...Partner infidelity and the decision to forgive Many long-lasting romantic relationships are constantly threatened by sexual and emotional infidelities. A person that has been betrayed by his or her partner is faced with a difficult decision of whether to forgive or to terminate the relationship. The effect of aspects of infidelity on likelihood of forgiveness or breakup partly depends on sex differences. Both sexes can be devastated by partner’s infidelity. Unpleasant emotions like anger, depression and jealousy are felt by the betrayed partner upon discovering the infidelity (Buss, 2000; Lawson, 1988). A study of 160 cultures found out that infidelity is the most frequent reason for dissolution of relationship ( Betzig, 1989). However, not all couples breakup upon discovering an infidelity. Some forgive their partners and continue with the relationship ( Lawson, 1988). It is important to know the conditions under which betrayal in relationships lead to breakups or forgiveness. However, little empirical work has been done in exploring this critical issue, although some related researches have attempted to explain strategies to deal with jealousy and suspicions of infidelity. For example, Buunk (1981) found out four strategies that couples may use to cope with jealousy such as improving communication and being independent of the partner. White and Mullen (1989) found out that people use eight strategies to cope with jealousy : investing in the main relationship, coming up with...
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...Infidelity There is a rise in infidelity across the country. It is becoming more common; affecting everyone from celebrities, presidents, married couples, and new lovers. People are more openly talking about infidelity. Infidelity has been on the rise for some time now and is expected to continue to rise. Free dictionary.com defines infidelity as unfaithfulness to a sexual partner especially a spouse. Infidelity statistics show cheating is on the rise; over 50% of both men and women have had a sexual relationship with a person other than their spouse during their marriage. There are many different causes and effects of infidelity, mostly negative, but some can be positive. One possible cause is availability and opportunity. There are so many options of cheating—emotional, cyber, and sexual. There are even more ways to hide it, most believe they will not get caught. When the opportunity arises, it is too tempting for most people to pass up. I took a survey in the class to see what fellow classmates believed was the most common cause of cheating. 60% believed that a change in perspective is the leading cause to infidelity. Another cause is technology. Technology makes cheating easier than it ever has been. Numerous people visit online chat rooms and dating sites. Several of those people stay in contact with their online friends, on a daily basis. According to the infidelity statistics nearly 60% of internet users flirt over internet. 40% of them have engaged...
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...apart before parted by death. A couple cannot stand the trials and tribulations, the wicked outweighs the worthy, and partners discover intolerable behaviours, secrets, and sometimes, infidelity. The promise of, “Until death do us part” is never broken, and the marriage is ended as cause of “irreconcilable differences”. The following composition will compare and contrast the spousal relationships in “Great Falls” by Richard Ford and “To Room Nineteen” by Doris Lessing. “To Room Nineteen” is a third person limited omniscient retelling of Susan’s marriage to her husband Matthew. Susan’s perspective gives the reader insight and a deeper understanding of her emotions, reactions and thought processes as the story unfolds. In contrast, fourteen year old Jackie, the only child of the couple in “Great Falls” gives a first person narration of how the marriage of his parents fell apart. Jackie’s perspective allows the reader to be a witness to the events while Susan’s perspective allows the reader to be a part of the events. The common feature amid the two stories is infidelity. Both relationships are altered when one half of each marriage commits adultery. The contrast however is that in “To Room Nineteen” the unfaithful partner is Susan’s husband Matthew who confesses to sleeping with another woman following a party (Lessing 70). The unfaithful partner in “Great Falls”...
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...commitment to your partner, you never imagined that the two of you would ever have the kinds of emotional distance or conflict in your relationship or marriage that you are now experiencing. Amid these conflicts you may be asking yourself, have I made a mistake? It is a normal part of marital development to come to a place in the relationship where the dream of how you thought things would be, and the reality, do not match. Many people make one of three choices. They can leave, possibly trying to get it right with a different kind of person....
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...& Walters, (1977) Strengths and Limitations, “depend on the various factors increase or decrease the amount of attention paid. Includes; distinctiveness, affective valence, prevalence, complexity, functional value”. Also, Noted by Bandura, & Walters, (1977) “One’s characteristics of the sensory capacities, arousal level, perceptual set, past reinforcement and the affect attention”. “The application with social work practice if clients at risk than social workers use different avenues when dealing with clients at risk”. Example: social worker makes sure the client moves into a safe environment and receives his divorce or save his marriage. Example: The importance is to consult with a supervisor, applying the NASW Code of Ethics, using a decision-making model for critical thinking whatever it takes to better assist a client Barsky, (2014). 34. Social Worker fosters client’s empowerment to make competency choices. Social worker and client discuss that it is a great idea that he invites his wife to one of the sessions. Inviting his wife may enlighten her on his feelings and he can explain how hurt and betrayed he feels. The client appears to not agree but is willing to try. I feel that I have gained rapport with the client and we will invite his wife to the next session. The marital couple came together; observation,hyu identified by the social worker is that both of them need one another because of his physical illness and both have HIV/AIDs disease. Beginning discussion was the...
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...MORALITY AND THE LAW; The Validity Question By Nfon Mark PLAN Introduction -A general overview of Morality and the Law -Definition of Morality and the law -Principles of Morality -The validity question Body -principles of Morality in details -The principle of Truth -The principle of Courage -The principle of Compassion -The principle of Love - The principle of Forgiveness - A general overview of other principles of morality II Reasons for and against the law taking validity from Morality. -Reasons why the law most take its validity from Morality -Reasons against the Law taking validity from Morality. -conclusion with a personal view Morality and the law; the validity question The notions of Morality and the Law are as old as the biblical story of creation, where God created man and gave him rights, duties and laws to follow (Genesis 1). According to the oxford dictionary, morals is ‘concerned with or derived from a code of behavior that is considered right or acceptable in a particular society. (Www.Oxforddictionaries.com). morality is the degree to which something is right and good. The moral goodness and badness...
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...Journal Article Review I Lauren Pedersen Liberty University Journal Article Review Summary Spousal emotional abuse is ongoing, significant problem, impacting nearly 35% of women. Emotional abuse by a spouse or romantic partner can often lead to negative psychological outcomes, including depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, posttraumatic stress disorder, learned helplessness, and resentment of the abuser that persists even when the abuse ends. There have not been designated therapies designed to help these women. Gayle L. Reed and Robert D. Enright (2006) examine the roles forgiveness therapy has on emotionally abused women in the article The Effects of Forgiveness Therapy on Depression, Anxiety, and Posttraumatic Stress for Women After Spousal Emotional Abuse. According to Reed and Enright (2006), forgiveness therapy is designed to help the client let go of the anger and resentment that stems from a justifiable wrongdoing. The researchers believe that forgiveness therapy will be beneficial to the women who were emotionally abused by their spouse because it targets the resentment the woman has for the abuser. These emotionally abused women often times experience learned helplessness and accusatory suffering. Learned helplessness often occurs when women develop self-blame in response to their abusive spouse’s criticism and ridicule. Whereas accusatory suffering is when the emotional abused spouse continues to feel like the victim and hold onto the resent. Because of the...
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...RELATIONSHIPS OR ARE RELATIONSHIPS BAD FOR NARCISSITS? : THE EFFECT OF NARCISSISM ON CLOSE RELATIONSHIPS by Sara K. Seward 200303585 A term paper presented to Dr. Christie Lomore in Psychology 341:20 The Self Department of Psychology St. Francis Xavier University March 26th, 2007 The term narcissism was first introduced to us by Freud, (1914/1957, as cited in Campbell, Brunell, & Finkel, 2006) in reference to the story of Narcissus. Narcissus was the concept of self-love in human form. He viewed himself as better and more attractive than all of those around him, which in turn prevented him from developing any close, loving relationships with others. Narcissus spent him life looking for the “perfect” partner. One day he fell in love with his own reflection and could not bear to be separated from his newfound love. He remained by the pool of water until he eventually died. The story of Narcissus shows us that having a narcissistic personality can have detrimental effects on not only our relationships but on our selves as well (Campbell, Foster, & Finkel, 2002). By proposing the following research question I hope to identify a possible correlation between narcissistic behaviour and relationship satisfaction. My question is “Do narcissists engage in behaviour that negatively affects their relationships which may lead to a decrease in relationship satisfaction?” A suitable way to distinguish a narcissist from a non-narcissist is to consider that...
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...to influence or lead by deceit, trick, or artifice, to practice fraud or trickery, to violate rules dishonestly, or to be sexually unfaithful.11 A cheater (sometimes called acheat) gets something by dishonesty or deception; or by depriving one of his or her rights and usually connotes deliberate perversion of the truth; or by large-scale cheating bymisrepresentation or abuse of confidence.11 Cheating is an act of lying, deception, fraud, trickery, imposture, or imposition. Cheating characteristically is employed to create an unfair advantage, usually in one's own interest, and often at the expense of others. Cheating implies the breaking of rules. Cheating is a primordial economic act: getting more for less, often used when referring to marital infidelity.3 Cheating is when a person misleads, deceives, or acts dishonestly on purpose.17 Cheating fundamentally includes several elements of both lying and stealing, with specific motivations to gain something of value by illegitimate means. That is why lying and stealing are discussed before cheating. Cheating is lying and/or stealing with the intention for acquiring something for more than merely the "pleasure" of fooling or depriving others. Children Cheating as a concept is not understood by children until around age seven. Preschoolers often change the rules to a game as they play, innocent of the fact that rules must remain consistent to have any meaning. By seven, however, children have gained an understanding of rules, fairness,...
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...[pic] Table of Contents • Introduction • Chapter 1 Marriage Is Good! • Chapter 2 Love • Chapter 3 Learning Submission • Chapter 4 The Marriage Bed • Chapter 5 Understanding Male/Female Differences • Chapter 6 Communication • Chapter 7 Walking In Wisdom • Chapter 8 Hospitality • Chapter 9 Family Finances Part II: Hinderances To A Happy Home • Chapter 10 The Works Of The Flesh • Chapter 11 The Tongue • Chapter 12 Covetousness • Chapter 13 Unforgiveness • Chapter 14 An Answer To Seperation Introduction Right from creation, God demonstrated His interest in and value placed on the marriage institution and the family, by being practically involved in its institution. He did not simply speak it into being as He did the beast of the field and the fowls of the air. He carefully put it together step by step. God put man to sleep and from his side took a rib and formed the woman. Not stopping there, God took the woman by the hand and led her to Adam. Therefore marriage is a unique relationship, having its root in divinity (Gen. 2:22). However, marriage and family life, a thing of joy, pleasure, and high esteem at creation is now treated by many as a necessary evil and looked at by some disdainfully. "Those in it want to rush out and those outside want to rush in," they say. This has resulted in the fast disintegration of the marriage unit and subsequently the family. Statistics indicate that the decline of marriage and the family...
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...Foundation of Psychology Psychology Foundation of Psychology Debbie Rodgers Colorado Technical University Online PSYC120-1301B-02 Professor Susan Sandman March 18, 2013 Biography of Diana Princess of Wales Diana was born on July 1, 1961, a direct descendent of King Charles II, she became Lady Diana Spencer in 1975 when her father became eighth Earl of Spencer. She lived with her father and three siblings after her parent divorced in 1969, father Edward John Spencer, Viscount Althorpe, and mother Francis Ruth Burke Roche, Viscountess Althorpe, and later Honorable Francis Shand Kydd. Diana was a shy child loved music, ballet, and had a fondness for children, although she was a poor student she became a teacher and taught kindergarten at Young England School. As a child, she played with Prince Andrew and Prince Edward she was no stranger to royalty they rented Park House. Later she went on to marry Prince Charles, twelve years her senior on July 29, 1981 with a much publicized wedding, a year later Prince William Arthur Philip Louis was born on June 21, 1982, two years later Prince (Harry) Henry Charles Albert David was born September 15, 1984 and was a very devoted mother. Diana gave up her title of Her Royal Highness after divorcing Prince Charles in 1996. Extreme pressure of wife, mother, and princes left her depressed, she often cut herself on the arms and legs and several suicide attempts, and she became a model for depression and bulimia...
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...Model Marriage A Marriage Counselling Handbook by Dag Heward-Mills ***** Copyright 2005 Dag Heward-Mills E mail Dag Heward-Mills info@daghewardmillsbooks.org evangelist@daghewardmills.org Find out more about Dag Heward-Mills at: http://www.daghewardmills.org Unless otherwise stated, all Scripture quotations are taken from the King James Version of the Bible CONTENTS Acknowledgements Introduction Section 1 – THE BELOVEDS 1. The Beloveds 2. The Official Recognition of Your Relationship by the Church 3. Counselling the Beloveds Section 2 – THE FUNDAMENTALS 4. Definition of Marriage 5. Biblical Reasons for Marriage Section 3 – THE RELATIONSHIP 6. The God-Type of Marriage 7. The Christian Home 8. Love in Marriage 9. Communication in Marriage 10. Faithfulness and Unfaithfulness in Marriage Section 4 – THE DUTIES 11. Duties of the Husband 12. Duties of the Wife 13. The Total Wife 14. Home Keeping and House Helps 15. Principles of Finance in Marriage Section 5 – UNDERSTANDING THE TEMPERAMENTS 16. Introduction to the Temperaments 17. What it means to have a Sanguine Husband or Wife 18. What it means to have a Choleric Husband or Wife 19. What it means to have a Melancholic Husband or Wife 20. What it means to have a Phlegmatic Husband or Wife Section 6 – THE PROBLEMS AND THE SOLUTIONS 21. Problem-Solving in Marriage 22 In-Laws 23. The Step Home 24. What Every Christian Should Know about Divorce Section 7 – THE MASTER KEY OF ACCEPTANCE ...
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...Kyle Jordan Estanislao TREDTWO C37 2/17/2015 The Clutches of Sin Sin as we all know is formally defined as the infraction against the word of God. With every sinful act we commit, it is like we are distancing ourselves from God. Despite this, it seems that nobody could still stay away from the clutches of sin. Nobody is perfect. We live in an imperfect world filled with temptations and bad influences. Unfortunately no matter how hard we try to stay away and fight off these negative inducements, eventually we would succumb to the pull of sin. As my father always quotes from the bible “The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak. Due to this, people have this common notion in mind that if everybody eventually turns out to be a sinner, then why bother trying so hard not to be one. These people would then rationalize that it is ok to sin because God is super forgiving and that by confessing our sins, everything would be ok. It is as if by simply telling someone of one’s bad deeds, it would magically erase all the damages done because of one’s sinful acts. What they don’t realize is that as described in the lecture, sin is a spiral that enslaves us, making us addicted to it. Every time we commit a sin, it opens us to a possibility that we would keep repeating them until it now harms our major social and personal relations. Sin doesn’t just affect oneself, it also affects the people around us. Every time we commit a sin, more likely than not, someone would be negatively...
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...Promiscuity- A Self-Destructive Behavior in Correlation with a Lack of Paternal Authority: A Single Case Study Rebecca M Bauman 2015 MAR LIB-495-GS001 Abstract Paternal authority, according to the existing literature, is of upmost importance to the healthy psychosexual development of a child. Women who were raised with a lack of paternal authority can often face significant setbacks when dealing with everyday life issues. Promiscuity as a self-destructive behavior has substantial consequences often resulting in mental and physical suffering. This qualitative single case study was designed to explore the correlation of promiscuity- as a self-destructive behavior with women who were raised in single-mother households where there was a lack of paternal authority. A single intrinsic case study was used to explore one woman’s battle with promiscuity. The data obtained formed a narrative generated by the triangulation of psychoanalytical therapy sessions, a client intake form and the woman’s journal. A case analysis was performed and later reviewed by an attending mental health clinician. The results indicated the woman manifests the self-destructive behavior of promiscuity at the expense of poor self-esteem which directly correlates with a lack of paternal authority. The disruption of the woman’s psychosexual development in childhood negatively altered her self-image. The woman uses transference in her intimate relationships as a desperate attempt to gain control of her...
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...LECTURE GUIDE IN SOC 6 WEEK 1—ORIENTATION / INTRODUCTION TO RIZAL COURSE WEEK 2 BACKGROUNDER OF RIZAL’S FAMILY / HISTORICAL BACGROUND OF RIZAL: A. ANCESTRY OF RIZAL. Rizal came from a mixture of races. From his father side, his great grandfather was a Chinese merchant from Amoy, China. In the closing year of the 17th century, Domingo Lamco who assumed the family surname “ Mercado “ in consonance with the decree of Governor General Narciso Claveria to free all Spanish subjects and their children from prejudices associated with having Chinese surnames. Lamco married a wealthy Chinese mestiza, Ines dela Rosa and from Manila, they moved to Binan and became tenants in the Dominican hacienda which those time large portion of the town were owned by Dominican friars. Rizal’s great grandfather was Francisco Mercado, the son of Domingo and Ines dela Rosa, who married a Chinese mestiza Cirila Bernacha, had a son by the name of Juan Mercado, who married a Chinese mestiza Cirila Alejandrino, serving as Riza’s grandfather. Juan and Cirila had 14 children, one of whom was Francisco Mercado, Rizal’s father who married Teodora Alonzo. Rizal’s father was an erudite man. He took courses in Latin and Philosophy at Colegio de San Jose in Manila. For Rizal, his father was a model father because of his honesty, industry and prudence. Rizal inherited from his father self – respect, serenity and poise, seriousness and a deep sense of dignity. On the other hand, from his mother side, Rizal’s...
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