...How children should be raised Our upbringing has a critical importance for us. It makes us who we are and has a great influence on our way of living. Today, most parents try to raise their children to become as perfect as can be. Kids are forced into education and have become victims of insecurity because of the major pressure the civilization puts on their shoulders. These methods of raising children have caused great debate. 1. In text 1, Sophia Chua-Rubenfeld tells about how it was being raised by her mother Amy Chua. Her Chinese mother has recently received a lot of critic on her new book, Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, which is described as “how Chinese parents raise such stereotypically successful kids” (p. 2, l. 4). Though most people have criticized her mother’s raising technique, Sophia Chua thanks her mother for pushing her to do that extra limit. She says her mother’s “tough love” parenting methods actually has raised her to be an independent thinker who has lived her whole life at 110 percent. Mother and writer Amy Chua has surely used strict parenting, not letting her kids attend to a sleepover or even having a playdate, making her playing violin and piano in her sparetime. Sophia Chua uses an example of how her mother and dad pushed her to learn something new in a school-assignment by not letting her interview her grandparents, which would have been the easy way out, but instead pushing her to interview a terrifying Israeli paratrooper. All in all, Amy Chua used...
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...How should children be raised? 1. Give an account of child raising principles as presented in the three texts. Sophia Chua-Rubenfeld, “Why I love my strict Chinese mom”, a newspaper report by Mandy Stadtmiller from The New York post website, 2011. 18-year old Sophia Chua-Rubenfeld says that she loves the tough parenting methods her mother used and thanks. Sophia has now become an independent thinker who makes the most of new opportunities. Tiger mother principle(s): The tiger mother method is the most strict way to raise your child, according the Western. The technique of being a tiger mother, was firstly presented in a book “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother” written by Amy Chua, were she describes how Chinese parents are better at raising kids than Western ones. “Chinese Tiger Mother” method has some incredibly strict principles. Here are some things taken out of the book. Sophia and Louisa were never able to do these listed things. - Attend a sleepover; - Have a play date; - Be in a school play; - Complain about not being in a school play; - Watch TV or play computer games; - Choose their own extracurricular activities; - Get any grade less than' an A; - Not be the No. I student in every subject except gym and drama; - Play any instrument other than the piano or violin; - Not play the piano or to violin Discussion: I think that the importance of child raising is very essential. It is extremely vital to help your child to secure her/him a high-quality...
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...A. How Children should be raised. Nowadays, the whole theme concerning childrearing has been thoroughly discussed in almost all societies around the world. Are parents trying too hard to make the perfect kid? Parents always want what is best for their child and the different methods used by parents to achieve “what is best” has sparked the discussion about the upbringing of children. The three texts presented in this task each have a different opinion regarding childrearing. 1. The first text “Why I love my strict Chinese mother” is a comment from an 18-year-old girl who has been raised under strict parenting. Her mother has been intensely criticized for her way of bringing up her children. However the daughter, who also wrote the comment, does not express unhappiness with the way she was raised. She actually praises it. The girl named Sophia was together with her younger sister raised under strict circumstances where the parents set up rules that the children must follow. These rules included, never to attend a sleepover or play date, watch TV or play computer games, must be the No. 1 student etc. Rules that for some may seem inhumane but rules that Sophia thinks made her the independent woman she is. As she mentions in her comment: “I think your strict parenting forced me to be more independent”. Whenever her parents knew she did her best, she was acknowledged. With the strict parenting she comments on how that has made her never take the easy way out and fully make...
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...alarming rate of children in need of homes in the United States. This year 423,773 children are in foster care awaiting homes (Child Welfare Information Gateway 2011). With a number so high, why are we discriminating against same-sex couples adopting? Homosexuals are regular people like everyone else. They have dreams of having families and raising children just like everyone else. They shouldn’t be labeled unfit parents due to their sexual orientation. Love, trust and understanding are what families are made of. I stand up for what I believe in, and I believe that if a homosexual couple can provide a loving, nurturing, and safe environment for a child then they should be deemed worthy of parenting and allowed to adopt! Controversy exists as to whether same-sex couples should be allowed to adopt and many reasons are given. Some of these are that the child will turn gay; gay and lesbian relationships don’t last; and children who live with same-sex parents suffer more emotionally and mentally than children who live with heterosexual parents. Living in a homosexual environment does not make children become homosexuals. Homosexuality is a natural occurrence, not one that is learned. Studies have found that children raised in same-sex homes are no more likely to turn homosexual than a child raised in a heterosexual household. Yes, there have been children who live with and have been raised by homosexuals that have said they are gay or lesbian. However, there are children who are gay...
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...There are many children without homes, why not allow homosexual parents to welcome these children into a nurturing environment. A loving and supportive family is a detrimental ingredient needed to provide good parenting to orphaned children. Research suggests that gender identity, or sexual orientation does not affect a person’s ability to parent. UCLA conducted a study that compared children who were adopted out of foster care by homosexual couples, and heterosexual couples, and tracked their progress over time. The researchers followed 82 children, 22 of these children were adopted by homosexual parents at the average age of 4. Children in all three types of households benefited from adoption. On average, they made significant gains in cognitive development, their IQ scores increased by an average of 10 points, and they maintained stable levels of behavior problems. This study proves there is no scientific basis to discriminate against gay and lesbian parents (UCLA Study Finds That Gay And Lesbian Foster-Adopt Parents Are As Effective As Their Heterosexual Counterparts, 2012). Over 100,000 foster children in the U.S. are in need of homes. A potential 2 million homosexual couples are interested in adopting (Gates, 2007). There is a shortage of adoptive parents and an abundance of children in need of homes. The family, whether gay or straight, is better than the foster-care system. These orphaned children should not be denied the benefits gained by being raised by a loving and...
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...Sociology of Family Gay Adoption: Race, Identity and Family Millions of children in this country are eagerly waiting to be adopted by loving parent/parents who will care and provide for them. Studies have shown that the role of race and identity in transracial adoption with the added pressure of being raised by gay parents affects children who are part of it. Some believe that these children are receiving a home that many dream of and others believe that these children are being deprived of their heritage and identity. Should children’s heritage and identities be taking into consideration when they adopted? Studies have proven that adoptive parents should be accepting of their children’s heritage and should alter their lifestyle to accommodate their children’s lives. Many children in the system are looking for a second chance for a better life. Adoption is a second chance at this better life, but with this second opportunity it can pose some challenges. Child adoption is complicated and complex situation in a whole, especially when it comes to race. When you mix a transracial adoption and a gay adoption into one household, you get a family with many questions and concerns. In the documentary, “Off and Running,” we see a coming-of-age story about a young teen named Avery Klein-Cloud who is an African-American girl adopted by white Jewish lesbians. She is one third of an adoptive set of children. Her older brother is a black and Puerto Rican boy and her younger brother is...
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...How Divorce Impacts Children Under the Age of 18 F. Jeanpierre Psychology Abstract In this research you will see how divorce impacts children under the age of 18. The effects are not universal. Divorce affects children differently based on their age, personality and sexuality. Divorce affects children both mentally and physically. In this research, you will see how divorce can impact children immediately as well as post divorce. I will start with infants, preschool age children, school-aged and then adolescents. Then you will see how divorce affects children spiritually. Furthermore, you will see how the affect of divorce varies based on the child's gender. Finally, in this research paper, you will see ways to help a child adjust after divorce. Infants The first age group is infants. Not too much is known on the affects of divorce for children under the age of 3. Some have speculated that children under the age of 3 does not always suffer from their parents divorced. Thus, sociologist and psychologist agreed that problems in personality can developed if the child had a strong bond between the parents and those bonds are broken due to the divorce. Professionals highly encourage parents to make arrangements so the potential, full affect of the divorce won’t impact the child as much. The conflict of divorce may not be understood by infants, but they can react to changes in the parent’s level of energy and involvement. Infants can lose their appetite, have an upset...
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...are one of the primary reasons for people to oppose the idea of gay marriage and ideas of homosexuality being natural in general. In addition, strong ties between Religious institutions and governments create an environment where it is hard for members of the LGBT community to get the same legal standing as their heterosexual counterparts. In many countries homosexuality and acts of homosexuality are considered crimes. In some countries, like Iran and Saudi Arabia, being gay is punishable by death (Foreign Policy). People have the right to marry the man or woman they love and have a family with them. Unfortunately, this is a right that is reserved for heterosexual couples, mostly because of religious mentalities and traditions. Governments should legalize same sex marriage and adoption, because the opposition to the LGBT equality movement is based on outdated mentalities and empty arguments. One of the impediments for the legalization of gay marriage in the world is the existence of religious institutions. Religion has had a strong influence in the development of countries and the world as a whole. Most countries were and still are tied to different religions. Christianity is...
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...child as if they were heterosexual. There are many levels of argument to this topic to be addressed. Some believe that gay adoption should be legalized nation-wide, while others believe it should be banned everywhere. There are some strong opinions as to why this group of individuals should be able to adopt, but these reasons should not be enough to give this option to the gay community. The main issue raised is “What is best for the child”? Should the love of two parents outweigh the gender of the parents? The clear answer is no. Homosexual couples should not be allowed to adopt because of the importance of gender roles, protecting the traditional family outline and harm done to children in homosexual families. Gender roles are a very important part of a child's development process. Those who have same sex parents will have a hard time distinguishing appropriate gender roles in the absence of male and female role-models. Two parents that are different genders have shown to be more beneficial to the growth and development of the child. A study that has been described by the Fatherhood Association is that men and women are built differently. The fact of the matter is that men offer something to LeGore 2 children that women can't, and vice versa (Fatherhood Association, 2007). There has to be a balance in order for children to fully discover who they are and the...
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...Section A 1. Give an account of childraising as presented in the three texts Text 1 Sophia Chau-Rubenfeld tells her story of how her mothers ”tough love” parenting methods raised her into a strong and independent girl who can make her own decisions. 18-year-old Chau-Rubenfeld thinks her rearing was good, and decided to write an official essay back to her mother, where she tells about how good it is to be raised by a so called tiger mom. She admits that her mum was very strict but that is only something she is very happy for to this very day. Text 2 "Let them eat pizza: Parenting guru's recipe for bringing up children" by Sdr. Bryan Caplan tells us a whole different point of view on the raising of children. Caplan claims, that children should be able to do whatever they want. He thinks that parents are trying too hard to raise their kids into succesfull adults. Text 3 In the ”Summerhill a radical approach to child rearing" by A.S. Neill is a General Policy Statement taken from the Summerhill School’s website. Neills opinion is like Dr.Bryan Caplans. He thinks that parents are pushing their children too much and have too high exspectations. He also talks about children’s creativity, which is hard to keep up, when all the other subjects at school fill up all the time. 2. How does A.S. Neill engage the reader in text 3? The General Policy statement is taken from the official website of Summerhill School. So it would be obviously a good thing to say positive things...
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...The Rights of Same-Sex Marriage Erin Collier SOC 120 Brianne Larson July 1, 2013 Same-sex couples who commit to one another and choose to share every aspect of their lives should have all have of the same rights and responsibilities as a hetero-sexual couple. Discrimination, no matter what form it takes, is wrong. Surely we have all been on the receiving end of discrimination at some point in our lives and usually for something out of our control like race, gender religion, age, weight, height or even something as silly as hair color. Why is society so quick to judge people for something beyond their control, like who they fall in love with? Being gay is not a choice, a lifestyle, or a phase – it is just what someone is, and to deny someone the right to share their life and everything that entails with the person they love is simply wrong. My own daughter came out to me when she was a freshman in high school. I cannot deny that I was a little bit sad, even as open minded as I am, but I soon got over it and embraced my child for who she is not what she is. I think my sadness came from the thought of what she will have to endure for the rest of her life, the discrimination, the hate, the ignorance of others. She is now 19 and in the Navy and even though being gay in the military is now allowed does not make it always tolerated by everyone she encounters. Is it ethical to deny a same-sex couple that has been together for 20 years the same rights as a heterosexual...
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...parents that made her wonder about the hypocrisy she has been raised by in the Southern way of life. The incident is that of her mother’s friends finding a white girl at the black part of town. They believed that the girl was kidnapped and ends up living at the Smith’s house for a few weeks. The author quickly becomes friends with this girl-Janie, until her mother tells Lillian that Janie is in fact a black girl and cannot live in their home anymore. Moreover, her mother informs Lillian that she is too young to understand why, and she should not ever ask about this subject again. Hence Lillian now had to explain to Janie that colored children should not live with white children. Both children are left wondering and confused. After recollecting memories from her own Southern childhood, Lillian Smith looks closely into the region’s image of childhood. She talks about the parents’ mentality towards their children and how they are raised. Those parents enforce their children into believing that sexual desires, and all the parts of their bodies that cause these sexual desires, are shameful and should be feared; including their fear for black people. Moreover, to stimulate these fears, the parents introduce the existence of God to enforce the shame and apprehension between the good parts of their bodies and the bad parts; the good types of people and the bad types of people. A more disturbing division is of which children believing that God loves them all, however, he will burn them...
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...in the way that we act masculine, feminine, neither, or both. Gender and sexuality is major component of society and something which can’t be ignored. I was born and raised in country where we follow very strict and conservative norms and values. Brought up in such a country it interests me to see the freedom of sexual orientation being practiced because I have always seen and taught there is only one sexual orientation which is being attracted to other gender. There is certainly no chance or explanation that justices anyone sexual orientation and sexual fascination for same gender. Somewhat being the strictness of our religion and strict teachings we follow from our Holy Book. It is based on a vulgar action that even goes against evolution providing religious ground to state it wrong. • Gay marriage is anti-evolution and completely against nature. • All major religions of the world are opposed to it. • Gay sex is a form of idolatry where people worship each other. The mankind should not be endorsing these actions. • Gay marriage exposes us to even more risqué and improper behavior which does nothing for mankind. • As a future society, we will look back on the witch hunt that was used against religious institutions to support this cause and be filled with shame. It is astonishing yet new to me to see how across the globe people have completely different beliefs and view about the same topic. It’s unconditionally...
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...way of living. Parents today try to raise their children as perfect as they can be. There are many ways of childraising. A lot of different ways also. But there is not a single answer, for the normal or perfect childraising. Parents raise their child or child’s different. The different methods of childraising has cost many debates. In the first text, Sophia Chuba-Rubenfield tells about how it was to be raised by her mother Amy Chau. The text is named: “why I love my strict Chinese mom”. Amy Chau has got a lot of critic because of her book: “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother” which is described as “how Chinese parents raise such stereotypically successful kids” (p. 2, l. 4). Because of the critic to the mom, he daughter has written her side of the story to the post. In the letter, she wrote, she thanks her mother for pushing her to the limit. She says her mother’s “tough love” has raise her to be an independent thinker who has lived her whole live at 110 percent. The “tough love” is visible in some of the rules there was in the raising. Amy Chua has used strict parenting, not letting her kids attend to a sleepover or even having a playdate, making her playing violin and piano in her sparetime. According to Sophia, she is thankful of the way her mom has raised her. In the second text: “Let them eat pizza: Parenting guru’s recipe for bringing up children.” Do we hear about parenting guru Dr. Bryan Caplan claims that children should be allowed to eat pizza and watch more television...
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...already taboo, but same sex couples raising children is mostly not considered acceptable by the public because of the misconception that they are not qualified to bring up children in accordance with proper social values. The public is not certain if children will receive proper education about society and behavior to fit in as responsible members. However, several recent movements, such as Feminism and Post-modernism, argue about equal rights for everybody. Feminism is mainly concerned about the equality of men and women in society while Post-modernism is mainly concerned with ending all forms of discrimination in society. Feminism is actually a subdivision of Post-modernism because Post-modernism is against all discriminations while Feminism specializes in pointing out women's rights in the society and the equal status of women and men. Among other things, both ideologies re-evaluate the meaning of love and marriage in modern society. Besides the social movements, several scientific research was made regarding children who grow up in same sex marriages. Children raised in a same sex marriage share the same core values with the society, maybe even higher because they never learned about sexual discrimination in their home, and the only reason why they are restrained is because of the public opinion on these situations. In accordance with scientific research, the American Psychological Association (APA) claims that there are should be no concerns with same sex marriages. It is...
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