...Single parenting Single parenting is where a parent lives alone and takes most of the day to day the responsibilities in taking care of a child or children without a spouse or partner, in other words single parent involves a single person plus a dependent child (more likely to be a female parent) and is sometimes referred to as the broken nuclear family (where mom and dad and kids live under the same roof but parents decide to spilt-up). In Trinidad and Tobago there are 18 percent single parent and 9 percent single parent extended families (extended single parents is where the parent is living with their family such as mom, dad, siblings etc). How does one emerge as a single parent? There many reasons people in society become a single parent. Some reasons are:- Divorce -this is where a couple who have been married and have taken legal action of ending the marriage contract. In Trinidad and Tobago within the period of 2011 to 2013 there are 7,123 couples who applied for divorce. The rate of divorce in Trinidad and Tobago is 26.6 percent. Families are rapidly declining in our country and family foundations are weakening which brings a lot of negative side effects. In the U.S. the divorce rate is 40 to 50 percent of married couples divorce. Divorce can stem from misunderstandings between couples, the relationship grows apart, financial problems, intimacy disappears, not having a shared vision of success and also getting into the marriage for the wrong reasons. Unwanted...
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...believe that fathers are important in attachment. There is evidence that suggesting that when fathers take on the role of being the main caregiver they begin to adopt behaviors more traditional with mothers. Tiffany Field (1978) videotaped 4-month old babies in face-to-face interaction with father as primary caregivers and mother as secondary caregivers, and fathers as secondary caregivers and mothers as primary caregivers. Like moms, primary caregiver fathers spent more time imitating, holding, and smiling at infants than the secondary caregiver fathers. This is important when developing an attachment with the baby. This implies that dads can be the more nurturing/caring attachment figure. What is crucial to the attachment relationship is how caring/responsive the caregiver is not the gender of the parent. Das induce more excitement and tend to play more physically than moms. Fathers reacting correctly to a child’s expression predicts positive social and emotional models of behavior later in adolescence and childhood. This predicts that dads instill a sense of confidence to explore with relationships (Berk, L, 2006). Farrel believes that dads teach children to respect other’s boundaries and set clearer boundaries than mothers. Kids see their dad as powerful and authoritative (Franz C., et al 1990). In the context of single parenting, children were better off in the custody of the dad (Clark-Stewart & Hayward 1996). In Asian school boys the highest correlation with aggression...
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...Love (right). Photo: Adam Nemser/photolink.net/Newscom After a tough first year at an Ivy League university, 20-year-old Sarah was looking forward to relaxing over the summer. Unfortunately, her parents made that impossible. "My dad's an alcoholic, and my mom's addicted to dating alcoholics," the Stanford, California, native says. "They're divorced, and my dad is broke, so I had to help him get government assistance. Meanwhile, I needed to deal with my mom's drama about the terrible guys she chooses." Between running her mom's dating life and managing her dad's finances, Sarah was exhausted by summer's end—and relieved to return to college thousands of miles away. "I can't do much from here, so I can't feel guilty," she says. These days countless teens like Sarah, who are coping with irresponsible parents, are forced to step in as the mature party. "When parents refuse to act like adults, it creates a power vacuum. Someone has to fill that space, and most often it's the teen son or daughter," explains Karol Ward, a licensed psychotherapist and author of Worried Sick (Berkley). While Sarah had to take care of her mom and dad, nineteen-year-old Nicole,* in Buffalo, found herself playing guardian to her younger sister when their mother was MIA. "When I was sixteen, my fourteen-year-old sister Jen* and I wouldn't see my mom for three or four days at a time," she says. "I had to...
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...Requirements that I would include in order to obtain a license would be similar to that of adoption requirements. Classes are important for each family to be on the same page in parenting. Birth and parenting classes will help establish a base for parenting. A topic that would be important to discuss is parenting styles. Authoritative, permissive, and authoritarian styles each occur and need to be researched by parents (Brooks 101). Pointing expecting parents to Chapter 3 of The Process of Parenting would be a good start. This chapter uses many research based facts. Parents experiences are broke down into pregnancy, infancy, toddlerhood early childhood, early adolescents, and adulthood (Brooks, Index). As parents go through the parenting process they should be required to learn more about affective parenting for these ages and stages. I would place no restrictions on culture, ethnicity, or sexuality. As the class learned in Chapter 16 children of parents that are gay or lesbians have many positive qualities (Brooks 484). They are more understanding of other view-points, are open about feelings, and don’t follow gender restrictions. These adults then have broader definitions of family and value trust and honesty (Brooks...
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...Single Parenting According to Custodial Mothers and Fathers and Their Child Support: 2007, released by the U.S. Census Bureau in November, 2009, there are approximately 13.7 million single parents in the United States today, and those parents are responsible for raising 21.8 million children (approximately 26% of children under 21 in the U.S. today). Today in America, one out of two marriages fail, which means there are many single parents out there who are struggling with raising their children alone! A single mother might want to be unattached to devote all of her time to her children. Single mothers often feel an obligation to protect their children from the possibility of trauma and confusion. Especially if they have already been exposed to a relationship that had once failed. Single parents face several different challenges because they are solely responsible for their children. The cause of becoming a single parent may be due to an unexpected baby, death of a spouse, or custody after divorce is final. Fighting for custody and child support, erasing the negative connotation of the "broken home" and struggling with job and money problems are among other issues that single parents have to deal with. Mary Ellen Gornick, a social worker with Corporate Parenting Associates of Skokie, a family-counseling firm, says children who grow up in such families can become more self-sufficient and independent as adults. The effects to being a single parent can be difficult...
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...Both Parents Should Assume Equal Responsibility in Raising a Child Dr. Weisblum Critical Thinking-PHI 210 Strayer University December 15, 2013 Both Parents should assume equal responsibility in raising a child A child’s health and well-being are important and also contribute to a healthy, productive adolescence and adulthood. Parents can play an important role in helping their children use or strengthen behaviors, skills, attitudes, and motivation that promote their physical and mental health and overall well being in childhood, adolescence and well into their adulthood. (McBride, 1998) As you grow up, you are taught many life lessons from your experienced parents. Your parents' duty is to nurture you, so that you can grow up to become a person who is strong and able to support yourself. (Allen, 2013) Parents must realize that when it comes to raising a child, they both must put in an equal amount of effort so that the child learns new things, prevents family breakdowns or arguments and prevents the child from straying off the 'right' path as they say. It is a typical situation where the father is the one who is assumed as not being apart of raising their child. The first reason why both parents, a father and mother, should have equal opportunities to raise their children is that the father, by his masculinity nature, will be better to give his child the sense of braveness and teach them to defend themselves against anyone who could hurt them in their environment...
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...While I personally believe that babies should sleep in their own beds. I also feel that co-sleeping is up to the parents and what works best for them and their baby. It is my experience that both babies and parents benefit from baby sleeping in their own bed. When my daughter was a baby the only time she would sleep for more than a half hour at a time was in her own bed. As much as I loved having her close I felt her getting the proper rest was more important. This lasted until she was about 14 months old. When she started coming in and sleeping with us... After about six months of this her father and I decided it was time for her to go back to sleeping in her own bed. We had come to realize how important it was for us as individuals, and as a couple to have time for ourselves. With Hannah sleeping in her own bed we could have that time without taking away time spent with our daughter. It was one of the best decisions we made. Not only was our stress level greatly reduced, our relationship improved and Hannah learned a sense of pride and independence sleeping on her own. The other reason I believe children should sleep in their own bed is because of separation anxiety. Kids who sleep with their parents every night tend to have a harder time when mommy or daddy leave. It also makes it almost impossible for them to sleep unless they are sleeping with a parent. One example of this would be my step daughter who is 3 ½ yrs. old and has slept with her mom every night of her...
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...w MINISTERIET FOR BøRN OG UNDERVISNING KVALITETS- OG TI LSYNSSTYRELSEN t Studentereksamen 2. delprøve kl. og.oo - t+.oo Fredag den 1. juni 2OL2 kl. 9.00 - 14.00 Side 1 af 12 sider Answer either A or B A The texts in section A focus on how children should be raised. Write a paper (700-1000 words) in which you answer the following questions. Answer the questions separately. 1. 2. 3. Give an account of childraising principles as presented in the three texts. How does A.S. Neill engage the reader in text 3? Give examples from the text. Taking your starting point in one of the texts, discuss how children should be raised. Texts Page 2 1. Sophia Chua-Rubenfeld, "Why I love my strict Chinese mom", a newspaper report by Mandy Stadtmiller from The New York Posl website,2}ll Kate Loveys, "Let them eat pizza: Parenting guru's recipe for bringing up children", a newspaper article from The Daily Mail website, May 16,20lI . 2. . 5 a J "Summerhill's General Policy Statement", an extract from A.S. Neill's book Summerhill a radical approach to child reåring, 1960 7 B Write an essay (700-1000 words) in which you analyse and interpret Debi Alper's short story "How Lucky You Are". Your essay must include the following points: - the main theme - a characterization of Max and Ishraqi - the way the short story is structured - Max's relationship with his parents - the setting Têxt Debi Alper, "How Lucky You Are", a short...
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...I have always had trouble getting along with my mother. Ever since I was old enough to have an opinion and arguably before then, my mother and I have been at odds. On top of that, I never even had a great relationship with my dad but that's a topic for another post entirely. A vast majority of my friends, peers, and coworkers have a relationship with at least one parent. It has really caused me to question a lot about my faith, myself, and the fairness of not being able to choose one's parents. The idea of a parent is a tough one. What does it take to make a parent? What is a good parent and what is a bad parent? Absentee parents fall somewhere in between because even if they live at the same address as their children, they're emotionally unavailable. According to dictionary.com, the definition for parent is: a mother or a father. I'm no expert on the etymology of words, but I think we should redefine parents a bit. A parent is someone who loves, nurtures, and cares for their young. There are plenty of "parents" in the world who may not have bore children of their body but have certainly bore children of their heart. As a young Christian, I have been tormented by my relationship with my mother and my other family members. Over the years, my relationship with her and my siblings has deteriorated tremendously. On the one hand, Christians are told to be loving. We are to endure with one another and bare with one another. This is noble philosophy and life doctrine but implementation...
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...Swedish Daddies Tonya McKenzie Professor Swinney Strayer University February 20, 2015 Abstract This paper explores the balance between career and family life. Whether we believe the mindset of corporate America is conducive to the type of work and family arrangement that is suitable. Then explain reasons why or why not. This writer will tell whether or not the United States should require organizations to provide paid maternity leave if so, discuss whether or not the United States should assist the companies financially in this endeavor. This writer will describe the stance of the United States requiring organizations to offer paternity leave. They give rationale for the position of choice. Also state whether specialized organizational arrangements can be made for those workers wish to combine career and raising children, and give an explanation why or why not. If specialized organizational arrangement should be made for the workers, explain the steps that an organization can take to accommodate them adequately with their parental needs. Lastly, state whether a firm should be obligated to give employees flexibility to work out a particular career and family balance that is right for them. State whether this is far beyond the social responsibility of the organization, then justify the response. Swedish Daddies Today, we value family and career. Although women have yet to attain full worth at the highest levels of business, they compose nearly half the United States...
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...but they need parental help to recover from a divorce. The court relies on what the parents are telling them as much as the other professionals and behavioral analysis examiners that have been assigned to the cases. While some parents do not mind this intrusion in to their lives, children feel as if things are not safe or stable. Parents will start to play “tug-of-war” with the children stuck in the middle. Parents who do not settle disputes over custody without the courts help will risk everyone especially the child being hurt. Courts will normally side for what has been the normal stable situation for the child, if there has not been abuse in the home. Parents who are taking the battles for custody of children to the court system should be aware if the court perceives the parents could have settled before asking the court to intervene, then the Court will make the decision for the parents based on the “best interests of the child”, which will not be in agreement with what the either parent believes or wants for their children. In the judicial system, unless there is proven abuse, there are no quick decisions. One reason there are not quick decisions is a...
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...think it works.” Lorraine Kelly, T V presenter and m um of one Most parents say their children are the most important part of their lives. They bring joy and laughter and give you a stake in the future. But sometimes being a parent isn’t easy. It can be challenging and exhausting. At such times, parents who are normally loving and caring can find themselves “losing it” and hitting their children. Most parents don’t think hitting children is right, yet in times of stress, anger or frustration find themselves lashing out. But many feel guilty afterwards and want to find better ways of handling difficult behaviour. We’ve collected the best advice from professionals, as well as some top tips from parents, to help you understand positive parenting and positive discipline, and that using physical punishment is never a good idea for children of any age. Which type of parent are you? Read the following three descriptions and decide which one you think is closest to you: “Raising children is a constant battle.” You often: • have lots of strict rules • use demands and threats to keep your child under control • punish harshly and smack often. “I just want a quiet life.” You: • forget about your own needs and ignore all naughty behaviour, even when it is far from minor • always give in to whining • don’t encourage independence, instead doing everything for your child. “I love my children, but understand they can’t have and do everything they want.” You try to: • have clear, simple rules...
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...experience several moments of the crisis where one master and then moves into the next stage of life's. The first ten years of life were full of turmoil, being physically abused by my biological parents and ultimately abandoned. After been traumatized by these events I was removed and placed for adoption. There were residual issues such as nightmares, frequent altercations with peers, and bedwetting. Baker confirmed that high stress is a contributing factor to the increased disruptive behaviors and delays normal developmental milestones (Baker et al., 2003). The prominent stage that was easily identified was the competency versus inferiority. I remember always feeling as if I were not good enough and inadequate, never able to please my mom and dad. Stage Two This stage covers ages 11 to 20. According to the Erickson’s model this frame is considered to be the Identity versus Role Confusion stage (Rice, 2001). During this stage, there was a struggle regarding who I wanted to be which was a good kid who listened to his parents or the partying teen who wanted to hang with his friends. Emotionally, I started to reflect on my life, having much older...
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...families. Companies in the past 34 years have been required to grant new mothers time off, under the Pregnancy Discrimination Act, to recover from the stressful time of being pregnant, going through the process of giving birth, and of course, to take care of their newborn baby. Also, the Family Medical Leave Act of 1993 touches base on the fact that pregnant women are to be given time off – 12 weeks at least – of unpaid leave. The Pregnancy Discrimination Act of 1978, gives pregnant women the same rights as others with "medical conditions". This law applies to companies employing 15 or more people. It says: • Your employer cannot fire you because you are pregnant. • Your employer cannot force you to take mandatory maternity leave. • You must be granted the same health, disability, and sickness-leave benefits as any other employee who has a medical condition. • You must be given modified tasks; alternate assignments, disability leave, or leave without pay (depending on company policy). • You are allowed to work as long as you can perform your job. • You are guaranteed job security during your leave. • During your leave, you continue to accrue seniority and remain eligible for pay increases and benefits. The Family and Medical Leave Act of 1993 applies to companies that employ 50 or more people within a 75-mile radius of the workplace. It states that if an employee has been employed for at least one year by the company he or she now works for, and works at least 25...
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...They are burdening the pain of a situation they really do not understand. The emotional burden, which effects, children of divorce follows the child down their mental health path for the rest of their life. However, most families do not believe that anything is wrong with them or their children, but studies show otherwise. Christopher Caroline’s states, “we learn the risk and protective factor model posits that the likelihood of mental health problems is affected by exposure to risk factors and availability of protective resources when dealing with divorce” (800) in his article “Long-Term Effects of a Parenting Preventive Intervention on Young Adults’ Painful Feelings about Divorce”. This study was done involving families who were currently going through a divorce and had young children at the time. It supports the fact that there is a risk to the children of divorce families. The study also states that “divorce is a public health concern both due to its prevalence and associated negative consequences” (Caroline 799). Many people do not think of divorce in a traumatic event or crisis, but if the world would look at it through the eyes of a child, they would understand just how serious it really is. In the journal article by Neil Kalter’s, “Long-term Effects of Divorce on Children: A Developmental Vulnerability Model,” he writes, “research and...
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