...------------------------------------------------- The effects of divorce on your child’s classroom behavior Christian Johnson Abstract For children, divorce can be stressful sad and confusing. As a parent you can make the process and its effects less painful for your child’s stability. References: * Growing up Great: Understanding Children's Reactions to Divorce * University of New Hampshire Cooperative Extension: The Effects of Divorce on Children * Plainview-Old Bethpage Congress of Teachers: Children and Divorce * Family Facts: How Home Shapes Children's School Experience effects of divorce on your child’s classroom behavior will vary based on the climate in your household during the divorce, your child’s disposition and their ability to handle change., “the most important factor for children’s well-being seems to be limiting the amount and intensity of conflict between parents.” In short, you can minimize such disturbances by limiting your child’s exposure to negative dynamics. I will explain four main categories such as: Depression a California child therapist Lori Rappaport, explains that depression is common among children whose parents are divorcing or who have recently divorced. Your child’s depression might present in the classroom through tearfulness and being sad and withdrawn. Likewise, a child who was once talkative in class might become withdrawn and quiet and have difficulty coping with any academic pressures or challenges...
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..., Social Problems Ella Cooke November 16, 2014 Prof: Cynthia Palmer Divorce I think a children growing up we all have that fantasy that we are going to meet our prince charming, live in a big house with a picket fence, and have maids and butlers to wait on us hand and foot. Now, I am not saying that some of these fantasies do not come true for some, but for the majority they are just fantasies. Do people really know what they are getting into when they repeat that two letter word “I do”? Do not get the impression that getting married is a bad idea, because there are couples I know today that are still going strong after 60 plus years. Marriage is a huge commitment that should be taken seriously, and you have to work together as a team. Divorce happens more often times than not and it can take a serious toll on everyone in the family especially the kids. I chose the social problem of divorce for two reasons, one of them is because I have been through it twice myself, and the other is we have a high divorce rate in this nation. I married my first husband when I was 17, and straight out of high school. We had 3 beautiful children at which time he became very controlling and verbally abusive so we divorced in 2006. Well, I turned right around and got remarried in May 2006, the very year I was divorced from the first one. Well, long story short, we are separated and are drawing up divorce papers so I have quite of bit of experience with this social problem. People ask...
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...In today’s society, divorce rates are at an all time high. For every one thousand people that get married, thirty-four people end up in divorce (Billota, 2010). People get so caught up in the divorce itself, and how two individuals are breaking the vows they made to each other; they neglect the affect that the separation has on the rest of their families. The children are innocent victims when it comes to divorce. Children have no so-say in what happens in their households; yet, how children feel and deal with the divorce goes a long way. With the proper outlets, children of broken homes can maintain regular social skills without the distraction of what’s going on in their homes wavering their behavior. So, the big idea is to have the children of divorced parents be required to attend a program that would help them in dealing with the divorce. The purpose of the program is to allow the children to have a safe place to be, while at the same time, be able to get away from the tension in their homes. While in this program, the children are encouraged to express their feelings freely, without worrying about their parents feelings. This program will be an escape route to make the children feel at ease. It is important that the children comprehend that they are not responsible for their parents’ divorce. The children will be required to attend this program for an initial six months. During this time, psychiatrist will be evaluating the children’s behavior, in an attempt to figure...
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...children “Broken” Homes: The Effect of Divorce on Children Going through a divorce is a very difficult situation to be in. Usually it is what is happening between the parents, that concerns most people. However hurtful divorce is on the couple that is going through it, the children end up with the greatest amount of problems. These problems that the children develop are not always obvious, and do no always come to the surface right away. “Most often the children responded to the announcement [of the divorce] with apprehensiveness or anger . . . Several children panicked . . . finally, a great many of the younger children, about one-third of the entire group, didn’t really believe what they had been told. For these youngsters, the single announcement by the parents made it easier for them to pretend that the divorce would soon go away and to postpone their own response to the frightening changes in their lives” (Wallerstein 40-41). Children often try to stop the divorce of their parents, but there are many who seem to accept it at first. These who seem to accept it may even tell their parents that they are happy about the divorce. This is not necessarily the case, as one would see if he or she spoke with the child for a while. There are many things that divorce does to a family, and there are many things that is does to the child. These effects are rarely positive, or helpful depending upon the family’s prior situation. Divorce has many negative effects on the psychological...
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...Research Paper: The Impact of Divorce on Children Jimmy Trolinger Liberty University On-Line Author Note Jimmy Trolinger, Psychology Student at Liberty University Prepared for Professor Jennifer Kennedy Psychology 210 D-12 Liberty University Abstract Divorce causes many problems for children and has many implications. Psychological implications include mental health problems and behavioral problems. Social roles are turned inside out and upside down. Children are often pulled in many directions. In the United States divorce is very common and often leaves children confused and without options. Many turn toward violence, crime, drugs, and isolation. Studies show how adults can reduce the tension for these children. Other studies show how we can help guide them through religious implications as well as legal problems. Parents and caregivers need to be able to identify and know how to help children with their psychological, social, religious, and legal issues in this critical and chaotic period of the child’s life. How Divorce Affects Our Children Researchers have done many research projects and studies on how divorce can affect children. Many problems can develop in a child during and following a divorce as well as the period of pre-divorce. Some of the problems that a child can have before during and after a divorce are mental health, behavioral, social, and religious problems. Psychologists, councilors, teachers, and parents...
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...Half of all American children will witness the breakup of a parent’s marriage. Of these, close to half will also see the breakup of a parent’s second marriage, and forty percent of children growing up in America today are being raised without their fathers. You may not believe this but for some kids divorce has more of an impact on children than death. Parents are going through divorces when children are too young to even understand what is going on, what will these kids be thinking when they're sixteen, and they do not have a dad. Children get affected by so many things at a young age, but what people don’t understand, is that children are smarter than you think. Diane McSweeney, a marriage, family, and child counselor for the San Diego Unified...
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... How a Divorce Changed Lives Forever When a man and woman speak these words on their wedding day, with this ring I wed thee, for better or worse, for richer or poorer, for sick and in health until death due us part, is the day their lives begin and they embark upon an unbreakable union. A union that some people take for granted because they begin to feel that something is not right within the marriage. That is where the word “Divorce” begin to enter their thoughts. Assuming that is the easiest way out of the marriage, which turns out to be the hardest way. The process of divorce happened to me twice with my parents and my marriage. My parents got a divorce when I was at the age of twelve. I got a divorce about three years ago. At the time when my parents were going through a divorce did not I think it would affect me? However, I was wrong. I didn't realize the long lasting impact of divorce until I went through my own. Now, that I am older and wiser I find myself still dealing with the affects from my parent’s divorce and my own. I feel remorseful for my children because they will have to deal with the same emotions I had. My family consists of four children, which today is considered a large family. My parents were married for fourteen years before they decided that getting a divorce was the only solution to fix their issues. Out of my siblings, I felt I suffered the most emotional...
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...Effects of Divorce on Kids Molly Rudkin Sociology 1113 Sec. 16 Years ago in the 1950s divorces were frowned upon. Very rarely did people hear about a couple getting a divorced. Many people considered divorce as a mark of personal failure. As years have gone by and society has changed in many different ways, divorce has become socially accepted in today’s society. Divorce is no longer considered a taboo. With divorce, different people are affected by it. Obviously the family members are the ones affected the most by this decision. But one group of family members that will always be affected, especially in the long run, are the kids. There are many causes of divorce today. There’s the fact that individualism is increasing and becoming a trend. Many people are so use to being on their own that when they have someone else in their lives that they also have to take care of, they’re not use to the adjustment (Society the Basics, pg. 386). Especially with the rise of independence women now have in today’s society, they no longer need a man to depend on. Women are more independent and are now able to support themselves. With the rise of women independency, divorces are now happening due to this. Some men aren’t use to being married to a dominant woman. Divorces involving children usually affect the child more than most people think. The kids are always at crossroads when it comes to making decisions involving parents. They feel like they are torn in two. “By not taking sides...
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...Impact of Divorce on Children Today in society, it is not unusual for a kid to know a friend whose parents are divorced or currently going through the process. It is more and more common for couples these days to separate after years of marriage than it was back in the day. Many adults, however, do not realize the consequences that can come from this when their kids are involved. Dealing with their parents' divorce is not easy for some and can highly affect the way a kid performs in school. Such a huge change in their life can cause health problems that can be life threatening and dangerous. The whole situation is extremely stressing and it leads to the use of drug abuse sometimes in order to find peace. These problems arise when a kid does not know how to deal with the divorce or are having a hard time with it because their parents are also having a difficult time. Parents should make sure they do everything in their power to make sure the divorce process goes easy and smooth and unpainful for everyone, especially the kids; they tend to suffer more out of everyone and can be severely affected by it if the situation isn not handled well by both parents. Dealing with change has a different effect on people. Some take it well, while some simply cannot deal with it. Children are known not to handle change very well, especially when it does not go the way they wanted it to. When dealing with their parent's separation, they tend to go through a bunch of emotions. Some may even...
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...Pros and cons of divorce Pros and Cons: Effects of Divorce on Children “Research shows that about 40 to 50 percent of married couples in the United States divorce, the divorce rate for subsequent marriages are even higher”(Apa.org, 2013). With divorce there comes pros and cons, especially if children are involved, ranging from different ages. Some people do not believe in divorce, and rather just stick it out for the children, but in some cases it is better to divorce then to stay together. Pros of a child having divorced parents is that they don’t have to hear arguments between the parents or if abusive is going on they won’t see it, they can spend more individual time with each parent, and they will feel less tension in their household. As for cons for divorce, there are plenty when children are involved. Some children may think they are the reason for the divorce, children feel like they have to choose between parents, can cause them to have issues when they get older, and the parents start dating someone new, which means the child would have to get used and adapt to that person. Whenever a child lives in a house with parents who constantly argue or are abusive to each other, it may cause stress and bring much fear to the child. Any child who sees hears or witnesses abusive, it is possible that they can pick it up. Therefore, the parents should take themselves and the child out of a situation like that, and it will take the fear and...
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...Divorce affects children of every ethnic background, religion, and socioeconomic status. Approximately 50% of all first marriages will end in divorce, with over 1 million children being affected per year (Ahrons, 2007). Chaos and stress, probably feelings that have been prevalent for some time prior to divorce, result and impact the now divided family unit. Children are particularly vulnerable to the affects of divorce. Unable to understand and process such complex matters of life, children resort to alternative ways of expressing their heartache and confusion. Not only is there an emotional impact on these children’s lives but there is also a psychological impact with these children dealing with the effects of relocation. Children are forced to become independent and moral thinkers at such a young age which they might not be mentally prepared for which can result in future consequences. A major contributor to the well being of children after a divorce are the parents who need to remain attentive to their children’s needs and stay active participants in their growing years. This outlines the systems theory which describes how the family needs to work out strategies to deal with new challenges at each stage of life. In order for children to recover a stable perspective of the family after a divorce, the parents must take into consideration the emotional stability of their children, the effects of relocation and possible child coping strategies to help this difficult process...
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...In 2011 the divorce rate in Maryland 2.9 per 1,000 total populations residing in the area. The divorce rate throughout the whole United States in 2010 was 3.6 per 1,000 total populations. (Marriage and Divorce) The rate that people are getting divorced is an increasing number by weeks to months to years. The little to no thought that gets put into people getting married, but do not realize the negative outcomes divorce has on a single person. “20 to 25 percent of children do show signs that they are not dealing well with this change in the relationship between their mothers and fathers, and some of the problems they develop may continue into adult life.” (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services) Divorce for children can be a confusing and sensitive topic to live through or talk about, it can be frightening, life changing, and unpredictable. Divorce has a negative affect on children they drop out of school, abuse substances, behave in sexual acts, relationships with their parents decline, and social classes might be affected. The first divorce in America was on January 5, 1643. “In the first record of a legal divorce in the American colonies, Anne Clarke of the Massachusetts Bay Colony is granted a divorce from her absent and adulterous husband, Denis Clarke, by the Quarter Court of Boston, Massachusetts. In a signed and sealed affidavit presented to John Winthrop Jr., the son of the colony's founder, Denis Clarke admitted to abandoning his wife, with whom he had two children...
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...Ben Gray THEO 202-D27 Marriage Marriage is a holy covenant before God. On the other hand divorce is something today that is looked at by many people and even some in the church as acceptable. In today’s day and age there are people splitting their marriages and getting divorces left and right for all different kinds of reasons. My friends, Tom and Jane Wolf, who I have known for many years have been married for what is going on five years now, and they are running into many issues in their marriage that could possibly lead them down this road, of divorce. Tom and Jane have been going to the same church as me for quite some time, and they know that I am studying to become a Pastor so they have asked me for advice and wisdom from God’s Word on the topic of a Godly marriage and what the Bible says about divorce. I have been encouraging Tom and Jane to work through these struggles, and to hold fast to the Word of God in this time of doubt and uncertainty. In Genesis 2:24 we see the first mention of marriage. “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh” God designed for marriage to be between a man and a woman who love one another and become one through their commitment to Him and to each other. In Elwell’s book he states, “Marriage is an exclusive relationship. The total unity of persons-physically, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually, -comprehended by the concept, “one flesh.”’ Marriage is to...
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...Executive Summary - Divorce Group 1 Statistics and History - Anteous Lewis 1 Types of Divorce - Christopher Leto 3 Conflicts and Negotiations - Spencer Griffin 6 Third Party Negotiation - Tiquoia Francis 7 Effects and Influences on Family Life - Joshua Norman 8 Works Cited 11 Statistics & History - Not surprisingly, divorce rates have only increased over time. There are a variety of factors that contribute to this, including general attitudes towards divorce and marriage in society. While statistics reveal a steady increase in divorce rates, it wasn't until the 70s that divorce became statistically prevalent. According to the CDC's report 100 Years of Divorce and Marriage Statistics, divorce rates went from less than 3% to almost 7% from the late 1800s to the late 1960s. There were a variety of factors that influenced divorce rates. The statistics below show the percentage of divorces that occurred out of the total number of marriages for a given year. Prior to 1867, divorce statistics were not recorded. While there certainly was a stigma attached to divorcing a spouse in the 1800s, divorce still happened on occasion. One factor that influenced divorce statistics at this time was the fact that women, outside of marriage, had very few economic opportunities. While the trend thus far in history had been for the divorce rate to increase, this isn't quite the case with the 30s. Due to the depression in the 20s, many couples stayed together...
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...Divorce Why so many couples are getting divorced? This is difficult to answer. There are many reasons, known and unknown. Divorce rates have gone up between 1977 and 1983. It seems that almost every married couple is considering a divorce. The change in divorce laws allow married people to walk away from it much more easily. Before, the divorce process was very involved, time consuming and expensive. Today, filing for divorce means doing the paper work, file it and after a month or so the marriage has been ended by the court. A person wanting a divorce simply downloads the divorce documents from the internet, fills them in and files them at the court. In the past divorce laws were far more demanding and getting divorced was much harder to do. New divorce types and more relaxed, divorce laws make divorce a piece of cake. "No fault" divorce means that you do not have to explain why you want to divorce. You don't have to prove anything about your partners’ misbehavior or adultery. Divorce has become accepted in todays society. Families do not feel the social disapproval of a divorce. They new society and system will support them when they need. I had the opportunity to speak with a close family friend who has gone through the pains of divorce. The story he told was still fresh in his mind so the story was very detailed that I actually recorded the interview (with permission of course) in order to not miss a single detail so the full emotion could be captured. My friend starts...
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