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T Five L L



How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to
Your Mate




© 1992, 1995, 2004 by Gary D. Chapman
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ISBN: 978-1-881273-15-6

To Karolyn,
Shelley, and Derek

Other Great Books by Gary Chapman
The Five Love Languages Men’s Edition
The Five Love Languages Gift Edition
The Five Love Languages of Children
The Five Love Languages of Teenagers
The Five Love Languages for Singles
Your Gift of Love
Parenting Your Adult Child
The Other Side of Love
Loving Solutions
Five Signs of a Loving Family
Toward a Growing Marriage
Hope for the Separated
Covenant Marriage


1. What Happens to Love After the Wedding?
2. Keeping the Love Tank Full
3. Falling in Love
4. Love Language #1: Words of Affirmation
5. Love Language #2: Quality Time
6. Love Language #3: Receiving Gifts
7. Love Language #4: Acts of Service
8. Love Language #5: Physical Touch
9. Discovering Your Primary Love Language
10. Love Is a Choice
11. Love Makes the Difference
12. Loving the Unlovely
13. Children and Love Languages
14. A Personal Word
The Five Love Languages Profile for Husbands

The Five Love Languages Profile for Wives

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