You Just Don’t understand

In Deborah Tannen’s book, “You just don’t understand,” I thought there were many interesting points she brought up. Especially dealing with how male and female communication styles differ. I also thought many of her arguments were completely correct and I have experienced them in day-to-day life. Her first discussion that caught my eye was the difference between men and women responding through frustration when dealing with dilemmas. In this section, “I’ll fix it for you,” Tannen discusses how men and women are easily frustrated by the way the opposite sex responds to problems. She explains how women often recent the fact that men offer solutions to their problems. They do this because men tend to want to fix the problem immediately and put it behind them. However on the other hand men become frustrated with women because they don’t always take action to solve the dilemma. They instead will draw out the problem and complain about it instead of seeking and immediate solution. This was something is completely agree with. From personal experiences I’ve seen men handle problems by solving the issue as soon as it arises and laughing it off to forget about it. While women sometimes wallow in their problems and gossip about them instead of finding a solution to move on. Another point dealing with this topic that I thought was very true was when men try to help women solve the problem. The man tries to give a solution to the problem from his own personal experience, but women see this as forcing their authority on the. I thought this was a point Tannen was completely dead right on. From all my own personal experiences I think there is more than enough evidence to support her theory. Her second topic of discussion that I found pretty interesting was in the “mixed judgments and misjudgments,” section. In this chapter she talks about how men