...Newly Married Couple on Interpersonal Communication Jacovah Ling Joan Golding 08/25/2014 Letter to Newly Married Couple on Interpersonal Communication Dear Dave and Sally, It is with great pleasure that I take this opportunity to share with you some of the critical elements that will be effective in addressing the issue of interpersonal communications in your new relationship. Indeed the value of personal interpersonal communications cannot be undermined because life is all about communication, and the interpersonal perspective is the most important aspect of communication (Gaertner, 2010). Worth noting is that the manner in which you will approach this issue of effective interpersonal communication will to a larger extent determine the ultimate success and outcome of your relationship. Allow me to highlight some of the key elements that will enable the clear understanding of this issue. Dave and Sally, allow me to share with you the actual meaning of interpersonal communication. You may already have heard that communication is the transfer of a shared meaning from the sender to the message recipient, either intentionally or unintentionally. This implies that whenever we give meaning or observe behaviour, the communication process is...
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...Communication Advice for Newly Engaged Couple, Michael and Cody Carla Smith COM200: Interpersonal Communication January 16, 2012 Communication Advice for Newly Engaged Couple Michael and Cody Dear Michael and Cody, Congratulations on your recent engagement. A marriage is a very special thing shared between two people that truly love each other, and are ready to spend the rest of their lives with that person. I hope you two are ready for a lot of hard work. That may sound scary, but that is what it takes to make a marriage last. If you are not willing to be fully committed to each other, completely dedicated to one another, and ready for the challenges up ahead, then you are not ready to get married. I am writing you to give you some very good advice about communication in relationships. I just finished an interpersonal communication course and I will be referring to my textbook throughout this letter. I hope you take the advice I give you and use it every day. Love is not enough to make a marriage last, and I am not saying love is not important because it is vital to make a relationship happen. I want you to use this as a guide as to what to do and what not to do in any given situation. I may not have all the answers, but I know this will make your relationship stronger and easier to deal with. It is not easy to be married, but if you have good communication skills, and use them with each other, you will be amazed how easy it is to get along...
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...“Developing Effective Communication in the Marital Relationship” Abstract According to research a couple’s ability to communicate with one another is the single most important contributor to a happy stable and satisfying marriage. According to the current divorce statistics, 50% of marriages end in divorce due to the lack of communication skills and or poor problem solving skills. When communication dissolves between husband and wife, the marital relationship also dissolves. It is vital for couples to ascertain the necessary skills that promote healthy and effective communication. The following paper will outline the interviewed couple’s problems with communication, provide current statistic of married couples who struggle with effective communication, reasons that contribute towards poor communication in marital relationships, and helpful techniques, actions and treatments that are helpful in fostering strong heathy communication between husband and wife. Keywords: marriage, communication, active listening, techniques Introduction After conducting a thorough interview with the Meredith’s, a middle aged married couple, the major problem that was noticed was there inability to effectively communicate in a healthy and respectful manner. The particular area of communication that the couple struggles with involves active listening and nonverbal gestures. Both husband and wife lack the ability to attentively listen to what one another is really saying to each other. While...
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...Sexuality Article Summary 2 Exploring Relationships Among Communication, Sexual Satisfaction, and Marital Satisfaction Litzinger, S., and Gordon, K. C. (2005). Exploring relationships among communication, sexual satisfaction, and marital satisfaction. Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, 31, 409-424. The purpose of the study conducted by S. Litzinger and K.C. Gordon was to study how sexual satisfaction and communication within a relationship influence each other, and how this influence contributes to the prediction of marital satisfaction. The effects of these constructs were studied both independently and jointly. The researchers hypothesized that strengths in one area would compensate for weaknesses in other areas and this compensation would result in greater overall marital satisfaction. According to Litzinger and Gordon (2005), “It has been demonstrated that communication behaviors and interaction patterns clearly are related to marital satisfaction; however, an examination of the literature indicates that communication skills in and of themselves are not the sole determinants of marital happiness” (p.410) There is a strong connection between communication and marital satisfaction, but the connection is complex and affected by other influences in the marriage. Research indicates that unhappy couples lack the skills necessary to communicate successfully. This lack of communication skills leads to emotional distancing and a withdrawal from communicating...
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...A study by Rueda and Williams (2016) examined a group of Mexican American adolescent couples and their conflict issues. In this study, the investigators evaluated some Mexican American adolescent couples concerning their communication conflict issues. Several indicators developed the contexts and extended the investigation. The study consisted how young adolescents’ communication problems affected their relationship. Mexican American adolescents presented in this study proved how communication conflict affects relationships. A group of youth was evaluated to determine their conflict issues in their relationship. Researchers had determined the wide variety of conflicts between men and women. Commitment in a relationship grows as the relationship progresses and deteriorates as couple lack of communication. Therefore, in this study the investigators evaluated how couples’ communication can result in conflict issues in their relationship....
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...DeAngelo Williams Mrs. Randall English 1102 20Apirl 2013 Finning a means of communication In today’s society, we have become more pre-occupied in our everyday lives with things such as work, school, and family. Sometimes we even have what seems like no time for anyone, not even those we love and care about. There is a rather shocking lack of communication between people in our rapidly advancing generation. In Paul Dooley and Winnie Holzman’s play Post-Its (Notes on a Marriage), we watch as two young people who are in love and newly married, begin to leave each other post its notes when they have no time for communication with one another. The author successfully tells an amazing love story using a unique means of communication. According to Anne Maydan Nicotera, “communication is critical to inter-personal relationships” (Nicotera). The notes vary from topics such as one not wanting to wake the other as they leave early for work, for tasks that need to be completed throughout the day. The audience, through the reading of the post- its notes views the couple’s life as it goes through the early stages of a relationship, to having a child, to a downhill slide of their relationship, the steady reconstruction of a marriage, and eventually it goes on until one of the two passes on. By leaving these post-its notes, the unnamed couple manages to have a basis of communication upon which they both are able to agree upon. They manage to find a convenient and effective way to convey...
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...treatment communicate with each other. A good marriage thrives on the open exchange of emotion, desires and beliefs. In fact, communication is one of the most important aspect of a satisfying marriage. Blaine Fowers, a professor of Counseling Psychology at the University of Miami stated that “Communication skills is one of the most common approaches used to improve couples relationships” (327). According to family Life, communication is “essential to the life of a marriage.” Couples who are aware of their communication styles and responses to conflict confront disagreements more productively. Women most often pursue an argument, men usually retreat. Some couples avoid conflict altogether, until the silence drives a wedge into their intimacy. Communication ends marital conflict. Every couple, no matter how well they communicate in a relationship, has times where they disagree. At the same time, this doesn’t have to turn into a fight. Clifford Notarius, a psychologist maintains that the key to a good marriage “isn’t knowing how to avoid an argument but knowing how to get out of one after it has started.” Understanding why communication is important is the first step to improving communication in a relationship. Jonathan Pettigrew, communication researcher reported “couples who sent text messages experienced increased feelings of connectedness.” Communication...
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...ever after, and skip gleefully away to live the American dream. However, millions of married couples quickly find themselves turning to divorce as an answer, to ending the fairy tale they had once dreamed. Many people would ask “why?” the perfect couple would choose such a negative ending to their once happy marriage. In some cases, many couples have to question their own motives for divorce. Although there are many alternate roots to fixing the simplest problems that may occur in a marriage, for some, simple does not always mean easy. It is certain that the cause of divorce varies from couple to couple, yet lack of communication, money and children, is among the most common causes of divorce. Lack of communication in a marital relationship, is one of the most common causes of divorce, because when two people lack communication, they are unable to solve problems that may occur in the marriage. Many married couples think that the minor problems that occur in their marriage, are insignificant, and are not worth talking about; however, they fail to realize that even the smallest things can cause conflict between the two when they are not able to solve them through communication. Many couples lack communication when it comes to making decisions about shared finances. This can cause financial issues to arise, and arguments to escalade in the marriage. Many couples also lack communication when it comes to making decisions for their children. When one spouse does not agree with...
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... The Role of Communication in Marriages Married couples in matrimony for several decades may lack communication. A couple married for 50 years having a sit down dinner will speak for only a few minutes out of an hour long sitting, researchers have show communication of happy marriages which consists of sharing intimate thoughts, uncertainties, distrust. When we observe a couple in a restaurant or another public setting. In 1987, a review in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy established elevated rates of self-disclosure were coupled with advanced rates of couple satisfaction. Appearance of love and sustainability was also associated to contented marriages. "Many couples think they're communicating with each other" when they sort out who will pick up the kids, pay the bills or call the grandparents, says Orbuch. But that's not the kind of communication she's talking about."In the (research) literature, as well as for my couples, communication means you're sharing and really getting to know one another," Orbuch says. (NARA SCHOENBER. Houston Chronicle. Houston, Tex.: Feb 5, 2011. pg. 7.) In research literature couple should communicatively share and get to know each other. When a couple set aside just ten minutes a day, which is recognized as the ten minute rule per Orbuch, is to cultivate effective words in quality communication using communication to adequately resolve their issues and problems...
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...The World of Media and the everyday communication in a couple’s relationship 4 Factors Associated with Relationship Satisfaction: Importance of Communication Skills 4 Communication and Relationship Management 4 Being a couple in a media world: The mediatization of everyday communication in couple relationships Christine Linke Factors Associated with Relationship Satisfaction: Importance of Communication Skills I.S. Egeci.T. Gencoz Communication and Relationship Management Andrew N. German, Psy.D, associate professor and director of master’s programs Media plays a significant role in everyday life. How does media affect a couple, whose relationship is under constant everyday media pressure? Using the concept of mediatization as theoretical background for analyzing micro level processes. What is the importance of Communication Skills in a relationship and how does communication weigh in relationship management? Partners must establish good communication skills in order to maintain a successful relationship. However, when a couple is very successful and in the “limelight” so to speak, the pressure is undoubtedly more. Shen, S. (2010, July 29). The most successful busines power couples. Huff Post Business, Retrieved from http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/07/29/the-most-successful-busin_n_649622.html. Media plays an even greater risk for these relationships to fail. Media can play mind tricks and play with emotions through falsifying or...
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...view it whether it is harmful to the marriage or how it can help the marriage be more successful. Another issue that is reviewed is the issue of infidelity. It discusses the problems that arise from infidelity and touches on the reconciliation process that couples have to go through if they have a desire to stay in their marriage. Communication and forgiveness within the marriage is also discussed. Challenging Issues that Face Marriages Today Introduction In the world today, there are a lot of marriages going through some trying times. Parents have put their children first instead of their spouse which have created a barrier between the couple. Some families are dealing with extra effort children that require more time with them and put their spouse on the back burner. Financial burdens have been over whelming for some marriages causing stress, anger and even resentment. The issues that this research paper is going to explore are the challenges of cohabitation, infidelity, communication, and forgiveness. These issues seem to be an important part of marriages that are continually brought forth in many therapy, counseling, and laypersons offices. Premarital Cohabitation Couples will move in together before marriage for many reasons. These reasons include financial situations (fewer bills; mortgage, electricity, automobile expenses, etc.), beliefs that loving each other is enough and a piece of paper does not mean anything, or to...
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...Differences in Communication Between Genders Roscoe Purdue University Abstract The differences in correspondence styles among men and women have been a subject of interest for research for quite a while. These differences may provoke miscommunication, battle, and even frustration between couples. This study looks at the communication styles among men and women, more especially between married couples. It questions how the different genders express their thoughts and feelings that may lead to conflicts. The study will be driven utilizing an in-depth analysis of what causes miscommunication that leads to conflicts. Qualitative research is the method that will be used to gain an in-depth look at why the genders have some of their communication problems. The goal is to increase the amount of awareness regarding communication styles and how it relates better marital communication to aid in the prevention of miscommunication and the decrease a lot of conflicts because of it. Today, divorce has become a very common part of life, and it is likely that ineffective communication plays a crucial role in the failure of many marriages. Communication may lead to the success of a marriage or to its detriment, depending on its level of effectiveness. This effectiveness of communication is likely connected to the overall satisfaction of married couples and is worthy to be studied in order to increase marital satisfaction. Learning more about the differences in communication styles between...
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...support and essential necessities is no easy task. For some the responsibilities of marriage become overwhelming or the problems within a marriage become so serious they cannot be solved, and couples all across the nation are choosing to end their marriage in a divorce. It is sad to say but although most people take their whole lives to decide to enter into marriage, most only take a few moments to consider ending one. Divorce rates continue to rise and rise in modern times and it could easily be said that divorce is the instant gratification married couples are turning to in order to cope in today’s society. There are many factors that go into the decision of ending one’s marriage but some factors that are changing the marriage game today are woman’s growing roles in society as self efficient individuals, economic and financial problems and a lack of communication or proper problem solving efforts and the effects of divorce and even more damaging than the divorce itself. With the edition of the nineteenth amendment to constitution giving women the right to vote in America, it began the journey for women across the nation to transform into the power house individuals that are just as much a part of running this country as men today. This in turn became a major change within homes for married couples, as women’s roles in society changed so did men’s. Men were not the only bread winner of family, no longer the backbone of keeping...
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...PAPER OUTLINE 2 Outline In this paper I will speak with Andre and Lois about their interpersonal communication within their relationship. Andre and Lois have been recently engaged and they have been together long enough to be able to know each other but they have concerns about their communication. They are afraid that in the future poor communication may ruin their marriage if they do not seek help. Effective listening and communication is they key component that will in the end make or break a relationship. The first part of the letter to the couple will focus upon how words have the power to create and affect attitudes, behavior, and perception and explain to the couple the understanding upon how perceptions, emotions, and nonverbal expression affect interpersonal relationships. In the article titled Send The Right Message The Right Way it explains how communication is key in personal relationships but one has to make sure that the person on the receiving end of the message understands the message and not misinterprets anything (Meadows, L. 2011). In explanation of that statement the couple will have to understand the importance of communication and how to make sure they that say what they mean and mean what they say. The letter will go on to explain how emotional intelligence and its role in effective interpersonal relationships and how to evaluate...
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...Demonstrative Communication BCOM/275 February 11, 2014 Kyle Sword Demonstrative Communication The plan was to celebrate their wedding anniversary this weekend because it would be difficult for either of them to take time off from work due to their demanding deadlines. Mandy had to deal with month-end and Wyatt was in the middle of negotiations. In both their lines of work they both considered themselves as decent communicators. Mandy communicated with upper management, her peers as well her subordinates with verbal, written, visual and non-verbal communication. As mentioned before Wyatt was in the middle of negotiations in which he was able to utilize verbal, written, visual, and non-verbal communication as well. Although both were considered good communicators professionally, there always seemed to be a disconnect when it came to communicating with each other. The weekend started when the couple went to Raley’s to shop for their anniversary menu. Wyatt verbally communicated to his wife Mandy that he would like her to decide what she wanted him to cook for their special anniversary dinner. When the couple first entered the grocery store Wyatt spotted a security guard staring at him in a way where he felt he was being profiled because of his race and style of dress. No words were said but the demonstrative communication between the security guard and Wyatt was obvious. Wyatt received the demonstrative communication from the security guard and was...
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