Can a Girl Ever Ask a Guy Out?

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A Guy Explains: Can a Girl Ever Ask a Guy Out?
By Scott Christian September 19, 2014
There is one question I get asked probably more than any other by my female friends: Can a woman ever ask a man out? And while the question maybe isn’t a rhetorical one, it’s rare that the asker doesn’t already know the answer. It’s really more of a test of the current cultural barometer than anything else, and the best I can offer on this one is—short answer, no, long answer, no but…

Now, I’m certainly aware of how frustrating this reality can be, especially when a guy you like just isn’t doing any asking. And I don't necessarily agree with it and happen to really respect women who take the initiative. But if you want to know what the majority of guys out there think, then yes—it's better to let him as you out.
If the roles were reversed and it was up to us as a gender to charm you into asking us out, let’s just say that the human race would have petered out a couple of thousand years ago. Yes, we are scared. And we sometimes fail to act, even when we want to. But the issue remains problem that when a girl asks a guy out, more often than not for the guy it just feels weird. Don't shoot the messenger!
Success is not impossible—there are certainly some guys out there who would love it if a woman asked them to go on a date—but the reality is that, at best, you’re maybe looking at a 50 percent success rate. If you're still game to try it, here are four examples of how the whole thing can go down, based on what I've seen over and over again:

Situation 1: The Cold Ask to a Total Stranger
Back during my youthful days as the world’s worst waiter, I once had a woman at one of my tables ask me out. Specifically she asked me if I wanted to go to a dance party with her later that night, a request that I politely but immediately declined. It turned out to be a prescient move; later…...

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