I came across articles with a similar outlook and proposal. In the research, I was able to see all the experiments done from college students around the world for up to 40 years that led to what devices we use today. Right after reviewing this I was able to encounter...
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...Imagine you’re out shopping with your friend, she tries on a shirt she really likes, but you think it’s hideous. She buys it and wears it to school the next morning, and finally she asks, “How do I look?” Do you lie or tell her the truth? Everybody lies, everyone, whether it’s a “little white lie” used to protect someone’s feelings or a very big lie said to hurt others, it’s a part of human nature. However, I believe that lies can only be told when they are used to protect and care for others. It seems to me that, lying is okay when it is used to protect the feelings of others. For example, in the article, “The U.S. Political Campaign: Lies, Lies, Lies,” by Paul Grey, Grey states that, “Most “little white lies” belong here, well-intentioned...
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...reasons why we lie, whether it is to protect ourselves, protect someone we love, to escape an uncomfortable experience, for the thrill of it, or due to a disorder. In every aspect of our lives, and from every angle, deceptive stimuli bombards our nervous system and keeps our brains constantly at work to weed out the information that is correct from the information that is false. Advertisements, our parents, our children, friends, and siblings, those who we have more intimate relationships with, and even ourselves, deceive us, just as we are deceitful to them. There are many degrees to lying, varying from little white lies, to blatant deception and perjury. The motives and desired outcomes of those who lie vary greatly from person to person, as well as the degree to which they lie. Most people would agree that there are times when it is acceptable to tell white lies or even a bigger lie for the greater good, if the truth is not something of importance. I will discuss several facets of deception. To start, I will describe several types of lies and give definitions and examples of them. Then, I will talk about some facts about the frequency at which we are deceptive on an average day, and situations in which we generally increase or decrease how deceptive we are. Next, I will discuss why lies are prevalent in relationships, and how deception creates friction in the workplace. After that, I will talk about how we deceive ourselves, and why, what motivates us to lie and then...
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...except where such collaboration has been authorised by the lecturer concerned. ● I hold a copy of this assignment which I can produce if the original is lost or damaged. Signature: _________________________________ Date: ___________________ ● NB: A lecturer or tutor has, and may exercise, the right not to mark this assignment if the above declaration has not been signed. ● If the above declaration is found to be false, appropriate action will be taken. . Little White Lies – Honesty or Dishonesty? Or just an easy way to avoid the painful truth? Lukas Cavalcante Baier Zhejiang University of Science and Technology Abstract Everyone lies. But why do we lie? An often trivial, diplomatic or well-intended untruth, a minor or unimportant lie uttered in the interest to remain polite? Though it is frequently judged, lie-telling is a common and frequent activity in social relations, with ostensible social risks and benefits. Yet, insincerity can become a problem behavior with frequent or inappropriate use over time. The goal of this essay...
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...target population is everyone. I mean obviously some people (lawyers, judges, juries, teachers, parents, etc.) would benefit more from this study than others, but I still believe that everyone can benefit from this study. 2. Who are the subjects? * “Participants were 104 (53males, 51 females) undergraduate students at a small coeducational university in the southern United States” (Hart pg. 5). They all were picked from psychology classes and each participant was given extra credit for doing this. Their socioeconomic background, ethnic background and geographical locations were not included in the information. I have no clue why they weren’t included; maybe they felt it didn’t matter. I think not knowing much about their background has a huge effect on the study. Depending on how they grew up (morals, values, etc.), what kind of family they had, all of that could depend on their lying ability or even if they lie. 3. Are the subject’s representatives of the target population? Why or why not? * No. I believe no because all they asked are students. More people in the world lie or even would benefit from this study rather than just students. They didn’t go to a court house or a PTA meeting or anything. I’m not sure why they didn’t choose to do it that way because even in their stimulus they chose a variety of ages. They used people between the ages of 19 to 61. That would be more beneficial, so I’m not sure why they did it for the stimulus and not for the actual study...
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...Self Be True” “Honey, how do you like my new dress?” The dreaded question that every husband hates to hear. Having learned that an honest answer to such a question will throw the household into turmoil , he tells a little white lie, he looks at his wife and says automatically, “it looks great honey”. It doesn’t matter if the color of the dress makes her look like she has jaundice or like she’s a Paris Hilton wannabee. How many times a day are our abilities to tell the truth put to the test? Daily, we make decisions to questions like, “How are you?” We respond with the obligatory “fine” or “great” or with a truthful five minute description of all our aches and pains, both mental and physical. Constantly society dictates, “Good people don’t tell lies”, but day in and day out we have to make the decision whether we will express our true feelings, the truth, and accept the fallout from others, or say a lie to protect ourselves or our peers. We have to ask ourselves, what is a lie? How often do people lie? At what point does lying become addicting and behavioral? When it comes right down to it, Shakespeare probably had it right when he said, “to thine own self be true.” If truth is what we seek, then we should try to avoid lies. It’s helpful to take these questions out and examine them so that the truth that Shakespeare referred to is something we’ve thought about and made those “self” decisions about. What is a lie? According to Wikipedia, “A lie is a type of deception in the...
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...in our everyday lives. We see it in the moments we used to tell our mothers we were done with our homework. We witness it pour out of the mouths of politicians. We even see it in those that we trust the most. Little white lies are the most common, outward lies are often less common; even so they are both considered lies. Lies come in many degrees, but their purpose is the same, lies are meant to deceive. Stephanie Ericsson plunges deep into this subject. She mentions in her article “The Ways We Lie” that a lie, whether in good faith or not is never a good thing to do. The result of a lie is always something hurtful. Ericsson says that as bad as lies are, telling the truth all the time is nearly impossible. Doing so would mean dealing with some harsh consequences, so we decide to just lie instead. In many nations lies are the status quo, they are both hidden and public. Many people though either don’t bother to point them or are not even aware of them in the first place. One type of lie is group thinking: this is when a group suppresses different, creative, or complicated ideas that unlikely to happen. By only considering some ideas and not others it leads to an ignorant sense of loyalty to the group and a not so smart final decision. For example, in Dec, 5, 1941, after many warnings about the Japanese planning a military attack the U.S just dismissed it as a fluke. The United States reasoned that since they couldn’t build a torpedo no other country could. Soon after the attack...
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