...The Hurt Man The Hurt man is a short story written by Wendell Berry. It was published in 2003 and is about a young boy and his mom. The young boy’s name is Mat Feltner. He lives with his mother in what seems to be USA in the late 1800. The environment is described as though they lived in a small town on the prairie, with only all the necessities, such as saloons, a church and a bank. The story’s narrative point of view lies with the boy, Mat. Almost everything that is told is being told from his experience. The narrator is in third person and is omniscient but still leaves out information as t hough it is Mat himself who is telling the story. The narrator knows things before they happen but is still almost only limited to what Mat has experienced. Mat and his mother have lost. It says in line 37-38 that there “(…) were many ways for a boy to get hurt, or worse. But in spite of her losses Nancy Beechum Feltner was not a frightened woman (…)”. However, it also says that Nancy is not a frightened woman. That tells us that she is a strong woman, as many were at the time, but she also needs to be strong because she has lost almost everyone. When the hurt man comes running towards Mat and his mother’s house Mat is told to get inside the house. When the hurt man arrives – after a visit from his “friends” – Mat’s mother tends to him. Mat finds out that death is real and not just something, you talk about. From the caring of his mother and the look on her face when she tends to the...
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...Communication and Getting What You Want in Your Relationships John Gray, Ph.D. Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus Contents: Introduction _________________________________________________________________ i Chapter 1: Men Are from Mars Women Are from Venus Chapter 2: Mr. Fix-It and the Home-Improvement Committee Chapter 3: Men Go to Their Caves and Women Talk Chapter 4: How to Motivate the Opposite Sex Chapter 5: Speaking Different Languages Chapter 6: Men Are Like Rubber Bands Chapter 7: Women Are Like Waves Chapter 8: Discovering Our Different Emotional Needs Chapter 9: How to Avoid Arguments Chapter 10: Scoring Points with the Opposite Sex Chapter 11: How to Communicate Difficult Feelings Chapter 12: How to Ask for Support and Get It Chapter 13: Keeping the Magic of Love Alive 1 4 12 18 26 40 50 59 67 78 92 110 122 2 Acknowledgments I thank my wife, Bonnie, for sharing the journey of developing this book with me. I thank her for allowing me to share our stories and especially for expanding my understanding and ability to honor the female point of view. I thank our three daughters, Shannon, Julie, and Lauren, for their continued love and appreciation. The challenge of being a parent has allowed me to understand the struggles my parents had and love them even more. Being a father has especially assisted me in understanding and loving my father. I thank my father and mother for their loving efforts to raise a family of seven...
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...people on the other side of the argument. Personally, I am for legal abortion, in my opinion, it helps women, lets them have control over their bodies, it even helps the fetus in a way. Most people see abortion as evil, that every child should get a chance at life; that’s true, but shouldn’t they have a good life? And shouldn’t they be born with a family who wants them? If that didn’t persuade you, what about if the baby’s father is someone who raped the mother? All of those choices seem quite unfair for a woman if abortion becomes illegal. To me at least. In reality, abortion isn’t up to other people. Nobody...
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...were many discriminatory laws in place called the Jim Crow Laws, which basically made it legal for whites to treat blacks with cruelty. In the short story “Battle Royal” by Ralph Ellison, there are many examples of the cruelties done to blacks by whites. Throughout the story, the white men hurt the protagonist and the other black boys emotionally, psychologically, and physically, and yet the protagonist still feels that blacks should follow the cruel and unjust laws for the good of society. In the beginning of the novel, the white men use a naked stripper to gain control of the protagonist and his group and hurt them psychologically and emotionally. As the African American literature critic Lee states, “ the stripper is a synthetic metaphor of white Mother America, Pocahontas, Martha Washington, the Scarlet Woman—white-fleshed, an object for rape and adoration, a pleasure-object--and yet for this “Nigger” a locus classicus of threat, a taboo, a castration” (Lee 23). This woman is a metaphor for how the government is also controlling the black people’s lives. The stripper is meant as pleasure for men, but for black men, it could mean serious trouble. If black men look at a naked white woman, they could be put in jail, beaten, or even killed in the most extreme cases. The black boys, including the protagonist are psychologically and emotionally distraught. The protagonist “wanted at one and the same time to run from the room, to sink through the floor, or go to her and cover he...
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...That Woman Cried Written by KyuSe7en501 Note: Forgive me if I ain’t good in writing. T_T Twenty- fourth of January a woman appeared before my eyes. She was crying, really, really hard. I didn’t know what to do, I was at a total loss of words. Since then, I started wondering why women cry; are they just fond of crying, or, do they cry for something men don’t understand? As a man myself I want to know the answer. Not that I love to interfere with their sorrows but I just want to have my curiosity get answered. Do they cry for no reason? Some people say women are beyond emotional. They cry because their hearts are soft, they also waste tears because they are partly weak, in comparison with men. I thought those were enough for me to get my mouth closed. I thought those were the best answers for my questions. But then I realized I could discover it myself, and learn things up through women. Months have passed since the day I found that woman crying; I finally got to see her again in a restaurant. She wasn’t crying at all, nor was she sad. She was all smiling --- so beautifully. Her wide smile made my heart filled with wonderfulness; She also had her hair pony tailed which made her long slender neck appear publicly. Those assets were so nice to see that I wanted to talk to her and get to know her better. She was so beautiful like a goddess. Upon my amazement followed the complete sense of surprise. A man, with a child by his side, got an appearance toward the woman, sitting...
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...Chapter 2: Mr. Fix-‐‑It and the Home-‐‑Improvement Committee Chapter 3: Men Go to Their Caves and Women Talk Chapter 4: How to Motivate the Opposite Sex Chapter 5: Speaking Different Languages Chapter 6: Men Are Like Rubber Bands Chapter 7: Women Are Like Waves Chapter 8: Discovering Our Different Emotional Needs Chapter 9: How to Avoid Arguments Chapter 10: Scoring Points with the Opposite Sex Chapter 11: How to Communicate Difficult Feelings Chapter 12: How to Ask for Support and Get It Chapter 13: Keeping the Magic of Love Alive 110 122 2 Acknowledgments I thank...
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...A submissive woman is one who is born with the desire to surrender her will, mind, spirit and body -her very self- to someone she perceives as stronger, wiser, whom she is able to trust completely and who shares this inherent need. The D/s (Domination/submission) relationship can be more emotional, cerebral and honest than many so called 'vanilla' (non-D/s) relationships. Being submisive does not make you a doormat or mean that you must be passive in every aspect of your life, or be submissive in any way to anyone you may meet. On the contrary being submissive can ultimately make you a stronger woman. Most submissive women are strong-willed and intelligent. Being submissive to one man affords a woman the opportunity to embrace her man; to follow the man's lead, to please her man, to support and back him, to submit to him sexually, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. When the two meant for one another are finally able to meet, they will grow together in all aspects of life and feel more fulfilled than ever before. For a woman to submit is a beautiful thing indeed. To find that special man to submit to is just as beautiful, for it is not easy. These submissive feelings are always there beneath the surface. It takes a dominant man to recognize, nurture and bring out those vulnerable feeings. How to Be Submissive for Love Firstly, please don’t be fooled by the flashy title. I’m not encouraging women to play dumb, be in a ‘housewife’ role, or be helpless and have no opinions...
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...she does not even dare to speak to John accept for when he ask her or tell her to speak. For John this violence is his sick way of romance. Laura is woman who married the wrong man. She ones was a woman who was happy and cheerful, but after she married John she has fallen into darkness, she is no longer this cheerful woman she used to be. She has no longer control over her own life, her life is controlled by John, and it is like John has taken her as hostage in her own home. But deep inside Laura is a very strong woman, in the end she shows that she got the guts. In the end she realize that she have been victim of John’s tyranny for too long. It is like Laura knows that she does not have anything to say in the home. She is very quiet, she is so scared of John that she doesn’t even dare to dry the blood of her lips, when John hits her. The story takes place in the home of John and Laura. The story starts in the living room where they are watching TV. They are watching the news, where the riots on the streets are going insane, and then later in the story John goes on the street to stop this riot, and ends op bleeding on the street. Laura and the riot have a lot in common. The riot is a symbol of Laura’s inner fury and fire, and in the end Laura ends up side by side with the riots. When Laura is with the riots she is free and she can escape the iron fits of John. Ther also is some similarities about Johns relations ship to the riots and Laura, he fell almost the same...
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...The Hurt Man Life is full of loss and you cannot avoid experiencing it and well as sorrow. As people grow up they come to realize that the world is not as it seemed to be when they were younger. They get more independent and their perspective of life changes. They will have to realize that they are not going to live forever. In the short story The Hurt Man, written by Wendell Berry and published in 2003, we meet Mat who learns all of this. During the short story Mat is growing up. He is born unexpected but he is still very much appreciated. His parents watch him closely so he does not get hurt but this change as he becomes older. At the age of five, the household gets busier and Mat is now more independent. “[...] he was curious and active, when he would be out of their sight. He would stray off to where something was happening, to the farm buildings behind the house, to the blacksmith shop, to one of the saloons, to wherever the other boys were.” (ll. 31-34) This is a perfect example of a child’s natural and healthy development. In line with them getting older their curiosity and independence increase. They do more and more stuff on their own without their parents supervision. It can be extremely difficult for the parents to let go of their children but the importance of it is huge. The difficulty comes, amongst other things, with the world being filled with danger and threats. Mat’s mother, Nancy, is doing a good job even though she has experienced a mother’s worst...
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... Content Summary “You fit into me” may be perceived as very brief, but the four lines have such a deeper meaning and can be interpreted in numerous ways depending on how you view things. Overall, you fit into is about a relationship between a women and a men. Throughout the poem the speaker is describing her experiences in this relationship. Her relationship can be viewed from either a negative or a positive perspective. The first two lines “you fit into me like a fish hook” can be interpreted of a wonderful relationship that the speaker feels that her and her lover are compatible for each other. On the other hand, from a negative stand point a fish hook can be looked as a sharp and unpleasant object. It can also be about a relationship that was once perfect but feeling as if you can’t live without the person. Another theory that can be supported is that the speaker in the poem is in an abusive relationship and the pain she goes through, but yet she seems to still believe that the relationship is going well, because she’s holding on to the past and what was once good and hurts her not to be with her lover. Response to essay I consider both theories support that the poem is about a relationship that has once been perfect between a men and women. The speaker may feel as if they are perfect, but the other individual causes pain towards her. The woman is in an abusive relationship mentally and physically. Many times women find themselves settling in relationships because...
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...typically an unconscious hatred that men form early in life, often as a result of a trauma involving a female figure that they trusted. What makes man and woman so different? Why should they be treated like outcasts and be disliked? Isn’t this ingrained prejudice against women causing things like feminism and sexism to spread more and more in the twenty-first century? Thinking about it logically, women are humans too. Is it right to treat them with so much contempt and dislike? Is this justice? Some men might say that women are the cause of a lot of problems like stress in a male’s daily life or things as illogical and generalized like the cause of many car accidents and deaths because of them. While other men believe that women get their own ways because they are simply “women”. While this might seem very unfair for women to be generally hated, the reason behind men hating women, without even being conscious about it, can be because of many emotional reasons that this certain man has dealt with in which a woman is included or behind it, for example, an abusive or negligent mother, sister, aunt, teacher, and even girlfriend. This kind of situations will somehow generate a loath towards women in general. While women might say “but we aren’t like that” or “he is over exaggerating”, it does scar a man and it’s near impossible to get out of especially if it occurred to him at a very young age. Signs of misogyny are extremely difficult to spot. A man might seem charming and a gentleman...
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...The Hidden Effects “The Freedom of Choice Act” Has In Our Country In our country, we are free to do whatever we want that is not breaking the law. We are free to come and go as we please, say what we want, even drive anywhere we want to go. Why is it such a problem when a woman wants the freedom to do what she wants with her own body? When we think about “The Freedom of Choice Act”, we think about abortion and who has the right to determine what a woman can do or not do with her own body. Through time, we have argued that it the woman who has the right to choose, or perhaps it is the father who should have a say so, or maybe it is the clergy, or the government who should have a say in the matter. Most believe that the woman should have the final say so because it is her body. Some believe that the father of the child should be able to have a say if the child is born or not. Then you have those who believe that the clergy or the government should be the ones who regulate abortions through laws to determine if a woman is going to have an abortion or not. Then there is always the question about those who wind up in this position of abortion because of rape or incest. In this paper, we will touch on several different topics of abortion to have a better understanding why there is such a strong debate on this subject. History on Abortion When we think of abortion, many people do not think about it or even talk about it. When those who are sitting around contemplating abortion, they...
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...person helped out of a hundred that were there. A woman was harshly criticize over her race and the way she was dressed, since she was a woman of color they automatically thought she will steal. The actors were playing their role to criticize the woman however some shoppers said some rude comments towards her like is she “playing the black card” or “ would she have defend me”. I was speechless by some of the shopper’s action. Some just walked around or continue shopping like if there was not a big social issue going on not saying or doing a thing. I believe this is why people feel entitled to act a certain way and speak to someone because no one corrects them or educate them. It is highly wrong to judge someone based on their skin color and appearances. That dark skin colored person who is dressed casually who you think might steal from you, can actually have enough to buy your entire store. Someone can be dressed down and own a Visa black credit card or be a CEO of a company. It is judgment and wrong to single out a person of color based of a color. I am happy to see strong women united and help this woman out and encourage other to walk out the store. I was not shocked when I saw someone from her own race did not hesitate to defend her. The reason he was passionate because he was with his family who happen to be from the same race. That lady being accused and single out could have been one of his sister, mother or wife. It hurts more when it is closely related to you. In...
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...about wedding, prevent woman driving car, celebration, wearing hijab, eating habits, greetings, polygamy, fasting, and education in Saudi Arabia. First, in Saudi Arabia, wedding’s ceremony is very different than others. When man want engage woman. He tells his parents about woman who is want. Then, they go to the house of woman and they meet her parents. Her father asks man questions about him if he prays everyday and if he has job or not. After that, father goes to his daughter and tells her about man. Father asks his daughter if she accept or refuse this man. If she accepts him, man can enter to see her with her father or brother. In addition, the family of woman makes a dinner for this event and man buy gold necklace or gold ring for woman. In the day of wedding, the father of man invites his family and friends because he makes a huge party. Man wears white thob and gotra. While, woman goes to salon to do something like hairstyle, make up, manicure and pedicure. I want point out to in the wedding women separate from men. There are a lot of Arabian coffee, sweets, cakes and fruit. In the end of day, bridegroom enters to his bride to take her with him. Second, in Saudi Arabia, women cannot drive car. Driving car for women is illegal because when woman goes out must go with her, her father, brother, or husband, also while woman drives car may be her car stop and she do not know how can fix it. In addition, woman attracts man, so it could be someone hurt her while she driving...
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...marriage to a very jealous man. She could not walk down the street and speak to any other man without him thinking that she wanted to be with them. Life was hard enough, but after they had a daughter it seem to get worst for Rona. The abuse had gotten so bad that she had to be hospitalized from a beating that left her covered in bruises. Finally she have had enough and decided to leave. But it was not easy at all for Rona. Her husband Robert could not let go. He had stalked her for months. Seeing her run from this man and could not get help from any law enforcement agencies, she hid herself and her children in different places. When he found her, he threatens her to come home or he would hurt anyone that would help her. So she went back to him to keep him from messing with her family and friends that provided her help and a place to stay. Even when the police was called out, they stated they could not do anything because she would not press charges because of him threatening her. They told her she would have to say what he was doing for them to help her. Until then he was not breaking any laws. She was told, she would have to come down to file for a restraining order. They seen she had bruises on her, but they did not take that into account. Because of too many woman came down to file a report and later when it was time to go to court, they would have drop the charges. Now today when the police is called out on a domestic violence, someone will be leaving the house and if there...
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