...Can Love Alone Make a Marriage Last Forever? What if every culture had the same expectations on the ideal marriage and if it was going to last? Many studies have been done over the years as to if a marriage is going to last and what the requirements are for getting married. In “Will Your Marriage Last” by Aviva Patz, she observed through different studies that the first two years of marriage can determine if your marriage will last or not. Also in Stephanie Coontz’ article, “The Radical Idea of Marrying for Love” she suggests that marrying for the sole reason of love could lead up to divorce. I believe that love should be a part of a successful marriage but not the main reason, as supported by Coontz and Patz. Many young couples or couples in general have this ideal of marriage and when it doesn’t meet up to what they expected, the relationship starts to go downhill. The many observations of Ted Huston suggest the length of your courtship before marriage is a big factor in if your marriage will be successful or not. When you are in the beginning of a relationship you are experiencing this romantic bliss and have expectations that your entire marriage will stay in this honeymoon phase, but once things start settling down you will be faced with many challenges you did not see arising. According to Huston, “couples are most vulnerable to disillusionment when their courtship is brief” (Patz 301). After reading about Huston’s observations, I have started to look at my marriage...
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...Romeo and Juliet by William Shakespeare and “Appointment with Love” by S.I. Kishor have similar ideas that are both associated with society expectations. Romeo and Juliet is about two lovers who cant be together because of a feud going on between their families. Next, “Appointment with Love” is about a Lieutenant who goes off the war, but leaves behind an unknown admirer who he hasn’t met. At the end of the story they finally meet, but there is a twist and a test of John’s love. One similarity between “Appointment with Love” and Romeo and Juliet is that one of the themes is love versus society’s expectations. Next, one primary difference between the two stories are the morals and messages of the story. The moral of “Appointment with Love” is now to judge someone on there outer appearance but their personality. Finally, the moral of Romeo and Juliet is not to let the past determine your...
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...Great Expectations being published serially had on the plot and characters. Markley is an extremely credible source for critical analysis. Markley, a professor of English at Pennsylvania State University Brandywine during his lifetime, taught classes on classic Victorian literature and a wide array of other literature-related subjects. His extensive knowledge and experience in the literary arts is evident throughout the entire criticism: he is able to make a deep analysis of Great Expectations that remain relevant to his thesis. Markley intends to prove that the effects of Great Expectations being published serially greatly altered the way the characters were written and the length of the plot line as compared to the way a modern novel is written. He provides extensive logical reasoning and utilizes background commentary to reaffirm this point. Each installment (or chapter) ends in a fashion similar to this: “But, now I was frightened again, and ran home without stopping,” (13; Ch. 1) which is a clear cliffhanger that is then answered in the following chapter(s). This is a recurring theme that is omnipresent in the novel, as stated by Markley. He demonstrates that the characters are required to remain memorable so they are not forgotten between installments. This is evident in a character like Miss Havisham who is eclectic, only wears her old wedding dress, and says memorable things such as, “Love her, love her, love her! If she favors you, love her. If she wounds you, love her...
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...the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential…these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence” (Confucius). These extrinsic expectations of society imprint on the mind, justifying intrinsic obsessions. The consequentialism and deontological views apparent in the Victorian and Jazz age dictate the individual’s actions within the given society, often transpiring to intrinsic expectations. Ethical and moral justification emerges in ones actions often leading to infatuation and obsession in order to achieve society’s expectations. This is predominantly exposed within the texts “The Great Gatsby” by Fitzgerald and “Sonnets from the Portuguese” by Barret Browning. Within the Victorian era individuals were bound by strict moral code. This impacted the way literature was written evident in Barret Browning’s poems. Deontological ethics bound Barrett to write in a sense of selflessness which included concepts of moral absolutism. Barrett also adapted concepts of preference utilitarianism in her relationship with Robert. Sonnet 22 “What bitter wrong, Can the earth do to us, that we should not long, Be here contented?” The rhetorical question emphasizes Barrett’s contentment with Robert whose relationship fits in her view of a utilitarian world. In this way Browning meets society’s expectations and succeeds in her role as a woman. Comparatively within the Jazz age moral code was loosened to the point where previous norms were set aside as mores and...
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...Getting married is one of many important stages in life. There are two types of marriage in the world nowadays: love marriages and arranged marriages. So, which one of them is more likely to last? Even though people prefer love marriages because they want to make their own choices, it has been proven that an arranged marriage is more likely to last because of several reasons. The first reason that make arranged marriages last longer is the families’ experience in the process of choosing the right partner for their children. The parents have been living long enough and have gained a lot of experience. Together, with their love and their knowledge, the parents can realize their children’s weaknesses and strengths and also their needs and wishes....
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...1. With the emphasis on Dickens’ Great Expectations and with wider reference to Kincaid’s Lucy, compare and contrast the writer’s intentions and achievements arising from their presentation of women. Throughout ‘Great expectations’ by Charles Dickens and Jamaica Kincaid’s ‘Lucy’, both authors seem to present women intentionally to relate to the idea of patriarchy (a system or society governed by men) and how independence or obedience links to their social class’s expectations. Dickens does this by upholding the Victorian ideology of gender, which in ‘Great Expectations’ addressed women as either an angel in the house- the ideal wife, obedient, devoted and submissive to their husband or alternatively, the whore. Independent with the desire for more power than their social class expectations allows, very anti-men. Being an angel in the house was expected of all women in the Victorian era, they had a limited amount of power, enough to be the ideal wife who would be generally rewarded, represented by Biddy. However those women whom abused their power and went against all expectations of social class, the whores, were physically punished by Dickens but given a chance of redemption, evidence of this is shown by Estella and Miss Havisham. Kincaid follows the same idea as Dickens to a certain degree in ‘Lucy’. She focuses on the character of Lucy and her journey to independence, constantly trying to prove her power to break free from her homeland and mother, she manages to achieve...
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...In literature, we often see a character sacrifice or forfeit something significant to them because of their beliefs. The Awakening showcases the character of Robert Lebrun; a young man who sacrifices his love for a woman named Edna. Robert’s sacrifice of Edna’s love because she doesn’t fit his domestic expectations supports the meaning of the novel as a whole, which is the struggle of an individual against societal and domestic expectations. Towards the beginning of the novel, we see that Robert starts to develop feelings for Edna during their stay at Grand Isle. These feelings, however, as it is later revealed by Ms. Reiz, scare Robert because he has never felt anything like them before. Because of this fear, he ‘flees’ to Mexico, while...
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...In Great Expectations, Pip gets his life ruined by chasing after Estella, and in the original ending never got with her, and somewhat moved on with his life. However, in the alternate, romanticized ending, there is a possibility of Pip and Estella ending up together. Critic Martin Prince agrees with this second ending, because Pip matured and sees Estella as she really is, so they can get back together. However, this book is meant to be a coming-of-age tale, and therefore teach real life lessons. The alternate, “happy” ending of this book severely conflicts with the lesson this book is trying to teach. This ending is the equivalent of the witch in Hansel and Gretel giving them pots of gold and letting them go, or the wolf in Little Red Riding Hood throwing a surprise party for Little Red Riding Hood…..meaning that the ending doesn’t fit in the context of the story. And here are three reasons why the Disney ending of this story is completely wrong. The entire purpose of this story is to teach lessons to future generations about how it’s on the inside that counts, and that some things are just not meant to be. In Great Expectations, Pip loves Estella starting in childhood, and becomes a “gentleman” to try to please her. During this time he is so blinded by his stubborn love that he annihilates everybody who cares for him. Towards the end of story he realizes this, repairs his connections with his friends, and goes with Herbert to Egypt. Later, he then goes back to England, and...
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...Ricardo Souto Pd.2 In the movie Bend It Like Beckham Jules loves playing soccer and dreams of one day being as good as Beckham. But there are challenges that are holding her from reaching her dream Jules dreams are more important than her culture. Firstly, Jules's dreams are more important than her culture, as they are who she is as a person. Jules does not want to be the traditional Indian girl that her parents want her to be, as her dreams are so much more open than that. Instead, Jess enters a territory that Indian girls usually never do: the soccer world. Its not everyday that you see a girl in an Indian dress, playing soccer, however, Jules's passion and drive was so strong that she bent all of the rules to play the beautiful game.It might sound surprising but it was her parents that were holding her back. Her parents never liked her playing soccer and the only thing she loved to do was to play soccer. Shes not like her sister were as she likes fashion and gossip.Which created the problem.Jules all her life has loved soccer and wants to play in the Pro league and be as good as Beckham. On the other side her mom doesn't want her playing because it interferes with her culture. The media has a great impact on people’s lives as it can be seen almost anywhere you go, it therefore influences the decisions you make to some degree. The media today can publicize humanly figures into something they are not. It also has the power to create many ideas from a key topic weather it been...
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...The Power of Expectations and Recognition The Power of Expectations and Recognition The application of expectancy and recognition has multiple considerations that must be included for measuring the effectiveness of either. The expectation of others or self for a specific outcome is what motivates people to stay and operate on a path that may or may not hold promise. Recognition of accomplishments by others or by self is what motivates a person to do better on the path that they have chosen. Leaders and managers at all levels must not only set clear and concise expectations but also ensure recognition is given when interacting with staff. In setting clear expectations, staff knows what is expected of them. In the process of setting expectations, the leader establishes guidelines for which to follow. One way to demoralize employees is by failing to tell them what they are accountable for, how (and whether) they are meeting expectations, how they can improve, and the consequences if they do or don’t. Just as setting expectations are important, not providing recognition to employees can be just as bad as failing to set clear expectations from the beginning. Providing recognition builds morale and ensures the employee feels as a sense of accomplishment. Expectations As a leader sets objectives for subordinates while expressing confidence that the objective can be reached, an expectation is established. Victor Vroom’s Expectancy Theory has been the example of how expectancy...
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...are blooming and the children are playing, The fathers are gathered together talking about crops and harvest with their wives close by their side. In “The Rocking Horse Winner” the mother is married into money that soon diminished. There is never enough money to satisfy the debt in the household. Surely these things are possible. Her son Paul longed to have her love at any cost. Once his mother told him his father wasn’t lucky, he set out on a quest to win her love through luck. The lack of love, affection and attention can happen in a household stressed by debt. The symbol used in both stories is a human sacrifice. In “The Lottery” the entire town desires to sacrifice a human life in hopes to be blessed with an abundance of crops. In “The Rocking Horse Winner” sacrifice is the sons own life. His needed to gain his mother’s love through luck. He rides his rocking horse daily in hopes to acquire a winning name. Unfortunately, he has a fatal fall, acquiring a blow to the head that leaves him unconscious and ultimately dead. He sacrificed his sanity and his life to gain his mother’s love. The expectations in both stories are the opposite of what actually occurs. The reader is lead to believe that there will be a great monetary winning at the end of each story. In “The...
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...child as a whole. Teachers help children learn their place in the world and how to interact in social environments. They have high expectations for their students because they know that Christ created them. Faith influences a teacher’s character; therefore, the teachers show love, joy, and integrity in their work. In this article the author gives a few accounts of teachers that were called to serve in different geographical locations and in different situations. In each situation they served their students with joy and love, furthermore, sharing their faith through actions. I agree with the author’s stance on respecting the legal and ethical boundaries when it comes to religion and public schools. There are many different cultures and beliefs in our schools. Therefore, families trust that teachers will not teach or thrust a set of beliefs they deem as the correct beliefs on their children (Eckert, 2014, p. 21). There are many ways I can show the Gospel of Christ’s love through myself without ever having to argue or preach to someone. One way is to practice godly character by being, honest, sincere, and remaining humble. Another way to show Christ’s love is through actions of love, grace, and joy. When God called me into teaching he gave me a passion and desire to spend my life doing this type of work. The desire gives me a since of joy and love for my work and my students. According to Jonathan Eckert, “A teacher’s faith does not call him or her to intolerance; instead, the...
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...Love comes with plenty obstacles, however this plays love led to death. William Shakespeare authorized the play, “Romeo and Juliet.” Romeo and Juliet are the two main who were deeply in love with each other. This play is about how the deaths of Romeo and Juliet came to be. These two characters had to go through a lot to be together, because of the rivalry the two families had. The Capulets are the ones to blame for the deaths of Romeo and Juliet because they stressed Juliet to get married, Tybalt started a brawl with the Montagues, and they expected Juliet to live up to societal expectations. To begin with, Juliet’s parents stressed her to get married at the age of 13. Lady Capulet told Juliet to get married to Paris, but that wasn’t what Juliet wanted. Lord Capulet threatened Juliet is she didn’t get married to Paris. Document D stated, “Get thee to church o’ Thursday, or never look me in the face.” If lord Capulet would’ve never threatened Juliet to get married, she would’ve never gotten so angry and left to get a potion from Friar Lawrence. If lady and lord Capulet never stressed Juliet to get married on Thursday, a lot could’ve been prevented. Juliet only wanted more time to get married, but they wouldn’t even give that to her....
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...Romance and marriage * the stereotypes and expectations of what a gentleman should be * the stereotypes and expectations of a victorian lady Sir Robert Chiltern’s image of the perfect gentleman past of how he attained his wealth relating to the theme of political corruption. Sir Robert Chiltern is considered as an ideal husband and model politician. However people don't know that he conceals a blemished past of how he took the advice of his mentor, Baron Arnheim, and sold state secrets to attain his wealth. This makes the following quotes: “English Gentleman” “Robert is incapable of doing a foolish thing as he is of doing the wrong thing” - (dramatic irony) …very ironic as he may seem like the perfect gentleman and incapable of doing wrong or foolish things but in fact what is done is the total opposite of what is said as he did do all the things stated that he would never be capable of doing and is not what he seems to be. Sir Robert now conceals his past in order to keep his wife’s, lady Chiltern, love. Lady Chiltern's love is based on his perfect image. He then becomes desperate to be something he is not, making him torn between true and ideal selves, which creates a lot of the irony regarding the stereotypes of victorian gentleman in the play. She delivers a speech to Sir Robert that introduces the idea of the "ideal husband”. As the embodiment of the victorian woman, Lady Chiltern loves in the worship of an ideal mate, a mate who serves...
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